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<p>将重点放在给予同理心</p>
<p>在心里静默地同理对方，也可把这份同理大声说出来。对方从你的肢体语言感觉活猜测到你的想法。</p>
<p>当我听到她说～时，我猜想她是感到～和需要～［同理心猜测的能力］</p>
<p>同理心vs同情心</p>
<p>了解「需要」是全人类的共同语言</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-11 04:40:16.163','2024-11-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023','2024-11-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a12c7647-18a5-4d7c-98f3-07e570ec640c','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>同理是以对方的作为对话的中心，关心他们的感受和需要。双方能感受到彼此之间的连结。</p>
<p>同情是以較高姿态倾听对方的话，然后以自己为中心，去表达你与对方的连结。</p>','2024-11-12 00:32:57.18','2024-11-12 00:32:57.18',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 00:32:57.179',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8914fc75-59ea-4c45-8571-f1d07bb0cd2d','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>［同理心和同情心的差异］</p>
<p>同理心～以对方为中心<br>同情心～以自己为中心<br>比如：&ldquo;我懂你的感觉，我的狗也在去年三月当天使了&rdquo;<br>对话转移到自己身上</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>［需要］是全人类共同的语言<br>当发生意见冲突，从本质找到双方之间的共同需求，让大家都看见它, <span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">过后一起找出满足这些需求的策略</span></p>','2024-11-12 00:40:27.411','2024-11-12 00:40:27.411',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 00:40:27.41',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a3e2ba57-9613-457f-aa09-de7b36b220b4','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>同理心是以对方作为对话的中心，关心他们的感受和需要。</p>
<p>同情心则是倾听对方的话，然后以自己为中心，去表达你与对方的连接。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 01:27:24.752','2024-11-12 01:27:24.752',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 01:27:24.75',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('46b09f91-3b90-4306-b2c8-8c7c22cb1e46','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>同理心是以對方作為對話中心，關心對方的感受和需要。</p>
<p>而同理心是傾听對方的話，以自己為中心，去表達與對方的連結。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 01:28:32.025','2024-11-12 01:28:43.726',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 01:28:43.725',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3be5431-4463-4637-9bf4-6ecc0dea72c5','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「同理心是以對方作為對話的中心，關心他們的感受和需要；同情心則是傾聽對方的話，然後以自己為中心，去表達你與對方的連結，」</p>','2024-11-12 06:52:38.237','2024-11-12 06:52:38.237',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 06:52:38.236',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('54dd03ad-870c-4d39-8400-ee8640871db4','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>努力的去實踐七習慣，誠實面對自己的行為。養成好習慣不容易，關鍵就是要投入，真正的投入。</p>
<p>無論你做什麼，或者夢想做什麼，着手開始吧大膽就是天賦、能量同埋魔力的代名詞。</p>','2024-11-12 07:30:38.06','2024-11-12 07:30:38.06',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 07:30:38.059',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1abc079e-2c48-437d-8bda-011bb706392c','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>积极的使用七习惯，保持一个富足的内心，然后慢慢影响家庭，甚至周遭的一切。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 08:24:02.635','2024-11-12 08:24:02.635',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 08:24:02.632',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac7e5746-14a4-4564-b136-e878234df03e','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>同理心是以對方作為對話的中心 關心對方的感受與需要。</p>
<p>同情心是以傾聽對方的話 並以自己為中心來表達自己與對方的連結。</p>
<p>需要是全人類的共同語言。</p>','2024-11-12 08:41:06.291','2024-11-12 08:41:06.291',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 08:41:06.29',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9cc6935-e0d1-48cf-861c-4d84d311d439','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>同理 不是 同情。</p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">将心比心。</span></p>
<p>尊重自己同时也尊重他人的需要。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 09:24:20.897','2024-11-12 09:24:20.897',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 09:24:20.896',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a377df58-fce2-436d-9208-8e0061e67daf','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>有同理心，彼此就不会有纷争。</p>','2024-11-12 12:40:16.168','2024-11-12 12:40:16.168',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 12:40:16.167',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('df841777-ad45-42cd-a609-7a8d3a5ed940','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>對話練習</p>
<p>練習自我同理</p>
<p>回想過去自己不喜歡的某段互動，用句簡短客觀的陳述話写下對自己的同理，持續进行練習，直到感受到接收了他人给予的同理心。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>練習自我表達</p>
<p>先用舊的溝通方式表達某件事；再用新的非暴力溝通表達同一件事，持續的練習，直到對新的表達方式運用自如。</p>','2024-11-13 06:13:48.485','2024-11-14 02:54:49.675',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 02:54:49.673',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f5dd712-4f47-4336-918b-7e36aa173b0c','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>多&amp;善用&ldquo;请&rdquo;和&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;,将彼此连接起来！</p>','2024-11-17 12:39:09.278','2024-11-17 12:39:09.278',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 12:39:09.277',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4dba0447-e8ea-46a5-ab6a-2e0bed7e9795','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>练习鸭鸭指数，善用「请」和「谢谢」。</p>','2024-11-18 14:28:45.541','2024-11-18 14:28:45.541',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 14:28:45.54',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18746316-b7a6-45a1-9929-c2bc3eb7237e','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p><em>生活中、工作中 善用请和谢谢</em> ，它们能够拉近人与人之间的距离，体现尊重和感恩，同时也有助于营造积极的氛围。</p>','2024-11-18 15:56:38.022','2024-11-18 15:56:38.022',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:56:38.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab2069b2-f671-4856-bb46-2ffbbb6b853c','cb6d220d-92fd-4318-a1a2-1f763b160b08','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>做一份软件容易吗？很多人认为容易：只需要做到可以看示范demo，可以展示就可以了。搞不好现在的ChatGPT Sora等都可以做到这点呢。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>但是暴露在海面上的冰山只是最起眼的部分。下面还有许多基本面是外人看不到的：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<ol>
