INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2080c70c-ab1d-4e2a-b8eb-548d8af20a79','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','818bb03e-4271-4e7a-a918-07cdd48a8614','<p>与其经常与他人比较，不如把重心放在自我身上，内观自己，与自己竞赛，让自己不断地在进步中，哪怕只是进步0.01，也是突破自我的表现。</p>','2025-03-24 11:51:42.47','2025-03-24 11:51:42.47',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 11:51:42.468',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6be57382-f3c8-401a-b30d-9b6ad7d613a0','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>基于刻板影响的肤浅行为，引起了仇恨，误会和破坏和谐。改变别人的刻板影响需要的是行动和沟通。</p>','2025-03-24 11:52:22.844','2025-03-24 11:52:22.844',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 11:52:22.843',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90268a70-49cd-4584-bb66-d317a6864cfb','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>我们可以生气，而是没有必要依赖这个工具。</p>
<p>我们可以表达情绪，而不是用情绪表达。</p>
<p>𠄘认错误、赔礼道歉、退出权力之争，都不是失败。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 09:17:13.827','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0dabd0ce-1b68-4315-945f-f60884ff9c03','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当我们努力推动系统性的改变，达洛提醒我们不要忽视对话的力量。当我们因刻板印象或偏见而选择避开某些人，其实也放弃了启发他们思考的机会。我们已经进入太空时代，却仍有许多人以石器时代的思维看待世界，我们的意识形态，必须跟上我们的科技发展。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对话的力量 &mdash;&mdash; 它能种下一颗怀疑的种子，激发对方对自身信念的好奇，引导他们重新思考人生的方向，最终心生渴望&mdash;我需要一条更好的道路。</span></p>','2025-03-24 12:01:37.234','2025-03-24 12:01:46.465',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:01:46.464',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91bda422-fe1b-40cc-8f03-6eccba4dac94','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','3b67c9ce-62eb-4cd1-90ba-c5feee36a59d','<p>这个刻板印象对黑人真的很不公平</p>','2025-03-24 12:02:44.615','2025-03-24 12:02:44.615',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:02:44.614',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('129c868a-192a-4880-8026-c664466782b1','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>健全的自卑感不是来自于别人的比较，而是来自于理想的自己比较。因为每个人虽然不同，但是是平等。</p>','2025-03-24 12:03:04.102','2025-03-24 12:03:04.102',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:03:04.101',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3b39e637-a862-49a3-8dd9-f84b3c9e3b1b','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对于喜欢利用刻板印象来定义所有东西的人，以其人之道还治其人之身真的是很好让他们反思的方式啊。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">例子：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">独眼人说：&rdquo;黑人都是低等人种，他们的脑袋比较小，所以不聪明，还有暴力倾向的基因。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">達洛指他就是黑人，但是从没枪击过任何人或是犯罪。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">独眼人回应说：&rdquo;他的犯罪基因肯定潜伏着，只是还没显露而已。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">達洛挑战独眼人说出三名黑人连环杀手的姓名。独眼龙一个也说不出来，達洛不假思索地说出了一长串众说周知的白人连环杀手，并且说独眼龙也是其中之一。当独眼人抗议说他重来都没杀害过人时，達洛说：&rdquo;你的连环杀手基因想必是潜伏着。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这个回应让独眼人愣着了，他开始反思他的行为非常愚蠢。</span></p>','2025-03-24 12:53:25.965','2025-03-24 12:53:25.965',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:53:25.964',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7abfed0e-a139-497a-a0cc-bc8372a6b92b','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生不是与他人的比赛（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 051-057</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">自己不断前进，成为理想的自己</span></p>','2025-03-24 12:41:24.672','2025-03-24 12:41:53.264',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:41:53.263',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2325e159-f0b4-4ef2-a326-f4e3af7141ea','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p><strong>＂等下叫Apunene来捉你＂</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>＂你坏蛋就叫Mata捉你去吃辣椒＂</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>总是会听到奶奶级，婆婆级的老人家到今天还这样的调侃孙子！</p>
<p>在这种现象下，不觉中就给小孩埋下刻板的种子，影响的肤浅行为，容易引起了仇恨，误导和破坏和谐。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>政治家很乐意用这一套来蛊惑人民，捞到支持票，难道没有人可以告诉他们，这是错误的吗？</p>','2025-03-24 12:10:00.671','2025-03-24 12:13:40.95',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:13:40.949',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8b02f36b-b62a-403d-83c5-0bf87fbf3263','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>喜欢用＂比较＂来抬举自己，也是一种自卑很重的人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>何必养成喜欢和别人比赛的习惯？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>可否想过如何赢得了＂理想的自己＂、＂优秀的自己＂？</p>','2025-03-24 12:20:37.732','2025-03-24 12:20:37.732',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:20:37.731',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f97de963-5aa1-487d-9c43-19b9bd8e09f3','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>挑战white supreme，从来就不是一件简单的事情。这其实算是挑战禁忌，或者信仰，因为人们都必须要找到仇恨的出口来宣泄自己的失落。这也是一个特朗普上台的原因，而现在MAGA卷土重来，是否还能用类似的重新思考让这个世界继续和平？</p>','2025-03-24 12:21:08.481','2025-03-24 12:21:08.481',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:21:08.48',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a94584ac-493b-4e22-bb15-af12da623d9c','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>人在感到威胁，而又乏力独自维护立场，这时就会寻找群体力量，产生抵抗。当自己有强大的信念，保持客观和个体的看法，就有足够的勇气和毅力来改变某个人对事情的偏见。</p>','2025-03-24 12:38:09.475','2025-03-24 12:38:09.475',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:38:09.474',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d467544e-73ce-479a-bf8d-e0741c4d2477','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">一名黑人乐手如何对抗白人至上主义者（</span>Page 211-214<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">种下怀疑的种子，让对方自己思考</span></p>','2025-03-24 12:40:09.473','2025-03-24 12:41:05.387',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:41:05.386',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aac233d6-e4f8-4650-b715-16b2ea333849','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 10</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">：&nbsp;</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">24</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期一</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生不是与他人的比赛（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 051-057</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">**人生不是与他人的比赛**</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">不与他人竞争，只要自己不段前进即可。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">健全的自卑感不是与别人的比较，而是来自于&ldquo;理想的自己&rdquo; 的比较。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">追求优越性是指自己不断朝前迈进，而不是比别人高出一等的意思。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">不断向前迈进，不是为了与谁竞争，</span><span lang="ZH-CN">价值在于不断超越自我。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">在意你长相的，只有你自己。</span><span lang="ZH-CN">如果能够体会到人人读是卧的伙伴</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">那么对世界的看法会截然不同。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 12:47:09.181','2025-03-24 12:47:09.181',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 12:47:09.179',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('88973e03-f6a0-426a-af41-af6cc75c39b9','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>对话的力量很大，可以给对方理由去思考。</p>
<p>不要正面挑战，要问对的问题。</p>','2025-03-24 13:12:45.51','2025-03-24 13:12:45.51',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:12:45.51',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1da88422-84e3-4d39-985f-353f2e76e9a9','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>人比人气死人。和自己比较就好了。</p>
<p>自己是否比昨天进步了呢？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 13:17:09.949','2025-03-24 13:17:09.949',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:17:09.948',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cc57739a-f724-4066-95e3-02988b42050e','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>不与他人竟争,从胜负争中全身而退.</p>
<p>只跟昨天的自己比。我们没有太多的观众。活出自己。</p>','2025-03-24 13:26:35.536','2025-03-24 13:26:35.536',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:26:35.532',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04157143-bbb8-443e-8b7c-def17159c5d4','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>不与他人竞争，只要向前跨步就行。健全的自卑是跟理想中的自己比较。</p>','2025-03-24 13:30:47.868','2025-03-24 13:30:47.868',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:30:47.867',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('17b426b0-495b-4062-acce-5c1d26777bc2','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>&middot; 种下怀疑的种子，让对方对自己的信念感到好奇</p>
<p>&middot; 给对方机会重新思考自己的观点</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 13:37:55.461','2025-03-24 13:37:55.461',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:37:55.459',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('928d9721-5e0e-4b73-a256-abe430570278','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>不需要正面冲突,问时问题让对方思考.</p>','2025-03-24 13:41:09.91','2025-03-24 13:41:09.91',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:41:09.909',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8685a2f5-3207-4a9e-a31a-8a62e469af3a','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','003de8fa-8b71-4ea4-8164-04a64fd30e75','<p>我本身还是觉得有竞争才会有进步。与别人攀比，至少你有一个目标，你也知道终点。当超越了他，那么就可以和更卓越的人竞争。对于我而言这就是提高自身的方法。当然，在竞争当中不需要去诋毁他人，你只要把它当成良性竞争就可。以其成天说要战胜自己，突破自身，但是却不知道要如何优化自己，不如为自己找一个良性竞争目标。</p>','2025-03-24 13:41:26.153','2025-03-24 13:41:26.153',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:41:26.152',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3d51206-1fbe-4edc-bc66-25911e4961d3','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>应该要以不激怒对方的智慧去让对方重新思考他所讲过的话重新再思考逻辑，然后改变之前的刻板偏见想法。</p>
<p>这样才能以和谐的模式改变了最终想要得到的善结果。而且也化解冲突与仇恨。</p>','2025-03-24 13:41:57.676','2025-03-24 13:41:57.676',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:41:57.675',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99212bc2-b1e8-44a6-93c0-38ad856dbd81','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>对话式的引导另一个名称叫做coaching,其实我们很多时候也需要被coaching,这样可以从另外一个角度看见不一样的自己。</p>','2025-03-24 13:43:23.467','2025-03-24 13:43:23.467',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:43:23.466',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d9ecfb9-6f4f-4ef6-b46f-99cd326a4e70','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>人生不是和其他人比较，而是一直超越自己。当一直超越自己后就会有不同的自我价值。要如何活出原生家庭的束缚也是一种勇气</p>','2025-03-24 13:45:49.401','2025-03-24 13:45:49.401',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 13:45:49.4',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb391ffb-f282-4984-8718-987910ff0e43','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>不用宣扬或控诉来对话。</p>
<p>深思熟虑。</p>
<p>共同的认同。</p>
<p>看清，自己没有仇恨，而是几个世代家族传统，或听说工作被黑人抢走了。</p>
<p>领悟到自己对其它团体的真正认识有多少，以及那些刻板印象有多肤浅时，才可以重新思考。</p>','2025-03-24 14:20:23.598','2025-03-24 14:20:47.191',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:20:47.19',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c86766eb-8b6f-433e-bdc6-3ddde31ca02b','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>那些擁有更強大力量的人需要進行更多的重新思考，不只因為他們更有可能給予自己的觀點特權，也因他們的觀點更可能會冇人質疑。</p>','2025-03-24 14:24:53.361','2025-03-24 14:24:53.361',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:24:53.36',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4c5b19c-f695-4c46-9a19-783b77b7c4ed','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','20d428c2-480c-4843-8f38-f65759afc153','<p>展開智慧的對話，找出足以令人重新思考的疑問。</p>','2025-03-24 14:29:13.29','2025-03-24 14:29:13.29',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:29:13.289',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5b2f744-24fb-40f2-b396-c7c3367c45ed','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>在引导别人去改变思维的过程，我们必须善于提问及倾听，而不是一味的把观念强加于他人身上，因为这会让对方感觉被控制。我们在过程中应该和对方保持一致的目标，这样才能有效的让对方敞开心扉去接受认知以外的意见。</p>','2025-03-24 14:42:05.977','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30d4dec2-e8a5-48ee-9f0e-659e86e08241','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','8bd73483-b8f0-4199-b0a3-96b8e026c0ab','<p>不较量，适时前进与止步，才能推动更好的境界。</p>','2025-03-24 14:31:09.361','2025-03-24 14:35:59.45',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:35:59.449',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('14ea022a-4171-4e79-b42f-b15e49f11843','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>自己才是最大的对手，要超越的不是他人，而是每个不同阶段的自己！</p>','2025-03-24 14:41:02.739','2025-03-24 14:41:02.739',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:41:02.738',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b6fe07d-23f3-420c-8152-2758d4c9483d','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>运用问题让对方重新思考，</p>','2025-03-24 14:45:23.756','2025-03-24 14:45:23.756',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:45:23.755',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aab3ef5f-f580-47d5-b7f6-3d45850dc196','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>人人都是我的伙伴，那么对世界的看法也截然不同</p>','2025-03-24 14:33:57.053','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6af01366-98b0-4702-9757-217d3ce2c887','715deff7-1288-42a7-89a9-52ee30cac2e5','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>我不喜欢用QRcode 点餐🫠</p>','2025-06-11 10:21:28.1','2025-06-11 10:21:28.1',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-11 10:21:28.099',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('761cdd42-d55e-4ef9-ab8e-2549bcbecde8','13367e6c-85c5-46ee-862d-8ec7fc843292','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>把别人的需求放在自己前面</p>','2025-06-16 13:10:46.215','2025-06-16 13:10:46.215',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-16 13:10:46.214',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0887efd3-5af7-4184-8944-6824f85f57a5','7b5ad4eb-2237-4737-a290-83d895d978c4','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>不断提升自己的认知水平，不断进步，才能为自己解惑</p>','2025-07-02 15:44:57.754','2025-07-02 15:44:57.754',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-02 15:44:57.753',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('62dfb946-1605-434d-9f4f-81502d44a5ee','7b5ad4eb-2237-4737-a290-83d895d978c4','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>突破非此即彼的選擇困境</p>
<p>生活中也常常遇到這種非黑即白，非此即彼 的問題，比如說教育孩子， 所以 讓自己的認知提升一個層次，用本能和愛來面對這個問題 ，嚴格和寬鬆會有了度，所以要不斷的學習，提升自己的認知水平，才能夠擺脫生活中面臨的很多二元選擇困境. 。</p>','2025-06-20 03:20:45.894','2025-07-02 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-07-02 00:00:00.008','2025-07-02 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7750782e-891b-4740-94f2-2d056fae1fa8','21a09167-862a-42ff-8f51-000d10e6b0a1','d4cf19fb-4056-4949-8ccd-8e06049df029','<p>人虽不同，但平等</p>
<p>价值在于不断不断超越自己</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>在意你的脸的只有你自己</p>','2025-07-02 15:51:04.082','2025-07-02 15:51:04.082',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-02 15:51:04.081',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('902e08e4-f36c-48a9-9ea8-62f06a568353','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 38 <span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>3<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>24<span lang="ZH-CN">日《逆思维</span>Think Again<span lang="ZH-CN">》</span>Part 2<span lang="ZH-CN">： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">一名黑人乐手如何对抗白人至上主义者（</span>Page 211-214<span lang="ZH-CN">）<br></span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">今日读后感悟：<br>那些拥有更强大力量的人需要进行更多的重新思考，不只因为他们更有可能给予自己的观点特权，也因为他们的观点更可能会无人质疑。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">当我们因为人们的课本印象或偏见，选择不要和他们互动，我们放弃了开启他们的思维的机会。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">达洛没有改变任何人的信念，只是给了人们理由去思考人生方向。</p>','2025-03-24 14:46:15.453','2025-03-24 14:46:15.453',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:46:15.452',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1468014c-9cde-4883-97a5-14fc1b3b54a3','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>擁有強大力量的人需要更多重新思考。</p>
<p>他們需要更好的理由思考人生方向。</p>','2025-03-24 14:52:29.041','2025-03-24 14:52:29.041',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:52:29.04',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27f33711-c888-4eae-aa45-b5f99e0afe18','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p><span style="font-size: 18.0pt; font-family: 等线; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 等线; mso-bidi-font-family: +mn-cs; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; color: black; mso-color-index: 1; mso-font-kerning: 12.0pt; language: zh-CN; mso-style-textfill-type: solid; mso-style-textfill-fill-themecolor: text1; mso-style-textfill-fill-color: black; mso-style-textfill-fill-alpha: 100.0%;">健全的自卑感不是来自与别人比较，而是来自与&ldquo;理想的自己</span><span style="font-size: 18.0pt; font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 等线; mso-bidi-font-family: +mn-cs; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; color: black; mso-color-index: 1; mso-font-kerning: 12.0pt; language: en-US; mso-style-textfill-type: solid; mso-style-textfill-fill-themecolor: text1; mso-style-textfill-fill-color: black; mso-style-textfill-fill-alpha: 100.0%;">"</span><span style="font-size: 18.0pt; font-family: 等线; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-font-family: 等线; mso-bidi-font-family: +mn-cs; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; color: black; mso-color-index: 1; mso-font-kerning: 12.0pt; language: zh-CN; mso-style-textfill-type: solid; mso-style-textfill-fill-themecolor: text1; mso-style-textfill-fill-color: black; mso-style-textfill-fill-alpha: 100.0%;">比较。只要自己不断前进就可</span></p>','2025-03-24 15:00:25.384','2025-03-24 15:23:50.452',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:23:50.451',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1cd3c690-cab7-4edc-ba0b-b8f06d3171b6','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 38 ：3月24日《逆思维 Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</p>
<p>一名黑人乐手如何对抗白人至上主义者（Page 211-214）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>对话非常重要。在对方的信念里，埋下怀疑的种子，挑战他们刻板印象。</p>','2025-03-24 15:57:21.419','2025-03-24 15:57:21.419',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:57:21.418',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f2cdbb3-f44b-4f7d-b5cd-24eca29d5a85','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>达洛正面的态度值得我们学习，他没有以抱有仇恨的态度去面对许多人对他所存在的刻板印象。他以非暴力且有智慧的方式去打破人们对黑人的种种不好的印象，也让其重新思考，愿意去理解。不要忽视对话的力量。</p>','2025-03-24 14:47:21.404','2025-03-24 14:47:21.404',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:47:21.403',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('35863c85-bf08-4361-af99-ef9bf6525c77','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>追求优越性，并非与他人竞争；而是在不断超越自我，成为理想中的自己。</p>','2025-03-24 15:04:06.432','2025-03-24 15:04:06.432',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:04:06.432',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f7205a5-7a69-4630-9107-6232cd0adf4a','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 10</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">： </span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">24</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB"> (</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期一</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span> <span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生不是与他人的比赛（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 051-057</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">追求优越性是指自己不断朝向迈进，不以别人竞争，而不是比别人高出等的意思。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">挣钱的自卑感不是来自于别人的比较，而是来自于理想的自己的比较。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如果这人际关系中存在竞争，那人就不可能摆脱人际关系带来的烦恼，也就不可能摆脱不幸。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">把他们的幸福看作&ldquo;我的失败&rdquo;，所以才无法给予祝福。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如果能够体会到人人都是我的伙伴，那么对世界的看法也会截然不同。不再把世界当成危险的时候再，也不在乎在不必要的猜忌之中，你眼中的世界就会成为一个安全舒适的地方。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 14:56:53.923','2025-03-24 14:56:55.029',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:56:55.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d925fb73-82de-4c5f-8cde-d93c5dd13ea1','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>激发他人重新思考比强迫他人改变观点更有效。</p>
<p>马族对华族的刻板印象也被&ldquo;教育&rdquo;得根深蒂固，而我们是否有个&ldquo;达洛&rdquo;可以影响他们重新认识呢？</p>','2025-03-24 14:56:59.075','2025-03-24 14:56:59.075',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:56:59.074',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68535bd6-6690-42ff-8495-4c320ab0bce1','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>展开对话，好好说话。会有转机。</p>','2025-03-24 14:58:48.567','2025-03-24 14:58:48.567',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 14:58:48.566',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7acca14f-d37b-40a8-9f0f-e00a8058df9b','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>追求优越不是超越他人，而是如何突破自己变得更好。</p>','2025-03-24 15:11:08.304','2025-03-24 15:11:08.304',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:11:08.303',NULL,NULL);
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<li>因为刻板印象或偏见往往让我们打消了与对方沟通的机会，结果就误信了一些过去几十年留下来信念</li>
<li>放下成见的方法是，打开心房和对方沟通，了解对方</li>
</ul>','2025-03-24 15:15:52.378','2025-03-24 15:15:52.378',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:15:52.377',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('accc6201-bbca-4b4b-9653-dd2bec9c13ce','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p class="" data-start="0" data-end="73">有效让对方跳脱刻板印象的方式，是让他们亲身体验自己所施加的偏见。如果他们能用对待你的眼光，去看待自己所属的群体，就有可能意识到这种观点的荒谬。</p>
<p class="" data-start="75" data-end="168">比如，当一个人用刻板印象评价你，你可以反问：&ldquo;如果我用同样的标准来看你，会是怎样的？&rdquo; 这种方式不是直接否定，而是让他们感受到自己观点的局限，甚至可能会觉得这样的逻辑本身就站不住脚。</p>
<p class="" data-start="170" data-end="230">这种方法的关键在于引导，而非指责。当对方真正站在相对的角度去看问题，他们才可能主动调整自己的思维，而不是本能地进行反驳。</p>','2025-03-24 15:38:34.159','2025-03-24 15:38:34.159',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:38:34.158',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一名黑人乐手如何对抗白人至上主义者（Page 211-214）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">达洛说自己「没有改变任何人的信念」，只是提供思考的理由，让对方自己去想：「我需要更好的选择。」</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">建立连结，而非对立,而是透过真诚对话，让对方慢慢对他改观，进而展开理解。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真正的改变来自理解与对话，而非指责与对抗。</span></p>','2025-03-24 15:25:37.626','2025-03-24 15:25:37.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:25:37.625',NULL,NULL);
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<p>达洛的智慧在于, 他没有用仇恨回击偏见, 而是用理性和幽默揭露对方逻辑的荒谬。他巧妙地让对方体验到被刻板印像定义的荒谬性, 从而促使反思。这种非暴力但极具冲击力的对话方式, 不仅折解了对方的偏见, 还展现了对话和思辨的力量。面对偏见, 我们可以选择愤怒, 也可以选择向达洛一样,以智慧让偏见者无言以对, 进而动摇他们的固有认知。这种方式，值得学习和借鉴。</p>','2025-03-24 15:20:42.142','2025-03-24 15:24:52.154',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:24:52.153',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82c73695-9745-441e-b054-87ba9a8ea9ae','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>人生不是竞争，不用把每个人变成自己的竞争对手，而是当成自己的伙伴。</p>','2025-03-24 15:26:01.008','2025-03-24 15:26:01.008',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:26:01.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27bada9f-c7d3-44a2-a6df-b4826ea23ea5','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>一个追求优越性的人，不是尽力超越他人或排挤他人获得晋升之类的追求，也不是踩着别人往上昇的行为 而是他会不断朝前迈进，不是比别人高出一等 。其实人生不与任何人竞争，只要自己不断前进进步就好。我们每个人都不一样，性别，年龄，知识经验和外貌，不是来自人的比较，而是来自于理想的自己做比较，当与别人不一样时，我们应该积极的看待比别人的差异，虽然与人不同，但是都是平等的人，自卑感不是来自于别人的比较，而是来自于理想的自己比较，而且不管大人或者小孩都是平等的，无论是走在前面或是走在后面都没有关系，我们不断向前迈进，并不是为了与谁竞争，而是价值在于不断超越自我。当你了解这点胜负中全身而退，做自己的时候竞争势必会成为障碍，没有人会在意我们的长相，除了我们自己，当我们以最亲近的比较时，我们就会产生自卑感而扭曲自己，想要人别人理解我们，我们希望能够和别人一样被称赞，当遇到不公正的待遇或者意见不被采纳时，希望被理解，如果在人际关系中存在竞争，那人就不可能摆脱人际关系带来的烦恼，也就可能摆脱不幸，自卑的人会觉得自己很差劲，也交不到朋友成了自卑原因的信徒，他会认为如果没有这样的竞争对手，他也许会有一个光明的人生，这个原因会累积在心里，其实自卑感是自己选择的，如果你能够将竞争对手化为积极伙伴 因为他而成就自己 那么你对世界看法也会截然不同 不再把世界当成危险的所在，也不必猜疑之中，你眼中的世界是一个安全舒适的地方，人际关系烦恼也都会减少，你的人生也就幸福多了。</p>','2025-03-24 15:27:58.948','2025-03-24 15:27:58.948',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:27:58.946',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d2f4f060-6d09-4226-b7a6-a15718542dc0','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 10： 3月24日 (星期一)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生不是与他人的比赛（Page 051-057）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人与人有差异，但没有高低。我们不必与人比较，只需不断超越自己。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">我們對世界的看法，取決於我們如何看待他人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">世界是否温暖，并非由外界决定，而是由你选择的信念决定。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">不是因为你不幸所以不能改变，而是因为你不愿改变才继续不幸。</span></p>','2025-03-24 15:37:02.194','2025-03-24 15:37:04.328',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:37:04.327',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccab980b-28b0-4f05-bf6f-7d8da1598bfc','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>健全的自卑感不是来自与别人的比较，而是来自与&ldquo;理想的自己&rdquo;的比较。所以我们绝对不要以&ldquo;竞争&rdquo;的原因去提升自己，而是要以&ldquo;超越昨天的自己&rdquo;为目标。只要我们摆脱人际关系中的&ldquo;竞争&rdquo;，我们就可以摆脱烦恼、摆脱不幸。</p>','2025-03-24 15:37:53.499','2025-03-24 15:37:53.499',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:37:53.499',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5df4889d-6b32-4073-8968-b76c0270e447','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>不是和别人比较而是和理想的自己比较。</p>
<p>在人际关系中存在竞争，那个人就不可能摆脱人际关系带来的烦恼，也就不可能摆脱不幸。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 15:42:09.299','2025-03-24 15:42:09.299',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:42:09.298',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1）提出开放式问句</p>
<p>2）反应式倾听</p>
<p>3）确认对方改变的欲望及能力</p>','2025-03-24 15:54:56.022','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
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<li>只有把人与人之间关系看成伙伴，就不会充满敌意争输赢，处处做比较</li>
</ul>','2025-03-24 15:48:33.042','2025-03-24 15:48:33.042',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:48:33.041',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2daf614a-1a9e-4dc7-bcdb-86381aad6269','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 10： 3月24日 (星期一)</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</p>
<p>人生不是与他人的比赛（Page 051-057）</p>
<p>读后感悟：</p>