<li>要如何确保在Exceptional例外情况时软件仍然应付良好？顾名思义，例外情况就是你平时不常见的情况。</li>
<li>如何与所有的系统兼容？</li>
<li>界面用户要如何设计，这样才能兼顾到新手和深层用户？才能让他们都觉得软件很好用？</li>
<li>工程软件讲究答案准确性，如何确保答案是对的？整个运算过程必须透明，有展示给用户看吗？</li>
<li>新的版本可能会有bug悄悄渗透，如何避免这种情况？用户看到旧的版本答案正确，新的却不正确，就会对产品失去信心。</li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以为了应对这些匿藏在海面下的冰山，软件公司都开发了许多流程、制度和系统以确保软件素质：</p>
<ol>
<li>代码审查 ( code review)</li>
<li>单元测试 ( unit test)</li>
<li>用户调查</li>
<li>文档，注释</li>
<li>人力测试</li>
<li>等等</li>
</ol>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>就是要尽量利用电脑可以重复进行计算的特性和借助多人的眼睛，来减少程序员出错的可能性。</p>
<p><br><br>没有系统的公司不是说做不出软件，甚至也还有可能大卖。但是接下来的系统维护和升级就变得十分困难。代码就像熵，只会一直相加不会减少。到了那一天，你发现整个系统连增加一个小功能都很困难，你就知道你已经渡过卢比孔河，接下来日子没有最苦，只有更苦。所以一定要定期进行重构(refactoring)，以便减少熵，方便维护！</p>','2024-12-14 00:59:00.964','2024-12-14 01:00:58.552',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-14 01:00:58.55',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ae104fef-3f09-4b6b-a75d-4d57f04a4305','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>前几天，有个冒失汉不顾安全往反方向行驶，嚇到我破口大骂，我也嚇得把車驾到旁边，先定一下心。</p>
<p>小时候曾经遇上嚴重車祸，心里想起來是不好受的，而且妈妈每天早晚都会来医院给送饭，劳心劳力的照顾我。</p>
<p>长大后，希望大家出路平安，那怕有时候看到飞车党，或许没带头盔的，向反方向行驶的车辆，我都希望他们平安，不要让家人操心。</p>
<p>写到这里，也不会再生气了。</p>
<p>生气的背后是担心自己、他人的安全。</p>','2024-11-12 09:10:13.79','2024-11-23 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ba02ec4-efbb-4391-b1ae-d4de288f9ffa','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>清楚知道、表达自己的感受和需要，是帮助鞏固亲密关系的重要一环，很多女性朋友在成长过程中，不知道、不懂得满足自己的需求，所以佛洛依徳才有的一句名言：女人想要的到底是什么？</p>
<p>现今的社会，女性也开始有意识的改变自己。</p>','2024-11-12 09:20:53.093','2024-11-24 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a370828-12dc-4a38-88be-c41b496c2ce6','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>I want to talk about the spirit of abundance. Without the spirit of abundance there is no way you can achieve win win, because you will see it as your lost whenever the other party is winning.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>But really, how to see that both parties can win at the same time, when it''s really a zero sum game? Don''t tell me that there are two winners in a basketball game? And what about the profit distribution? There are only so much, your gain is my loss. And what about house chore? Someone has to do it, if not you, then me.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>I suspect that a lot of win win situation boils down finally to one party compromising, not really because they don''t have the spirit of abundance, but that''s the reality. I feel like the only way out of this impasse, is to upgrade yourself, and maintain the power to renegotiate ( no lifetime contract), only then it can work.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2>Translation</h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p data-sourcepos="1:1-1:49">我要谈论丰盛的精神。没有丰盛的精神，你就无法实现双赢，因为每当对方获胜时，你都会认为这是你的损失。</p>
<p data-sourcepos="3:1-3:87">但实际上，如何才能看到双方同时获胜呢？这似乎是一个零和游戏。不要告诉我篮球比赛中有两个赢家？那利润分配呢？资源有限，你的收益就是我的损失。那家务呢？总得有人做，不是你就是我。</p>
<p data-sourcepos="5:1-5:84">我怀疑很多双赢的情况最终都归结为一方妥协，并不是因为他们没有丰盛的精神，而是现实如此。我觉得唯一的出路是提升自己，保持重新谈判的能力（没有终身合同），只有这样才能奏效。</p>','2024-11-12 09:27:38.594','2024-11-12 09:27:38.594',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 09:27:38.592',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f374368-1d33-4737-bc84-e0a47f06113b','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>所有的改变从自己开始，无论何时你认为问题是外部的，这个想法本身就是一个问题。</p>','2024-11-12 13:55:51.988','2024-11-12 13:56:11.691',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 13:56:11.69',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8ad4b0b1-2b42-44bc-920f-f743ee38dfc9','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p><strong><em>被尊重是人类的共同需要</em></strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>同理心是以对方作为对话中心，</p>
<p>关心对方的感受和需要。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>而同情心是倾听对方的话，</p>
<p>以自己为中心，</p>
<p>去表达于对方的连接。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 10:13:11.585','2024-11-12 10:16:49.22',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 10:16:49.219',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6377aeba-7746-4bcc-b7c6-f52c5d772434','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>一切始于自己的想法，有了书中讲的高效习惯，方可和周围结合，然后放大。</p>
<p>因为，我们都过着三种生活，公众生活，个人生活以及隐秘生活。</p>','2024-11-12 11:48:15.196','2024-11-12 11:48:15.196',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 11:48:15.195',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1aef712-7c51-4f79-8470-a08ce6105730','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>12/11/24<br>同理心就是第三种沟通方式<br>我们自己必须明白及同理自己真正的需要。然后再去同理对方的效果就会发生变化，而且是正面的。<br>这两天发生的真实案例：<br>有一位非盈利机构的执行长联络了我，希望给于意见如何处理目前的纠纷。<br>我必须明白我自己在这事件中扮演着什么角色，以及同理心去了解她的需要，并且可以给于怎样的正确建议。我有必须站在公平无私，公正，事实，以及公众利益最终为结果的想法给于建议。希望可以达到和谐圆满的结局。</p>','2024-11-12 11:56:05.811','2024-11-12 11:56:05.811',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 11:56:05.81',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2fc1854c-cb67-47e0-8193-b824b596616b','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>同理心是以對方作為對話的中心，關心他們的感受和需要.</p>
<p>同情心則是傾听對方的話，然後以自己為中心，去表達你与對方的连結。</p>
<p>「需要」是全人類的共同語言。「需要」是无所不在的。</p>
<p>需要理解，连結，尊重自己和他人，彼此間才能建立连結，化解彼此間的衝突。</p>','2024-11-12 12:31:40.804','2024-11-12 12:31:40.804',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 12:31:40.803',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74bb578d-3553-4fd8-a26e-1833382867a9','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>同理心-以对方作为对话的中心，关心他们的感受和需要。</p>
<p>同情心-倾听对方的话，以自己为中心，去表达你与对方的连接。</p>
<p>了解需要是全人类的共同语言。</p>','2024-11-12 13:11:22.224','2024-11-12 13:11:22.224',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 13:11:22.223',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('245fdadf-c8f9-46da-8642-cb943a3d96c9','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 58 &nbsp;11月12日 (星期二） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇第十一章 359页 &ndash; 363页<br>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>如果你感觉大部分时间都偏离航道，不要气馁。要继续遵循计划，做出细微调整直到达自己的目的地。</p>
<p><br>21条高效能行动指南 + 3个基本概念 :<br>1) 顺序很重要。由内而外<br>2) 思维方式是基础。从根本层面解决问题，才能带来真正的改变。<br>3) 我们不是主宰，原则才是。</p>
<p>每个人身上都会发生苦难。7个习惯的基本原则帮助面对挑战。</p>
<p><br>生活的节奏是光速变化。7个习惯提醒我们，尽管有心理负担和过去的困扰，我们有力量做出选择。<br>7个习惯鼓励我们设想并就积极的目标。<br>7个习惯帮助我们打造有质量的关系，并找到联系彼此的第三种选择。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-12 13:41:11.984','2024-11-12 13:41:11.984',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 13:41:11.983',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('20bd2ee1-a7aa-4e53-bb8a-ae58922f6f96','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>同理心以对方为主；同情心以自己为主。带有同理心，也就是将心比心的放式可以令对方放下戒备，产生链接。</p>','2024-11-12 14:06:53.771','2024-11-12 14:06:53.771',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 14:06:53.77',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8619939-e630-4f4d-a50c-e4cb86dda3a0','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>是的，如果更多的人能做到像作者所说的非暴力沟通，就不再会有战争。可是，我们处于的时代已是文明时代，却还存在战争。同理心是聆听对方的需求，以对方的立场去思考对方的需要。</p>','2024-11-12 14:12:50.589','2024-11-12 14:12:50.589',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 14:12:50.588',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3fb29b6-a22b-4cda-b8a0-0a5990d016e4','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>分辨同情，同理。同理是由对方为做对话的中心。关心他们的关系，</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>了解需要是人类的共同语言</p>','2024-11-12 14:22:59.105','2024-11-12 14:30:26.283',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 14:30:26.282',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e212567-c48f-4c9f-afb4-c2699215d986','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>有好的基础思维才可以改变自己的行动，才能去影响别人</p>','2024-11-12 15:15:58.42','2024-11-12 15:15:58.42',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:15:58.419',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aba29508-7735-4415-9306-937c48ce2b26','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>致敬 史蒂芬.柯维</p>','2024-11-13 10:38:22.368','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b111cfd-8b5a-4282-87b8-7a4b4284420c','7788709d-521b-4a35-8e0b-46de60c857a2','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p dir="ltr">思考问题的底层逻辑</p>
<p dir="ltr">增强迴路</p>','2024-12-12 22:58:06.851','2024-12-12 22:58:06.851',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-12 22:58:06.85',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe1f01f5-153d-44c0-b782-4fc959adef54','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day12：11月12 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">辨别【同理心】和【同情心】的差异（Page074-079）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每个人都须要同理心,不要同情心。被同情的感受，会卑微。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">尊重彼此来的比较恰当。每个人都被需要，需要的程度不一样。所以了解对方，才给对方需要的。</span></p>','2024-11-12 14:29:32.169','2024-11-12 14:29:36.164',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 14:29:36.163',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e64e9882-173b-4a83-8b92-b6c95d88dc9c','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<p>同理心：以对方作为对话的中心，关心他们的感受和需要</p>
<p>同情心：倾听对方的话的话，并以自己为中心，去表达自己与对方的连结</p>
<p>虽然我们有不同的肤色、教育、语言、种族、宗教，但我们内心都是有需要，也希望自己的需要能够被对方看见。&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 14:30:44.942','2024-11-12 14:30:44.942',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 14:30:44.941',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1fb052c-41c2-4040-b6a1-61a019139015','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 58&nbsp; 11月12日 (星期二） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇第十一章 359页 &ndash; 363页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">公众领域的成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">开始你以别人的情感账户</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯四</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">拥有富足心态</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在敢作敢为和善解人意之间的保持平衡</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">达成双赢协议</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯五</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">使用同理心倾听</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">带着尊重的态度以获得理解</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯六尊重不同之处</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">寻找第三种选择</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯期实现每个人领域的成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">平衡产能和产出</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">七个习惯是由内而外的方法</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">所有的改变都从你开始，无论何时你认为问题是外部的，这个想法本身就是个问题。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">思维方式是基础</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们花了太多时间修剪态度和行为的叶子，但是很少有时间去打理根部，我们思维方式，看待世界的角度。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-12 14:34:56.506','2024-11-12 14:34:57.545',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 14:34:57.544',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">同情心则是倾听对方的话，然后以自己为中心，去表达你与对方的连结。例子：我懂你的感受，因为我的狗在去年三月去当天使了。