<p>我们不是为了和谁竞争而那样走，而是要比现在的自己更进一步，才是价值所在。</p>','2025-03-24 15:52:06.672','2025-03-24 15:52:06.672',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:52:06.658',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f52aa2b-8265-4a8d-b3e0-5d5d462f3480','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>不要因为他人的刻板印象或偏见而拒绝和他们互动，因为这样我们会失去一个开启他们思维的机会</p>','2025-03-24 15:53:08.556','2025-03-24 15:53:08.556',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:53:08.555',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91279c70-c31b-4530-81e9-b235cb4e2538','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>太深的刻板印象会让自己的判断错误</p>','2025-03-24 15:53:48.156','2025-03-24 15:53:48.156',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:53:48.155',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('527a7136-ca80-4b9a-a6f5-54604b90b6ca','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>追求成功的目的不在于和人竞争，而是和自己理想的自己竞争，我们已经在意的是自己有没有超越过去的自己，有没有进步。</p>
<p>不要把其他人当作竞争对手，要不然就很难摆脱人际关系的烦恼，因为你会对所有身边的人都存有敌意，不安全感</p>','2025-03-24 15:55:06.008','2025-03-24 15:55:06.008',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:55:06.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ad55ca6-a7ad-4ccc-9992-b914d6ddaee5','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>真正的影响力不是改变他人的信念，而是给予他们思考的理由；引导他们朝更深层次的方向思考，并找到更合理的路径。</p>','2025-03-24 15:56:12.271','2025-03-24 15:56:12.271',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:56:12.27',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52c1db24-1417-48d3-9547-933143eec32d','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>偏见帮不了忙，反而让人倒退~</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 15:56:48.954','2025-03-24 15:56:48.954',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:56:48.953',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aeedb45a-26f6-42fe-8c9b-d4ff7c69e35d','e689f2e4-bf6e-4234-84a0-dd1f2e076e5c','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>和别人比较是常态，所以不经意就会发生。</p>
<p>要一直提醒自己什么状态是已在和别人过不去。</p>','2025-03-24 15:57:42.761','2025-03-24 15:57:42.761',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:57:42.76',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('30ead481-1d3c-46f7-94c9-5a585ff41d6d','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','550d0df0-c244-418c-8fd4-915e9faffda1','<p>与其直接规劝别人改变他们的想法，不如给予他们理由去思考人生方向，让他们思考这件事，然后心想：&rdquo;我需要一条更好的道路&ldquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这就对了。</p>','2025-03-24 15:58:03.053','2025-03-24 15:58:03.053',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:58:03.052',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('087e872d-ae38-43b8-9057-2ea210dc76d2','da29e884-f4e2-496e-b0bb-5c4110416250','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>越是拥有更强大力量的人，越需要重新思考，因为他们的观点很可能很难也无人去质疑，要弱势一方去打破刻板印象是很有难度的，但达洛做到了</p>','2025-03-24 15:59:52.579','2025-03-24 15:59:54.834',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 15:59:54.833',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29c15e78-99d9-4cc3-acd5-082df5aa970f','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','b258f4e5-a200-40d4-89c6-4f21619efc7c','<p>&rdquo; 把他人的幸福看作&rdquo;我的失败&rdquo;， 所以才无法给予祝福。 这段句子一针见血。 这不是一直发生在我们周围的事吗？我还看过打压，企图搅乱别人的幸福等等行为。就是因为&rdquo;认为&rdquo;别人&rdquo;比&rdquo; 自己幸福。 而，这也反映出自己的自卑心理和&rdquo;缺&rdquo;了什么。 也因为这样的情绪，为自己制造了很多恶业。 佛陀说的自修，一直以来都是修我们的心魔。&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 21:25:28.056','2025-03-24 21:25:28.056',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 21:25:28.05',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e460bbb6-069c-441a-806d-e21743f29a79','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','3b67c9ce-62eb-4cd1-90ba-c5feee36a59d','<p>抵抗的行为增强我们的心理免疫系统</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 22:39:48.238','2025-03-24 22:39:48.238',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-24 22:39:48.238',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('31fb353d-5512-48b6-9a77-32d4f1527a38','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','19aefae2-1527-4b6b-92a2-f0b6e8205b43','<p>权力之争 &gt; 想要通过获胜来证明自己的力量。</p>
<p>报复阶段 &gt; 不是受过去原因影响， 而是为了达到现在的目的 &gt;&nbsp;行为背后的目的 &gt; 在受到争权挑衅时绝对不可上当。</p>
<p>承认错误，赔礼道歉，退出权力之争，这些都不是&ldquo;失败&rdquo;. 不想失败 &gt; 不想承认自己错误而以。</p>
<p>只要摘掉竞争/胜负之争的眼镜才能够改变完善的自己。</p>','2025-03-14 13:00:51.312','2025-03-24 23:45:39.451',NULL,'f','2025-03-24 16:00:00','2025-03-24 23:45:39.45',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8912c84-7d25-45a1-a6bd-5c75076db43c','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','fd00afa6-39f6-4b3c-95b4-4d413e535fb9','<p>不去计较执着胜负。即使自己是对的，不需要在意别人是否是错的；假使自己是错的，只需承认错误、脱离权力斗争。追求卓越不是透过自己与他人的竞争实现的。</p>','2025-03-23 08:20:10.53','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9e9a1a55-c7ac-43ef-aafd-c6f1f3927048','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','f9075aa7-9a39-4124-900a-29ef14ff4bb5','<p>动机式唔谈</p>
<p>我们很少能激发他人改变,但比较有机会协助人们找出自己的动机去做改变</p>','2025-03-24 15:50:37.779','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3db40aa0-8b60-4b8a-a145-cd9e22083f14','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>动机式晤谈是通过发问，一步一步带领对方去检视自己的信念和举止，再进一步启动重新思考的循环。</p>','2025-03-24 22:24:33.964','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f2214895-85a3-4318-a8f3-025c0fc8753a','a5591c75-fb96-49ff-a153-97bb4138d101','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>讲座方式可以自行发挥，可以主动，也可以是被动，打开接纳方式，每个人喜欢的都不同。</p>','2025-03-24 23:08:56.806','2025-04-07 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-04-07 00:00:00.006','2025-04-07 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54b0ce73-737e-4ef2-957f-039292d8ca2a','9d894b2e-4675-4c6a-91e6-eae25010e880','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>最佳让大家可以思考的方式就是教学，让他们重新思考不单单他们所学的，还有和他们一起学习的人的观点。</p>','2025-03-24 23:13:55.076','2025-04-08 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-04-08 00:00:00.008','2025-04-08 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b92a7796-983a-4045-9e8b-e7c023469506','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p data-start="221" data-end="258">疫苗沟通者 ：</p>
<p data-start="221" data-end="258"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">为</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">那些</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">试图说服反疫苗者改变立场</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">的人。</span></p>
<p data-start="221" data-end="258"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">他们不是简单地提供科学数据，而是</span>试图通过策略如 ：</p>
<p data-start="221" data-end="258">耐心倾听、减少对抗、建立信任，而不是直接告诉对方&ldquo;你错了&rdquo; 及<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">关注对话方式</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">，用</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">同理心</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">和</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">理解</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">来影响对方。</span></p>
<p data-start="393" data-end="426">温和的质问者 ：</p>
<p>通过沟通方式强调用温和、开放的提问来引导对方思考，而不是直接批评或强迫对方改变想法。</p>
<p>这有助于少了心理防御机制的激活，使人更容易接受新的信息。</p>','2025-03-20 08:31:28.22','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fad493f-23e5-4114-b024-66cdaf2251bd','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>人际关系中往往会遇见有人故意挑衅，对方会做出种种令人愤怒的举动，其目的是在挑起&ldquo;权利之争&rdquo;，这些人是想通过权利之争来达到让不顺眼的你屈服的目的，如果发怒的话，那就是正中其下怀，后续就有让冲突继续发酵。</p>
<p>就算有一方看似爽快退出争论， 但对方会在别的地方以别的形式等待进行复仇。</p>
<p>在权利斗争过程中，人们往往会认为承认错误就代表失败。如果知道自己没有错，即使对方发出挑衅，我们可以不必生气。对方生气因为他不了解发怒以外还有更好的交流工具。通过逻辑的言语进行沟通，大家放下权利斗争，共生共荣。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-24 02:52:43.397','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5371a126-fff5-4e58-a577-62a0275dc638','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">个人愤怒（私怒）很快冷却，因为私怒而流露的发怒只不过是为了让别人屈服的一种工具而已。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">社会矛盾或不公平产生的愤怒（公怒）并不是突发性的感情，而是合乎逻辑的愤怒。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果遭人当面辱骂，可以考虑一下那个人的隐藏的目的，对方是否在挑起权力之争？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">什么是权力之争？想要通过获胜来证明自己的力量。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">例子：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在谈论政治或一些课题时，越谈越激烈，彼此都各不相让，于是对方很快就上升到了人格攻击，&rdquo;你社会败类，就是有你这种人，国家才不会进步。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对方其实只是想挑衅你，通过权力之争来达到让不顺眼的你屈服的目的。这个时候如果发怒的话，那就正中其下怀。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">那如果我们进行回击并压制了争论，这就结束了吗？败下阵来的对方却很快会转入下一个阶段。那就是复仇阶段。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这种情况在社交媒体市场发生，我们要时时刻刻记住在受到争权挑衅时绝对不可以上当。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">那别挑衅不回击是否代表我们在默默的忍耐？而是要对对方的行为不做任何反应。这是我们能做的一点。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们应该学习不使用怒气这种感情的方法，因为怒气终归是为了达成目的的一种手段和工具。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在人际关系中一旦确信我是正确的，那就已经步入了权力之争。因为你认为自己才是正确的话，无论对方持有什么意见都应该无所谓。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所以有人认为承认自己的错误，就等于承认失败。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">承认错误、赔礼道歉、退出权力之争，这些都不是失败。</span></p>','2025-03-24 00:55:29.218','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('837498d0-4f73-4deb-9840-942106e0d0e0','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>在接种疫苗课题上的说教、指控、政治家手段 都无法让一些父母改变想法。这也是部分人在Covid-19的经历。改变想法需要从找到改变的动机开始。</p>','2025-03-24 02:54:56.469','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a324618-e538-4400-be67-1da581bcd859','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>就算到现在，疫苗还是一个很神奇的存在。我们是否是因为避免一种疾病，而让自己曝露在另一种疾病之中呢？无法说清楚。所以反疫苗人士相信的，无法证伪，疫苗支持者相信的，也不能完全说明事实。所以在说服的时候，用我对你错的方式，绝对是不能成功的。</p>','2025-03-24 14:27:06.29','2025-03-25 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023','2025-03-25 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac016a85-df29-4ec7-b96d-c325a090c6ec','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>一樣的事情發生在2020年肺炎疫苗。好多人都覺得不應該打。</p>','2025-03-25 00:12:58.053','2025-03-25 00:12:58.053',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 00:12:58.052',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('875c9238-4845-459b-a81c-2f2ba3b7ca75','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','f041d204-f304-44f7-9bc1-aa76094ff793','<p>我们这代也经历了 Covid 疫苗，近期也有 influza 的疫苗！ 老一代看到那么多人在疫情期间死了很多人，心中感到害怕！无奈的去打了covid 疫苗针！反而 Influza 我妈妈不敢去打！她和我说不懂里面什么来的！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>想表达就是，要改变一个人的思维是很难的，也需要大环境来影响！很喜欢一句话！当你唠叨，指责，就算是出于关心，也没有人会接受！但换个方式以聆听为先，站在对方立场再做改变就会有不一样的结果！这是我现在必需得学，因为孩子就是我的一堂课！对孩子也需要这样的方式才能和孩子好好沟通！</p>','2025-03-25 00:14:42.6','2025-03-25 00:14:42.6',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 00:14:42.598',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a7d330a-b669-401b-91ee-a22205f66372','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>学会问问题和用心倾听是动机会谈和发现动机最好的工具！每一位人都想自己开锁🔓解悟，不希望外人强迫开锁。</p>','2025-03-25 00:40:34.591','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d125f623-6e75-447f-b642-feeac7ce5f04','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>❌劝说 （说教） ❌指控<br>无法动搖对方的说法<br>只会使对方的信念更坚定</p>
<p>比如 vaccination&nbsp;<br>1. 医生[赞扬]疫苗的好处<br>2. ⁠[警告]拒绝的风险<br>3. ⁠强烈[诉求]一般通则 （strong demand on general rules)</p>
<p>✅医生应该对她的特定问题产生兴趣</p>
<p>父母对医生的行为感到仿佛遭受攻击，被指控好像我要让自己小孩生病</p>
<p>疫苗溝通师：<br>1. 採取基本的方式去協助家長重新思考他們對於疫苗的抗拒<br>2. ⁠他不會對那些家長說教或指控他們<br>3. ⁠他也不會採取政治家的手法<br>4. ⁠他戴上他的科學家帽子和他們對談。</p>','2025-03-25 00:46:28.816','2025-03-25 00:46:28.816',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 00:46:28.815',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcfc96b7-79e1-4d0f-a36f-8667ea6fe788','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>我们可以表达愤怒，而不是愤怒的表达.了解事情的隐藏目的,ask Why.不需要依赖发怒这一工具.</p>
<p>不要有胜负的思维.只跟作天的自己比.</p>
<p>𠄘认错误、并不可耻</p>','2025-03-25 00:58:00.631','2025-03-25 00:58:00.631',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 00:58:00.63',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d21533b6-9a20-4425-916f-0a2abafd84db','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','6949d955-832d-47f1-870b-95a01be61ff8','<p>由他人激起的愤怒其实意味着接受了&ldquo;权力之争&rdquo;。</p>
<p>所以保持情绪稳定，和冷静是可以看透这个人背后的目的，可以识别他的目的，来判断你下一步要怎么做。</p>','2025-03-25 03:46:30.385','2025-03-25 03:46:30.385',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 03:46:30.384',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('495c5e0f-0900-46ba-b5d0-8f7c328a1f8c','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>在劝说的过程中，有时会不知觉会带着批评的方式教育对方，这样反而会有反效果，让对方更抗拒。</p>','2025-03-25 04:19:17.8','2025-03-25 04:19:17.8',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 04:19:17.799',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a471505-dc40-41ff-97e5-caf2a7e0567a','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>同理对方，站在他的角度思考</p>
<p>以科学家的方式，中立的沟通。</p>
<p>沟通和说劝是两回事，</p>
<p>要隔开来看</p>','2025-03-25 05:50:57.833','2025-03-25 05:50:57.833',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 05:50:57.832',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e60c93cf-8a2b-466e-b7a4-83a488bbf8c7','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>正确的聆听方式和如何带给人们动机去改变</p>
<p>这一课我看见到的是人们如何坚定他们的信念，不愿意聆听、接受和重新思考。甚至连沟通也不愿意。</p>','2025-03-25 06:48:06.806','2025-03-25 06:48:06.806',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 06:48:06.805',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23787fc7-8909-4347-a687-b3133f1800c0','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p class="" data-start="0" data-end="89">当我们试图用强烈的证据来说服对方，本意是让他们看清事实的严重性，然而，这种方式往往适得其反，反而激起更强烈的抵触情绪。这让我想起一句话：&ldquo;人们并不抗拒改变，但却厌恶被改变。&rdquo;</p>
<p class="" data-start="91" data-end="219">当一个人的信念受到挑战时，他们很少会立即接受新观点，更多时候会本能地为自己原有的立场辩护。强硬的说服可能会让他们感到被逼迫，从而加深他们的防御心理。相比之下，更温和的引导方式，比如提出开放式问题、让他们自行探索新的可能性，或许更能促使真正的思考和转变。</p>
<p class="" data-start="221" data-end="270">改变并不是单方面的&ldquo;灌输&rdquo;，而是一场双向的对话。让对方自己发现答案，往往比直接告诉他们答案更有效。</p>','2025-03-25 07:03:28.609','2025-03-25 07:03:28.609',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 07:03:28.607',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('822ae860-c67d-412d-ab52-56e830e0d57c','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>发怒也是一种交流方式，是达成目的的一种手段和工具。</p>
<p>受到争权挑衅时要不做任何反应，不必依赖发怒这工具。</p>
<p>不过套用重新思考的方式去看待这个问题，我们应该采取的方式有不一样的说法了。</p>','2025-03-25 13:52:45.791','2025-03-25 13:52:45.791',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:52:45.79',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48d526c5-6bd6-4d47-a806-e187bad64939','d5cf94ae-1bab-4d52-93e5-866ae46ced4e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>一切人际关系的矛盾都起因于对别人的课题加于干涉或者自己的课题被别人妄加干涉，只要能够进行课题分离，人际关系就会发生巨大的变化。</p>
<p>孩子不学习是孩子自己的课题，她自己要负责，父母只是随时准备给于协助，但不干涉。</p>
<p>能改变自己的只有自己。</p>','2025-03-25 02:22:48.074','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('686c4ce4-9f1d-4111-80e6-a66752cee867','9cda5a09-2ab1-4b1a-b3d7-54e4acc6135f','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>反相魅力，捕捉了出色聆听的魅力特质。</p>
<p>建立信任，避免施加压力，给与人们空间去反思他们的观点，而且要展现尊重及表达关切。</p>','2025-03-25 02:43:30.134','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff952a85-94cf-4abd-aad7-66209ca9f371','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>给予过去的事情什么样的价值，是现在的你该做的事。</p>
<p>发怒只是为了让别人屈服的一种工具。</p>
<p>怒气总归是为了达成目的的一种手段。</p>
<p>发怒是一种交流的形态，但是不发怒，也可以通过沟通来进行交流，要相信语言的力量。</p>
<p>易怒的人不是性情急躁，而是不了解发怒以外的有效交流工具。</p>
<p>只有相信自己正确，那么别人持有什么意见都无所谓。</p>
<p>承认错误，赔礼道歉，退出竞争，这些都不是失败。</p>','2025-03-25 07:07:07.711','2025-03-25 07:07:07.711',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 07:07:07.709',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('41c416bf-6ef2-4f42-a8e9-8eab670e7c2f','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>215-218页 ： 这种情况让我想回了以前我们刚刚接触到新冠病毒疫苗的时候，也是很多人都不敢去接种疫苗，就是害怕副作用，结果政府也是实施了强硬的手段，不允许没有接种疫苗的人去公共场所，孩子不能去学校等等的措施，这样的措施会一时让人民害怕而乖乖去接种疫苗，可是这是治标不治本的做法，人民根本没有被教育到疫苗的重要性，大家都是因为害怕不能出国，不能做什么什么的，才心不甘情不愿的去接种疫苗。这样做没有达到教育民众的目的。</p>','2025-03-25 07:13:59.31','2025-03-25 07:13:59.31',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 07:13:59.309',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e5ab7a22-34fe-446f-9992-7b0017f58458','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>做什么东西的目的可能原始的原因是要引起关注，但是持续僵持就会变得想要赢过对方<br>证明自己是对的，输赢可能真的不是这么重要，但是我往往想要别人认可，虚荣变得想要去争抢</p>','2025-03-25 08:03:30.596','2025-03-25 08:03:30.596',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 08:03:30.595',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c3d9f05-980a-412f-b5e3-81f5961c132e','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>站在不一样的观点，人的出发点救会不一样</p>
<p>父母：担心承担风险，再加上喜欢听人说，口语传播比医生的信任度更高<br>医生：提供帮助，</p>
<p>由第三方站出来述说会不会有改变？</p>','2025-03-25 08:14:16.375','2025-03-25 08:14:16.375',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 08:14:16.374',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ed9c4c98-ecd2-4448-b14f-3233bfcf5440','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>只有那些无法动摇我们观点和立场的声音，反而会让我们的信念愈加坚定。这展现了人们在面对外界质疑与批评时，依然坚守自己信念的坚定态度与决心。</p>','2025-03-25 08:33:34.963','2025-03-25 08:33:38.978',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 08:33:38.977',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65f61a52-0c5d-4455-9f9d-f1eee482028b','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>在人际关系中，一旦我们执着于&ldquo;我是正确的&rdquo;，就会陷入权力之争，最终导致彼此对立，而不是共同成长。只有放下对错之争，才能真正理解他人，并反思自身，从而实现自我完善。</p>','2025-03-25 08:36:30.881','2025-03-25 08:36:33.6',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 08:36:33.599',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce616919-cf42-4933-a00f-26ad99f3e3ee','d83c2de1-94e0-4bc7-9839-333b22d5bb75','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>在零和游戏中并不普遍受到大众的接纳，相反的，复杂性观点更具有说服力。</p>
<p>人们若不喜欢解决方法，就会忽略甚至否认问题的准在。</p>
<p>在讨论解决方案时，强调灰色地带，有助于把注意力从为何是个问题，转移到我们能如何解决这个问题。</p>
<p>凸显「为何」倾向提升两极化 ，凸显「如何」倾向减少两极化 。</p>','2025-03-25 08:56:22.413','2025-04-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f2a385e-2d62-4912-a6fa-7a6f15c3c977','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>大對特對。因為父母從小一直不停的體罰我。所以我決定他們叫往東，我一定往西。就算往西會對我不利，我也要往西。因為這樣我才們可以讓他更生氣。簡單地講就是我為了要報復他。</p>
<p>易怒只是一種溝通工具，明白的話就知道有其他的選擇。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 09:02:09.29','2025-03-25 09:02:20.005',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 09:02:20.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f8cfa7b-f165-4b95-839b-4e66e7baa4bd','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>读这篇文章让我不禁想到我国的族群关系。马来西亚的族群关系已经坏到一个程度，一定要分出输赢。我的判断是回教徒一定要找一些茬，让非回教徒认输才甘心。有理无理都不重要，因为只有你在伤害他们的情绪，他们对你做的一切都是&ldquo;你挑起的&rdquo;，所以活该。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这样的话，我们每次认输的感觉也不好，怨恨会累积在心。这个死结要怎么解决？是不是我们不要看别人的不好，多多肯定他们的正面，就可以解决？</p>','2025-03-25 09:46:50.73','2025-03-25 09:49:01.984',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 09:49:01.974',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea495c65-b4be-4895-b732-2867fc98a479','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>人们需要提高自己的认知来判断事件.有时我们需要更开放的思维来处理人事物.千万不要道听胡说,事事求实.</p>','2025-03-25 10:10:17.121','2025-03-25 10:10:17.121',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 10:10:17.12',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7dbdd12-b7f2-4cc1-8d0e-db5d89335472','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','818bb03e-4271-4e7a-a918-07cdd48a8614','<p>不要让情绪左右我们的行为与决定。</p>','2025-03-25 11:24:02.475','2025-03-25 11:24:02.475',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 11:24:02.473',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84574937-df23-4290-9c75-539eba0c2759','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>别人辱骂我们是有他隐藏的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;，通常是为了吸引大人的注意力，他们想要通过获胜来证明自己的力量。</p>
<p>虽然他们获胜，但败下的那一方可能会采取复仇行动，后果不堪设想！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果双方都认为自己才是对的，那他们已经步入了权力之争。</p>
<p>&ldquo;承认错误、赔礼道歉、退出权力之争，这些都不是&lsquo;失败&rsquo;。&rdquo;</p>','2025-03-25 11:32:17.038','2025-03-25 11:32:17.038',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 11:32:17.037',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8f75fd8-2583-4256-a46c-987bb513917d','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>一般人们对某件事下了判断，再多的说服不但不能见效，反而让此人跟家坚定不移，坚持立场。</p>','2025-03-25 11:41:26.205','2025-03-25 11:41:26.205',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 11:41:26.204',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5445a5af-bb3b-49bd-83c7-9c8dc0b93879','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>报复阶段 &gt; 不是受过去原因影响， 而是为了达到现在的目的 &gt;&nbsp;行为背后的目的 &gt; 在受到争权挑衅时绝对不可上当。</p>','2025-03-25 13:45:12.978','2025-03-25 13:45:12.978',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:45:12.977',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('09d4e0d0-061d-4ba1-a1e5-2ef7a411145d','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>如果劝说无法动摇我们，反之会加强我们的信念，产生抗体来对抗未来的影响。</p>','2025-03-25 15:06:18.784','2025-03-25 15:06:49.133',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:06:49.132',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1f686cac-d3a8-4a1b-88e4-1a506268c355','ccee1750-3fbb-4043-83f1-3e7c5746a005','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>普通的谢谢远远不够，要做到重量级感谢表达你的情感。</p>','2025-06-11 15:25:28.154','2025-06-11 15:25:28.154',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-11 15:25:28.153',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b14b7ae-eae5-42b0-9f7a-e57d4575bb1b','7d88f016-f401-4d0b-8929-84b3201c268c','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>牢记自己的初心，去克制过程中的各种欲望。摇摆不定到头来或许徒劳无功。</p>','2025-06-16 14:32:16.862','2025-06-16 14:32:16.862',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-16 14:32:16.861',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bd6fea70-8bbe-4779-8c34-723ef0290319','bb16434a-baa3-478b-84f1-5496adffc5a7','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>只有科技的世界，是冰冷的，它更需要人文的结合，才能带来温度和呈现精彩。</p>','2025-06-13 15:20:24.893','2025-06-14 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2025-06-14 00:00:00.009','2025-06-14 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40a21fbf-dff8-4e50-862e-4d513bf70c26','aca682e4-f69c-4f45-b358-b6827f8f3b08','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>人不懂和未知的事情很多，但好奇心能使我们追求真相以及发现真理。</p>','2025-06-17 13:59:25.323','2025-06-17 13:59:25.323',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-17 13:59:25.322',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('513f56ac-2e03-4657-aaee-e1152b0b5506','2a219026-9df7-4532-9b86-478f73996681','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>是的，在這個世上，我基本上沒有認識什麼人是絕對不違法的。可悲。</p>','2025-06-18 13:24:32.255','2025-06-18 13:24:32.255',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-06-18 13:24:32.254',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0a888a2-f6f7-4b0e-a372-c081a513a0b1','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>认清对方挑畔的目的，如果是为了争权，就别上当。陷入争权挑畔，必须学会及时退出、或是放下争夺，必要时还可以赔礼，认输不是失败。这样才是明智的选择，不要掉入陷阱，坏了人际关系。</p>','2025-03-25 11:52:25.845','2025-03-25 11:52:25.845',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 11:52:25.844',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7bc5516-64a9-4c19-828a-b72210c5ec1f','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>正确的咛听方式会带给人们动机去改变 。尝试说服或劝说反而带来反效果；它让人们的信念更加坚定，对替代观点的好奇心降低, 甚至人们会准备反驳论点。</p>','2025-03-25 12:51:56.065','2025-03-25 12:51:56.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 12:51:56.064',NULL,NULL);
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<p>一旦這些說法或數據無法動搖自己</p>
<p>自己的信念會更加鞏固堅定</p>
<p>要讓自己能重新思考 需要更有意義和能夠引發動機的對談。</p>','2025-03-25 12:52:27.766','2025-03-25 12:52:27.766',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 12:52:27.765',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e165c2ba-427d-4c21-be88-727a156a73f8','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>无法动摇我们的说法，只会使得我们的信念更加坚定。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>科学家的对话方式。</p>','2025-03-25 13:00:58.721','2025-03-25 13:00:58.721',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:00:58.72',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5c36069-835c-4bb6-a9e3-3228ec504752','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>我们无法改变过去，但赋予过去的事情什么样的价值，是&ldquo;现在的我们&rdquo;所面对的课题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所有的行动背后都有目的。比如文中提到孩子恶作剧的例子，其背后的目的就是要吸引你的注意力。如果当大人被激怒后，恶作剧仍然没有停止，那其目的就是在挑起&ldquo;权力争斗&rdquo;--想要通过会生来证明自己的力量。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果权力争斗不果，孩子就会进入&ldquo;复仇&rdquo;阶段。当人际关系进入到复仇阶段，当事人之间几乎不可能调和了。为了避免这一点，在受到争权挑衅时绝对不可以上当。</p>
<p>----</p>
<p>当面对他人的人格攻击，我们只能够忍耐（控制怒气）吗？怒气，其实也是为了达成目的的一种手段和工具，最终的目的，也只是希望可以更好的沟通。不使用怒气，也可以通过语言进行交流。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>在人际关系中，就算自己是正确的，也无需主张自己的正确性。如果你认为自己正确的话，那么无论对方持有什么意见都应该无所谓。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>当我们据理力争，想要挣个输赢，就会把对方陷入&ldquo;他是错的&rdquo;局面。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 13:07:32.797','2025-03-25 13:17:43.904',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:17:43.902',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人们大多数在被认同的情况下，才会心服口服的接受新观点和被善意的提点。</p>','2025-03-25 13:23:38.696','2025-03-25 13:24:36.848',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:24:36.846',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16fedb06-05d8-4050-a60c-235fe13cffdb','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','4cfe29dd-714c-41a2-bc6d-306205099ae9','<p>人的信念也會有免疫系統，當受到不同意見攻擊時，如果沒有擊垮免疫係統，就會讓信念好像免疫系統一樣更加強大。</p>','2025-03-25 13:31:14.361','2025-03-25 13:31:14.361',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:31:14.36',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9287d6ea-5402-4d15-8907-4f4a1f69f619','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>我们很少能激发他人改变，我们比较有机会协助他们找到自己的动机去做改变。</p>','2025-03-25 13:34:49.663','2025-03-25 13:34:49.663',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:34:49.662',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e763c3e1-7567-4301-ae4f-9aa249448c58','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>想要改变一个人已先入为主或更深帝国的想法，是难上加难。有的人不容易劝说，除非我们有办法让他了解事情的真相本质。</p>','2025-03-25 13:33:39.422','2025-03-25 13:34:53.293',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:34:53.292',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('697900d3-2ace-40d6-8821-324af20449a4','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>当在议论时，往往很多时候，我会惯性争输赢的局面，原来我容易因为情绪失控，而陷入权利之争！</p>