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一直盲目的想让对方理解自己在很多时候是没用的，不如改变方式开始去猜测对方当下的感受和需要，然后在沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">需要是全人类的共同语言，无论背景是什么，都想要让自己和家人过上好生活。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">利用非暴力沟通来化解宗教冲突的范例。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一位穆斯林邀请非穆斯林到清真寺做礼拜，但是在他提出邀约后，另一位穆斯林就立刻表示反对，因为被邀请的人不是穆斯林。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">那些想邀请非穆斯林去清真寺做礼拜的人需要理解、连结和教育；那些反对者则是需要大家尊重及理解他们的信仰和宗教。双方都有各自的需要要反映给对方，然后调解者提出了这个问题&rdquo;现场有哪一位没有这些需求吗？&rdquo;这让大家看见大家都有相同的需要，而他们其实都能够尊重自己和他人的这些需要。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有了这层的认知后，经过集思广益，就提出了一些方案。大家都同意没有受过伊斯兰教的非穆斯林，在参加礼拜前需要先听十五到二十分钟的解说，以了解仪式的流程，才能坐在清真寺的门外观礼。等到星期五的仪式结束后，他们就会邀请非穆斯林进入。</span></p>','2024-11-12 15:08:44.095','2024-11-12 15:08:44.095',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:08:44.094',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('acf8b1c2-7bbd-4c4d-b72f-4a3c01a2a874','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>我還記得要連接關係，必須找到雙方共同的需要，例如食物，營養，安全，保護，健康，運動，娛樂，休息。</p>','2024-11-12 15:11:56.107','2024-11-12 15:11:56.107',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:11:56.106',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7a4967a0-59fc-41f1-a19c-3676cc6b26c0','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>战争的开始是因为彼此都不尊重与理解彼此的需求。同理对方、知彼解己可以化解矛盾与冲突。</p>','2024-11-12 15:15:06.603','2024-11-12 15:15:06.603',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:15:06.602',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('57fdbe5f-e6c8-4520-902e-35c0407286d2','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>同理心就是让对方感受到被理解他们的需求和感受。</p>','2024-11-12 15:29:33.66','2024-11-12 15:29:33.66',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:29:33.66',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50307c57-2db1-4210-8945-706c0d960019','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>7个习惯是由内而外，从个人开始做起</li>
<li>思维能够改变我们的未来，就看我们在遇到事情后要以积极或负面思维来应对</li>
</ul>','2024-11-12 15:36:51.673','2024-11-12 15:36:51.673',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:36:51.672',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1d58406-33b2-42f4-b30a-14d28b85f042','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>同理心和同情心的差异。</p>
<p>同理心是以对方为中心，关心她们的感受和需要。同情心是倾听对方，再以自己为中心，表达我和对方的连结。</p>
<p>有效的沟通是了解对方的需要。</p>
<p>需要是全人类的共同语言。如果双方都以了解对方的需要为沟通的第一步，是不是就和平共处？</p>
<p>在一定程度上不单要了解也须要自己对的需要作出要求的表态，也要让对方也明白我的需求。</p>','2024-11-12 15:32:39.162','2024-11-12 15:32:47.459',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:32:47.458',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6c3dd64c-4778-4320-8234-0fb60e05ffba','e6abbf22-ff21-4eb4-80d1-2a7b2eb8f400','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 58&nbsp; 11月12日 (星期二） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇第十一章 359页 &ndash; 363页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">当在实践七个习惯时，我们都会经历偏离轨道，不要放弃，要继续调整，把自己带到最终的目的地。</p>
<p dir="ltr">基本三个概念：</p>
<ol>
<li dir="ltr">顺序很重要</li>
<li dir="ltr">思维方式是基础</li>
<li dir="ltr">原则才是主宰</li>
</ol>
<p>一切从 &ldquo;我要这么做&rdquo; 开始。</p>
<p>行动起来吧！</p>','2024-11-12 15:44:06.454','2024-11-12 15:44:06.454',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:44:06.453',NULL,NULL);
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<p>是一种理解。</p>','2024-11-12 15:54:10.571','2024-11-12 15:54:10.571',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:54:10.57',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77316ef1-9190-4980-b183-29c73a32da32','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>▪️沟通方式</p>
<p>▫️将重点放在给予同理心 ～</p>
<p>先花时间默默地同理自己，再尝试去同理他人。同理需要不断练习，用沟通的方式；并勇敢地说出来总有一天将会看到奇迹发生！</p>
<p>▪️同理心和同情心的差异</p>
<p>▫️同理心 &nbsp;～&nbsp;</p>
<p>以对方为中心，关心对方的感受和需求；倾听对方的话并试图理解对方的视角。它像是人与人之间建立的一条真实的连接，让对方感到被理解和接纳。</p>
<p>▫️同情心 ～</p>
<p>虽然也会倾听对方，但更多是从自己的角度出发来表达关心。它更侧重于给予安慰或帮助，但往往以自己为中心去理解对方的情况。</p>
<p>▪️了解需要事情，人类的共同言语言</p>
<p>▫️人们因不同的生活背景而产生隔阂，但拥有相同的感受和需求，都在努力为家人和他人创造安稳的生活。</p>
<p>&nbsp;若能实现非暴力沟通，人与人之间将建立真实的连接。彼此理解，冲突也会随之化解。世界将不再有战争，大家便能和平共處。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 15:46:03.453','2024-11-12 15:46:03.453',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:46:03.452',NULL,NULL);
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<p>公共领域的成功</p>
<p>21个行动，三个基础概念</p>
<p>顺序很重要</p>
<p>所有改变都从自己开始</p>
<p>7个习惯的恶搞</p>
<p>＊＊＊投入之前，总是犹豫，有退缩的机会，总是无效。坚定的投入，上帝也会感动。奇迹也会出现。所有的因缘都会到来。永远无法想象。</p>
<p>歌德的诗句嘨然起敬： 无论你能做什么，或者梦想做什么，着手开始吧。大胆就是天赋，能量和魔力的代名词。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 15:46:25.123','2024-11-12 15:46:33.79',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:46:33.789',NULL,NULL);
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<p><br>" 听到我刚才说的话，你有什么感受" ( 确认听者的需要有得到满足）</p>
<p>激发对方自我觉察，当下建立连结</p>','2024-11-12 15:49:54.447','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bceda024-b5c1-484c-84e9-2abfabb358fc','54d3b095-2be2-4e6f-b14e-43dbef49117c','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day12：11月12 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>辨别【同理心】和【同情心】的差异（Page074-079）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>同理心和同情心的差异：</p>
<p>需要无所不在，是人类共同拥有的部分。</p>','2024-11-12 15:46:54.046','2024-11-12 15:46:54.046',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 15:46:54.045',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 06:34:44.953','2024-11-12 21:27:04.749',NULL,'f','2024-11-12 16:00:00','2024-11-12 21:27:04.748',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('13ed6883-b705-4997-ad60-45eb6bb117cc','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>這一生有參加好多的學習活動，用威逼利誘來達到他的目的的，通常都會造成別人的傷害。</p>
<p>而讓我可以提升自我潛力，很享受學習的過程，都是經由一些願意聆聽和精油溫和的請求，而讓我享受學習。</p>','2024-11-12 23:30:40.738','2024-11-12 23:30:40.738',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 23:30:40.737',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1c88fe90-8017-4754-9689-6e1530aec6a8','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>补12/11: 辨别【同理心】和【同情心】的差异</p>
<p>同情心是专注在&ldquo;我&rdquo;，而同理心是专注在&ldquo;沟通对象&rdquo;。允许和聆听对方的需求才可以实现非暴力沟通的交流。</p>
<p>13/11: 开始提出请求</p>
<p>行动的请求和过程请求。</p>
<p>提出请求很重要的是确认对方清楚明白我们的请求，可以请他们重复我们的请求，观察他们是否明白，或是还需要我们的同理、或是资讯量过多，需要我们重复。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 23:59:17.632','2024-11-12 23:59:17.632',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-12 23:59:17.631',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('20b9d7bd-f9c0-40a0-be44-75107f52c670','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 59 &nbsp; 11月13日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇后记 369页 &ndash; 377页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原则观vs 价值观</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原则是外部的自然法则，最终会控制我们的行为后果。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">价值观是内在的，主观的，是指引我们行为的最强的感觉。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们的行为后果取决于原则，而不是价值观，因此，我们必须重视原则。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">作为经营者，以战略眼光完成招聘和挑选工作，有长远眼光和积极主动的态度，而不是迫于当下的压力，就会享受到许多长远利益。招聘与挑选比训练和培养</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">更重要。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1️⃣以身作则</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2️⃣建立关系</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">5️⃣用对方理解的言语把原则来分析自己的经历，让对方识别生活中出现的特点原则和习惯。</span><span class="s2"><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-06 14:08:20.403','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b43f8ea4-bd52-4951-bf2b-3b748eaab289','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','9d3a9707-ccc4-4288-8ea9-001fb67da208','<p>作者被提问的一个题目，实践七习惯是一场长期斗争。我觉得这是很好的问题，如何持之以恒和长期实践才是重点。知道和实践，和长期实践是有段距离的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-10 11:39:08.682','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1bf8b96-404c-4dc4-b6ae-b8a2f08b65c9','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>沟通方式四： 开始提出请求</p>
<p>两种形式的请求：1）聚焦在行动的&ldquo;行动请求&rdquo; - 单纯的要求对方采取你希望的行动。 2）聚焦在过程的&ldquo;过程请求&rdquo; - 先确认对方理解自己说叙述的内容，然后确认对方的感受和确认对方是否得到满足。</p>
<p>重点：</p>
<p>1）分清楚自己提出的是&ldquo;请求&rdquo;还是&ldquo;要求&rdquo;，这是由自己内心的感受来分辨。&ldquo;请求&rdquo;才能创造出人与人之间的连结和关爱。</p>
<p>2）我可能说了很多，但是对方确定所收到的和我所要说的有差异。先确认彼此在同一个频率上（以对方给予的&ldquo;反映&rdquo;为重点），让后再确认对方听后的感受（以对方给予的反应为重点）。感受的背后有渴望。那么，彼此就能理解彼此的渴望，那么接下来可以谈如何去满足彼此的渴望。双向的有效的沟通才真正被启动。</p>','2024-11-11 00:28:36.045','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8571a4e2-60cf-41a2-88f0-17f0e88433fc','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>当根基改变，一切都会摇摇欲坠。技术基础是一切的关键，把基础做好一切都好。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不要试着去改变别人，尤其是孩子。一切都以身作则，以身作则，以身作则。让他们看见你的改变。</p>','2024-11-11 23:04:26.474','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2c77f784-77c0-4ced-9aaf-930f37b361b6','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>非暴力沟通方式4️⃣ -&nbsp;开始提出请求&nbsp;</p>
<p>当你要求别人做事但人家不愿意的时候 往往会感到沮丧 生气 但如果对方其实不理解你的用意，或者你并没有表达出诚意，而是以一种压迫性的命令语气提出要求，而不是请求，对方就算做了也会心不甘情不愿。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果能够带着敬意，开放的心态去提出真诚的请求，相信对方会愿意了解我们的需求去配合的</p>','2024-11-11 22:24:37.443','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7df5e999-e76b-46d8-8ace-7c0262e4a7b9','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>沟通方式4</p>
<p>开始提出请求</p>
<p>一旦懂得自我表达和给予同理心，就可以提出请求。第一种请求是聚焦于行动的行动请求，也就是请求对方采取你希望的行动。是请求而不是要求，没有强迫性，尊重对方的选择。我们之间才能有连接，才能互相满足。</p>
<p>第二种是聚焦于过程的请求</p>
<p>这类请求会向对方提出:你可以告诉我，你刚才听到我说了什么吗？或者听到我刚才说的话，你有什么感受？</p>
<p>如果对方答不出你刚才所说的，你可以拆成几个小项，逐项向他说明。直到你认为他真的明白你所说的。</p>
<p>叫对方说出感受，也是在帮助对方于内在自我建立连接，这就是灵性对话的精髓。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-12 07:18:17.457','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01629eac-9b7f-4c10-a876-4d8d8fac1311','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>請對方告訴你他的感受，也幫對方與內在連結，我們的說話會激發他人的自我覺察，還會讓自己和對方在''當下建立連結。</p>','2024-11-12 10:21:36.84','2024-11-13 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014','2024-11-13 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0fc96b0c-c205-4257-911b-cade01738478','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>沟通方式4</p>
<p>-诉诸于行动的请求</p>
<p>-聚焦于过程的请求</p>','2024-11-13 13:04:56.913','2024-11-13 13:04:56.913',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 13:04:56.912',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f430eade-1326-481d-a7af-94089f9c2270','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「倘若我為你做某件事，是因為我認為「我應該這麼做」、「這麼做才明智」或「這樣我才會是一個好人」，那麼這些付出一定都會留下餘毒。通常這抹餘毒就是怨氣，怨氣不僅會毒害人與人之間的關係，也會消磨生活的樂趣。矛盾的是，最後我一定會把這股怨氣發洩在你身上，因為我的需要沒有得到滿足，所以我會用迂迴的方式怪罪於你。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 03:07:21.936','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccd5feb8-59e6-4ce5-8032-46a6582cea08','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>我可以决定我的想法，我可以选择开心和原谅。我选择不让自己不开心。</p>','2024-11-17 12:48:04.414','2024-11-17 12:48:04.414',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 12:48:04.413',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69612501-56a5-459d-bd37-0e8cdd3e1e6e','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>用因果链来接变数，是锻炼洞察力的基本功，必须认真练习。</p>','2024-12-12 14:38:24.131','2024-12-12 14:38:28.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-12 14:38:28.782',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d54dc4d-5ddc-4e31-9d8d-1d96ed15d341','c9b08465-55c5-4b4d-9b5d-16689d0b8156','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>练习对话</p>','2024-12-12 22:59:02.642','2024-12-12 22:59:02.642',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-12 22:59:02.641',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc9f2e78-ffa4-4d04-9f84-5ec545cbfb50','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>兩種請求方式。</p>