<p>但其实只要有正确的观点，根本没有必要，大家或许可以互相交流，互相尊重！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 13:39:45.254','2025-03-25 13:39:45.254',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:39:45.253',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08ef280d-3238-4bf8-b557-3ce2fbd81f88','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','fd00afa6-39f6-4b3c-95b4-4d413e535fb9','<p>人生确实就是围绕着这三个课题打转。要怎样有智慧地面对应付这些人生的任务更是终生的学习。我想理解了学习了这三个课题后，也就能学习到如何既能独立生存却又能协调地在社会中与其他人共存。</p>','2025-03-25 13:14:09.49','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3cb5ecf0-c4a1-4be1-aef7-eb3a5b60bc42','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>人们忽视建议，并非因为他们不赞同，而是因为他们抗拒那种压力感，那种别人在控制他们决定的感受。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>动机式晤谈不是给予对方命令或直接提出建议。通过提出问题，引导他人自我发现。帮助他人开启思维，最有效的方法是倾听。</p>','2025-03-25 12:44:35.046','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('555f85b0-bf67-45a0-9a07-9492b9cc446b','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>目标一致，才能改变人们的想法。</p>
<p>改变谈话的方式，让对方有兴趣的继续交谈，方有机会问引导式的问題。</p>
<p>引导对方改变信念或行动，並取得成功，才算完事。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 13:38:21.468','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('301f84d7-9c75-41eb-809d-2a0ee604a9c6','c7d01223-4ad9-4a20-bd17-b65dcee50935','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>（不愿面对的真相）真相只有一个显示证据让怀疑者相信而面对。</p>','2025-03-25 13:05:32.47','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a6603b92-203e-43c9-ad0a-1d7cfdae3ba8','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>在劝说的过程中，最常见的问题就是：越劝越抗拒。为什么？因为那些没法动摇我们的说法，最终只会使得我们更坚定自己的信念而已。</p>','2025-03-25 13:46:25.625','2025-03-25 13:53:31.987',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:53:31.986','e763c3e1-7567-4301-ae4f-9aa249448c58',NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e9bc94f-922c-4b90-b3b6-d751fbd98016','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 11： 3月25日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人际关系中的&ldquo;权力斗争&rdquo;与复仇（Page 058-062）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人在人际关系中一旦确信&ldquo;我是正确的&rdquo;，那就已经步入了权力之争。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&ldquo;我是正确的&rdquo;这种坚信意味着坚持&ldquo;对方是错误的&rdquo;最终就会演变成，&ldquo;所以我必须获胜&rdquo;之类的胜负之争。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">承认错误、赔礼道歉、退出权力之争，这些都不是&ldquo;失败&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">追求优越性并不是通过以他人的竞争来完成的。</span></p>','2025-03-25 13:54:45.159','2025-03-25 13:54:47.799',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:54:47.798',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>因此经验和知识是非常重要的一环，所以我国的教育部对历史这个科目很重视！</p>
<p>假如什么都不懂，即没有经验又没有知识，就很容易掉入别人的陷阱，成为＂权利斗争＂的牺牲品。</p>','2025-03-25 13:40:24.555','2025-03-25 13:58:56.559',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 13:58:56.558',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3ef6e2e-c132-412f-a912-cf9e7a67ca5e','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>根深地固的观念很难改变，人们总是很轻易相信负面的东西，而对于正面的信息很轻易就质疑。</p>','2025-03-25 14:03:02.019','2025-03-25 14:03:02.019',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:03:02.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('49c8b443-5bdf-4d12-b408-115f215a4f92','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 39 ：3月25日《逆思维Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">07 疫苗沟通者及温和的质问者：正确的聆听方式如何带给人们动机去改变（Page 215-218）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当遇到负面消息 先对事情的求证和认知才做出适当的判断。</span></p>','2025-03-25 14:16:40.531','2025-03-25 14:16:41.813',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:16:41.812',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f9c376e-4399-4f39-85ae-1f09148c8589','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>倾听而非说服。真正的改变源于理解对方的顾虑，而非强硬灌输观点。</p>
<p>疫苗沟通者通过开放式提问和共情，让反对者自发反思，而非防御。</p>
<p>这提醒我们：人际重新思考的关键，是放下&ldquo;正确者&rdquo;姿态，以谦逊态度激活对方的自主思考。</p>
<p>正如书中所言：&ldquo;人们更愿接受自己发现的真相。&rdquo;这种沟通方式，不仅是技巧，更是对他人思维的尊重。</p>','2025-03-25 14:06:55.706','2025-03-25 14:07:05.897',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:07:05.893',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8bfa1507-9a01-4cf9-8a97-afc8fe7cb50f','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>当应用动机式引导别人谈话，需要恰如其分， 以免引起对方反感，筑起心房，不愿接受善意的引导。&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 14:02:09.043','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('173a16ab-605e-4a9f-ac72-cb8246a9951c','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>放下＂我是正确的＂</p>
<p>承认错误，道歉都不是失败</p>','2025-03-25 14:13:17.664','2025-03-25 14:13:21.272',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:13:21.271',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f99f37f2-ce6f-442f-a6cf-10bec3d09fb2','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>其实很容易生气的朋友，需要调理肝。承认错误若在零极限里面说法：我所遇到的问题都是我的潜意识重播和模式重复哦。</p>
<p>所以我个人看到 除了认知 要学会清理。</p>','2025-03-25 14:27:00.714','2025-03-25 14:27:00.714',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:27:00.707',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5abb0217-a636-4a64-ab13-fd032b84f22a','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>承认错误赔礼道歉，退出权利之争，这些都不是失败</p>','2025-03-25 14:28:46.471','2025-03-25 14:28:46.471',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:28:46.47',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f7a0bc0a-2db6-4288-b86a-2d1812adc691','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<p>固有的观念很难改变</p>
<p>在还没有成为 &ldquo;固有&rdquo; 之前，是什么原因让那些 &ldquo;观念&rdquo; 成为 &ldquo;固有&rdquo;？</p>
<p>试图改变别人，难吗？</p>
<p>很难！</p>
<p>如果能够找到翘动那 &ldquo;地球&rdquo; 的支点呢？</p>
<p>问题变成了如何找？ 而不是难不难了！</p>','2025-03-25 14:30:31.183','2025-03-25 14:30:31.183',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:30:31.182',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8de11243-4a17-41b4-bc32-95e248789436','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>我看到的是认知和知道自己到底要什么？</p>
<p>如果这两个部分平衡后，无论在个人还是企业 就更容易平衡。</p>
<p>我们无法改变别人，改变别人是一种掌控性的行为</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 14:32:16.832','2025-03-25 14:32:16.832',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:32:16.831',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8fbcf54-be6c-4cf0-8c40-c220d5f3e3f5','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','003de8fa-8b71-4ea4-8164-04a64fd30e75','<p>人家气我我不气，我若生气中他计。只要秉着这个信念就不会容易动怒了。</p>
<p>再者，无需把自己的理念强制灌输给别人。当遇到冥顽不顾的人，以其闹得不可开交，不如假面附和他们，平息舆论。清者自清，是非公道人心，毋需自证。</p>','2025-03-25 14:32:52.819','2025-03-25 14:32:52.819',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:32:52.818',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ef16af7-e9fd-4709-8b52-50555b935175','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','43c1f419-5000-4ba8-95fb-648a98eeca2e','<ul>
<li>在受到争权挑衅时绝对不可以上当</li>
<li>没必要依赖发怒这一工具</li>
<li>易怒的人并不是性情急躁，而是不了解发怒以外的有效沟通工具</li>
<li>人在人际关系中一旦确信&ldquo;我是正确的&rdquo;, 那就已经步入了权力之争。这意味着坚持对方是错误的，最终演变成&ldquo;所以我必须获胜&rdquo;之类的胜负之争。</li>
<li>如果你认为自己正确的话，那么无论对方持什么意见都应该无所谓，没必要动怒</li>
<li>承认错误、赔礼道歉、退出权力之争，这些都不是失败</li>
</ul>','2025-03-25 14:33:58.878','2025-03-25 14:33:58.878',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:33:58.877',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be994452-cd65-40d3-8032-f961c7402ae8','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>正确的聆听会带给别人动机去改变</p>','2025-03-25 14:34:11.324','2025-03-25 14:34:11.324',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:34:11.323',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('119eaadc-d3be-4226-9e26-96e210972bb6','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>面对挑衅，先分辨对方目的，以不陷入情绪上的权力斗争。</p>
<p>放下&ldquo;我是正确的&rdquo;的想法，避开主观性坚持、及时承认错误改进，有助于提升人际关系。</p>','2025-03-25 14:44:03.534','2025-03-25 14:44:03.534',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:44:03.532',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce5367ec-206c-4816-b2f1-e54aa4cb28b0','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>想要改变人的想法方式很多，强迫式、劝说式、警告式的，都不容易。因为其信念已根深蒂固。</p>','2025-03-25 14:49:18.816','2025-03-25 14:49:18.816',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:49:18.813',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4cdcb9dc-1d96-4c09-91c2-0b4eb75252d3','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','8bd73483-b8f0-4199-b0a3-96b8e026c0ab','<p>如果自己是正确的，无论别人怎么评论都无所谓。勇敢面对自己的错误，加以纠正，不算是失败。</p>','2025-03-25 14:51:03.808','2025-03-25 14:51:03.808',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:51:03.807',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f22db383-11b3-4d87-b077-7bb91b0b5f89','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 11： 3月25日 (星期二)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人际关系中的&ldquo;权力斗争&rdquo;与复仇（Page 058-062）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">在面对权力冲突或挑衅时，不要陷入&ldquo;争强好胜&rdquo;，否则容易演变为彼此伤害的局面，最终导致关系彻底破裂。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">冲突若以&ldquo;谁赢谁输&rdquo;为目标，最终只会带来报复与痛苦。唯有放下权力之争，才能修复关系。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">承认错误，赔礼道歉、退出权力之争，这些都不是&rdquo;失败&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">只要陷入&rdquo;我是正确的&rdquo;，那就已经步入了权力之争。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人与人相处没有对错，只是角度不一样而已。</span></p>','2025-03-25 14:57:31.589','2025-03-25 14:57:31.589',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:57:31.588',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f18987ed-d03b-433c-9754-49c0d1a2321f','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>今天这篇说到疫苗，我就实在是没有信心，因为我身边确实有很多身体有问题的人，打过疫苗后，都发生了后遗症，就我爸爸打了第三支西方的疫苗后就中风了，我邻居的啊伯也同样中风，虽然政府与医药界都不认同，而是说是这些人有自己的健康问题发作的。就算是健康的人打了疫苗后也有副作用：体力差了。</p>
<p>也难怪人民大众对疫苗的恐惧。</p>
<p>未来真的有人提起打新病毒疫苗，不管你怎么说，我还真的要认真考虑一下。</p>','2025-03-25 14:49:43.877','2025-03-25 14:49:43.877',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:49:43.877',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3aec13ad-e83f-4cde-b822-2953e1a166fa','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="EN-GB">Day 11</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">：&nbsp;</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">25</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN">星期二</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人际关系中的&ldquo;权力斗争&rdquo;与复仇（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 058-062</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">如果遭人当面辱骂，就考虑一下那个人隐藏的目的，</span><span lang="ZH-CN">是否是权力之争。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">为什么要斗争，想要通过获胜来证明自己的力量。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">在受到争权挑拌时绝对不可以上当。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">没有必要依赖发怒这个工具。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我们不是要忍耐，而是不做回应</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">承认错误，赔礼道歉，推出权利之争，</span><span lang="ZH-CN">这些都不是失败。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 14:50:27.495','2025-03-25 14:50:27.495',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:50:27.494',NULL,NULL);
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<p>虽然阿德勒心理学反对赏罚制度，但是对于我而言赏罚分明是建立高效社会的基础。阿德勒心理学只能建立与一个完美社会，当每个人都不攀比，都本能的做好本分，那么就可以摒弃赏罚制度。现今社会都是弱肉强食，如果缺少竞争力那么就应该被淘汰。团队不养闲人。你可以为公司赚多少钱那就是你的价值，公司会对此给予相对的报酬。</p>','2025-03-25 15:00:53.768','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&ldquo;那些无法动摇我们的说法，只会使得我们的信念更坚定。&rdquo;</p>
<p>医生会怎样跟他沟通呢？希望是有效的方法！</p>','2025-03-25 14:55:57.505','2025-03-25 14:55:57.505',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 14:55:57.504',NULL,NULL);
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<li>每个人都有自己想要相信的东西，强迫、劝说等或许能成功，也或许会让人更抗拒</li>
</ul>','2025-03-25 15:20:07.172','2025-03-25 15:20:07.172',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:20:07.171',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人际关系中的&ldquo;权力斗争&rdquo;与复仇（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 058-062</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">唯有放下权力之争，才有可能修复彼此关系</span></p>','2025-03-25 15:21:08.64','2025-03-25 15:21:45.995',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:21:45.994',NULL,NULL);
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<li>当有人挑衅我们的时候，就是在对我们挑起&ldquo;权力之争&rdquo;其目的就是为了通过获胜来证明自己的力量。如果这时候我们发怒的话就上当了，这会导致败方步入&ldquo;复仇&rdquo;阶段，间接性导致双方关系达到不可能调和的程度。</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>无论自己多么正确，也不要因此为理由去责难对方。因为你会认为别人是错的，只有自己是对的。这时候就会演变成&ldquo;我必须获胜&rdquo;之类的胜负之争了。</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 15:43:47.591','2025-03-25 15:43:47.591',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:43:47.59',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">正确＋良性的沟通方式很关键，</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果我们尝试去改变别人的想法，不是靠批评或恐吓，而是用理解和尊重来沟通或引导。</span></p>','2025-03-25 15:24:05.408','2025-03-25 15:25:46.929',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:25:46.928',NULL,NULL);
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<p>发怒是交流的一种形态。不使用发怒也可以交流。也不必要依赖发怒这工具。</p>','2025-03-25 15:24:56.584','2025-03-25 15:28:08.762',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:28:08.761',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</p>
<p>人际关系中的&ldquo;权力斗争&rdquo;与复仇（Page 058-062）</p>
<p>读后感悟：</p>
<p>面对权利斗争的时候，不要随之起舞。</p>','2025-03-25 15:29:51.543','2025-03-25 15:29:51.543',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:29:51.542',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9bd2baa-68be-47b5-a38a-95991d45c3ea','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day 39 ：3月25日《逆思维 Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</p>
<p>07 疫苗沟通者及温和的质问者：正确的聆听方式如何带给人们动机去改变（Page 215-218）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>不要试图对抗拒者说教，这只会让他们更加抗拒及坚定自己的信念。</p>','2025-03-25 15:40:00.425','2025-03-25 15:40:00.425',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:40:00.424',NULL,NULL);
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<li data-start="612" data-end="682">
<p data-start="615" data-end="682"><strong data-start="615" data-end="634">事实无法改变情绪，聆听却可以。</strong><br data-start="634" data-end="637">光靠科学数据不足以说服恐惧中的人，唯有温和而真诚的倾听，才能赢得信任，开启对话。</p>
</li>
<li data-start="684" data-end="738">
<p data-start="687" data-end="738"><strong data-start="687" data-end="700">理解比说服更重要。</strong><br data-start="700" data-end="703">想要带来改变，不是战胜对方，而是陪伴他们一步步跨越内心障碍。</p>
</li>
<li data-start="740" data-end="807">
<p data-start="743" data-end="807"><strong data-start="743" data-end="762">沟通，是连接科学与人心的桥梁。</strong><br data-start="762" data-end="765">我们需要更多「戴着科学家帽子、说人话」的人，他们不是讲结论，而是先听心声。</p>
</li>
</ul>','2025-03-25 15:41:58.911','2025-03-25 15:41:58.911',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:41:58.91',NULL,NULL);
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<li>没有对或错，要了解背后的目的</li>
<li>愤怒只是其中一个沟通方式，还是有很多方式进行意见交流</li>
</ul>','2025-03-25 15:42:16.698','2025-03-25 15:42:16.698',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:42:16.697',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a7d1cc12-5b41-438e-be3a-c6949cb30d91','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">接种疫苗这件事在几年前的Covic19真的太贴切了，无论政府利用鼓励和强制的方式，很多人因为在网上看到一些负面新闻都不愿意去接种甚至是成为反对的前线。</span></p>','2025-03-25 15:51:42.698','2025-03-25 15:51:42.698',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:51:42.697',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab2f7d39-a19e-4309-a636-65f6c7ac697c','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<ul>
<li>那些无法动摇我们的说法，只会让我们的新年更坚定。</li>
<li>当我们在劝说人改变自己的观点时，不可以用说教或指责的方式，而是带上科学家的帽子以对方谈话，协助他们重新思考</li>
</ul>','2025-03-25 15:54:32.345','2025-03-25 15:56:11.481',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:56:11.48',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d9d1610-68fb-4aed-965d-4c36c924f9a0','478592a2-b5f5-4ad3-88e1-fabcef433c35','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 39&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">25</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">07&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">疫苗沟通者及温和的质问者：正确的聆听方式如何带给人们动机去改变（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 215-218</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''__Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">疫苗沟通者及温和的质问者</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">劝说常见的问题是无法动摇对方的说法，只会使得他们的信念更坚定，驳斥某个观点的论述，对抗未来影响他们的企图，他们变得更加确信自己的看法。反论述无法令他们感到惊讶或困惑，因为他们已经准备好反驳。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">疫苗沟通者不会对家长说教或者指控他们，而是用科学家的方式和家长对谈，协助家长重新思考对于疫苗的抗拒。</span></p>','2025-03-25 15:42:08.705','2025-03-25 15:42:08.705',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:42:08.703',NULL,NULL);
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<p>需用事实真相来教育。</p>','2025-03-25 15:58:53.701','2025-03-25 15:59:04.157',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:59:04.156',NULL,NULL);
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<p>对方的言行，挑起对方的&ldquo;权力之争&rdquo;这样的斗争就是要获胜，想要通过获胜来证明自己的力量，所以在这种情况下，我们要认清对方的目的是什么，对方只是要挑衅你通过权力之争来达到不顺眼的你屈服为目！这个时候如果发怒，那就正中下怀，关系会及转移权力之争，所</p>
<p>会形成复仇阶段 好像有些小孩知道父母的弱点，会自杀或做愚蠢的事，让父母伤心，这就是报复父母的心态人际关系一旦发展到复仇阶段，那当事人几乎是不可能调合了 所以我们要避免在受到权益挑战时，绝对不可以上当。承认错误不代表失败遇到受人格攻击的时候 不是控制怒气（忍耐），而是应该学习不使用怒气，因为这</p>
<p>种感情的方法始终是达成目的的一种手段和工具。发怒本身就是交流的一种形态 如果不发怒这个方式也可以交流器进行沟通，也可以取得别人的认可 我们不是不能发怒，而是没必要依赖发怒这一攻击，容易发怒的人并不是性情急躁，而是不了解发怒以外，还有更有效的交流工具，所以才会不由得发火之类的话，其实是借助化物</p>
<p>来进行交流，我们的语言可以通过语言交流，语言就是力量有逻辑性的语言，权力之争要注意的是无论自己多么正确，也不要为此理由去责备对方，这样会陷入人际关系的圈套，一旦在人际关系中确信我是正确的，那就已经步入权益之争，如果你认为自己是正确的话，那么无论对方持什么意见都应该无所谓，之所以会承认自己以我们不能上任何挑衅的当 形成权力之争。权力之争也之所以会承认错误就等于失败的人，就是陷入权力之争要对方屈服的原因。所以说因为不想失败，所以就不愿承认自己的错误，结果就会选择错误的道路承认错误，赔礼道歉，退出权力之争，这些都不是失败，只有摘掉竞争或胜负之爭对眼镜，才能够改善完善的自己。</p>
<p>748 words tiny</p>','2025-03-25 15:42:11.268','2025-03-25 15:42:11.268',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:42:11.266',NULL,NULL);
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<h4>强硬的说服往往适得其反，而温和的引导才更容易促成真正的思考和改变。</h4>
<h4>1）人们并不抗拒改变, 但抗拒被改变。</h4>
<p>当一个人的信念受到挑战时，他们的第一反应往往是&ldquo;自我防御&rdquo;,&nbsp; 而不是接受新观点。这种防御机制让他们更加坚定自己的立场而不是开放他接受信息。</p>
<h4>2）强硬的说服会激发更强的抵触情绪。</h4>
<p>直接告诉对方&ldquo;你错了&rdquo;或者是用大量证据&ldquo;碾压&rdquo; 对方的观点, 可能会让他们感到被攻击, 导致更加固守自己的立场而不是反思后改变。</p>
<h4>3）更有效的方式是耐心共情和引导。</h4>
<h4>倾听而不是争辩：</h4>
<p>真正理解对方的担忧， 而不是急于反驳。</p>
<h4>减少对抗建立信任：</h4>
<p>用开放式问题引导对方思考，而不是直接告诉他们答案。</p>
<h4>让对方自己发现答案：</h4>
<p>比起灌输, 鼓励他们自主探索新观点更容易出成态度转变。</p>
<h4>疫苗沟通师的策略启示：</h4>
<h4>避免说教和指控</h4>
<p>直接否定对方只会让他们更加抗拒。</p>
<h4>关注对话方式而非单方面灌输：</h4>
<p>耐心引导而不是强迫对方接受观点。</p>
<h4>以科学家态度交流：</h4>
<p>用理性和理解的方式探讨而不是情绪化的争辩。</p>
<p>真正有效的说服并不是&ldquo;打败&rdquo; 对方而是让对方愿意自己去思考接受新的可能性。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 15:48:06.673','2025-03-25 15:53:49.908',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:53:49.906',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d3ed6d9b-aa7d-437e-aa70-d52669cfa053','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>认错、道歉或放弃权力视为软弱或失败，但实际上，这些行为往往需要更大的勇气和智慧。</p>','2025-03-25 15:59:30.502','2025-03-25 15:59:30.502',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 15:59:30.501',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('164ece48-782f-4018-8e01-9db193630950','7b91c4e1-6b57-43ed-bf38-2521729fe466','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Day 12</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span></strong><strong><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">26</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">星期三</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人生的三大课题：交友课题，工作课题以及爱的课题（</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Page 063-069</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">遭人当面辱骂，要考虑那个人隐藏的&ldquo;目的&rdquo;，也要认清对方是在挑起&ldquo;权力之争&rdquo;。想要通过获胜来证明自己的力量。为了避免人际关系发展到复仇的阶段，在受到争权挑畔时绝对不可以上当。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">没必要依赖发怒在一个工具。承认错误，赔礼道歉，退出权力之争，都不是&ldquo;失败&rdquo;。这才能够改变完善的自己。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>','2025-03-25 15:58:43.915','2025-03-25 16:00:24.177',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-25 16:00:24.161',NULL,NULL);
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<li>行为方面的目标有&rdquo;自立&rdquo;和&rdquo;与社会和谐共处&rdquo;。</li>
<li>支撑这种行为的心里方面的目标有 &rdquo; 我有能力&rdquo;和&rdquo;人人都是我的伙伴&rdquo;。～ 我们需 要有能力和对自己有自信心才能管理好人际关系。&nbsp;</li>
<li>朋友或熟人的数量没有任何价值。我们应该考虑的是关系的距离和深度。～ 这段我很喜欢。</li>
<li>与这个人在一起可以无拘无束的时候，才会体会到爱。～ 爱需要平等关系才能维持。&nbsp;</li>
</ol>','2025-03-25 11:50:35.831','2025-03-25 21:51:08.9',NULL,'f','2025-03-25 16:00:00','2025-03-25 21:51:08.899',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2aba2253-d4d4-4369-ab1e-2e5cc3482c85','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人际关系可分为工作可题，交友课题和爱的课题。</p>
<p>工作课题:所有的工作一个人不可以独立完成，必须与他人合作才能完成。</p>
<p>工作上的人际关系出现问题是那些被称为自闭的青年。因工作失败而讨厌去上班，讨厌被人评判和指责，尊严受到伤害，这一切都是人际关系的问题。</p>','2025-03-22 03:58:53.814','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d7be181-71ac-4371-8e1a-167641b89a45','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>提出开放式的问题</p>
<p>倾听对方</p>
<p>&ldquo;有那些原则问题（因素）让您願意做出這个冒险动作？&rdquo;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-23 14:20:24.75','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('472e7374-1adc-40ac-8006-b2c12853105d','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>&ldquo;动机式晤谈&rdquo;</p>
<p>&middot; 我们很少能激发他人改变。我们比较有机会协助他们找出自己的动机去做改变。</p>
<p>三个关键技巧：</p>
<p>&middot; 提出开放式问句</p>
<p>&middot;反应式倾听</p>
<p>&middot; 确认对方改变的欲望及能力</p>','2025-03-23 12:41:44.486','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05619324-34df-45e0-95bb-f9de52d15ed1','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>动机是让对方打破过度自信的循环，开始好奇看见新的可能性。在对话中，自己就成了对方的镜子，让对方看见自己的信念和举止，以科学家的态度从新检验这些信念和举止。</p>
<p>作者提出三个关键技巧：</p>
<p>1）提出开放式问题</p>
<p>2）反应式倾听（不是根据内心的想法去反应，这常常会带着自己已经形成的批判和想要改变对方的动机）</p>
<p>3）确认对方改变的欲望及能力（知道对方维护自己观念是在坚守着什么）</p>','2025-03-24 03:07:15.993','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8e55bea-a9d8-4b9a-849e-5124d62df7f2','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>一切烦恼源自于人际关系。而人际关系里有三个重要为了生存人际关系：1）工作课题， 2） 交友课题， 3） 爱的课题。</p>
<p>在人生课题里，阿德勒提出人的行为和心理各有两个明确的目标或意识：</p>
<p>行为方面：1）自立， 2）与社会和谐共处</p>
<p>心理方面：1） 我有能力， 2）人人都是我的伙伴。</p>','2025-03-24 03:16:34.987','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('be1c3a38-cb1a-4b4f-a72f-2fcad041f415','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>动机式访谈 Motivational interviewing&nbsp;<br>✅ 一种谦逊又好奇的态度展开</p>
<p>目的：<br>❌告诉别人要做什么<br>✅协助他们打破过度自信的循环，看见新的可能性</p>
<p>角色：<br>1. 拿起一面镜子，让他们能更清楚看见自己<br>2. 然后赋予他们力量去检视自己的信念和举止<br>3. 启动重新思考的循环<br>4. ⁠更加科学的态度检视自己的观点</p>
<p>动机式对谈的process有3个关键技巧：<br>1. 提出开放式问句<br>2. ⁠反应式倾听<br>3. ⁠确认对方改变的欲望和能力</p>','2025-03-25 00:48:55.668','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8f7c256-c4d8-4ce5-ab2d-f160738102fd','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>想要作為社會性的存在, 而生存下去的时候, 都是會遇到不得不面对的人际关係, 這就是人生課題. 工作上所面对的问题, 不被認同, 感到尊嚴受損, 而又必須和别人合作, 完成工作的無奈.</p>','2025-03-25 01:19:12.054','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b11202ba-0b04-48a0-9540-968342e241fa','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>动机式晤谈是以一种谦虚又好奇的态度展开。动机式晤谈3个关键技巧：</p>
<p>a) 提出开放式问句</p>
<p>b) 反应式倾听</p>
<p>c) 确认对方改变的欲望及能力</p>','2025-03-25 04:29:31.758','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f14da54b-1f3e-4015-9871-8ec3c41d51bf','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p class="" data-start="0" data-end="76">说教和指控往往会引发&ldquo;回力镖效应&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;当人们感到被指责时，他们更倾向于反驳而非接受，即便事实摆在眼前。没有人喜欢被逼迫改变，哪怕这个改变对他们有益。</p>
<p class="" data-start="78" data-end="207">临床心理学家比尔&middot;米勒提出的**&ldquo;动机式晤谈&rdquo;（Motivational Interviewing）<strong data-start="128" data-end="148">，提供了一种更有效的方式。他主张</strong>通过提问引导对方思考，而不是直接告诉他们该怎么做**。关键在于<strong data-start="179" data-end="194">帮助对方找到自己的动机</strong>，而非强加我们的观点。</p>
<p class="" data-start="209" data-end="280">当一个人自己意识到改变的必要性，并且相信这是出于自己的选择时，他们才更可能真正接受并付诸行动。这种方式不仅减少了抗拒，还能让改变变得更加持久。</p>','2025-03-25 07:03:56.974','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47c1e241-4bf6-4f0a-8fd8-1dd5f88a2a15','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>动机式晤谈&mdash;关键在于：<br><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">～引导而非灌输 &mdash;&mdash; 不是直接给建议，而是帮助对方自己发现改变的理由。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">～</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">提供反思的机会 &mdash;&mdash; 通过提问、倾听和反馈，让对方看到自己的思维模式，进而自我觉察。</span></p>
<p>～赋权而非控制 &mdash;&mdash; 不是替他们做决定，而是让他们自己评估信念和行为，并选择如何行动。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">有点像我们拿起一面镜子，让对方看清自己，而不是直接告诉他们&ldquo;你应该这样做&rdquo;。这样，对方才更可能真正接受并推动自己的改变。</span></p>','2025-03-25 08:49:01.429','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4f6e075-7965-4de5-8840-848288525a5c','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','dee0ab39-9eab-4b3d-bad7-a9f0422f8fb5','<p>想要改变有顽固思想的人，坦白的提出开放式的问句去协助别人启发对事情再思考的可能，留心的倾听他们的诉讼及给于反应，更能启发他们想改变的用心。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-25 13:25:43.957','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d48b422f-a30c-400b-ac89-c25511932328','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>动机式晤谈是建立在一个核心前提之上的，那就是我们很少能激发他人改变，我们比较有可能/机会做到的是协助他人找出自己的动机去改变。而启动动机式晤谈的原则就是提问者必须保持谦虚又好奇的态度展开。晤谈的目的不是告诉别人要做什么，而是去协助他们打破过度自信的循环，并且看见新的可能性。</p>','2025-03-25 14:07:12.698','2025-03-26 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbf75af1-d2cd-49d3-bb96-3ce6f17c3713','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','f041d204-f304-44f7-9bc1-aa76094ff793','<p>要别人改变首先我们目的不是要告诉别人怎么做！而需要引导他们发现新的可能性！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>提问</p>
<p>聆听</p>
<p>好奇</p>','2025-03-26 00:48:41.435','2025-03-26 00:48:41.435',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 00:48:41.434',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。自立</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。与社会和谐共处</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">支撑这种行为的心理方面的目标</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1。我有能力的意识</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2。人人都是我的伙伴的意识</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人生课题分别有工作课题，交友课题，和爱的课题。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一个个体想要作为社会性的存在生存下去的时候，就会遇到不得不面对的人际关系，这就是人生课题。不得不面对也可以说成义务。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多人并不讨厌工作，他们只是讨厌在工作时受到他人的批评和指责。这都是人际关系的问题。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">但这个听起来怎么又像原因论？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学不是改变他人的心理学，而是追求自我改变的心理学。不能等着别人发生变化，也不要等着状况有所改变，而是由你自己勇敢迈出第一步。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">爱的课题可分为两种</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">恋爱关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">家人的关系</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">爱之课题恐怕是最难的课题。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">因为当由朋友关系发展成恋爱关系时，一些朋友之间允许的言行就不再被允许了。例如不可以跟异性朋友一起玩了，甚至和异性朋友打电话，恋人会吃醋等。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒不同意约束对方这一点。相互约束的关系很快就会破裂。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当人能够感觉到与这个人一起可以无拘无束的时候，才能体会到爱。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">约束是想要支配对方的表现，也是一种基于不信任感的想法。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">恋爱或夫妻关系还可以选择分手，但亲子关系原则上就不可以如此。那如果亲人间遇到问题，就不能给逃避，选择面对。</span></p>','2025-03-26 00:54:14.319','2025-03-26 00:54:14.319',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 00:54:14.316',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18bde547-9183-45ac-a9b5-7a4fe0dd11b5','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>行为方面的目标有&ldquo;自立&rdquo;和&ldquo;与社会和谐共处&rdquo;，而支撑这种行为的心理方面的目标有&ldquo;我有能力&rdquo;及&ldquo;人人都是我的伙伴&rdquo;的意识。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>要达到个体独立，同时也能够与他人及社会和谐共处，我们就需要直面&ldquo;人生课题&rdquo;：一个个体在想要作为社会性的存在生存下去时，就会遇到不得不面对的人际关系。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>工作课题</p>