<p>1️⃣聚焦於行動的請求</p>
<p>請求與要求往往一線之差。</p>
<p>請求猶如一種服務的形式。讓對方處於他個人的意願而回應了自己的請求。</p>
<p>這樣的方式更勝於義務接受自己的請求而讓對方付出代價完成自己的請求。因為這樣的方式大家未能得到滿足。</p>
<p>2️⃣聚焦於過程的請求 Process Request</p>
<p>✅請求對方告訴自己 聽到剛才自己說了些什麼。</p>
<p>主要向對方確認有接收到自己要傳達的信息，包括自己的觀察、感受、需要。</p>
<p>✅請求對方聽了剛才自己說的話後 有什麼感受。</p>
<p>這個請求主要確認聽者的需要是否得到滿足。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 13:05:38.691','2024-11-13 13:05:38.691',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 13:05:38.69',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fc52a409-66f5-4ebd-8d78-b5122640fb62','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>溝通方式4️⃣</p>
<p>一旦你懂得自我表達和给人同理心，就可以快速地提出請求。</p>
<p>請求有2種形式：</p>
<p>1）行動請求</p>
<p>也就是单纯地請求對方採取你希望的行動， 而不能帶著「強迫」性。</p>
<p>2）過程請求</p>
<p>&ldquo;你可以告訴我，你剛才听到我说了些什么吗&rdquo;？ 是要向對方確認，他有如實接收到你想傳達的伩息。</p>','2024-11-13 05:43:27.41','2024-11-13 06:09:40.51',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 06:09:40.509',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce87a145-dc3b-4faa-bbd9-6fd3ecedb8f5','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>價值觀支配人們的行為，以原則支配這些行為的後果。</p>
<p>正直是比忠誠更高層次的價值觀。</p>
<p>以身作則是做父母教育孩子最好的方法</p>','2024-11-13 13:09:25.508','2024-11-13 13:09:25.508',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 13:09:25.507',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b5d26976-08b5-4ba0-9c8e-044cabd4fd91','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>觉得今天阅读到的非常有用，希望可以透过练习来达到有效的沟通，尤其与孩子们的沟通对话。请对方告诉自己，他们听到了什么，然后有礼貌地表达谢意。</p>','2024-11-13 14:33:52.208','2024-11-13 14:33:52.208',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 14:33:52.207',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03c9fd6e-7131-4f73-a26c-6bbaa94996b3','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>一种请求是要求过后有行动。</p>
<p>另一种请求是看过程，相互了解理解的过程。</p>','2024-11-13 10:19:24.602','2024-11-13 10:19:24.602',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 10:19:24.601',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce2e7adf-287f-4a93-9c4c-5582cf280165','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>概括：</p>
<p>积极主动、以终为始、要事第一：做出承诺，信守诺言</p>
<p>双赢思维、知彼解己、统合综效：大家参与讨论，共同拟定解决方案</p>','2024-11-13 10:29:44.704','2024-11-13 10:29:44.704',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 10:29:44.703',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0871a460-7798-4c5a-89d2-86e0e2b635fb','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>认同作者说的，教育孩子的最佳方式，除了身教，没有别的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我希望我给孩子正确的身教。</p>','2024-11-13 10:34:09.993','2024-11-13 10:34:09.993',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 10:34:09.992',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9afbec0a-943e-4b89-a212-526a607f9959','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>沟通方式4：请求<br>1. 行动请求：这个方法讲易做难（清楚的说出或是书写希望对方做的事，有与对方有连结及关爱的，而不是说出/写出我们自己不希望他做的事，因为这会变成要求，有威胁性，有强逼性的）<br>2. 过程请求：询问及感谢对方对于我们说过的话给于看法或是感受与确认，并且请对方给于回应，有了良好的双方连结，然后提出请求，这样就可以产生灵性对话的精髓。</p>','2024-11-13 11:45:36.979','2024-11-13 11:46:41.948',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 11:46:41.947',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dbb23ded-37b0-4ca2-8531-6f5446437f0c','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>沟通上，以&ldquo;请求&rdquo;的方式比&ldquo;要求&rdquo;的方式要人做事或表现来得容易多与会相处融洽。</p>
<p>此外，最好让对方叙述一遍自己的意思或个人叙述一遍对方讲过的话，以避免彼此错误理解。</p>','2024-11-13 12:34:24.998','2024-11-13 12:34:24.998',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 12:34:24.997',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e77fe672-8871-431f-8abc-2df00c4ad314','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>总之直至目前为止，这七个习惯都与我们生活习习相关，我很喜欢螺旋式上升的图表，它真正的表达出continual improvement 的含义。</p>','2024-11-13 14:37:07.486','2024-11-13 14:37:07.486',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 14:37:07.486',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f85ca37a-0630-49e7-bd7f-6a00532dab6e','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>先同理，后请求。</p>','2024-11-13 14:37:07.497','2024-11-13 14:37:07.497',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 14:37:07.496',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2f05ef7c-9f67-42d5-9f04-30b5f32fe119','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>以同理心在對方的立場同理他與他連結。</p>
<p>清楚表達自己需求，讓對方清楚了解自己的目標，</p>
<p>雙方的連結，才能達到真正的溝通。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 11:42:37.061','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f701f7cf-21cc-461b-aead-b020b8a8b8db','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>1. 上班时觉得自己很忙，但原来忙的大多不是第二象限的事，唯有执行第二象限的事最能创造价值。</p>
<p>2. 读书会推动着我抽出时间阅读。</p>','2024-11-13 10:44:15.45','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('71366311-6b49-40e9-96ec-538d523e421d','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>如果提出请求是当作一份送给对方的礼物，会改善彼此的关系，你会做吗？</p>
<p>前提是希望对方了解我们的需要，而且是心甘情愿下做这事。</p>
<p>想像对方说：我能为你做什么，才能让你生活得更好，这样的画面真的很温暖人心啊。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 07:39:46.289','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('51310075-50a0-402a-9392-de3b0b3a8ee9','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>实际上有2种请求，</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1。行动请求</p>
<p>2。过程请求</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>前提是要搞认清是请求还是要求，</p>