<p>所有事情都不是可以所谓的一个人独自完成。工作上的人际关系门槛最低，因为大家有一个简单易懂的共通目标。即使不投缘，也可以通过合作把工作完成，在下班后再转换成为他人关系。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>交友课题</p>
<p>脱离了工作、更广泛意义上的朋友关系。很多人认为朋友越多越好，但朋友的数量并没有同等的价值，应该考虑的是关系的距离与深度。从成为更好的自己开始！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>爱的课题</p>
<p>爱不是束缚。当人能够感受到&ldquo;与这个人在一起可以无拘无束&rdquo;的时候，才能够体会到爱。束缚、支配都是基于一种不信任感。</p>','2025-03-26 02:25:09.659','2025-03-26 02:25:09.659',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 02:25:09.653',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('73893e21-73e2-4ede-bd7d-c7b70fbb7d06','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','e833f525-7fb5-477e-bfbb-f19dd1483c26','<p>讨论是为了汇聚大家卓越的想法.</p>','2025-03-26 04:00:34.348','2025-03-26 04:00:36.504',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 04:00:36.503',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('384f5de1-ff1f-41b5-84a0-317f486f7724','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>阿德勒心理学的三大课题：交友、工作和爱的课题。</p>
<p>我们可以自立，我是有能力的。人人都是我的伙伴。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 04:53:18.755','2025-03-26 04:53:22.203',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 04:53:22.202',NULL,NULL);
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<p>有了想法但执行错了怎么办？？<br>目的不是要做领导者而是引导者</p>
<p>慢慢的去引导每一步</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>那怎样去改变别人的想法？<br><br></p>','2025-03-26 08:46:09.036','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a0a748a9-18a8-435c-9faa-2bb8cf8cefca','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','19aefae2-1527-4b6b-92a2-f0b6e8205b43','<p>人际关系里总是逃脱不掉这三个课题：</p>
<p>1.交友课题</p>
<p>2.工作课题</p>
<p>3.爱的课题</p>
<p>我们总是有这个选择，要嘛就逃避，要嘛就接受，这就是人生。很多时候我们为何会把别人看成敌人，而不是伙伴，主要还是勇气受挫伤。</p>
<p>阿德勒心里学点出了2个方面的目标：</p>
<p><strong>1.行为方面的目标：</strong></p>
<p>自立 &amp; 与社会和谐共处</p>
<p><strong>2.支撑行为心里方面的目标：</strong></p>
<p>我有能力的意识 &amp; 人人都是我的伙伴</p>
<p>人生最难学的课题应该是 <strong>&ldquo;💕的课题&rdquo;</strong></p>
<p><strong>一个人如果真的遇到了真爱，这人是可以被爱改变的。无论他是恋爱关系、家人关系 或者 亲子关系。只要人可以从一个人的身上感觉到无拘无束，这样他们就会体会到爱。</strong></p>','2025-03-14 13:01:02.291','2025-03-26 04:55:19.957',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 04:55:19.956',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f77fb7b2-21d9-4de4-9412-fdbe483bb43b','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>普通人不会轻易被 &ldquo;说服&rdquo; 而改变，他们需要被 &ldquo;倾听&rdquo;而有所触动后情愿的自己开始改变。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以我们有两个耳朵，只有一张嘴！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>说服只是一个开始，对方心动了，才会有行动。</p>
<p>只沟通不辩论，对方不需要高尚的道理被说服，而是聆听、认同和尊重。</p>','2025-03-26 08:04:48.118','2025-03-26 08:05:03.218',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 08:05:03.217',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fccf0bc6-5a7c-4e76-84ac-ddeff6a72bef','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>在动机式访谈中</p>
<p>1. 维持淡话 -对现况做出评论</p>
<p>2. 改变谈话 - 提及某种欲望, 能力, 需求或承诺做出调整</p>
<p>有区别</p>
<p>&nbsp;Motivational interview step 4: 终结</p>
<p>這經常受到建議用在對話以及轉變點的結尾。</p>
<p>這是為了說明你對他人改變的理由有何了解，檢視你是否遺漏或曲解任何事，以及詢問他們的計畫和接下來的可能步驟。 （Ask WHY and HOW).</p>
<p><br>你的目的不是要當領導者或跟隨者，而是[引導者]。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 07:16:53.059','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b88d1e05-73fc-4b23-a10e-202851ddee07','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>行为的目标：自立。与社会和谐共处。</p>
<p>心理的目标：我有能力的意识。人人都是我伙伴的意识。</p>
<p>遇到困难，选择面对，做出改变。人变了，周围也会改变。</p>','2025-03-26 06:21:10.033','2025-03-26 06:21:10.033',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 06:21:10.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8eab9dab-1986-4db9-8000-84feebef6b4b','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>站在不一样的观点，人的出发点救会不一样</p>
<p>父母：担心承担风险，再加上喜欢听人说，口语传播比医生的信任度更高<br>医生：提供帮助，</p>
<p>由第三方站出来述说会不会有改变？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>贬低你后面的目的是什么？就可以满满控制愤怒</p>
<p>透过谈话，不给予意见，跟成述</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>无碳式聆听，总结成述，好奇为什么会这样</p>','2025-03-25 08:14:03.084','2025-03-26 08:23:50.842',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 00:00:00.025','2025-03-26 08:23:50.841',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('838d4379-47e2-4496-8c36-75020d7b9a2b','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>动机式晤谈以谦虚，好奇展开。目的式协助他人打破过度自信的循环。<br>动机式晤谈的三个关键：<br>1.） 提出开放式问句<br>2.） 反应式倾听<br>3.） 确认对方改变的欲望及能力</p>','2025-03-26 08:25:56.686','2025-03-26 08:25:56.686',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 08:25:56.685',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45d438dd-c9e6-47fd-993b-bb884e751d30','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>当你喜欢一个人，你看到对方是美好的。</p>
<p>当你讨厌一个人。你看到对方是厌恶的。</p>
<p>对方没变，变的只是自己的目的而已。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 04:59:00.042','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('44f95d38-b972-4442-affa-2400e114112d','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>Motivational interviewing&nbsp;<br>並不限於專業背景，它和日常決定及互動都息息相關。</p>
<p>Example:<br>有天一位朋友打電話尋求我的建議，看她是否該和前任復合。我很喜歡這個主意，但是我不認為我有資格告訴她該怎麼做，所以我沒有提供我的看法，而是請她一一說明優缺點，告訴我這些是否接近她想要的伴侶特質，她最後說服自己重新開始這段關係。這場對話感覺像魔法，因為我並沒有企圖說服她，或者給出任何建议。</p>
<p>❌说服 ❌建议<br>✅提出问题➡️自我说服➡️动机式访谈-引导他人自我发现</p>
<p>倾听👂</p>','2025-03-26 06:51:35.382','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('62d9f253-93fc-4233-88f9-3a1bafc73130','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>人生谎言 - 缺乏勇气而企图设立种种借口回避人生课题。</p>
<p>我们可以选择自己的人生和生活方式，要有勇气的使用被给予的东西。</p>','2025-03-26 07:16:08.518','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ca1d65e0-cee2-4f1a-8431-971a3e4e768e','d83c2de1-94e0-4bc7-9839-333b22d5bb75','3544741d-834f-4cd4-8b19-78fc644c32cd','<p>当事不关己的时候，别人也不在乎的事项，就不会费事採取行动了。</p>','2025-03-26 06:50:58.988','2025-04-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p>摆脱生活中面临的很多二元选择困境</p>','2025-07-02 15:49:52.302','2025-07-02 15:50:01.568',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-07-02 15:50:01.562',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e62e4988-cebb-4ceb-bc8b-cbe2348f6172','d60b988b-e114-4121-b6e1-a4174cd3e349','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>取舍VS选择.</p>
<p>做正法人事物,不要违法。切记.</p>','2025-07-03 12:24:17.685','2025-07-04 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2025-07-04 00:00:00.024','2025-07-04 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1cd97515-e191-481a-870f-f9337d54bad7','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>成长了自立，面对人际关系变得不想去上班，可能有时候累的不是而是对的人</p>
<p>不是改变人的心理而是改变自己先</p>','2025-03-26 08:52:04.645','2025-03-26 08:57:36.028',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 08:57:36.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d2665fc-5144-44ea-b060-4651a97f6b27','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>个人行为方面的目标=自立和与社会和谐共处，要成功达成这目标一定要1）我有能力 2）人人都是我的伙伴。</p>
<p>个体想要作为社会性的存在生存下去的时候就得面对三大人生课题。</p>
<p>1）工作课题</p>
<p>必须学会与人合作，就算是和不投缘的人共事也得合作完成任务。</p>
<p>2）交友课题</p>
<p>脱离工作，还有更加广泛意义的朋友关系。朋友数量多并不一定更好。我们应该考虑的是关系的距离和深度。</p>
<p>3）爱的课题</p>
<p>如果想要和谐得与亲人和谐相处就必须把对方当成平等的人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 09:09:08.101','2025-03-26 09:09:08.101',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 09:09:08.1',NULL,NULL);
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<p>工作课题&mdash;&mdash;生存需求</p>
<p>交友课题&mdash;&mdash;社交需求</p>
<p>爱的课题&mdash;&mdash;情感需求</p>
<p>害怕在工作中频频犯错而被贴上&ldquo;你能力不足&rdquo;等无能标签，讨厌自尊心一直受伤害，所以就会越来越讨厌这份工作。其实一开始还是很上心很积极的，随着错误越来越多，就会越来越不想继续做这份工作。</p>','2025-03-26 09:27:16.917','2025-03-26 09:27:16.917',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 09:27:16.915',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d7a1657-f94b-4c18-aac8-17c15b887740','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 12： 3月26日 (星期三)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生的三大课题：交友课题，工作课题以及爱的课题（Page 063-069）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">这段文字的核心观点可以总结为：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人们不是讨厌工作本身，而是讨厌与工作相关的人际关系。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">很多人不愿去上班，其实并非对工作内容本身感到厌恶，而是因为在工作中经历了来自他人的批评、否定、被贴上&ldquo;没能力&rdquo;、&ldquo;不适合&rdquo;等标签，导致自尊受损，才产生逃避心理。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">职场厌倦、逃避行为背后的根源，往往不是工作本身，而是源自人际关系中自我价值感的受挫与否定。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人与人之间要以平等的态度相处，逃避无法解决关系问题。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">要建立和谐关系，必须以&ldquo;平等&rdquo;对待彼此：阿德勒强调，和谐的人际关系建立在&ldquo;平等&rdquo;的基础上，无论是亲子、恋爱还是同事关系。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">人生无法脱离人际关系，唯有以平等心面对工作、友情与爱，勇敢处理困难关系，才能实现真正的自立与和谐。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 10:57:06.536','2025-03-26 10:57:06.536',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 10:57:06.535',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dcbbc9e8-26c9-40ce-9235-390cb753ea96','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对于治疗酗酒的患者，假如你企图劝说，让他们相信自己确实喝得太多，或是需要做出改变的话，你会产生抗拒，他们就比较不可能改变。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Bill Miller 和一位护士合作研究出一种务实的核心原则，叫做动机式唔谈。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">因为我们很少能激发他人改变。但我们比较有机会协助他们找出自己的动机去做改变。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">动机唔谈是以一种谦逊又好奇的态度展开，我们不知道有什么可能带给他人动机去做出改变，但是我们迫切想找出来。我们的目的不是告诉别人要做什么，而是去协助他们打破过度自信的循环，并且看见新的可能性。我们的角色是拿起一面镜子，让他们能更清楚看见自己，然后赋予他们力量去检视自己的信念及举止，这一来能启动重新思考的循环，人们能在其中以更加科学的态度检视自己的观点。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">三个关键技巧</span></p>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">提出开放式问句</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">反应式倾听</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">确认对方改变的欲望及能力</span></li>
</ul>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读完，这不就是coaching吗？</span></p>','2025-03-26 11:24:26.679','2025-03-26 11:24:26.679',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 11:24:26.678',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('12345756-4b62-4e4a-afad-a045a1558705','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>交友，工作和爱的确是人生必须面对的人际关系课题。需要在每一方面取得平衡。 需要抱着自立和与社会和谐共处。</p>','2025-03-26 11:32:13.894','2025-03-26 11:32:13.894',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 11:32:13.893',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9c3d9eeb-cc69-4d4c-b23c-3d1b9c95eadf','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>人生课题：</p>
<p>1）工作课题 - 合力完成工作</p>
<p>2）交友课题 - 改变自己，周围也会跟着改变，自然会交到知己</p>
<p>3）爱的课题 - 平等对待彼此，要让人感觉到&ldquo;无拘无束&rdquo;的关系，这样才能体会到彼此的爱</p>','2025-03-26 13:41:42.597','2025-03-26 13:41:42.597',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:41:42.596',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a1b04df-9844-44e6-909a-605a9261cd4f','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>重新思考应用在我们的生活中的不同部分，这样我们就能在生命每个阶段不断学习。</p>','2025-03-26 09:46:30.867','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af9df0c2-2f4e-476f-a40e-ae2cbc1b514c','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>我觉得爱是一定要有排他性的。你若真的爱你的配偶，就得一定要牺牲自己的某些自由，甚至忍受她的无理取闹。如果你只爱她可爱的一面，这样的爱和俗世的利益交换有什么不同？很多人爱的不是对方这个人，而是她或他所可以给的好处：金钱、地位、幸福感、甚至把你当作公主的待遇。等到有一天这些好处消失时，他的爱也随之烟消云散，这种爱经得起考验？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>同样的，当你爱一个人的时候，你在把你的心交给她；在以后的日子，她可能伤透你的心。你愿不愿意承担这个风险？很多人就卡在这里，不愿意承受着可能受伤的风险，所以一辈子都无法爱别人。</p>','2025-03-26 11:48:36.736','2025-03-26 11:48:36.736',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 11:48:36.735',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('353c93bb-dc8c-4184-9203-be05ab95f8ac','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>与其说服他人改变，不如协助打破过度自信的循环，让他们自己看见其它可能性</p>','2025-03-26 11:49:09.847','2025-03-26 11:49:09.847',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 11:49:09.846',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b5338e72-41e7-4dba-a07f-b509ece50c64','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 40 ：3月26日《逆思维Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">透过对谈引发动机（Page 218-221）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变别人不是靠强硬说服，而是用「动机式对话」来激发他们内心的动力。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">关键方法包括：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 1. 不要强迫对方改变，这只会让他们产生抗拒。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 2. 以好奇心提问，鼓励他们自己说出想改变的理由。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. 倾听对方的感受与想法，展现尊重与理解。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 4. 合作寻找解决方案，而不是批评。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">最有效让人改变的方式，不是争论谁对谁错，而是让他们自己看见改变的必要与希望。这种方式更温和，也更有力量。</span></p>','2025-03-26 11:49:53.526','2025-03-26 11:49:53.526',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 11:49:53.525',NULL,NULL);
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<p>学会同理心,聆听.从不同位置.</p>
<p>2）交友课题</p>
<p>以质为准.找到舒服的朋友.</p>
<p>3）爱的课题</p>
<p>以平等待遇,从爱出发</p>','2025-03-26 12:48:10.236','2025-03-26 12:48:10.236',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 12:48:10.236',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a82681c5-5460-4909-8604-4323a1d932e3','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>透过对谈，引发动机<br>这是如何达到？<br>它通过&ldquo;动机式晤谈&rdquo;的一个过程：<br>1.提出开放式问句。<br>（以谦逊与好奇的态度来展开<br>我们是帮他们去找出动机）</p>
<p>2反应式傾听<br>（去协助他们打破过度自信<br>看到新的可能性）</p>
<p>3。确认对方改变的欲望及能力<br>（给于他们力量去检视自己的信念。重新启动思考的循环.<br>他们会以科学态度去检讨自己的观点，并且对替代观点好奇）<br>学习用在每一天。</p>','2025-03-26 12:50:56.181','2025-03-26 12:50:56.181',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 12:50:56.179',NULL,NULL);
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<p>- 提出开放式问题</p>
<p>- 反应式倾听</p>
<p>- 确认对方改变的欲望和能力</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 12:52:44.624','2025-03-26 12:52:44.624',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 12:52:44.623',NULL,NULL);
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<p>动机式会谈的过程有三个关键技巧</p>
<p>提出开放式问句</p>
<p>反应式倾听</p>
<p>确认对方改变的欲望与能力（这点不易）</p>','2025-03-26 13:12:25.059','2025-03-26 13:12:25.059',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:12:25.058',NULL,NULL);
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<p>1.提出开放式问句</p>
<p>2反应式倾听</p>
<p>3.确认对方改变的欲望与能力</p>','2025-03-26 13:23:56.087','2025-03-26 13:23:56.087',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:23:56.086',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76527919-1c6d-46b8-9975-c47049b084b4','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>动机式晤谈，带着好奇心把神秘的门打开，探索门后的世界，找到原因</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 13:25:43.702','2025-03-26 13:25:43.702',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:25:43.701',NULL,NULL);
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<p>做重他人怎么看的生活方式只是关系&ldquo;我&rdquo;的自我为中心。我们要对自己的执着变成对他人的关心。凡事都是以关心他人为主（social interest)</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;不是世界的中心，只是世界地图的中心&rdquo;</p>
<p>这句话我看了很久还不明白，终于在哲人用地图来解析才明白其中道理。我们往往把自己作为世界的中心，不像地球仪看世界。地球仪，一切地方都是中心的同时一切地方又都不是中心。这才是共同体的一部分，而不是中心。</p>','2025-03-26 13:29:31.21','2025-04-03 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2025-04-03 00:00:00.012','2025-04-03 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f75dd66-c2e5-4858-94d6-00b6a073aeae','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>激發他人改變不容易</p>
<p>需要協助他人找出自己的動機去做改變</p>
<p>動機式晤談是以一種謙遜且好奇的態度展開會談。</p>
<p>猶如提起一面鏡子，讓他們更能清楚看見自己，賦予他們力量去檢視自己的信念與舉止。這樣做的好處是啟動重新思考的循環，透過對話交談中打破以往過度自信的循環，<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">並讓他人看見新的</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">可能性。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">動機式晤談的3個關鍵技巧：</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">1️⃣提出開放式問句</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">2️⃣反應式傾聽</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">3️⃣確認對方改變的慾望與能力</span></p>','2025-03-26 13:33:40.056','2025-03-26 13:33:40.056',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:33:40.054',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; 纵向关系：批评与表扬都基于&ldquo;评价者居高临下&rdquo;的立场，暗含权力差（如上司对下属、父母对孩子）。</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;- 隐藏的操控性：</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;- 批评：通过贬低对方行为，迫使对方服从自己的价值观；</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;- 表扬：通过奖励符合自己标准的行为，诱导对方重复该行为。</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;- 后果：长期被批评/表扬的人会养成&ldquo;依赖他人评价&rdquo;的心理，失去内在动力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2. 为何&ldquo;被批评而做&rdquo;&ldquo;被表扬而做&rdquo;有问题？</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;- 外在动机的陷阱</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;- 内在动机的消亡：当外界评价消失（如奖金取消、无人监督），行为就会停止。</p>','2025-03-26 13:42:42.601','2025-04-05 00:00:00.018',NULL,'f','2025-04-05 00:00:00.017','2025-04-05 00:00:00.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('925e5465-aa62-4dd1-95c1-2438efbfc321','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>218-221页 ：动机式晤谈的过程有三个关键技巧 ：</p>
<ol>
<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ol>
<p>对于反应式倾听，我其实不太明白是怎么做的？就是在对方说了一些东西以后，我们要及时给予回馈，是吗？</p>','2025-03-26 13:45:55.138','2025-03-26 13:45:55.138',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:45:55.137',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('551dffab-ec00-4ac2-9db0-88ad149c1eab','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>我们绝大多数的烦恼，都源于对他人评价的过度在意。交友、工作、爱这三大课题，本质上都是在处理"自我与他人的边界"。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>在职场过度揣测上司意图而焦虑，因朋友疏远自我怀疑，在亲密关系里患得患失&hellip;这些痛苦往往来自一个误区：把人际关系当作证明自我价值的考场。但阿德勒提醒我们：关系的真谛是合作而非竞争。 &nbsp;</p>
<p>真正的解法或许是&mdash;&mdash;像园丁对待植物那样经营关系：给予养分但不控制生长，保持边界却依然守望。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 13:51:49.527','2025-03-26 13:51:49.527',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:51:49.526',NULL,NULL);
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<p>有效沟通的本质，是帮助对方完成自我说服的艺术。 &nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 13:56:14.813','2025-03-26 13:56:14.813',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:56:14.812',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a04176b4-8d59-41f4-996e-c7b276f2e1ed','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>人不可能一个人活着，所谓的个人也是社会和环境的协助下才能成为的个人。</p>','2025-03-26 13:57:33.983','2025-03-26 13:57:33.983',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 13:57:33.982',NULL,NULL);
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<div class="flex flex-row gap-2 mb-2">&nbsp;</div>
</div>
<div class="text-xs sm:text-sm ml-[38px]">
<p>3个关键技巧</p>
<p>1.提出开放式问句</p>
<p>2反应式倾听</p>
<p>3.确认对方改变的欲望与能力</p>
</div>','2025-03-26 14:03:35.417','2025-03-26 14:03:35.417',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:03:35.416',NULL,NULL);
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<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ol>','2025-03-26 14:06:04.162','2025-03-26 14:06:04.162',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:06:04.161',NULL,NULL);
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<ol>
<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ol>','2025-03-26 14:02:28.824','2025-03-26 14:02:35.788',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:02:35.787',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">工作课题&mdash;&mdash;生存需求</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">交友课题&mdash;&mdash;社交需求</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">爱的课题&mdash;&mdash;情感需求</span></p>','2025-03-26 14:19:06.791','2025-03-26 14:19:21.014',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:19:21.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('02c9d64e-533d-4f37-860a-98c363d1b4f9','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','8bd73483-b8f0-4199-b0a3-96b8e026c0ab','<p>面对人生课题由自己开始，改变别人不如改变自己。</p>','2025-03-26 14:31:40.659','2025-03-26 14:31:40.659',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:31:40.658',NULL,NULL);
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<h4>动机式对谈的关键不是强迫改变, 而是激发发在内在的动力。我也有类似的体会，这种方法的核心再于尊重、共情和引导, 而不是直接说服。</h4>
<h4>1）改变是自发的, 而非强迫的</h4>
<p>任何强硬的说服都引起对方的抗拒, 真正有效的方式是帮助对方看见自己的信念行为与目标之间的矛盾, 让他们自己找到改变的动力。</p>
<h4>2）倾听比争论更有力量</h4>
<p>许多人在沟通时习惯争论对错，但真正的影响力来自理解和共情。当我们用开放式问题引导、认真倾听尊重对方的感受,才能让对方放下防备, 愿意重新审视自己的观点。</p>
<h4>3）提供镜子而非答案</h4>
<p>动机是对谈的角色不是告诉别人应该怎么做, 而是像一面镜子一样帮助他们更清楚的看到自己, 并支持他们找到适合自己的改变方式。这种方法更温和, 但更能促使真正的改变。</p>
<p>整体而言，这种沟通方式不仅能帮助个人成长，也适用于各种关系一一无论是领导管理、教育辅导还是日常的人际互动。</p>','2025-03-26 14:14:13.386','2025-03-26 14:23:50.867',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:23:50.865',NULL,NULL);
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<ol>
<li>工作课题</li>
<li>交友课题</li>
<li>爱的课题</li>
</ol>
<p>在义务层面的意思：一个个体在想要作为社会性的存在生存下去的时候，就会遇到不得不面对的人际关系</p>
<p>要实现个人的&ldquo;自立&rdquo;和在社会中的&ldquo;和谐&rdquo;，必须要克服&ldquo;工作&rdquo;、&ldquo;交友&rdquo;及&ldquo;爱&rdquo;这三大课题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>为什么选择逃避工作？</p>
<p>答：在工作中遭遇失败，讨厌因工作而受到他人的批评和指责，讨厌被贴上&ldquo;你没有能力&rdquo;或者&ldquo;你不适合这个工作&rdquo;之类的无能标签，更讨厌无可替代的&ldquo;我&rdquo;的尊严受到伤害。</p>
<p>总结：一切都是人际关系的问题</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们改变不了他人，只能改变自己，只要自己变了，周围也会改变。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 14:23:58.584','2025-03-26 14:23:58.584',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:23:58.583',NULL,NULL);
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<p>找出對方的動機去做改變。</p>
<p>動機式晤談～三個關關鍵技巧</p>
<p>一提出開放式問句</p>
<p>二反應式傾聽</p>
<p>三確認對方改變的慾望及能力，</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 14:24:13.557','2025-03-26 14:24:13.557',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:24:13.556',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</p>
<p>人生的三大课题：交友课题，工作课题以及爱的课题（Page 063-069）</p>
<p>读后感悟：</p>
<p>一个个体在想作为社会性的存在生存下去的时候，就会遇到不得不面对的人际关系，这就是人生课题。</p>
<p>当人能够感觉到与这个人在一起无拘无束的时候，才能够体会到爱。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>阿得勒心理学不是改变他人心理学，而是追求自我改变心理学。</p>
<p>无论多麽困难的关系都不可以选折逃避，，必须勇敢的去面对。</p>','2025-03-26 14:29:41.862','2025-03-26 14:29:41.862',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:29:41.861',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('71163373-2a7a-4fdc-a275-1e696a3c5118','9cda5a09-2ab1-4b1a-b3d7-54e4acc6135f','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>聆听的力量不在于&ldquo;给予人们空间去反思他们的观点&rdquo;，还有展现尊重及表达关切。</p>','2025-03-26 14:35:33.971','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1246772f-c996-4919-b78d-cc29c44ea928','e959ae7c-4953-4940-8876-306a4e15df7d','ebc94826-5eca-4369-a4c8-7941d6ce1957','<p>学习的过程中，我们应该保有好奇心，对我们学习的事情加以思考，而不是为了学习而学习。</p>','2025-04-05 14:24:39.711','2025-04-05 14:24:39.711',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-05 14:24:39.71',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05e51c25-a645-465f-86e6-0899e76e0fc1','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>动机式对话过程的三个关键技巧：</p>
<ul>
<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ul>','2025-03-26 14:37:57.829','2025-03-26 14:37:57.829',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:37:57.828',NULL,NULL);
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<p>关键技巧：</p>
<ol>
<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ol>','2025-03-26 14:43:01.925','2025-03-26 14:43:01.925',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:43:01.924',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('679fd95b-910e-48b1-a1b3-2caa5c8e8b37','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>改变别人是神经病，改变自己才是聪明人。</p>','2025-03-26 14:45:18.485','2025-03-26 14:45:18.485',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:45:18.484',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f4e229c-04bd-475d-ae44-300bb6389f37','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>&middot;改变谈话是一条金线</p>
<p>&middot;你要做的是挑出那根线，然后拉它</p>
<p>&middot;帮助他思考如何有效地执行改变</p>
<p>&middot;动机式晤谈需要你真心渴望能协助人们完成目标</p>','2025-03-26 13:58:46.477','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec8e7d86-1310-4d0c-b004-1cfee144eaa2','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','4cfe29dd-714c-41a2-bc6d-306205099ae9','<p>除非真心为别人好，才能通过对话改变他们的想法。如果让对方察觉不是心正意诚，反而会本末倒置。</p>','2025-03-26 14:33:17.881','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('631a10db-616f-4897-8067-cfd4eb6828c6','b4054b9a-0b8a-453e-892c-caefb19a7ca5','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>希望现代父母可以多多鼓励孩子有好奇心，重新思考，发文问题。而不是拦阻和阻碍他们。&nbsp;</p>','2025-04-06 12:50:42.121','2025-04-06 12:50:42.121',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-06 12:50:42.12',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d9c4f61-4bbf-45a1-a0ce-ad9319ae929a','9d894b2e-4675-4c6a-91e6-eae25010e880','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>从学校，大学就开始不断如此的去培养学生们的思维和学习模式，把它变成一种习惯。</p>','2025-04-08 13:32:36.576','2025-04-08 13:32:36.576',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-08 13:32:36.568',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('633feed1-5093-4a1d-bd95-4dde73861af0','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">透過對談引發動機&nbsp; - <span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">動機式晤談</span></span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">開始于問他們問題，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">並且傾聽他們的回答！</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">中</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼼</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">前提是我們很少能激發他</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">改變；</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們比較有機會協助他們找出</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⾃⼰</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的動機去做改變</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">︒</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">動機式晤談是以</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">種謙遜又好奇的態度展開。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們不知道有什麼可能帶給他</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">動機去做出改變，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">但是我們迫切想找出來。我們的</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽬</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的不是告訴別</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">要做什麼，是去協助他們打破過度</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⾃</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">信的循環，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">並且看</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⾒</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">新的可能性</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">我們的角色</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">是拿起</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">一面</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">鏡子，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">讓他們能更清楚看见自己，然後賦予他們</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼒</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">量去檢視他們的信念及舉</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽌</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">這</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">來能啟動重新思考的循環，人們能在其中以更加科學的態度檢視自己的觀點。</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">他們會更加謙遜地看待自己</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的知識，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">更懷疑自己</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">的信念</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">︐</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">並且對於替代觀點更好奇</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">︒</span></p>','2025-03-26 14:35:59.575','2025-03-26 14:36:08.581',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:36:08.579',NULL,NULL);
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<p>工作课题：生活上的需求，自立自强</p>
<p>交友课题：升级的人际关系</p>
<p>爱的课题：情感的需求</p>','2025-03-26 14:40:47.674','2025-03-26 14:41:05.776',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:41:05.769',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5565261-9c8b-45f3-b38c-5e6a427e4b29','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>3个关键技巧</p>
<p>1.提出开放式问句</p>
<p>2反应式倾听</p>
<p>3.确认对方改变的欲望与能力</p>','2025-03-26 14:42:45.634','2025-03-26 14:42:45.634',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:42:45.633',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('110c9592-14ed-4579-9c6c-139ebafdc52f','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>动机式晤谈的3个关键技巧：</p>
<ol>
<li>提出开放式问句（原因？有哪些原则对你来说万分重要，以至于你会愿意冒这个险呢？【很喜欢这个问题！】）</li>
<li>反应式倾听（这个有点不理解，看看后面会有解释吗？）</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>看到有一位书友说：动机式晤谈是带着好奇心把神秘的门打开，探索门后的世界，找到原因。</p>
<p>我好喜欢这个说法！很特别但很贴切！</p>','2025-03-26 14:44:19.658','2025-03-26 14:44:19.658',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:44:19.657',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a5d62574-e980-4a30-ac62-e43410c18326','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>我们喜欢自己拥有主动权，所以就算是错的，也要是我自己选择改正，而不是别人说我必须改变。<br>同理可证，别人也不喜欢我告诉他他应该改变了。。。</p>','2025-03-26 14:56:37.993','2025-03-26 14:56:37.993',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:56:37.992',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('617070c2-bd51-46d9-9c3e-71681caf34e8','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>人生三大课题：交友、工作、爱</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;自立&rdquo;和&ldquo;与社会和谐共处&rdquo;是把人际关系管理好的关键。</p>','2025-03-26 14:59:23.17','2025-03-26 14:59:23.17',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:59:23.169',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4494bb29-a413-4928-9be8-9a53e8852b24','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','8ba62dba-0026-464f-a0d5-bd8c4d6c0430','<h3 data-start="281" data-end="299">动机式晤谈的本质</h3>
<div class="overflow-x-auto contain-inline-size">
<table data-start="300" data-end="459">
<thead data-start="300" data-end="313">
<tr data-start="300" data-end="313">
<th data-start="300" data-end="307">核心原则</th>
<th data-start="307" data-end="313">说明</th>
</tr>
</thead>
<tbody data-start="334" data-end="459">
<tr data-start="334" data-end="376">
<td>🎯 激发内在动机</td>
<td>不告诉对方&ldquo;你该改变&rdquo;，而是引导他们&ldquo;为何愿意改变&rdquo;</td>
</tr>
<tr data-start="377" data-end="413">
<td>👂 倾听与尊重</td>
<td>倾听对方的恐惧、犹豫、不信任感，而不是批判</td>
</tr>
<tr data-start="414" data-end="459">
<td>🔄 反应式倾听</td>
<td>以开放式提问 + 同理回应，帮助对方澄清自己的想法与矛盾感受</td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h3 data-start="466" data-end="486">会话范例（节选对话）</h3>
<ul data-start="487" data-end="563">
<li data-start="487" data-end="505">「你有何不喜欢他的地方吗？」</li>
<li data-start="506" data-end="535">「这听起来你对他说的某些话有疑虑&hellip;是哪些部分呢？」</li>
<li data-start="536" data-end="563">「假如你试着想像他其实有你没看到的另一面呢？」</li>
</ul>
<p data-start="565" data-end="597">🧩 <strong data-start="568" data-end="597">这些话语并非争论对错，而是帮助对方展开思考的空间。<br><br></strong></p>
<h3 data-start="604" data-end="624">动机式晤谈的三大技巧</h3>
<div class="overflow-x-auto contain-inline-size">
<table data-start="626" data-end="774">
<thead data-start="626" data-end="639">
<tr data-start="626" data-end="639">
<th data-start="626" data-end="633">技巧名称</th>
<th data-start="633" data-end="639">说明</th>
</tr>
</thead>
<tbody data-start="660" data-end="774">
<tr data-start="660" data-end="698">
<td>📥 提出开放式问句</td>
<td>鼓励对方多说话与探索，例如&ldquo;你怎么看&hellip;？&rdquo;</td>
</tr>
<tr data-start="699" data-end="729">
<td>👂 反应式倾听</td>
<td>重述/总结对方的想法，显示理解</td>
</tr>
<tr data-start="730" data-end="774">
<td>🔍 引导对方看见差异</td>
<td>像&ldquo;镜子&rdquo;一样，帮助他们看清自己行为与理想之间的差异</td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>
</div>
<ul>
<li data-start="1106" data-end="1143"><strong data-start="1109" data-end="1141">人不会被&ldquo;说服&rdquo;改变，而是被&ldquo;倾听&rdquo;触动后愿意自己改变。</strong></li>
<li data-start="1144" data-end="1177"><strong data-start="1147" data-end="1175">真正的说服，不是更有道理，而是更懂对方内心挣扎。</strong></li>
<li data-start="1178" data-end="1208"><strong data-start="1181" data-end="1206">沟通不是辩论，而是一起走进对方世界的邀请。</strong></li>
</ul>
<p data-start="565" data-end="597">&nbsp;</p>
</div>','2025-03-26 07:29:25.596','2025-03-26 14:48:06.084',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:48:06.082',NULL,NULL);
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<p>直面【人生课题】来实现</p>
<p>关系课题</p>
<p>工作课题</p>
<p>交友课题</p>
<p>以上三种都是爱的课题，人际关系课题</p>
<p>不是对工作感动讨厌，而是讨厌因工作而受到他人的批评与指责。讨厌被贴上标签（你没有能力）或者（你不适合这个工作）的无能标签。尊严受到伤害。这一切都是人际关系的问题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 14:48:16.159','2025-03-26 14:48:24.722',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:48:24.721',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&ldquo;要幫助他人開啟思維，最有效的方式經常是傾聽。&rdquo;</p>
<p>个人觉得这二技巧实是太棒！</p>','2025-03-26 14:50:12.2','2025-03-26 14:50:12.2',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 14:50:12.199',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8e75b069-1958-40f4-b75d-9d8b597e9f80','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>动机式晤谈的过程有三个关键技巧：-</p>
<p>提出开放式问句</p>
<p>反应式倾听</p>
<p>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 15:14:07.413','2025-03-26 15:14:07.413',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:14:07.412',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('424eb799-d479-4d26-9bc3-e6c62adbb7c2','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>工作任务：</p>
<ul>
<li>工作只是一部分，而最在意的是别人如何看我、评价我，是会觉得我能力不足吗？不适合吗？</li>
<li>所以，还是跟人有关系</li>
</ul>
<p>交友&amp;爱任务：</p>
<ul>
<li>能够完全做自己，不用掩饰自己真性情</li>
</ul>','2025-03-26 15:23:37.948','2025-03-26 15:23:37.948',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:23:37.947',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('166722e4-c83b-4bc9-9122-5aff82be8caa','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>只有自己改变了，周围才会跟着改变。</p>','2025-03-26 15:25:56.771','2025-03-26 15:25:56.771',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:25:56.77',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e152a81a-5253-433c-998f-cee4de5501dc','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>人生的三大课题&mdash;&mdash;交友、工作和爱情&mdash;&mdash;是每个人在人际关系中都会面对的重要领域。 当在这些课题中遇到挫折并选择逃避时，往往是由于缺乏应对的勇气。为了有效地应对这些人生课题，需要在心理上建立以下两种意识：</p>
<ol>
<li>我有能力的意识</li>
<li>人人都是我的伙伴的意识</li>
</ol>
<p>培养这两种意识有助于增强面对人生课题的勇气，减少逃避行为；促进个人成长和人际关系的改善。</p>','2025-03-26 15:26:06.476','2025-03-26 15:26:06.476',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:26:06.475',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c9f5bb46-583e-41fe-93ff-72406dc52dfe','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>人生课题。</p>','2025-03-26 15:38:32.883','2025-03-26 15:38:32.883',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:38:32.882',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cfb47b40-f1ed-4b19-8983-ef9897b100c6','9cda5a09-2ab1-4b1a-b3d7-54e4acc6135f','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p>聆听是把我们最神圣，最珍贵的礼物，也就是我们的注意力，交给他人的一种方式。</p>
<p>我们一旦展示出我们在乎他们和他们的目标，他们就比较愿意听我们说．</p>','2025-03-26 15:02:24.597','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18caa616-e9be-497d-8b80-8e668b4e1cd3','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','7ae3c10f-1299-472c-a9d4-b368d392f445','<p><span class="x1lliihq x1plvlek xryxfnj x1n2onr6 x1ji0vk5 x18bv5gf x193iq5w xeuugli x1fj9vlw x13faqbe x1vvkbs x1s928wv xhkezso x1gmr53x x1cpjm7i x1fgarty x1943h6x x1i0vuye xjohtrz xo1l8bm xp07o12 x1yc453h xat24cr xdj266r" dir="auto">[二元偏誤」<br></span><span class="x1lliihq x1plvlek xryxfnj x1n2onr6 x1ji0vk5 x18bv5gf x193iq5w xeuugli x1fj9vlw x13faqbe x1vvkbs x1s928wv xhkezso x1gmr53x x1cpjm7i x1fgarty x1943h6x x1i0vuye xjohtrz xo1l8bm xp07o12 x1yc453h xat24cr x1anpbxc" dir="auto">很多時候我們看待一件事情都會只看到正反兩面，如果与我們观点不同的人我们会會排斥，更堅持己見，</span></p>
<p><span class="x1lliihq x1plvlek xryxfnj x1n2onr6 x1ji0vk5 x18bv5gf x193iq5w xeuugli x1fj9vlw x13faqbe x1vvkbs x1s928wv xhkezso x1gmr53x x1cpjm7i x1fgarty x1943h6x x1i0vuye xjohtrz xo1l8bm xp07o12 x1yc453h xat24cr x1anpbxc" dir="auto">这样让我們沒辦法看到更多盲點</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><span class="x1lliihq x1plvlek xryxfnj x1n2onr6 x1ji0vk5 x18bv5gf x193iq5w xeuugli x1fj9vlw x13faqbe x1vvkbs x1s928wv xhkezso x1gmr53x x1cpjm7i x1fgarty x1943h6x x1i0vuye xjohtrz xo1l8bm xp07o12 x1yc453h xat24cr x1anpbxc" dir="auto">二元偏誤的解藥就是加入一點複雜性，不是只看到一件事的兩個面向，打斷我們對於個人觀點的過度自信，讓我們透過重新思考並帶著好奇心去發現我們缺乏的資訊</span><span class="x1lliihq x1plvlek xryxfnj x1n2onr6 x1ji0vk5 x18bv5gf x193iq5w xeuugli x1fj9vlw x13faqbe x1vvkbs x1s928wv xhkezso x1gmr53x x1cpjm7i x1fgarty x1943h6x x1i0vuye xjohtrz xo1l8bm xp07o12 x1yc453h xat24cr x1anpbxc" dir="auto">對於關係也一樣，很多時候我們只看到事情的好壞對錯，但是把事件二分法只會帶我們更堅持自己的立場，聽不到反面的聲音，而形成對立</span><span class="x1lliihq x1plvlek xryxfnj x1n2onr6 x1ji0vk5 x18bv5gf x193iq5w xeuugli x1fj9vlw x13faqbe x1vvkbs x1s928wv xhkezso x1gmr53x x1cpjm7i x1fgarty x1943h6x x1i0vuye xjohtrz xo1l8bm xp07o12 x1yc453h xat24cr x1anpbxc" dir="auto">只有把事件複雜化，去看到更多面向，我們才能從中找到雙方的共同點，去支持到對方</span></p>','2025-03-26 15:25:34.497','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人生的三大课题：交友课题，工作课题以及爱的课题（Page 063-069）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学关于人的行为，有2个目标，自立和以社会和谐共处。支撑这种行为的心理方面的目标是&ldquo;我有能力&rdquo;的意识以及人人都是我的伙伴。这些目标可以通过阿德勒所说的直面&ldquo;人生课题&rdquo;来实现。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒把这些过程中产生的人际关系分为&ldquo;工作课题&rdquo;&ldquo;交友课题&rdquo;和爱着课题。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学不是改变他人的心理学，而是追求自我改变的心理学。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果对方过得幸福，那么能够真诚地去祝福，这就是爱。相互束缚的关系很快就会破裂。当然能够感觉到与这个人在一起可以无拘无束的时候，才能够体会到爱。</span></p>','2025-03-26 15:29:46.53','2025-03-26 15:29:47.661',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:29:47.66',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0194a221-5910-4753-86ba-6da505e926f4','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>让他人重新思考的其一办法&mdash;&mdash;提出问题。引导他人对自己的信念重新思考。</p>','2025-03-26 15:38:02.757','2025-03-26 15:38:02.757',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:38:02.755',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e475e84-facf-440f-8ec7-7695b28a4f24','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>真正的影响力不是改变他人的信念，而是给予他们思考的理由；引导他们朝更深层次的方向思考，并找到更合理的路径。</p>
<p>我们无法直接促使他人改变，但可以帮助他们打破过度自信的循环；让他们找到自己的动机去改变。我们的角色就像一面镜子，帮助他们看清自己；并赋予他们力量去反思自己的信念和行为，从而开启重新思考的循环。在这个过程中，人们能够以更科学的态度审视自己的观点，更谦逊地看待知识；更敢于质疑信念，并对可能的替代方案保持好奇。</p>','2025-03-26 15:55:50.498','2025-03-26 15:55:50.498',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:55:50.497',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5928be5d-c4b8-4b7d-908f-bf6098c66956','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>都是人际关系！</p>
<p>人生三大课题： 交友，工作与爱</p>','2025-03-26 15:57:43.795','2025-03-26 15:57:43.795',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:57:43.793',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('011f336c-ab65-4aea-a7db-52e0ef267a0e','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>1.提出开放式问句 2.反应式倾听 3.确认对方的改变和能力</p>
<p>人只有在自己重新思考，从不同的角度事情，才会更容易地产生改变的动机。</p>','2025-03-26 15:33:47.444','2025-03-26 15:33:47.444',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:33:47.443',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1576267b-0254-4dff-b0df-ca504a6583bf','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>动机式晤谈：</p>
<ul>
<li>以谦逊又好奇的态度展开</li>
<li>找出能让他人做出改变的动机</li>
<li>协助他人打破过度自信的循环，并看见新的可能性</li>
<li>拿起镜子让他人更清楚地看见自己，赋予他们力量去检视自己</li>
<li>三个关键过程：
<ul>
<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-03-26 15:39:07.117','2025-03-26 15:39:07.117',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:39:07.116',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d3d9b16-ef26-46ba-95db-0a72a711c027','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','43c1f419-5000-4ba8-95fb-648a98eeca2e','<ul>
<li>行为方面的目标有两点：1自立 ；2与社会和谐共处</li>
<li>支撑这种行为的心理方面的目标也有以下2点：1&ldquo;我有能力&rdquo;的意识；2&ldquo;人人都是我的伙伴&rdquo;的意识</li>
<li>人际关系分为&ldquo;工作课题&rdquo;、&ldquo;交友课题&rdquo;、&ldquo;爱的课题&rdquo;</li>
<li>阿德勒心理学不是改变他人的心理学，而是追求自我改变的心理学</li>
<li>当人能感觉到与这个人在一起可以无拘无束的时候，才能够体会到爱</li>
</ul>','2025-03-26 15:42:08.426','2025-03-26 15:42:08.426',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:42:08.425',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>三个关键过程：
<ul>
<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2025-03-26 15:43:37.019','2025-03-26 15:43:55.985',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:43:55.985',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">三大课题&mdash;&mdash;交友、工作和爱情</span></p>','2025-03-26 15:44:17.648','2025-03-26 15:44:55.932',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:44:55.931',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a36ab224-9bc1-48a5-a087-edd0b1b9fd02','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>关键技巧</p>
<p>提出开放式</p>
<p>反应是倾听</p>
<p>确认对方的能力</p>','2025-03-26 15:45:27.117','2025-03-26 15:45:39.406',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:45:39.405',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('85fba5d6-5ac1-414c-b97a-83b554d829b0','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>动机式晤谈不会给予命令或提出建议</p>
<p>而是更进一步地引导他人自我发现</p>
<p>要帮助他人开启思维，最有效的方式是倾听</p>','2025-03-25 23:13:14.16','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4f71300-6a3d-4de0-a8e3-67cc404efa35','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<ul>
<li>叫人改变或者激发别人改变是一件艰难的任务，我们可以运用&ldquo;动机式晤谈&rdquo;的方式来帮助他人找出自己去改变的动机。</li>
<li>&ldquo;动机式晤谈&rdquo;是一种谦虚又好奇的态度去了解对方。</li>
<li>&ldquo;动机式晤谈&rdquo;的三个关键技巧：提出开放式问句，反应式倾听，确认对方改变的欲望及能力。</li>
</ul>','2025-03-26 15:47:30.472','2025-03-26 15:47:30.472',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:47:30.472',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89ac1175-05d7-4ea9-adcf-858b6390c54e','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>人生的三大课题，交友课题，工作课题以及爱的课题。当我们在人际关系中把别人看成是敌人，而不是伙伴时，那是因为勇气受挫的你，在逃避人生的课题。人的行为方面的目标有智力和以社会和谐共处而支撑这种行为的心理目标是我有能力及人人都是我的伙伴，这两种意识，人在成长当中，必须学会精神智力也必须在社会意义上也要自立，想要在社会生存下去就会遇到面对人际关系，这就是人生课题。我们无论做什么类的工作都无法一个人独立完成，必须与他人共同协助才能完成工作，这就是工作课题。交朋友不一定是越多越好，朋友关系考虑的是距离和深度，能交到好朋友并不是去改变他人，而是改变自己，这是追求自我改变的心理学，爱的课题就是恋爱的情侣应该不束缚对方，如果对方过得幸福，那就要真诚去祝福，这才是爱，互相束缚的关系，很快就会破裂，当人能够感觉到你这个人在一起可以无拘无束的时候才能够体会到爱。所以一个人活着只有在社会环境之下，成为自立的人，让社会和谐，这是目标。要达到这个目标必须从工作、交友和爱这三大课题去努力。</p>','2025-03-26 15:44:19.288','2025-03-26 15:51:10.096',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:51:10.095',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5460fbd0-296e-4484-ac06-830744937fa5','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','550d0df0-c244-418c-8fd4-915e9faffda1','<p>动机式晤谈的过程有三个关键技巧：</p>
<ol>
<li>提出开放式问句</li>
<li>反应式倾听</li>
<li>确认对方改变的欲望及能力。</li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们的目的不是告诉别人要做什么，而是去协助他们打破过度自信的循环，并且看见新的可能性。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>因为如果我们企图劝说别人，会令他人产生抗拒，降低了改变的可能性。</p>','2025-03-26 15:58:30.837','2025-03-26 15:58:30.837',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:58:30.835',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f688c06-276b-4103-a173-533efcbd7e2d','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>我們會把別人看成是「 敌人」 而不是「 伙伴」 那是逃避人生課題.&nbsp;</p>
<p>相信我們是有勇氣和力量,來选擇自己的人生和 生活方式的.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-26 01:34:34.885','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9d16620b-7af3-4041-b947-7bc7b5e5acd3','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">动机式晤谈</span><span class="s2">的沟通方式，它与传统的劝导或命令式建议不同，更注重 </span><span class="s1">尊重对方的自主权</span><span class="s2">，减少抵触情绪，从而激发内在动机。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">人们有时候并不是真的反对建议，而是抗拒 </span><span class="s1">被支配</span><span class="s2"> 的感觉。因此，动机式晤谈者不会直接告诉对方该怎么做，而是 </span><span class="s1">以开放、尊重的方式引导思考</span><span class="s2">，比如：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">✅ 提供信息，而不是强加建议</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">✅ 询问对方的观点，而不是直接命令</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">✅ 给予自主选择的空间</span></p>','2025-03-26 02:21:35.641','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7861c1eb-3a88-414b-8389-938e62f21f40','d5cf94ae-1bab-4d52-93e5-866ae46ced4e','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>分离课题 是一辈子的课业</p>
<p>由于我自己有身心灵底子，能够快速的课题分离。我个人觉得这本书的分享多数是理论 间中不是大脑认知就可以处理 而需要实际操作</p>','2025-03-29 04:09:50.534','2025-03-29 04:09:50.534',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-29 04:09:50.533',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9ca67c06-aa86-4f14-9ec5-a9f91b7a5666','d1feeff2-17da-4bc8-9ce6-3d6da8a31f0e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>人际关系围绕着我们的生活。无论在社会里做什么事情，都脱离不了人际关系，很重要。</p>
<p>人永远脱离不了人际关系。从朋友，到工作，到亲情，都必须勇敢面对。关系的培养，需要时间的分配。</p>','2025-03-26 15:45:28.619','2025-03-26 15:45:46.536',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:45:46.536',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1677e63b-3a8a-402a-8cec-56319fc2d1d7','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 40&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">26</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">透过对谈引发动机（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 218-221</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: 15.75pt;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">透过对谈引发动机</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">【动机式晤谈】我们很少能激发他人改变，我们比较有机会协助他们找出自己的动机去做改变。目的不是告诉别人要做什么，而是协助他们打破过度自信的&middot;循环，看见新的可能性。我们的角色是拿起一面镜子，让他们能更清楚看见自己，检视自己，重新思考。<br><br></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">关键技巧：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">1<span lang="ZH-CN">）提出开放式问题。</span>2<span lang="ZH-CN">）反应式倾听。</span>3<span lang="ZH-CN">）确认对方改变的欲望及能力</span></span></p>','2025-03-26 15:50:29.692','2025-03-26 15:50:42.792',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:50:42.791',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人生的三大课题：交友课题，工作课题以及爱的课题（</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Page 063-069</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; line-height: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人不可能一个人活着，只有在社会性的环境之下才能成为 &ldquo;个人&rdquo;。阿德勒心理学把作为个人的 &ldquo;自立&rdquo; 和 在社会中的和谐，作为重大目标。这就必须克服&ldquo;工作&rdquo; &ldquo;交友&rdquo;和 &ldquo;爱&rdquo;三大课题。</span></p>','2025-03-26 15:59:16.853','2025-03-26 16:00:09.279',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 16:00:09.277',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ad9e93bf-734d-4025-a41a-6816d1e0e582','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal">Day 40&nbsp;<span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>3<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>26<span lang="ZH-CN">日《逆思维</span>&nbsp;Think Again<span lang="ZH-CN">》</span>Part 2<span lang="ZH-CN">： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">透过对谈引发动机（</span>Page 218-221<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">動機式對談，以好奇和謙虛的態度與對方交談，引發對方的動機去做出改變。</span></p>','2025-03-26 16:01:14.49','2025-03-26 16:01:14.49',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 16:01:14.488',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('28f60f73-90e8-4190-8cd0-159132174542','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>动机式晤谈的技巧</p>
<p>1️⃣提出开放式问句</p>
<p>2️⃣反应式倾听</p>
<p>3️⃣确认对方改变的欲望及能力</p>','2025-03-26 15:59:08.979','2025-03-26 15:59:10.591',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:59:10.59',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('799ebe70-2d3c-419d-9d86-5d58235a3318','887232b3-bb3f-4620-830b-c25eefc5b58c','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 40 ：3月26日《逆思维Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">透过对谈引发动机（Page 218-221）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很少人能激发他能改变。我们比较有机会协助他们找出自己的东西去做改变。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">动机式唔谈是以一种谦遜又好奇的态度展开，目的不是告诉别人要做什么，而是去协助他们打破过度自信的循环，并且看见新的可能性。我们的角色是拿起一面镜子，让他们能更清楚看见自己，然后赋予他们力量去检视自己的心灵及举止，这一来能启动重新思考的循环，人们能在其中以更加科学的态度检视自己的观点。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">动机式唔谈有三个关键技巧：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">。提出开方式问句</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">。反应式倾听</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">。确认对方改变的欲望及能力。</span></p>','2025-03-26 15:46:07.578','2025-03-26 15:46:23.665',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:46:23.664',NULL,NULL);
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<p>作为公司领导无时无刻，都是在谈判， 希望得到最好的效果。</p>','2025-03-26 15:51:11.817','2025-03-26 15:51:11.817',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:51:11.816',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生的三大课题：交友课题，工作课题以及爱的课题（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 063-069</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我有能力，人人都是我的夥伴。兩個信念去面對人生問題。</span></p>','2025-03-26 15:58:37.225','2025-03-26 15:58:37.225',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 15:58:37.224',NULL,NULL);
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<li>朋友或者是敌人，都是自己的念想。</li>
<li>&rdquo;人生谎言&rdquo; - 对于自己目前所处的状态，把责任转嫁给别人，通过归咎于他人或者环境来回避人生课题。&nbsp;</li>
<li>我们要有&rdquo;勇气&rdquo;面对内心的那个自己。&nbsp;</li>
</ol>','2025-03-26 21:39:48.096','2025-03-26 21:39:48.096',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-26 21:39:48.094',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fbd06d1c-77e9-463f-9eb4-f8fdaa9e49d4','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','19aefae2-1527-4b6b-92a2-f0b6e8205b43','<p>人生谎言教我们学会逃避，为何我们要逃避呢？</p>
<p>只因我们<strong>没有勇气面对</strong>现实。</p>
<p><strong>决定生活方式的不是别人</strong>，我们才是那个<strong>自己</strong>选择自己生活方式的主人。</p>
<p><strong>我们有种力量</strong>- 我们可以<strong>用自己的手来选择自己的人生和生活方式</strong>。</p>','2025-03-14 13:01:12.475','2025-03-26 23:26:40.672',NULL,'f','2025-03-26 16:00:00','2025-03-26 23:26:40.671',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d270f40d-ab59-4923-af7b-359886e7333f','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','4cfe29dd-714c-41a2-bc6d-306205099ae9','<p>有時選擇忽視建議，並不因為不贊同，而是不喜歡壓迫感和被控制。</p>','2025-03-25 14:42:16.84','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2208d0f-1c09-4e70-95d4-d39efe6dbdcc','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>當人们忽视建议，那並非总是因为他们不赞同。有时他们是抗拒那种压力感，以及别人在控制他们的决定的那种感受！</p>','2025-03-24 22:53:59.159','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c9acb27-9639-4537-af7b-22a572d10f75','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','810477ff-79c3-424f-8ea1-4dcb74aef362','<p>答案不是解决问题的关键</p>
<p>动机式晤谈是真心渴望协助人们完成目标</p>
<p>一名好的引导者，除了改变他人的信念或行为，还要帮助他们完成目标为止。</p>','2025-03-26 23:05:14.846','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc0efc14-73f6-438d-86f7-10fcb19bad4c','31293fbf-7102-43e5-88b7-31f003238717','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>写作是沟通，释怀，发现，重写。</p>
<p>通过写作发现新思维</p>','2025-03-26 23:13:50.189','2025-04-09 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-04-09 00:00:00.031','2025-04-09 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0496a21e-2fd6-4611-8b23-9eb92905bd58','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>动机式晤谈：</p>
<p>1) 提出开放式问题</p>
<p>2）仔细聆听</p>
<p>3）只做引导他人自我发现。没有企图去说服对方，或提出任何建议。反而是提醒对方他能自由选择，而且相信对方的能力和用意。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>引导，只是让对方站在不同视角看问题。最后的决定，到底想选择那个视角由他自己决定。毕竟，每个人的人生历程很不同，对事情的看法和看法的重量也不同。不是自己认为好，就一味&ldquo;推销&rdquo;。这反而造成对方有压力和反感。</p>','2025-03-26 03:38:38.04','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a2437c2-cd04-48db-b32e-de86ab10fb0e','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>阿德勒把企图设立种种借口来回避人生课题的情况叫作&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;。非常喜欢这章。</p>
<p>我是先&ldquo;讨厌一个人&rdquo;，才会去&ldquo;找出讨厌他的理由&rdquo;，合理化我的讨厌。所以，到底是谁决定了你的生活方式（人生状态）？都是自己。</p>
<p>任何环境，任何人出现在身边都不是对方如何影响自己。而是自己选择了要被对方影响。自己的选择是因为内心的某种渴望、期待。</p>','2025-03-26 03:49:42.399','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
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<p>提问想法，成述总结，好奇为什么这么想</p>','2025-03-26 08:42:51.129','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
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<p>由自己迈出改变的第一步。阿德勒心理学让我知道了，其实很多东西都是由自己掌控的，心情、人际关系、是否改变等，所以开始改变吧。</p>','2025-03-26 09:29:47.331','2025-03-27 00:00:00.008',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