<p>因为往往两者只是一线只差而已。</p>','2024-11-13 14:55:25.406','2024-11-13 14:55:25.406',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 14:55:25.405',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a1069857-3972-4140-b794-034da53571c6','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 59 &nbsp; 11月13日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇后记 369页 &ndash; 377页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;对高效人士的七个习惯的领悟</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1.原则vs价值观</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原则是维护的自然法则，最终会控制我们的行为后果。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 价值观是内在、主观，指引我们行为的最强烈的感觉</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原则观vs 价值观</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">原则是外部的自然法则，最终会控制我们的行为后果。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">价值观是内在的，主观的，是指引我们行为的最强的感觉。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们的行为后果取决于原则，而不是价值观，因此，我们必须重视原则。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">使劲去割习惯都是一场长期的斗争。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">做任何事情之前都想起习惯二的价值观，就是以终为始。</span></p>','2024-11-13 14:45:02.478','2024-11-13 14:45:15.299',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 14:45:15.295',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('090c90b3-fd1d-4d8a-a7d0-69fa8d3eafdf','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 59 &nbsp; 11月13日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇后记 369页 &ndash; 377页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>习惯1,2,3 : "做出承诺，信守诺言"&nbsp;<br>习惯4,5,6 : "大家参与讨论，共同拟定解决方案"</p>
<p><br>7习惯很好理解，但难以持之比恒。<br>7习惯很合情理，但来心总是普遍做法。</p>
<p>实践 7 习惯都是一场长期的斗争。偏离航线就要经常性的反馈及调整航线。<br><br></p>
<p><br>第8个习惯是了解并把握7个习惯的第三维的力量。<br>《找到你自己的心声并且激励他人去寻找他们的心声》</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-13 14:53:14.281','2024-11-13 14:54:22.831',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 14:54:22.83',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52fc86b9-7029-4d7a-8cfc-91181b49ade0','3dedd184-0884-4d17-85e0-3a65591b52b3','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 59 &nbsp; 11月13日 (星期三）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇后记 369页 &ndash; 377页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">最好的方法，是让人信任你，而不是喜欢你。</p>
<p dir="ltr">信任和尊重最终会产生爱。</p>','2024-11-13 15:27:18.159','2024-11-13 15:27:18.159',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:27:18.158',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9b241bb2-d153-4093-958f-7bf0520afce9','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>请求有2种，行动请求和过程请求。</p>
<p>行动请求不是一个容易的行动。要以&ldquo;我们都有选择的权利&rdquo;的观念来沟通。用了解他人的意愿的问题。</p>
<p>过程行动以了解对方感受来发问？发问过程要让对方知道我不是在考验他们的能力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 15:01:44.916','2024-11-13 15:02:17.179',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:02:17.178',NULL,NULL);
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<li>价值观是影响我们的行为，原则是这些行为背后带来的后果</li>
<li>七个习惯可以按不同情况，从不同习惯开始，未必一定要从习惯一开始</li>
</ul>','2024-11-13 15:19:59.859','2024-11-13 15:19:59.859',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:19:59.858',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('266e6fe1-2da9-455a-96ab-aef76f84dab1','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>请求有2种，过程和行动</p>','2024-11-13 15:42:58.976','2024-11-13 15:42:58.976',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:42:58.975',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e1ee66a-3735-497b-9640-e43b0d01d2f4','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 60 &nbsp; 11月14日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇附录380页 &ndash; 387页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第三代时间管理者，根据首要价值观和目标来按排活动的先后顺序，在每项活动标上字母A,B,C,然后又在每个A,B,C下面标出1，2,3.</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">然而还是要人性化。第四代理论把重心放在产出与产能的平衡点。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要事第一，事半功倍。专注Q2</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br></span><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-06 14:09:35.001','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ef293e22-4027-474f-9ce0-dfd10048707b','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','0ba622c5-da0b-42e9-8968-0d6797029f3c','<p>通过案例，分享 第四代时间管理 的运用。</p>','2024-11-13 10:33:43.448','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('454035e3-ad6d-4b43-81bd-bcc6e03722d5','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「假設有人向你抱怨政府、天氣或他最喜歡的運動隊伍時，請不要附和他的話，而是對他的話給予同理心。你可以這樣說：「你這麼說，是想讓我聽到你對___（說出那個人的名字）在那個問題上所做的事，有多麼不開心嗎？」請持續給予對方同理心，直到這個人開始轉變，並感覺到你們之間建立起某種連結。你可能需要用這樣的方式與他來回對話好幾次，才有辦法讓他感覺到自己的心聲有被聽見。或者，你也可以這樣說：「聽起來，他的舉止並沒有滿足你對正直和關愛的需要。」觀察對方會如何產生轉變，並感受你們之間的連結會變得多麼緊密。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 03:01:39.789','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d815196-d424-47d7-b5cc-5e8f9f125137','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>不批判， 多善用， 请和 谢谢。 顾及彼此的感受。</p>','2024-11-17 14:21:23.472','2024-11-17 14:21:23.472',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 14:21:23.471',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0dee745-d29e-4bc3-9a4c-2d59759df39d','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>对话练习</p>
<p>学习处理愤怒</p>
<p>放下敌人形象</p>