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<p>2.人生谎言-用种种借口来逃避人生课题.没有勇气面对事实.</p>
<p>3.我们有选择权.在我们手中.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 00:07:38.131','2025-03-27 00:07:38.131',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 00:07:38.13',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们人类并不是会受原因论所说的精神创伤所摆弄的脆弱存在。从目的论的角度来讲，我们是用自己的手来选择自己的人生和生活方式。我们有这种力量。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">换句话说，我们并不是被动地受制于环境，而是主动地决定自己的人生方向。</span></p>','2025-03-27 00:49:23.318','2025-03-27 00:49:26.798',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 00:49:26.797',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ae655f3-6e92-4bbb-a2fc-312c87b86918','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','f9075aa7-9a39-4124-900a-29ef14ff4bb5','<p>要帮助他人开启思维,最有效的方式是&ldquo;倾听&rdquo;</p>','2025-03-27 00:57:43.125','2025-03-27 00:57:43.125',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 00:57:43.124',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bc133a8b-75ac-4d53-990d-7354f41d504d','3186690b-3446-4c29-9ca5-f6aba92531cd','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>对我来说 看状况啊 其实更注重的是 在每个阶段都可以🈶平常心</p>','2025-04-05 14:29:46.139','2025-04-05 14:29:46.139',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-05 14:29:46.138',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('33106340-fad8-4c74-bf17-0af05bfbbec1','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>自己的目的变了，可能发现了更好的，从而收集讨厌的缺点</p>
<p>有没有勇气去面对？</p>','2025-03-26 09:01:11.989','2025-03-27 07:44:48.016',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007','2025-03-27 00:00:00.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ef2dc5fa-0cc6-427f-b44c-00552136c8a3','9cda5a09-2ab1-4b1a-b3d7-54e4acc6135f','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>善于聆听不只是少说话而已。那是一套问答的技巧。一开始要对对方的喜好展现更多兴趣，而不只是批判他们的状况或是证明自己。</p>','2025-03-27 04:03:07.501','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('732ff62e-cdbf-4842-b64d-84cc6d69ba50','9cda5a09-2ab1-4b1a-b3d7-54e4acc6135f','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>善于聆听 善于问话 假如你理解那个人的性格 更易。</p>','2025-03-29 04:12:20.073','2025-03-29 04:12:20.073',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-29 04:12:20.072',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f5a4204-b519-4d5f-baac-0b910b8212aa','9e6029d7-a388-4d49-80cd-f65c2539405e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>选择了不自由的方式的大人看着自由生活在当下的年轻人就会评判其享乐主义。这其实是为了自己接受不自由生活而捏造出的一种人生谎言。</p>
<p>自由的代价就是被人讨厌。不畏惧被人讨厌而是勇往直前，不随波逐流勇进，这才是自由。</p>','2025-03-27 02:56:15.726','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
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<p>否认者处于疏离阵营，他们不相信来自另一方的任何事，他们忽视会扭曲事实，以便支持他们已经决定的论点。</p>','2025-03-27 03:09:15.303','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6465d3d-733c-4322-8469-fe31918add5c','a43be52a-edc9-43ee-b88e-58d63c1e7313','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>交友是交平等相处的思维.没有什么高低之分.没有比较,就没有伤害.</p>','2025-04-06 13:08:50.152','2025-04-08 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-04-08 00:00:00.008','2025-04-08 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ea46f98-b15a-4925-8b80-18d2b176b5c5','9d894b2e-4675-4c6a-91e6-eae25010e880','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>现在很流行正念书写，在我的课程也是有很多书写，结果书写真的有很多奇迹。</p>','2025-04-08 13:35:33.214','2025-04-08 13:35:33.214',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-04-08 13:35:33.213',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e60668d-21f6-4cd0-a69e-8b5991f8a6ec','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>把别人看做&ldquo;敌人&rdquo;，我们开始在对方身上找我们看不顺眼、我们讨厌的理由，追根究底，也是因为我们想要达到与对方&ldquo;结束关系&rdquo;的目的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>这种企图设立种种借口来回避人生课题的情况叫做&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;。人生需要勇气，来面对人生课题！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 06:57:33.372','2025-03-27 06:57:33.372',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 06:57:33.371',NULL,NULL);
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<p>阿德勒心理学 是使用的心理学，他把企图设立各种借口逃避人生课题的情况叫做人生谎言</p>
<p>其实我们每个人都有力量，去选择自己的生活，但关键不是善恶或道德，命运问题，而是有没有勇气去改变的问题</p>','2025-03-27 07:09:39.12','2025-03-27 07:09:39.12',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 07:09:39.119',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 07:16:19.199','2025-03-27 07:16:19.199',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 07:16:19.198',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>很认同这点，有时感觉自己也会陷入这种压力感，觉得如果就这样认同了，好像会处下风..</p>
<p>但有时也发现透过提出问题，自己思维也能有所启发，未尝不是一件好事</p>','2025-03-27 07:17:48.88','2025-03-27 07:17:48.88',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 07:17:48.879',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8e1cc772-3e6a-4f31-8030-656788385693','d5cf94ae-1bab-4d52-93e5-866ae46ced4e','6949d955-832d-47f1-870b-95a01be61ff8','<p>不要代替别人做选择，因为承担后果的不是你。</p>
<p>我们既然不活着别人的期待里，别人也没理由活在我们的期待里，我们不能认为我付出这么多的努力，对方没有按照我的方法来做就觉得失败 沮丧 甚至愤怒</p>','2025-03-27 08:24:09.797','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d77a10c6-ff59-487b-820b-7917789e0c2e','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p><strong>讨厌别人即是讨厌自己</strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>以前透过小聪明选择的生活，</p>
<p>现在发现很多的不足和不满，</p>
<p>开始厌恶了，又不好意思面对自己，</p>
<p>开始回避自己，找借口帅锅，</p>
<p>制造美丽的＂人生谎言＂掩饰自己，</p>
<p>当不小心＂偶遇自己＂时，</p>
<p>就毫不留情的输出，发泄一番，</p>
<p>才算对得起犯错的自己。。。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>自己何苦为难自己？</strong></p>','2025-03-27 08:23:22.803','2025-03-27 08:25:04.187',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 08:25:04.186',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d82e27e8-1e00-431d-bf31-f0cd83a705a3','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','94f00fba-a94b-491f-a0ae-9892aaf08d63','<p>动机式晤谈</p>
<p>你的目标不是要当领导者或跟随者，而是引导者。</p>
<p>一名好的引导者不会在帮助人们改变信念或行为之后便撤手不管，我们的工作还没完，直到我们帮助他们完成目标为止</p>
<p>动机式晤谈不适合采取操纵性用法。当人们察觉有人意图影响自己会产生防卫机制，我们的行为便有了不同的意义。</p>
<p>动机式晤谈需要你真心渴望能协助人们完成目标，假如你们的目标似乎不一致，你如何能帮助人们改变他们的想法呢？</p>','2025-03-27 06:17:48.777','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>但是看看现代的高离婚率，再对比以前的低离婚率，好像古代人说的才有道理。</p>','2025-03-27 09:32:36.996','2025-03-27 09:32:36.996',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 09:32:36.995',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6289e32a-0757-426e-b0bb-36479d4b80b5','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;教会我们学会逃避（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 070-074</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">每个人都有力量，去选择自己的生活，但关键不是善恶或道德，命运问题，而是有没有勇气去改变的问题</span></p>','2025-03-27 10:36:46.519','2025-03-27 10:37:21.586',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 10:37:21.585',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40c8b87e-374d-43d5-acaa-ce5297302406','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>没有比谁更好的想法，只是看法不同，但必须尊重别人独立的看法，而不是强加自己的想法给对方，造成反抗的心态。</p>','2025-03-27 12:49:05.967','2025-03-27 12:49:05.967',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 12:49:05.964',NULL,NULL);
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<p>放下别人的课题，烦恼轻轻飞走</p>','2025-03-27 08:24:56.39','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0dfbb9ed-c5a1-42ab-90d4-3f0e870518af','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','d2d67aec-0c53-4fae-9b7f-a3a323865357','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">透过对谈引发动机</span>&nbsp;con&rsquo;t<span lang="ZH-CN">（</span>Page 222-226<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">忽略了聆听，而急着说出自己的观点！</p>','2025-03-27 10:37:43.27','2025-03-27 10:38:16.135',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 10:38:16.134',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8706b4f-e330-465f-a48d-1e23f060806c','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>222-226页 ： 从这几页看到，当我们全然尊重和相信一个人的时候，但我们放手让对方自己去做决定的时候，对方的决定和反应很多时候是我们预想不到的，就如玛利海伦一样，当亚诺完全尊重她的决定时，让她自己去做决定时，玛丽海伦的决定是出乎大家意料的。</p>','2025-03-27 11:14:35.749','2025-03-27 11:14:35.749',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 11:14:35.748',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c2e96ff8-c73d-44cf-bc1e-604b4e561d93','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>很多时候我们的朋友家人们不听我们的建议，是因为他们对我们的建议有压力。（尤其是最亲的家人）. 他们觉得我们在说教，尝试在控制他们做决定。</p>
<p>&ldquo;有效的对谈&rdquo;不是给于命令而是通过提出问问题让他们自我再思考。我们愿意聆听他们的过程让他们接受我们的态度也愿意探讨新的观念。</p>
<p>&ldquo;这里有一些帮助过我ideas<br>可能你会认为其中也可能对你有好处"&nbsp;<br>让他们进入探讨与思考的循环。</p>','2025-03-27 11:16:44.186','2025-03-27 11:16:44.186',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 11:16:44.185',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5dfcd35d-62de-4cb3-a539-1d9809f36a85','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>人生谎言：企图设立种种借口来回避人生课题</p>
<p>- 只要心里想要讨厌那个人，绝对会在那个人身上找一百个理由来说服自己讨厌他</p>','2025-03-27 11:38:12.553','2025-03-27 11:38:12.553',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 11:38:12.548',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de0160d4-7eb0-4491-a48e-d0fa7cf43853','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>很多时候被拒绝，或不被认同，问题不在于谈话的内容，而是在于沟通和传达信息的方式。感觉被聆听和被理解，是开放式沟通，才可以促进主动的好奇心而引导出由内而发的思维改变。</p>','2025-03-27 11:58:29.132','2025-03-27 11:58:29.132',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 11:58:29.131',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3924ca6b-4634-454d-89fa-7e58c8dc1571','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>如果我并没有比谁更好，只是我的看法不同，我就必须尊重别人独立的看法，而不是强加自己的想法给对方，造成反抗的心态。</p>','2025-03-27 12:04:19.532','2025-03-27 12:04:19.532',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 12:04:19.531',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f88a287-2de3-4477-bef2-514389ba4a2a','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>人一般善于自欺欺人，而且是很高超的自欺，自己根本就很难自觉（是一种潜意识的负面本能）。目的很像动机，深深藏在心底里的动机，让我们把问题的根源推到外界。勇气，能够让我们看到让自己&ldquo;逃避&rdquo;的真正的目的/动机。</p>','2025-03-27 12:06:58.181','2025-03-27 12:06:58.181',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 12:06:58.172',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3fbaa9a1-c697-4a9d-a400-0e9394ce761f','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>要開啟他人的思維，最重要的是聆聽。</p>','2025-03-27 12:24:25.902','2025-03-27 12:24:25.902',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 12:24:25.902',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69aa1645-f239-401c-9921-e051ada3c86b','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>尊重有不同的意见.</p>
<p>聆听十同理心</p>','2025-03-27 12:30:14.833','2025-03-27 12:30:14.833',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 12:30:14.833',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('631069e4-22ec-4e13-bb96-5aac4572c5e6','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>人們忽視建議</p>
<p>不是因為他們不贊同</p>
<p>而是抗拒來自建議的壓力感</p>
<p>或者別人在控制他們做決定的那種感受。</p>
<p>動機式晤談會為了保護他人的自由 從來不會給予命令或提出建議，相反是一直『提出問題』，幫助對方自我說服，自我探索，自我發現。</p>','2025-03-27 12:32:03.006','2025-03-27 12:32:03.006',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 12:32:03.005',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9e41247-e08f-400a-bc80-dc89ba0249bc','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','e5b8e15b-13cb-4dc2-940f-cfb308bda145','<p>226-232页 ： 那个执行长的想法很奇怪，我在想，如果换成我是他的顾问，我会怎么回答他？我会用什么样的方式去引导他呢？不容易，很挑战，可是很好玩。我蛮欣赏作者对他发出的提问，那种引导式和动机式的提问，是很高水准，要有很强的洛基思维才能做到的，真了不起！</p>','2025-03-27 11:21:48.141','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c423dee-1015-43f7-8161-41cf5b45ce3b','d5cf94ae-1bab-4d52-93e5-866ae46ced4e','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>能够改变自己的只有自己.</p>
<p>认请这是谁的课题,自己还是他人？</p>
<p>一切人际关系都是因为对别人的课题加干涉.</p>
<p>对外人简单可以不理不睬,但深爱的亲人真的须要修练.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 13:27:58.626','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac2fec18-f979-46bf-a393-e0cae6049a4d','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','be5b7e97-d65c-43f6-ba7f-0ffd13533f1a','<p>我们是因为改变了目的，没有勇气面对事实，所以才会选择利用种种借口逃避人生课题。</p>','2025-03-27 13:02:18.501','2025-03-27 13:02:18.501',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:02:18.499',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccd0558d-5879-4a20-b62c-c53aa0fc1cb0','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>喜欢还是讨厌一个人，都是因为自己心里的那个&ldquo;目的&rdquo;。&nbsp;</p>
<p>自己的人生状态自己负责，于他人无关。</p>','2025-03-27 13:03:13.245','2025-03-27 13:03:13.245',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:03:13.244',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('35c15ebc-6280-42d0-87a3-640bdc0d3c92','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>一点复杂性能瓦解过度自信的循环， 并且激发重新思考的循环。这让我们能更谦逊地看待自己的知识，也更怀疑自己的看法。它能带给我们足够的好奇心去发现我们缺乏的资讯。</p>','2025-03-27 14:12:20.606','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c79a41f3-0c63-4e07-8339-507fd310638c','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>倾听是让对方愿意重新思考的最有效方法</p>','2025-03-27 13:24:50.248','2025-03-27 13:24:50.248',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:24:50.247',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2534a307-86e8-4c29-b5f6-a1b1f29e54eb','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>我们有力量使用自己的手来选择自己的人生和生活方式。你打算要如何过自己的人生呢？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 13:32:42.655','2025-03-27 13:32:42.655',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:32:42.654',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d78720e7-11dc-488a-ad47-bbe9af8cf84d','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>聆听有助于协助其他人重新思考</p>','2025-03-27 13:36:14.613','2025-03-27 13:36:14.613',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:36:14.612',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c57b1127-a436-4de8-b7e4-2561a4be630d','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>外来的建议往往一开始的时候会比较难以接受，难以入耳，因为和自我的优越感起来冲突。</p>
<p>要安下心倾听，确实一个 "伟大"的开始，也是逆思维的开始</p>','2025-03-27 13:41:19.404','2025-03-27 13:41:19.404',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:41:19.403',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fae649e7-6a3b-4010-b8c7-aa33f7ed083a','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>当不爽一个人的时候，总有千千万万种理由可以讨厌。</p>
<p>不喜欢这种感觉，只能不要讨厌人</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 13:43:31.642','2025-03-27 13:43:31.642',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:43:31.641',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ab34777-d686-4ed6-a0bd-bc1c8b231123','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>是的 当我们讨厌别人其实是你看到他的缺点也是看到自己的缺点。</p>
<p>其实勇气在于愿意看见自己的缺点，包容自己时候，就放过他人了。</p>
<p>和大家分享我有个学生，就是看到小孩冷天吃冰淇淋，善意的关心，结果被怼回，其实那就是她自己遇到问题的投射</p>
<p>https://www.facebook.com/share/v/16MqxNeos8/?mibextid=qi2Omg</p>','2025-03-27 13:51:29.023','2025-03-27 13:51:29.023',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 13:51:29.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('67f0bfe0-89a4-42f0-b3e9-f1a9daa5f8b7','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','20d428c2-480c-4843-8f38-f65759afc153','<p>幫助他人重新思考並開啟思維，傾聽是最佳的方式</p>','2025-03-27 14:05:20.978','2025-03-27 14:05:20.978',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:05:20.977',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a61d5d94-a7fd-4109-83e4-f434669b9e0e','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>尊重不同的意见，引导对方思考，让对方自己说服自己</p>','2025-03-27 14:13:52.597','2025-03-27 14:13:52.597',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:13:52.596',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cbcbc000-4b52-4398-91f7-78d9b7e3262d','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>制造矛盾与对立并无法带来重新思考的契机，唯有抱持同理和尊重的开放式互动才可以。</p>','2025-03-27 14:28:06.168','2025-03-27 14:28:06.168',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:28:06.166',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('62c38e39-d64b-461c-a595-f8fa1ffd5c9e','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">回避人生课题的情况叫作&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;对自己目前所处的状态，把责任转嫁给别人，通过归咎于他人或者环境来回避人生课题。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">从目的论的角度来讲，我们是用自己的手来选择自己的人生和生活方式。</span></p>','2025-03-27 14:31:08.145','2025-03-27 14:31:12.033',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:31:12.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('20575f98-0c60-42b1-81ad-e1ad0ce60230','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 13： 3月27日 (星期四)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;教会我们学会逃避（Page 070-074）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学是&ldquo;勇气的心理学&rdquo;与&ldquo;使用的心理学&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">1 &ldquo;勇气心理学&rdquo;：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学强调，人生的关键不是&ldquo;能不能&rdquo;，而是&ldquo;有没有勇气去做&rdquo;。面对自卑、困境、人际关系等问题，解决之道不是寻找外在原因，而是培养直面问题的勇气。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">2. &ldquo;使用的心理学&rdquo;：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">与弗洛伊德的&ldquo;拥有的心理学&rdquo;（强调过去的经历决定现在）不同，阿德勒主张&ldquo;使用的心理学&rdquo;&mdash;&mdash;你不是被动地被赋予什么，而是主动地使用你所拥有的一切去选择你的生活方式。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">阿德勒心理学相信：人拥有改变命运的力量，关键在于是否有勇气面对困难，并用手中已有的资源去选择自己的人生。</span></p>','2025-03-27 14:06:07.953','2025-03-27 14:06:12.165',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:06:12.164',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4b53d48c-10b4-42f0-b001-86359c4ce648','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>允许别人做别人 允许自己做自己 因缘到 就引领 不然就放下</p>','2025-03-27 14:08:58.788','2025-03-27 14:08:58.788',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:08:58.784',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('53184dcc-bf49-495c-889d-99db7952bcc6','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>有动机的提出问题，即是一种引导/帮助他人重新思考的方式，又是一种和平的谈判策略。</p>','2025-03-27 14:17:57.873','2025-03-27 14:17:57.873',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:17:57.872',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45eeaadb-eb64-4956-be38-01a9aafc25f6','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p class="" data-start="0" data-end="117">本质上，人们都抗拒被指责和批评。<strong data-start="16" data-end="68">当我们试图改变别人的想法，或是&ldquo;为对方着想&rdquo;而提出各种论据、道理来试图说服他们时，往往会适得其反</strong>。对方可能不会感激，反而会感到被冒犯、被控制，甚至认为自己在被责怪，进而产生更强烈的防御心理。</p>
<p class="" data-start="119" data-end="234">更有效的方法是<strong data-start="126" data-end="152">帮助对方开启思维，而不是直接告诉他们该怎么想</strong>。<strong data-start="153" data-end="178">引导式提问、耐心倾听、以及让对方感受到尊重</strong>，才能真正促使他们主动去思考，并自愿调整自己的观点。当改变的动力来自内心，而非外在压力时，改变才会变得更自然。</p>','2025-03-27 14:38:03.228','2025-03-27 14:38:03.228',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:38:03.227',NULL,NULL);
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<li>并无需提出建议来说服他人，而是提出问题来引导对方自我发现</li>
<li>例如：我这里有几个点帮助过我，不知道有没有对你有帮助的？&lsquo;</li>
</ul>','2025-03-27 14:43:19.335','2025-03-27 14:43:19.335',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:43:19.334',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">有時他們是抗拒那種壓</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼒</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">感，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">以及別</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在控制他們的決定的那種感受。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">為了保護他們的</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⾃</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">由，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">動機式晤談者不會給予命令或提出建議，</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">而</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">是可能說些什麼，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">再加上像是 ：這裡有幾點曾經幫助過我，你認為其中有任何可能對你有</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽤</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">處嗎</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">︖</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">動機式晤談能進</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">步地引導他</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⼈⾃</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">我發現</span></span></p>','2025-03-27 14:49:52.538','2025-03-27 14:53:06.305',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:53:06.301',NULL,NULL);
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<p>引导对方进入灰色地带，能成就更多成功的对话。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 14:42:30.15','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bc6586dd-0f7d-4b6b-8e12-ca9e023fb5d0','c7d01223-4ad9-4a20-bd17-b65dcee50935','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>相对于否認者, 怀疑者会在得到新的资讯后有所改观。</p>
<p>要懂得如何区别否認者与怀疑者。</p>','2025-03-27 14:52:54.203','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&middot;在讨论解决方案时强调灰色地带，有助于把注意力从气候变迁为何是个问题，转移到我们如何解决这个问题。</p>
<p>&middot;提问&ldquo;如何&rdquo;倾向于减少两极化，把焦点放在关于行动的更具建设性对话。</p>','2025-03-27 14:32:52.591','2025-04-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">透过对谈引发动机 con&rsquo;t（Page 222-226）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何有效引导人改变想法</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 1. 不要直接说服或批评</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 如果你直接挑战对方的信念，他们会马上反弹与抗拒。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 比起反驳，更有效的是「引发对方自己思考」。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 问问题，引导对方自己重新看事情，胜过直接告诉他们错在哪里。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 2. 动机式对话：让人自己发现改变的动力</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 这种方法不是争论，而是合作式探索。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 例如医生或心理师面对不愿意改变行为的病人，会用提问帮助对方自己找到改变的理由，而不是强迫说服。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. 改变的核心：理解对方的立场与价值</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 改变不是靠强压，而是让对方感受到被理解、被尊重。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 问一些有深度的问题，像是：「假如你的孩子也面临一样的选择，你会希望他怎么做？」</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 4. 目的是「唤起内在动机」而非灌输</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;&bull; 每个人都有想成为更好的自己的愿望，我们的工作是帮助他看见那条路。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这种「柔性引导」比起「强力说服」更有力量。想让别人改变，不是靠压，而是靠「懂」，靠「听」，靠「问对的问题」。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">「改变不是因为我说服了你，而是你开始想：我自己也想变得更好。」</span></p>','2025-03-27 14:39:28.402','2025-03-27 14:39:28.402',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:39:28.401',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;教会我们学会逃避（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 070-074</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">不是因为无法容忍一个人的缺点才讨厌他，而是选择了讨厌他，才会挑出毛病缺点出来。。就为自己找借口说是因为他的缺点所以讨厌他。。。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">是自己的目的变了，世界才随时可能变成危险的所在，人们也就有可能把所有他人都看成&ldquo;敌人&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">阿德勒心理学是勇气心理学。是使用心理学不是拥有心理学</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">使用心理学起决定作用的是我们自己。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我们是有力量去选择自己的人生和生活方式。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">人生谎言，欺骗自己</span></p>','2025-03-27 14:50:34.287','2025-03-27 14:50:34.287',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 14:50:34.286',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('61a8d008-2cbe-400b-a81a-0a981e8ec48d','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>人生的谎言，就是当你逃避与别人之间的人际关系，你讨厌一个人无法容忍他的缺点，是因为你先有讨厌他这个目的，之后才找出符合这个目的的缺点。一旦产生这种想法，就会把缺点放大，即使他像圣人君子一样，你也能够找出讨厌的理由。所以说，世界才随时可能变成危险的所在，人们也就有可能把所有的人看成敌人。人生谎言就好像对自己撒谎，也对周围的人撒谎。知道决定你生活方式的不是任何人，而是自己，即使逃避人生课题，依赖人生谎言。最终还是&ldquo;勇气&rdquo;的问题！</p>','2025-03-27 15:02:18.536','2025-03-27 15:02:18.536',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:02:18.535',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b24cb119-f6ae-4a35-9e54-9626e7da5c66','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>想说服他人，就要提出问题让他们重新思考</p>','2025-03-27 15:06:02.758','2025-03-27 15:06:02.758',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:06:02.757',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0fd930ff-8224-44f5-83a2-5d5e48d90415','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 41 ：3月27日《逆思维Think Again》Part 2： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">透过对谈引发动机 con&rsquo;t（Page 222-226）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">【提出问题】能如何帮助自我说服，动机式唔谈更进一步的引导他人自我发现。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当我们尝试说服他人重新思考，我们的第一知觉通常是开始说话。然而要帮助他人开启思维，最有效的方式经常是倾听。</span></p>','2025-03-27 15:02:33.339','2025-03-27 15:02:47.448',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:02:47.443',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69427ece-49b8-44eb-86a8-edc1e7e8c1bf','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo; 教会我们学会逃避，只要讨厌某个人，就能找到各种理由和借口讨厌他</p>','2025-03-27 15:11:42.711','2025-03-27 15:11:42.711',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:11:42.71',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('63bd4286-2ba1-4213-83c2-63063836239d','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>不是别人决定了你的人生，是你自己用&ldquo;借口&rdquo;选择了现在的样子，而真正要面对的问题，不是对错，而是你有没有&ldquo;勇气&rdquo;改变。</p>','2025-03-27 15:12:59.434','2025-03-27 15:12:59.434',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:12:59.433',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c152a2eb-0619-4990-944f-33ee3e702b3d','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p class="" data-start="0" data-end="84">当我们被迫在两种极端立场之间做选择时，反而会更加固守原本的立场。但当选项或视角变得更加复杂，我们接收到的多元信息会促使我们重新思考。</p>
<p class="" data-start="86" data-end="177">多元性不一定让我们改变立场，但它能让我们产生更多问题，而不是单纯站在某一方。这种思考的延展，让我们能从不同的角度重新审视原本的观点，进而打开对话与理解的空间。</p>','2025-03-27 15:12:17.884','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bcd594bf-69d6-4953-a899-79d7125fca1b','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','c35798eb-fc5b-4348-b0d6-22afcadd7cfd','<h4>透过对谈引发动机 ( Page 222-226)</h4>
<p>动机式唔谈的核心在于「倾听与提问」而非直接给于建议或命令。人们常抗拒建议, 并非因不认同而是因感受到压力或控制感。通过「开放式」提问, 引导对方自我探索、自我说服、才能真正促成思维改转变。有效沟通的关键在于「尊重对方的自主权」，让其感受到被理解而非被强迫改变。</p>','2025-03-27 15:14:35.195','2025-03-27 15:14:35.195',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:14:35.194',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1d8cdbc-aa8d-4fc8-b9c3-8fda1dd4bc04','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>阿德勒心理学史勇气心理学也是使用心理学。</p>
<p>我们自带力量去启动内在勇气以做出选择。</p>','2025-03-27 15:17:58.324','2025-03-27 15:17:58.324',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:17:58.323',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('23a9ab1d-3b2d-45c5-8a85-f0ffc085eab8','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>勇气可以战胜很多，选择自己的生活方式，选择自己应该改变的时候，选择人生课题，工作课题，和爱的课题</p>
<p>最近也有生活上的烦恼，需要做选择，无奈的状况！</p>','2025-03-27 15:15:33.441','2025-03-27 15:18:26.488',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:18:26.487',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbdc8ae0-981b-48d0-a8d2-950c1d02ef7b','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>1） 阿德嘞的心理学是&ldquo;勇气的心理学&rdquo;</p>
<p>人生旅途上难免遇上人际关系， 面对困境。</p>
<p>Solution&nbsp; 是培養面对问题的勇气。运用自身的资源勇敢选择自己的人生道路。</p>
<p>2）佛洛伊得提倡拥有的心理学</p>
<p>人人都有过去的经历， 过往重大事件留下的影响决定今天的人生局面。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 15:19:03.718','2025-03-27 15:20:20.664',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:20:20.658',NULL,NULL);
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<li>在恋爱关系中，过了某个时期之后，有时候对方的任何言行都会让你生气。这是因为已经下定决心要找机会结束这种关系，对方其实没有任何改变，只是自己的目的变了而已</li>
<li>世界才随时可能变成危险的所在，人们也就有可能把所有他人都看成敌人。阿德勒把这种企图设立种种借口来回避人生课题的情况叫做人生谎言。为了逃避人生课题的人生谎言</li>
<li>不在于被给予了什么，而在于如何去使用被给予的东西。</li>
<li>阿德勒心理学是勇气心理学，是使用心理学，不是拥有心理学。从目的论角度来讲，我们是用双手来选择自己的人生和生活方式。我们有这种力量</li>
<li>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>','2025-03-27 15:24:41.973','2025-03-27 15:24:41.973',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:24:41.972',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1c87ccc-9404-46a1-b71a-5f7bd2b29520','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>若要帮助他人开启思维，最有效的方式是倾听。</p>
<p>动机式晤谈的有效性在于聆听者对诉说者的尊重，以及给予空间去思考。</p>','2025-03-27 15:27:38.42','2025-03-27 15:27:38.42',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:27:38.411',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a24ca2e5-6f1c-472a-a9dc-f8f01a9b55bc','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>与其硬说服，使用倾听与发问到方式，引领对方重新作出思考。逼迫人家接受你的论点很难，让他们自己发现新答案更简单。</p>','2025-03-27 15:27:56.074','2025-03-27 15:27:56.074',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:27:56.073',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9c450c0-965b-4245-afca-036b47c90558','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','550d0df0-c244-418c-8fd4-915e9faffda1','<p>当我们要尝试说服他人重新思考，我们的第一个直觉通常是开始说话。然而要帮助他人开启思维，最有效的方法经常是倾听。</p>','2025-03-27 15:32:27.225','2025-03-27 15:32:27.225',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:32:27.224',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fdf012fe-02c3-4b13-9bf1-a9960dfadabb','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>*透过对谈找到动机*<br>动机式唔谈可以达成全面的协议的两倍机率。</p>
<p>以不激动，压力感或控制去引用聆听后再反问对方，好让对方会自发思考，反而效果会更加好，如果对方接受了，还可以影响他身边的人共识共行。</p>','2025-03-27 15:33:57.385','2025-03-27 15:33:57.385',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:33:57.384',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('840fa95f-af24-4b8e-9280-f898b96d77ae','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>真正的聆听能打开思维，让我们重新评估自己的观点；而勇于重新思考则让我们在下一次聆听时更加敏锐和开放。</p>','2025-03-27 15:38:12.109','2025-03-27 15:38:12.109',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:38:12.107',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00f769e0-2d20-458c-bd3c-d0303d3e776b','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当我们突然间对一个人的所有行为都有意见，不是因为那个人变了，只是自己的目的变了而已。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">逃避人际关系，利用种种借口来回避人生课题的情况叫做人生谎言。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学不是拥有心理学，而是使用心理学。</span></p>','2025-03-27 15:39:19.282','2025-03-27 15:39:19.282',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:39:19.281',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f36c9be7-340d-4705-aebc-a8cbb1a697d8','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>倾听是最有效的方式去让对方没有抗拒，反而开始接受我们想要引导他重新思考的动机。</p>','2025-03-27 15:41:58.173','2025-03-27 15:41:58.173',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:41:58.172',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8ad5ebf-338d-4d60-a512-8f9d95f3f2db','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>勇气</p>','2025-03-27 15:42:07.022','2025-03-27 15:42:07.022',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:42:07.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('33e39595-e6bd-47f3-ad4e-b33b8fcfc6da','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','552a7ebe-7617-4aca-a7f1-7d5de86ece38','<p>帮助他人开启思维，最有效的方式是倾听。</p>','2025-03-27 15:43:50.38','2025-03-27 15:43:50.38',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:43:50.379',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccf52fbe-1e2e-4038-b2fb-0482668e63e8','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>人在面对挑战或困境时，往往以借口掩饰退缩，以此回避责任，逃避现实。</p>
<p>唯有放下人生的谎言，勇敢直面人生课题，方能真正实现成长与自由。</p>','2025-03-27 15:44:07.754','2025-03-27 15:44:07.754',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:44:07.753',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e18bbd91-d9dd-42a1-8a5f-9de489dc3e79','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>你眼中看到的别人才是你，所以很多时候我们看到的，感觉到的，都是自己的思维投射，就看自己有没有勇气去面对和接受这样的自己，然后做出改变让自己变得更优秀。</p>
<p>只是一味的把责任推给别人，环境，时机，过去都是一种逃避心态。</p>','2025-03-27 15:49:41.29','2025-03-27 15:49:41.29',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:49:41.289',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5e1f431-e1e3-4e0f-bfc8-a412cd1695c9','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>多倾听， 帮助他人思考。</p>','2025-03-27 15:50:37.556','2025-03-27 15:50:51.703',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:50:51.702',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3572e29c-05d5-452f-bf72-64ca51cf1fcd','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;无论我是否选择接种疫苗，他都认为我是为了孩子好，尊重我的决定，&rdquo;这句话对一位妈妈来说，胜过千言万语。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">动机唔谈用于协助人们戒除抽烟、滥用药物及酒精、赌博、进行不安全性行为、协助改善饮食及运动习惯、克服饮食失调，减重，甚至是朋友问她是否应该复合。</span></p>','2025-03-27 15:52:31.823','2025-03-27 15:52:31.823',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:52:31.822',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dca233b9-7d5a-471d-9bc8-572efcdc8ea5','19dbbea3-b77c-49c3-8af7-22b92da7e441','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 41&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">27</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">透过对谈引发动机</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;con<span lang="ZH-CN">&rsquo;</span>t</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 222-226</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">关键的转捩点是亚诺让海伦无论认为无论是否选择接种疫苗，都是为了孩子好，尊重她的决定。胜过前言万语。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''__Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9'',serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: __Poppins_Fallback_1fa6f9; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人们忽视建议，并非总是因为不赞同，有时是抗拒那种压力感，控制他们决定的那种感受。动机式晤谈者不会给予命令或提出建议，而是引导他人自我发现，重新思考。</span></p>','2025-03-27 15:53:34.065','2025-03-27 15:53:34.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 15:53:34.062',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9dad0d1-d1e2-4636-8c1d-4922905cd3d0','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','6949d955-832d-47f1-870b-95a01be61ff8','<p>生活中没有那么多观众 不需要得到别人的认可</p>
<p>你怎么讨厌我是你的问题，我不会因为你对我的这种看法而产生对你讨厌的感觉。因为我怎么看你是我的事，不会受此影响。</p>','2025-03-27 08:21:18.331','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f902360-aae6-4d7a-b51f-5f907bceebc0','c7d01223-4ad9-4a20-bd17-b65dcee50935','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p>有时候，我们之所以拒绝重新思考另一种可能，因为<strong data-start="39" data-end="68">重新思考可能意味着要放弃或改变我们目前所享有的东西</strong>。</p>','2025-03-27 15:57:46.465','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08f74d4d-c063-433c-9fd2-631576f811ed','fd1e2974-57a4-4b6f-8adc-a741c9b57cb0','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Day 13</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span></strong><strong><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">27</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">星期四</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;教会我们学会逃避（</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Page 070-074</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">下定决心找机会&ldquo;结束这种关系&rdquo;，只是自己的 &ldquo;目的&rdquo;变了而已。不用善恶来区分人生课题或者人生谎言。</span></p>','2025-03-27 15:58:50.254','2025-03-27 16:00:46.526',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 16:00:46.521',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">《被讨厌的勇气》第二夜 一切烦恼都来自人际关系</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">&ldquo;人生谎言&rdquo;教会我们学会逃避（</span><span lang="EN-GB">Page 070-074</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">&nbsp;所謂人生謊言：因為要討厭那個人的目的，而找出各種藉口。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">读后感悟：</span></p>','2025-03-27 16:05:21.028','2025-03-27 16:05:21.028',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 16:05:21.027',NULL,NULL);
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<p>也很喜欢这一句 &rdquo; 尚若自己都不为自己活出自己的人生，那还有谁会为自己而活呢？ 我们千万别活在别人的人生中。 我到了45岁才理解这个道理。 现在只想为自己活一次，做自己想做的事。&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 09:01:04.516','2025-03-27 21:47:54.267',NULL,'f','2025-03-27 16:00:00','2025-03-27 21:47:54.266',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5ac1a929-12e8-4f9d-9b0c-b29a574ac43d','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>当动机式晤谈被感觉是为了说服的时候，对方将会防御起来，不能被引导至开放式思维并产生对的动机。必须在出自真心帮助的前提下，才会有好的结果。</p>','2025-03-27 23:14:53.75','2025-03-27 23:14:53.75',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 23:14:53.749',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f7a8a088-04af-4e3e-a7ab-152e6ced54a2','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>做事要随心，才得自在。幸福感来自内心，活出自我。不要活在别人的眼里、更不需要被认可。为自己找出生命的使命，活出想要的人生。</p>','2025-03-27 23:25:39.834','2025-03-27 23:25:42.125',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-27 23:25:42.124',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b90678bf-dc5e-49b3-b420-599654433b84','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>从引导和帮助他人重新思考开始，我们就必须以始为终，直到确定对方可以执行，直到他达至目标。</p>','2025-03-27 14:54:14.623','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c40bb9e-582b-434b-b1fc-d0ee6406fb39','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','2288a070-e8f1-44bc-8102-0872d41537ee','<p>在［动机式唔谈中］，维持谈话和改变谈话有区别。维持谈话是对现况做出评论；改变谈话则是提及某种欲望，能力，需求或承诺做出调整。</p>
<p>在思考做出改变时，许多人感到矛盾，可能有某些理由要考虑这么做，也有部分保持现状。</p>
<p>［动机式唔谈］最重要的一个步骤是帮助他人思考如何有效的执行改变。第四个技巧就是总结。</p>','2025-03-14 13:37:49.227','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4dc3477-6690-4002-9e27-8dd968ea11b7','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;自由是不寻求他人认可&rdquo;</p>
<p>自由，就是不要寻求他人的认可？做的每一件事情都是满足别人的要求，那么活着还有什么意义？人生能够自由吗？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;活在别人期待中&rdquo;</p>
<p>我们时常活在别人期待中，变成只是满足他人的目的地而不是自己正真想要的。这样的人生那里有自由可言？别人也不是为了满足我的期待而活。最重要的是活出自己的人生。</p>','2025-03-20 22:14:26.185','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40d704a5-11ab-444b-8baf-6e8a5f0798ae','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>很多领导者无法接受幕僚无提问下直接给予他们的答案或告诉我怎么做，然而动机式晤谈则有一线可能。</p>
<p>维持谈话：对现况做出评论</p>
<p>改变谈话：提起某种欲望、能力、需求或承诺以做出调整</p>
<p>在思考做出改变时。人心中会出现在维持现状与做出改变的想法中做出挣扎。</p>
<p>建议：询问及倾听提起改变的话，提出为何要改变及可能如何改变的问题。</p>
<p>重要步骤：帮助他人思考如何有效地执行改变</p>
<p>定位 ：引导者、帮助改变信念与行为、帮助他人到完成目标为止</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-22 05:01:08.258','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34712cdf-fa9e-404d-ac0d-b86acd21e0dc','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>动机式晤谈需要真心想要协助对方完成目标。</p>','2025-03-26 14:36:35.874','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6fbb0ad9-7950-42bd-93d8-92579ed7223d','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;不要為了滿足別人的期待而活，自己不活出自己的人生, 还有誰會為你而活呢？也要認可別人不一定要滿足符合我們期待，适时放下执着的心態，这才能获得内心真正的自由。</p>','2025-03-27 01:39:22.607','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27ed06f8-e704-4ec4-b2a7-bc4f247c3ea6','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>一名好的引导者不会在帮助人们改变信念或行为之后被撒手不管，而是帮助他们完成目标为止。</p>
<p><strong>维持谈话和改变谈话区别：</strong></p>
<p>维持谈话&rarr;对现况做出评论</p>
<p>改变谈话&rarr;提及某种欲望、能力、需求或承诺以做出调整</p>','2025-03-27 03:40:41.634','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c045730b-d50e-415d-b039-ab35ceff5146','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>对！往往会想证明给讨厌或不爽的人看，我做的比你更好</p>
<p>因为想要证明他们的观点是错的，</p>
<p>希望得到别人的认可，证明自己是有用的</p>
<p>但是没有这样的目标的话，就会变得开始不知道自己要做什么</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不要因为讨厌一个人而去找出讨厌的理由</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-27 07:54:57.44','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('163e6bb6-0a23-486b-b3e5-b65cf7946a0e','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>动机式唔谈中是如何改变谈话？</p>
<p><br>1）向对方提出的问题是围绕在某种欲望、能力、需求或承诺以做出调整。这是找出动机的藏身之处。<br>2）询问并留意倾听提及改变的话。<br>3）提出关于对方为何及可能如何改变的问题。并引导对方找到自己2动机。<br>4）帮助他思考如何有效地执行改变。<br>5）总结：确认对转变的动机的理解，询问对方的计划，接下来的完成计划的步骤。 <br><br>不要试图说服、影响。这让对方认为自己有意操纵，引发防卫机制。<!--/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_250327_205515_159.sdocx--></p>','2025-03-27 12:55:34.157','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('41e1334f-8ff3-4f56-886e-d8d069ef7107','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>我的人生我做主.不要活在别人的期待中,嘴中.</p>
<p>敢敢活出自己🙂</p>','2025-03-27 13:12:10.624','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f86dcf2-e5ef-45a6-8b7d-b44b47ee7f23','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','fd00afa6-39f6-4b3c-95b4-4d413e535fb9','<p>确实生活中很多时候希望得到他人的认可，尤其是在工作上，无论是上司同事或客户的认可会让自己更有动力处理事情解决问题，更感觉自己存在的价值。但同样的正是因为这种寻求他人认可的想法让自己陷入了只要没有人认可甚至有人批评时就会感觉愤怒沮丧甚至会开始怀疑自己。寻求他人认可即是为了满足别人的期望而活，那为什么我要为了别人而活? 倘若我自己都不为自己的人生而活，那谁会为了我的人生而活。</p>','2025-03-27 13:41:38.437','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48b65215-b2e8-4f01-854a-0bbe62127afa','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','a291b5f4-8aff-491d-baa7-7cbeea07b3ed','<p data-pm-slice="0 0 []">动机式晤谈，就像雇佣一个导游&mdash;&mdash;我们不希望导游随意支配我们的行程，但也不希望她只是被动地跟着我们走。理想的导游应该提供适时的引导，让我们自己发现值得探索的地方，而不是直接告诉我们该做什么。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>在沟通中，我们不需要直接给对方答案，也不需要告诉他们&ldquo;应该&rdquo;怎么做，而是扮演一个引导者的角色，帮助他们看清自己内心真正的想法，以及那些可能促使他们改变的因素。例如，作者会先询问对方欣赏哪些领导者，然后再通过这个问题，引导他们去假设：如果他们是那位领导者，他们会怎么做？ 通过这样的方式，对方可以在没有压力的情况下，自主地重新思考自己的信念和行为，从而产生真正的改变。</p>','2025-03-27 14:45:47.361','2025-03-28 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7287a7f4-88a4-4ff4-85b2-c806a794405e','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','3c44f813-90cf-4c87-ab87-553efe18c88a','<p>做一个引导者.改变只能从自己个人开始.有效的提问可以让人思考自己的问题而给适合自己的答案,然后行动.</p>','2025-03-28 00:12:21.182','2025-03-28 00:12:21.182',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 00:12:21.181',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb9b32ad-8f7d-4555-87d6-56c79f5ccd3d','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p>动机式晤谈的一个重要优点是，它促进双向的开放思维。聆听不仅能鼓励他人重新审视他们对我们的态度，还能为我们提供信息，引导我们反思自己对他们的看法。</p>','2025-03-28 02:24:26.236','2025-03-28 02:24:29.608',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 02:24:29.607',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3e1f6783-cf48-4b95-8f16-d5d25b0ab21f','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>你不觉得我们都很矛盾？一方面我们自己要活出自我、活出自由，要不在乎别人的眼光和认可，因为活在别人的眼光下实在太累了。但是另外一方面又强迫孩子认同我们的什么&ldquo;努力念书、出人头地&rdquo;的那套理想，还美其名是为他们好。难道他们不会觉得我们管他们管得太累吗？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果要认真追随阿德勒心理学，那就至少必须表里如一，无论是对人还是对己，是吧？</p>','2025-03-28 09:08:58.019','2025-03-28 09:08:58.019',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 09:08:58.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cfd52da0-935b-48af-b919-5b0665548d88','6e2ed9de-04a4-402c-84f2-bae9e6707ff7','779b8d93-761e-42a0-8054-51bbe75f4e55','<p>帶來影響力的行動</p>
<p>我所相信的是一種過程而非定局</p>
<p>欣賞從新思考的成品比過程更有趣</p>
<p>在閱讀小說時，一般上最喜歡的部分都是結局， 结局的轉折不只是故事的高潮，他改變了整個故事， 讓我們 重新思考 先前讀過的一切。</p>','2025-03-28 00:13:57.53','2025-04-21 00:00:00.035',NULL,'f','2025-04-21 00:00:00.034','2025-04-21 00:00:00.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8efd4d87-e075-43ec-823c-17e93ce8e9ef','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>沟通是双向的交流，像两条平行的金线，有往有来。假如拉得太紧线会断，假如太松会短路（粘在一起）。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>动机式晤谈的优点是，它在双向都能产生更多开放思维。聆听不仅能鼓励他人重新考虑他们对我们的态度，同时也给予我们资讯，引导我们去质疑我们对他们的观点。</p>','2025-03-28 08:27:51.427','2025-03-28 08:28:24.477',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 08:28:24.476',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('015ee1ad-f25e-4328-a3bc-9d13de825560','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>生活中，我也会活在他人的期待中，也会满足别人的期待中。</p>
<p>曾经在学辅导课时，老师说期待回归自己。</p>
<p>活在别人的人生中，的确是很痛苦的。</p>
<p>这些道理我都懂，这也是最近要修的功课。</p>','2025-03-28 08:54:08.649','2025-03-28 08:54:32.271',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 08:54:32.27',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('29257ec5-686a-45a4-870c-b4d1950b7f03','77e85cd1-aebf-4ab6-988c-0a9493689ce5','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>人际关系卡总是掌握在自己手中。</p>
<p>改变自己不是为了别人，而是为自己。</p>
<p>把改变自己当成操纵他人的手段是错误的想法。</p>','2025-03-28 02:21:17.032','2025-04-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d283ae5d-6523-4f8d-8c94-b34c5f60cb61','77e85cd1-aebf-4ab6-988c-0a9493689ce5','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>在还没和别人的关系搞好之前，先把自己和自己的关系弄清楚再说。</p>
<p>人际关系之卡比是自己掌握的，不托付于他人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 09:22:02.779','2025-04-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59e61791-c72f-4bf7-ac7a-78df30e61ae1','f1cdb268-af56-4262-bbd8-09280f331548','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>想要绨结良好的人际关系，需要保持一定距离，太过亲密就无法正面对话。</p>
<p>课题分离也不是为了疏远他人，而是为了解开错综复杂的人际关系之线。</p>
<p>把他人看着伙伴并能够从中感到自己有位置的状态，就叫共同体感觉。</p>','2025-03-28 02:28:45.223','2025-04-02 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-04-02 00:00:00.031','2025-04-02 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('322ad55f-ed0c-4e6b-8367-c8b20150f239','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">阿德勒心理学否定寻求他人认可。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">假如我是一位清洁工人，我是否得不到别人的认可就不做这份工作了？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">假如我是一个虔诚的宗教教徒，是否没有神我就可以无作非为？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这两个例子非常好</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果工作的主要目标成了&rdquo;满足别人的期待&rdquo;，那工作就会变得相当痛苦。因为那样就会一味在意别人的视线、害怕别人的批评，根本无法做真正的自己。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读到这个我感同身受，因为我有一段时间就是这样。无时无刻都是紧绷状态，深怕满足不到老板要求、受到谴责或得不到老板赞赏等。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">除了工作以外，大部分人最纠结的应该就是和家人的关系。就像书里所说父母是多么亲近的存在，往往父母对我们有很多期待，想要我们跟着他们的意思去活着。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果一味寻求别人的认可、在意别人的评价，那最终就会活在别人的人生中。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">那到底我们怎么不为了满足最亲近的人的期待而活着，并拥有自己的自由呢？</span></p>','2025-03-28 02:26:06.1','2025-03-28 02:32:57.191',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 02:32:57.19',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('047655ae-05ee-4cb2-b5e2-2f3e2625e701','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变谈话是一条金线</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你要做的是挑出那根线，然后拉它</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">动机式晤谈的部分优点是，它在两个方向都产生更多开放思维。聆听能鼓励他人重新考虑他们对我们的态度，但是也给予我们资讯，引导我们去质疑我们对他们的观点。</span></p>','2025-03-28 03:21:17.096','2025-03-28 03:21:17.096',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 03:21:17.094',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96220442-3aa5-424b-ad45-65cf34d7478c','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','a1b3cb7c-f3c4-4ffb-82dc-fe72e7a3628c','<p>阿德勒心理学否定寻求他人的认可。根本没必要被别人认可也不要去寻求认可。一个有认可欲求的人在得不到别人认可时会就及刻愤怒，因为这些人一直活在别人的期待中，心生烦恼更本就无法得到幸福。其实我们并不是为了满足别人的期待而活着，也没必要去满足别人的期待。</p>
<p>过于希望得到认可就会按照别人的期待去生活。也就是失去自我，活在别人的人生之中。非常赞同他人也不是为了满足你的期待而活。当别人的行为不符合自己的想法时也不可以发怒。</p>
<p>总之即使别人不认可自己，也要继续对自己有信心，只要自己对得起良心，自己没有做出违反社会道德的事情。</p>','2025-03-28 04:21:10.96','2025-03-28 04:21:10.96',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 04:21:10.958',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&ldquo;价值&rdquo;<br>人只有感觉自己有价值的时候才可以活动勇气。价值就是自己对共同体有用，会产生我对他人做出贡献。</p>','2025-03-28 05:55:24.689','2025-04-06 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2025-04-06 00:00:00.015','2025-04-06 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4be0a90e-aa28-41d6-9f32-3660c872fdc4','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','fb681b37-b86f-49b7-8f27-422ffefb81b6','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们&ldquo;并不是为了满足别人的期待而活着&rdquo;。我们没必要去满足别人的期待。假如你不为自己而活的话，那谁会为你而活呢？如果一味寻求别人的认可、在意别人的评价，那最终就会活在别人的人生中。</span></p>','2025-03-28 07:05:22.393','2025-03-28 07:06:11.45',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 07:06:11.441',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6bfa0965-85fa-4fbc-aaf7-ad7aa18ba956','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','b1d2b7e9-339b-46d2-9f25-30c45ecce2d1','<p>人们一旦感觉我们想方设法的要说服他们，听起来变得就像传教士。把谈话想象成一条金线。我们要像引导者一样，把它拉出来。引导，而不是说服。</p>','2025-03-28 07:53:43.433','2025-03-28 07:53:43.433',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 07:53:43.432',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('12a4c307-b43f-4e50-ab93-4b084876361d','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','818bb03e-4271-4e7a-a918-07cdd48a8614','<p>生命是自己的，人生也是自己的，勇敢地活出自我，对自己负责</p>','2025-03-28 08:28:29.094','2025-03-28 08:28:29.094',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 08:28:29.093',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c419497f-b705-4d2c-ba9e-39f34c6badd0','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>Stop trying to make everyone happy, we are not coffee!</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 08:36:52.181','2025-03-28 08:36:52.181',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 08:36:52.18',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f2aea82d-5756-429e-a99d-922b397f94a2','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>不采用操纵性的用法来改变对方的行为，应该引导对方找到方向。</p>','2025-03-28 13:41:06.593','2025-03-28 13:41:06.593',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 13:41:06.592',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('391f85a0-d561-4704-aa91-20cd5566ba58','d83c2de1-94e0-4bc7-9839-333b22d5bb75','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>在讨论解决方案时强调灰色地带，有助于把注意力从问题为何会发生，到如何解决问题</p>','2025-03-28 02:38:50.302','2025-04-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d7168fe-42f8-4f98-9cf9-64e2d7b87ce4','9d0841c7-4580-4784-abe8-93cac1cce546','20caa7ca-4cb3-4e84-a755-44a555dc23ee','<p>想要传达复杂性需要「纳入警告」。单一研究很少是无可置疑，一般都会限制性，但往往一般人会忽视或掩盖这些警告。</p>
<p>多样化是好事，但行之不易。多样化也就意味多意见，要达成共识就有较高的门槛需要跨越。</p>
<p>复杂性的了解提醒我们，没有任何行为总是有效，以及所有解决方法都存在非预期的结果。</p>
<p>在不知道结论之前，都要基于采用的态度来接受研究结果。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 04:46:20.639','2025-04-02 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-04-02 00:00:00.031','2025-04-02 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('35be219e-7efd-4a17-ad5d-84dda9e17541','58299c7d-e006-42f8-92b6-ca26287aa7ee','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>只要存在，就有价值。<br>不用行为标准而是用存在标准去看待他人。哲人提倡的是共同体感觉，横向关系，对存在本身的感谢。这一切都必须由自己开始做起。</p>','2025-03-28 06:06:16.051','2025-04-07 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2025-04-07 00:00:00.006','2025-04-07 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36cebe93-9e00-4bdf-aac8-8784196b9d52','e79eaf4e-8d8c-4482-91e6-6e6cb527429c','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>看懂了这是谁的课题后，把界限划清楚。</p>
<p>不去于涉别人的课题，也不让别人干涉自己的课题。</p>
<p>小孩要学的东西，给予他机会和支持。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 09:08:43.253','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cfde340c-fc70-4fa4-b9b0-8f57d83f1b94','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>不需要活在别人的人生中，不需要去寻求别人的认可。</p>','2025-03-28 13:28:31.793','2025-03-28 13:28:31.793',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 13:28:31.792',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52bf6fbb-46db-482a-b78a-ca83489b5fc2','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>動機式會晤需要真心渴望能幫助對方完成目標</p>','2025-03-28 10:50:51.672','2025-03-28 10:51:00.249',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 10:51:00.245',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('667d8e6a-78c9-4309-988e-5dd2087ac7f6','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','b1fd151a-163e-4018-9613-8ecae9bcfe8a','<p>在动机式晤谈中：<br>改变谈话最重要的是提及他们的某种欲望，能力，需求和承诺以做出调整<br>「我无权告诉你该如何领导,<br>领导力对你来说代表着什么？」<br>「我无权告诉你该如何去做, 你心里觉得如何解决问题的策略/方向是什么呢？」</p>
<p>我们只要做引导者。（问问题）而不是评论/说教和给答案。</p>
<p>「改变谈话是一条金线。我们要做的是挑出那条线，然后拉他！」</p>
<p>动机事晤谈需要我们（真心渴望）能協助与我们对谈的人完成目标.</p>
<p>以真心的态度问问题。<br>以同理心咛听做个引导者。<br>引导他们去思考，开始怀疑自己的信念与观点。<br>让他们以科学家的开放态度，尝试新观点。<br>逐步引导他们达到目标。</p>','2025-03-28 10:07:29.271','2025-03-28 10:07:29.271',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 10:07:29.269',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d50826c-1bc9-4550-a8e3-06b62d99e824','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','1ad5f0fe-0319-4292-87ef-8b03e2f8a147','<p>就像是我们伟事达的导师，也只是问问题，做引导。但是还有更重要的，是follow up。如果没有follow up，那么就只是一个激励人心的交谈罢了。</p>','2025-03-28 10:32:42.958','2025-03-28 10:32:42.958',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 10:32:42.957',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c259a464-2956-4ef6-b55a-04ffe37b6611','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>尋求別人的認可，會讓自己的剪頭悲傷非常沉重的包袱。自己的快樂，也就拒絕別人身上。自然而然就沒了自由。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 11:22:08.923','2025-03-28 11:22:08.923',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 11:22:08.92',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c77f2686-fc57-4887-9530-035625dc581b','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>听取两边的反映可以更好的判断</p>','2025-03-28 10:16:53.654','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5590136-479b-4ff6-8f3d-b194c9ab6ef4','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>聆聽，從回答的檔案裡，去延伸下一個問題，這樣自然然就可以讓對方感到你有在乎他的存在。</p>','2025-03-28 11:27:35.688','2025-03-28 11:27:35.688',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 11:27:35.688',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15e52183-3c0f-4458-82a6-0cb3c837b2c8','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','8bd73483-b8f0-4199-b0a3-96b8e026c0ab','<p>如果为自己而活，寻求身心的自由，就无需对其他人有太多的期望。</p>','2025-03-28 12:08:54.51','2025-03-28 12:08:54.51',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 12:08:54.509',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9290a371-3d85-4c3d-88cc-cce2d45c2cfd','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">改變談話是一條金線。</span></p>
<p>要做的就是挑出那根線 然後拉它。</p>
<p>改變談話能提起慾望、能力、需求或承諾並做出調整。過程中會出現兩極矛盾，考慮要改變或是保持現狀的理由。</p>
<p>當聆聽到那根金線後，提出他們為何以及可能如何有效改變的問題。</p>','2025-03-28 12:47:36.839','2025-03-28 12:47:36.839',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 12:47:36.838',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9628e1f5-bcf8-42e7-b07f-98113cc07fcf','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>28/3/2025（星期五）<br>你会改变我的想法吗？<br>做为一位导师，企业领导，家长，政治家，必须要懂得引导他人，激励他人，从旁跟进，直到对方肯定他们的能力改变，还可以影响身边的人，看到转变点的结尾。这样才是动机唔谈真心渴望协助人们完成目标。</p>','2025-03-28 13:09:03.307','2025-03-28 13:09:03.307',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 13:09:03.306',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bfa29609-2328-4807-a6e0-928925f15033','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','3b67c9ce-62eb-4cd1-90ba-c5feee36a59d','<div class="flex flex-row justify-between gap-2">
<div class="flex flex-row gap-2 mb-2">
<div class="text-gray-400 flex items-center text-xs">&nbsp;</div>
</div>
</div>
<div class="text-xs sm:text-sm ml-[38px]">
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">改变谈话是一条金线</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你要做的是挑出那根线，然后拉它</span></p>
</div>','2025-03-28 13:39:52.064','2025-03-28 13:39:52.064',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 13:39:52.063',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2dbe4a6-1b95-4807-aebc-7ad197ce4584','e79eaf4e-8d8c-4482-91e6-6e6cb527429c','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>只专注自己的课题，别去有情绪在别人的地方</p>
<p>那会算是活在自己的世界里面？</p>','2025-03-28 13:08:07.102','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c0999ea-fabe-44e5-a2f2-df92a1f1f213','9e6029d7-a388-4d49-80cd-f65c2539405e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>当应用分离课题，那怕别人不喜欢你，那也不是你的课题。</p>
<p>自由后面的代价，不害怕别人讨厌，不求他人认可，也不在意别人的评价。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 09:16:52.142','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a867c530-9bd8-4880-bd29-953634a70cae','c7d01223-4ad9-4a20-bd17-b65dcee50935','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>会因为不想面对这个真相，把自己的观点合理化？</p>','2025-03-28 10:30:42.23','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d45154bf-751b-44b4-ac51-e2f6bd88d31e','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>动机式晤谈的并不是聆听者以高姿态去影响别人的谈话，而是双向的一个过程。在聆听者鼓励他人重新思考的同时，自己也在接受资讯，引领我们去质疑自己对他人的观点，也重新思考自己的观点。</p>','2025-03-28 14:05:08.492','2025-03-28 14:05:08.492',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:05:08.485',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('53e3e5e6-ab4d-4b36-b022-af55ea74744d','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>为自己的人生做主，做的每一件事都该为自己，而不是为了别人的认可而做。</p>','2025-03-28 14:07:12.277','2025-03-28 14:07:12.277',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:07:12.276',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1003945a-00b2-400f-aea4-2f5d6a0742f9','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>引导他人思考不是命令、操纵对方思想，或希望对方依自己期判的做，而是给对方更开放，更理性的自我判断、重新思考的引导。</p>','2025-03-28 14:13:43.352','2025-03-28 14:13:43.352',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:13:43.351',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7ed031ba-d48d-444f-b86c-1797e92ef196','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>在讨论中，不要试图直接驳倒对方，而是用好奇的态度提问：&ldquo;是什么让你相信这个观点？&rdquo; 通过对方的回答，找到他们的思维盲点，并引导他们自己发现可能的矛盾。</p>','2025-03-28 14:19:41.661','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af0726d2-c3d7-4602-b522-7970eadd94b2','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>说服他人改变观点的关键不是强行灌输，而是用开放式提问、共情倾听和引导反思的方式，让对方自己发现观点中的漏洞，从而更愿意调整自己的看法。</p>','2025-03-28 14:16:53.77','2025-03-28 14:17:04.017',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:17:04.016',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7ae811a5-1797-4c33-94d7-7cbdba7742f9','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','3c5db308-b524-4f82-b48e-97a063119142','<p>人们很常抱着期待被认可的心态去做某项事情（有目的性地），在没有收获预期的认可反应，我们是否就不会在继续做我们原本在做的事情？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人们很常说：只有得到别人的认可，我们才能够体会到&ldquo;自己有价值&rdquo;。通过别人的认可，我们可以消除自卑感，增加自己的信心。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>为了得到别人的认可，我们就会按照别人的期待去生活，舍弃真正的自我，活在别人之中。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们不是为了满足他人期待而活，他人也一样不是为了满足我们的期待而活。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 14:17:50.621','2025-03-28 14:17:50.621',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:17:50.62',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01f2c282-832f-47bd-ad4a-c0b893cc560d','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','95959ea7-8fcc-4004-8564-5a6ec84f4fee','<p>虽然觉得别人的认可可以是一种推动力，但不要为别人的认可期待而活。自己才是priority.&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 14:21:17.382','2025-03-28 14:21:17.382',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:21:17.381',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a528b37-80fd-40ec-bd61-5fe9c9fea5c9','e79eaf4e-8d8c-4482-91e6-6e6cb527429c','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>自己的功课己经够多了，何必再花时间搅和别人的课题</p>','2025-03-28 14:25:17.427','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11cb7217-2ceb-49a6-9b15-8bb03eea77b2','c7d01223-4ad9-4a20-bd17-b65dcee50935','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>影响他人时，可以先找到彼此的共同点，比如共享的价值观或愿景，这样对方更容易接受新的思维方式，而不会觉得自己在&ldquo;输掉&rdquo;一场辩论。</p>','2025-03-28 14:20:16.177','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77da938e-c707-4399-9681-320f7130052c','77e85cd1-aebf-4ab6-988c-0a9493689ce5','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>人际关系&ldquo;王牌&rdquo;，握在你自己手里</p>','2025-03-28 14:30:17.419','2025-04-01 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013','2025-04-01 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b669d79f-3534-492a-b919-d37249178e65','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','8c41d3c3-8cab-4621-868b-700631a7ecc1','<p>当人们觉察到有人意图影响或说服他们时，就会有防卫机制，所以我们要在做动机式晤谈的时候要做的不是说服 而是引导，做一个引导者</p>','2025-03-28 14:21:22.107','2025-03-28 14:21:22.107',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:21:22.098',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2aeb34a7-7e6b-4b4e-82ea-4f39c19ec7da','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>引导是协助对方找到&ldquo;为什么&rdquo;的动机，方法是询问及留神倾听及改变的话，提出一些关于他们为何，可能如何改变的问题。</p>
<p>在引导当中，我们倾向把对方引导到我们偏好的方向。这种操纵性的做法会的防卫机制展现出来。</p>','2025-03-27 15:00:57.454','2025-03-28 14:21:47.909',NULL,'f','2025-03-28 00:00:00.008','2025-03-28 14:21:47.904',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04e185a6-2df9-4b03-b2dc-a9b19dfa29aa','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>当我们不再期待他人的认可时，也无须在意他人眼光，我们可以更勇敢做自己</p>','2025-03-28 14:22:38.056','2025-03-28 14:22:38.056',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:22:38.055',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ae5e416-a28f-4efc-af54-31c1f2837e73','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>我个人觉得那个 你会改变我的想法吗？ 这个图可以作为我们的参考，非常有帮助。</p>
<p>每个人都没有想要被说服的，而是我们可以提供怎么样的讯息让他人可以一起协商。</p>','2025-03-28 14:28:49.254','2025-03-28 14:28:49.254',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:28:49.253',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5b0f17a6-0b9b-41cf-9523-a5843a8e1a6a','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>开放式的问题引导对方思考</p>','2025-03-28 14:29:43.52','2025-03-28 14:29:43.52',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:29:43.519',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3debb995-6d37-41c4-9115-4a457f7a81e9','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','5e3f10f7-6730-45c8-bdb1-ff31e3f024ba','<p>总结：向内求的人 就可以获得心灵自由与平静。</p>','2025-03-28 14:35:40.535','2025-03-28 14:35:40.535',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:35:40.534',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c3f9ee2-65c7-44a3-908c-8cab63f9c134','6a213a7f-baae-4993-97cf-b1aa9a0a427f','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>一點複雜性能瓦解過度自信的循環，並能激發重新思考的循環。</p>','2025-03-28 14:30:25.078','2025-03-30 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03','2025-03-30 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b889c5c0-64c4-45af-8889-48aaa10c2eef','9e6029d7-a388-4d49-80cd-f65c2539405e','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>自由是被人讨厌</p>','2025-03-28 14:27:42.544','2025-03-31 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028','2025-03-31 00:00:00.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8bb7824-d981-4b6c-88f5-b85a8daa369f','f1cdb268-af56-4262-bbd8-09280f331548','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>要有被讨厌的勇气</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 14:30:49.239','2025-04-02 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2025-04-02 00:00:00.031','2025-04-02 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f4babe5f-e3ef-4280-a4fa-54ec195990ea','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','7c7542fe-06de-42b9-b6f6-238e71213a35','<p>工作的主要目标如果成为&rdquo;满足别人的期待&rdquo;，那工作就会变得相当痛苦。因为那样就会一味在意别人的视线、害怕别人的批评，根本无法做真正的自己。人最纠结的应该就是和家人的关系。就像书里所说父母是多么亲近的存在，往往父母对我们有很多期待，想要我们跟着他们的意思去活着。如果一味寻求别人的认可、在意别人的评价，那最终就会活在别人的人生中。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 14:41:57.944','2025-03-28 14:41:57.944',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:41:57.943',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5587ed86-ac3b-45c9-998d-78b7e7983659','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>站在对方立场，真心希望对方能达成目标来与对方谈论。</p>
<p>不是给意见，也不是试图引导对方按自己想法来做，而是抱着好奇心去了解对方的想法、动机是什么等。</p>','2025-03-28 15:24:50.377','2025-03-28 15:24:50.377',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:24:50.376',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e2b457ed-bbac-4bd2-8927-6cf583f0a404','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>不用他人的认可才能活，因为那是满足他人期待，活成他人的人生</li>
</ul>','2025-03-28 15:42:31.882','2025-03-28 15:42:31.882',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:42:31.881',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8f460f1-c0b8-45b1-9359-d7c7cc4dfc6d','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>动机式晤谈的缺点：人们一感觉到我们在设法说服他们，我们的行为便有了不同的意义。我们也有可能会开始质疑我们对他们的观点。</p>
<p>我觉得这个时候，我们很需要对自己的观点进行重新思考。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>动机式晤谈第4个技巧：总结</p>
<ul>
<li>检视自己是否遗漏或曲解任何事，以及询问他们的计划和接下来的可能步骤</li>
<li>目的不是要当领导者或跟随者，而是引导者</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&ldquo;假如你们的目标似乎不一致，如何能帮助人们改变他们的想法呢？&rdquo;</p>
<p>我认为还是需要我们重新思考的，但要知道作者（或案例）是怎么做到的，还得看明天的内容！</p>','2025-03-28 14:47:00.79','2025-03-28 14:47:00.79',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:47:00.789',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c30a00e-675c-4e66-921a-fec19f67d399','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>需要真心协助，而不是带有意图， 要不无法有效引导。</p>','2025-03-28 14:55:29.178','2025-03-28 14:55:29.178',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:55:29.177',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c9fe485-38af-45c0-9a5b-36ece9f16a3c','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','224ada56-b4c4-4cee-9baf-0badc4b884c6','<p>去掉动机和企图心，谈话才能更直入人心</p>','2025-03-28 15:11:09.81','2025-03-28 15:11:14.438',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:11:14.434',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('95aacd6f-18f8-48a7-8443-c3b7df3c6461','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>动机式晤谈成功的最为关键是以聆听的方式和开放式地发问引导对方，真心渴望能协助他人完成目标。</p>','2025-03-28 15:15:01.01','2025-03-28 15:15:01.01',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:15:01.007',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16f14fc3-4d5a-4c88-80d1-4d81372d8e12','9cda5a09-2ab1-4b1a-b3d7-54e4acc6135f','d7f9d646-34b1-4281-a990-12e3eb93d6ff','<p>聆听是表达关爱。有影响力的聆听比较重要。厉害的聆听是让对方认为我们很聪明。</p>','2025-03-28 14:50:37.971','2025-03-29 00:00:00.011',NULL,'f','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01','2025-03-29 00:00:00.01',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7ab9836f-e455-4b5d-8042-84fe4439eaf4','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','74239164-b3cf-430a-b19b-1641712ac0a7','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">動機式晤談需要真心</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">渴望能協助</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">們完成目標。</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><strong>动机至善，私心了无！</strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">人</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">們</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">感覺到我們在設法說服他</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">們</span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">︐</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">我們的行</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">為便有了不同的意義！</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">這種技巧不應該採取操縱性的用</span>法。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在動機式晤談中</span><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">︐</span><strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">維持談話和改變談話</span></strong><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">之間有所區別</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="font-family: Microsoft YaHei, sans-serif;">。</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;"><span style="font-family: Microsoft YaHei, sans-serif;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-SG; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;">維持談話是對現況做出評論；</span></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">改變談話則是提及某種欲望，能力</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">，</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">需求或承諾以做出調整。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">在思考做出改變時，許多</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼈</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">會感到</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⽭</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">盾；</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">他們有某些理由要考慮這麼做，但是也有部分理由要保持現狀。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">詢問及留神傾聽提及改變的話，然後提出</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: ''Yu Gothic'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Yu Gothic''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">⼀</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: KaiTi; mso-bidi-font-family: KaiTi; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW;">些關於他們為何及可能如何改變的問題。</span></p>','2025-03-28 14:47:52.026','2025-03-28 14:48:01.078',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 14:48:01.074',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('51dd8731-84ab-4435-b94b-62210dc51a1d','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 14： 3月28日 (星期五)</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第三夜 让干涉你生活的人见鬼去</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">自由就是不再寻求认可？（Page 075-083）</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">做好自己的本分，不须要求别人的认可，也不用活在别人的期待中。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">重点是做好自己该扮演的角色。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2025-03-28 15:01:41.142','2025-03-28 15:01:41.142',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:01:41.141',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04188500-a32b-43ca-8293-7115daf86874','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','703da497-c1ec-4835-9b77-624b065d2f68','<p>维持谈话和改变谈话之间是有所区别的。维持谈话是对现状做出评论。改变谈话则是提及某种欲望、能力、需求或承诺以做出调整。</p>','2025-03-28 15:05:12.065','2025-03-28 15:05:12.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:05:12.064',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('04948287-0deb-46b8-a4f0-b6f32c1742c9','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>多提问、多聆听是我最近的功课。我心里是很多想法，但总是一张口就说个不停。停顿下来，发问开放式的问题让大家有思考的空间。学习当引导者不要一味地只是自己说，让他人有机会说。</p>','2025-03-28 15:10:55.196','2025-03-28 15:10:55.196',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:10:55.195',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24c92ec9-ace5-4f15-bff5-3ca3ab5e06a2','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','042e3658-0d45-45d8-92b1-3d973b328b46','<p>如果获得他人的认可是加分，但是我们没有必要执着地追求他人的欣赏！</p>
<p>其实只要做好自己的角色，欣赏自己的价值，为自己而活出精彩，自己的人生，自己得掌控！</p>','2025-03-28 15:13:46.943','2025-03-28 15:13:46.943',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:13:46.942',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb516eca-f760-4982-8848-e1b8a9f62efe','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','aab18fe3-cf5a-440e-a287-6f61a50be74f','<p>我们并不是为了满足别人的期待而活着。</p>
<p>&ldquo;你就活在自己的人生中。&rdquo;</p>
<p>是的！要活出属于自己的人生！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>明天读前提问：什么是&ldquo;课题分离&rdquo;？</p>','2025-03-28 15:15:48.5','2025-03-28 15:15:48.5',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:15:48.498',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('990026bc-91f9-4bab-bf03-cec0f519eb08','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>我的人生我做主，活在别人的期待中是非常累的事。</p>','2025-03-28 15:31:23.729','2025-03-28 15:31:23.729',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:31:23.728',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c93aeb7-f4f6-4ee8-be92-ac332a3bbb78','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>聆听能鼓励他人重新考虑他们对我们的态度。</p>','2025-03-28 15:44:40.697','2025-03-28 15:44:40.697',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:44:40.697',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3af6bf60-c868-4949-8c9d-f8ac0ff88d0b','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>认可就好像一种会让人上瘾的毒品，</p>
<p>久而久之没有了就什么都不是。</p>','2025-03-28 15:45:02.497','2025-03-28 15:45:02.497',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:45:02.495',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5021e550-f24b-40c3-be23-a6f3a77540cb','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','4f2eb2b3-94b5-4ee7-8132-6fb6407ff96e','<p>有效的提问可以让人思考自己的问题</p>','2025-03-28 15:50:36.131','2025-03-28 15:50:36.131',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:50:36.13',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('28b76666-82d1-494d-9434-7041eaecd783','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','9e7d5703-4213-4a84-8d5d-7a5acf2a9891','<p>Day 14： 3月28日 (星期五)</p>
<p>📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第三夜 让干涉你生活的人见鬼去</p>
<p>自由就是不再寻求认可？（Page 075-083）</p>
<p>读后感悟：</p>
<p>这一篇谈论到的是要为自己而活，不要满足别人的期待。。</p>','2025-03-28 15:52:27.545','2025-03-28 15:52:27.545',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:52:27.544',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6937ca58-47b2-4d5d-988c-3c5903dcc675','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Day 14</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span></strong><strong><span style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">3</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">28</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;(</span></strong><strong><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">星期五</span></strong><strong><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">)</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">📚</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">《被讨厌的勇气》第三夜 让干涉你生活的人见鬼去</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">自由就是不再寻求认可？（</span><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Page 075-083</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: normal; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">我们并不是为了满足别人的期待而活着。没有必要去满足别人的期待。如果一昧寻求别人的认可，在意别人的评价，最终就会活在别人的人生中。</span></p>','2025-03-28 15:53:24.286','2025-03-28 15:53:24.286',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:53:24.285',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>📚 《被讨厌的勇气》第三夜 让干涉你生活的人见鬼去</p>
<p>自由就是不再寻求认可？（Page 075-083）</p>
<p>读后感悟：</p>
<p>得到认同可以是一件快乐的事，然而过度追求他人认同，就变成了不快乐的事。</p>','2025-03-28 15:56:33.944','2025-03-28 15:56:33.944',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:56:33.942',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&middot;有用的不是观点取替，而是观点寻求：真正和别人交谈，深入了解对方观点的细微差异。</p>','2025-03-28 15:35:10.574','2025-04-03 00:00:00.013',NULL,'f','2025-04-03 00:00:00.012','2025-04-03 00:00:00.012',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c3f5189-d9e9-4463-9e60-bc555b81f4f0','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Day 42 <span lang="ZH-CN">：</span>3<span lang="ZH-CN">月</span>28<span lang="ZH-CN">日《逆思维</span>Think Again<span lang="ZH-CN">》</span>Part 2<span lang="ZH-CN">： 人际的重新思考， 开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">在医疗中心之外（</span>Page 226-232<span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">🎯<span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><br>改變不是說服，是引導</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 我們常想說服別人，但那通常讓人更抗拒。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 真正有效的方式，是讓對方自己想清楚、自己選擇。</span></p>','2025-03-28 15:27:17.551','2025-03-28 15:27:17.551',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:27:17.55',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('78a388fe-f777-4242-8dea-9e2c95da4487','09efdfcb-113d-4b33-b089-6ec87865d3f8','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>万物皆备于我，尽好本份发挥自己的价值，不盲目地追求他人的认可，这种洒脱才是自由。</p>','2025-03-28 15:34:38.574','2025-03-28 15:34:38.574',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:34:38.573',NULL,NULL);
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<p>动机晤谈需要真心渴望能协助他人完成目标。</p>','2025-03-28 15:39:41.879','2025-03-28 15:39:41.879',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:39:41.878',NULL,NULL);
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<p><strong>动机式晤谈的核心理念是：在沟通中扮演&ldquo;引导者&rdquo;而非控制者, 通过真诚的提问和傾听,</strong> 让对方在无压力的情况下自主思考并改变。强迫改变往往适得其反而有效的引导能够激发对方的内在动力, 让改变变得更自愿、更持久。</p>','2025-03-28 15:42:07.477','2025-03-28 15:42:07.477',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:42:07.476',NULL,NULL);
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<ul data-start="95" data-end="212">
<li data-start="95" data-end="135">作者接到一位生物科技公司执行长（科学家）的请求，协助他探索人生的下一个阶段。</li>
<li data-start="136" data-end="172">他患有绝症，预计仅剩一年半时间，并希望借助作者帮助他找到改变的动力。</li>
<li data-start="173" data-end="212">执行长妻子是医生，主张接受病情并保持生活质量，而执行长希望继续发挥影响力。</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="214" data-end="229">二、顾问角色的转变：</h4>
<ul data-start="230" data-end="352">
<li data-start="230" data-end="267">作者起初不确定自己是否适合担任顾问角色，但在与三位顾问讨论后决定尝试。</li>
<li data-start="268" data-end="352">开始不是给予答案，而是透过提问协助对方自我发现：
<ul data-start="297" data-end="352">
<li data-start="297" data-end="310">为什么还需要外部顾问？</li>
<li data-start="313" data-end="327">领导力对你来说代表什么？</li>
<li data-start="330" data-end="352">有没有你欣赏的领导者？他们拥有什么特质？</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="354" data-end="397">三、动机式面谈（Motivational Interviewing）的运用：</h4>
<ul data-start="398" data-end="483">
<li data-start="398" data-end="483">关键转折点是从&ldquo;维持谈话&rdquo;到&ldquo;改变谈话&rdquo;：
<ul data-start="424" data-end="483">
<li data-start="424" data-end="451">协助对方回顾过往、设想未来可能、表达价值观与希望。</li>
<li data-start="454" data-end="483">采用如&ldquo;你要做的是把出那根线，然后拉它&rdquo;的心理学技巧。</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h4 data-start="485" data-end="502">四、执行长的转变与结局：</h4>
<ul data-start="503" data-end="603">
<li data-start="503" data-end="530">在多场会议、演讲尝试后，他找到自己心中渴望的舞台。</li>
<li data-start="531" data-end="565">虽最终因公司营运原因无法延续梦想，但他在过程中完成了内心的转变。</li>
<li data-start="566" data-end="603">结语强调&ldquo;动机式面谈&rdquo;技巧对高阶人士、学生、病人甚至家长都能发挥作用。</li>
</ul>','2025-03-28 15:46:24.823','2025-03-28 15:46:24.823',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:46:24.821',NULL,NULL);
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<p>引导让你自身去思考，从另一个新的角度。</p>
<p>说服让自身去认同，服从，不能有2nd thoughts.</p>','2025-03-28 15:47:22.653','2025-03-28 15:47:22.653',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:47:22.652',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('779cef00-4ea5-45bb-a238-20188d6e562d','9d231229-fb26-4522-8e80-140257ee1e6c','190081f1-9766-441a-bad2-9936853df6b9','<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Day 42&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">3</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">月</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">28</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">日《逆思维</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;Think Again</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">》</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Part 2</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">：</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">人际的重新思考，</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''var(--font-poppins)'',serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">开启他人的思维</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">在医疗中心之外（</span><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Page 226-232</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-ascii-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-hansi-font-family: ''var\(--font-poppins\)''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph; line-height: 15.75pt; background: white;"><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Segoe UI Emoji'',sans-serif; mso-fareast-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-size: 10.5pt; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DengXian; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">假如我们能认真看待动机式晤谈的实践，我们或许能成为重新思考的那些人。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 107%; font-family: ''Microsoft YaHei'',sans-serif; mso-bidi-font-family: ''Times New Roman''; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none; mso-ansi-language: EN-MY; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;"><br style="mso-special-character: line-break;"><!-- [if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br style="mso-special-character: line-break;"><!--[endif]--></span></p>','2025-03-28 15:48:42.483','2025-03-28 15:48:42.483',NULL,'f',NULL,'2025-03-28 15:48:42.481',NULL,NULL);