<p>如何处理对同一件事，一说再说</p>','2024-11-23 14:36:51.507','2024-11-23 14:37:28.781',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 14:37:28.78',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0dd9b065-527a-4db8-a48e-46926e72e05e','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day13：11月 13日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通方式 4：开始提出请求（Page080-085）</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通方式 4：开始提出请求（action request ) </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">强调提出请求的技巧，尤其是在非暴力沟通的背景下。这种请求主要分为「行动请求」，即希望他人具体采取的行动。提出请求的过程看似简单，但实践中却往往不易达成，尤其是当我们试图传达「希望」对方完成的具体行为，而非只列举不希望的行动。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在此过程中，非暴力沟通的技巧关键在于真诚地提出请求而非要求，进而促成深层的人际连结。</span></p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">瑜伽教学场景中，请求学员尝试新动作时，老师应避免「命令」而是提出邀请性的请求，例如：「你愿意尝试这个姿势吗？」这样既尊重学员的自由选择，也能避免要求带来的压力。老师应保持开放心态，既接纳学员的回应，也透过请求过程建立互相理解和尊重的关系。这样的互动能促进真实的人际连结，而非依赖权威带来的强制执行。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">聚焦于&rdquo;过程&rdquo;的请求（过程请求-process request )&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;你可以告诉我，你刚才听到我说了些什么吗？&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;听到我刚才说的话，你有什么感受？&rdquo;</span></p>','2024-11-13 15:22:43.421','2024-11-13 15:22:45.76',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:22:45.759',NULL,NULL);
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<p>过程请求是要确实对方听懂我们所想要表达的信息，还有就是确认听者的需要有被满足，激发对方的自我觉察而建立起连接。</p>','2024-11-13 15:24:09.626','2024-11-13 15:24:09.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:24:09.625',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de6986f8-6e62-4e64-92b7-ee5d717b35e0','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day13：11月 13日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>沟通方式 4：开始提出请求（Page080-085）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>付诸于行动的请求 vs 聚焦于过程的请求</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 15:25:17.031','2024-11-13 15:25:17.031',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:25:17.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('443995f3-a73a-4cec-be20-edaeed3fff8e','39c16954-f714-4782-989f-3566a58292ef','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>行动请求考验的是对方能否实践自己提出的要求，而过程请求考验的是提问的功力。</p>','2024-11-13 15:27:53.321','2024-11-13 15:27:53.321',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:27:53.319',NULL,NULL);
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<li>行动请求：是提出自己感受和需要，并提出自己希望对方如何做
<ul>
<li>提出请求是允许对方拒绝自己的，就算被拒绝了，自己可以多了解对方为何拒绝，但不是强迫对方要尊从自己的请求</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>过程请求
<ul>
<li>确认对方有收到自己信息，包括自己的观察、感受和需要</li>
<li>提出问题后，对方回答后，要感谢对方</li>
<li>要是对方说出的与自己说的有差，可以再次跟对方说明</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>','2024-11-13 15:31:38.226','2024-11-13 15:31:38.226',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:31:38.225',NULL,NULL);
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<p>请对方告诉你， 他们听到了什么？</p>
<p>听到我刚才说的话，你有什么感受?</p>','2024-11-13 15:31:13.384','2024-11-13 15:31:43.832',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 15:31:43.831',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a4fe60bf-d781-4f27-bd9a-5d7dee141970','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>第一象限：紧急重要</p>
<p>第二像限：不紧急重要</p>
<p>第三象限：紧急不重要</p>
<p>第四象限：不紧急不重要</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>要事第一，事半功倍</p>
<p>我们需要明白，&ldquo;产出&rdquo;活动属于第一象限事务范围，&ldquo;产能&rdquo;活动属于第二象限。管理好第一象限就是重视第二象限事务，未雨绸缪和抓住机遇。同时要有勇气和第三第四象限事务说不</p>','2024-11-13 23:11:43.255','2024-11-13 23:11:43.255',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-13 23:11:43.252',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9fe34d9e-0603-4ea6-859c-b71e089347e8','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>我對於第四代管理有點模糊，在381頁裡直接找到了生活化的實踐例子。</p>
<p>這本書讀下來，感覺不是在讀書，而是在使用着一個讓我思考和省思的工具。</p>','2024-09-28 14:47:50.918','2024-11-14 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019','2024-11-14 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('95b88b20-21a5-462d-9af8-aea8cbe87e3b','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>听到有人抱怨的时候，不要附合他的话，而是对他的话给于同理心耒與他連結。</p>','2024-11-14 00:18:50.749','2024-11-14 00:18:50.749',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 00:18:50.748',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ef7577f-1b45-4263-bb0f-87c9df4d9bd6','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>沟通练习中，提出给予同理心是非常好的建议。</p>
<p>人们很多时候要的真的不多，有时虽然只是一句话，甚至可以温暖一辈子。</p>
<p>期许自己常常口说好话。</p>','2024-11-14 00:32:09.494','2024-11-14 00:32:09.494',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 00:32:09.493',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c13f5b11-26b8-494c-b273-9d1d014cbe2d','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>在生命长河中，个人成长或企业想要保持成功，唯一的方法就是以原则为中心的生活。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们也需要明白，生活是使命不是职业，我们更要会懂得品味生活的精华</p>','2024-11-13 23:26:13.244','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ef6c058-2c50-4915-a2be-3b7f64ed84de','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>改变不等于屈服，对所有的请求都来者不拒才叫做屈服；改变是倾听对方方的需要，再做出能满足彼此需要的决定。</p>
<p>别担心自己的需要会成为别人的负担。</p>
<p>善用&ldquo;请&rdquo;和&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;。</p>','2024-11-14 00:59:55.925','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c6bcf05-d5a4-42ac-b79d-3bbc7c840e54','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>给与同理心的练习</p>
<p>给与对方同理心，直到对方感觉到你们之间建立起某种连接，这可能需要来回对话好几次，才能有办法让她感觉到自己的心声被听见。</p>
<p>提出请求的练习</p>
<p>要具体说明你希望他做些什么。请求不可以不明确。如:就这样吧，或听起来这是个好主意。</p>','2024-11-14 02:10:36.652','2024-11-14 02:10:36.652',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 02:10:36.65',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0cd38935-908f-49ec-ab0f-749a4ed0ee22','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>自我同理</p>
<p>上一周确实发生了一段不喜欢的互动，可惜我选择中断谈话。</p>
<p>如果我根据自我同理的方法去沟通，我想我需要她的理解和同理，我想她当时也是想让我明白可能问题出在我身上而我不自知，她希望我可以从另一个角度看这个问题，如果当时我能在自我同理和同理她的情况下继续沟通，应该会彼此连接而有个好的成果。</p>','2024-11-14 02:12:46.586','2024-11-14 02:12:46.586',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 02:12:46.585',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9ab51c1-0de2-40cd-baca-b65ff469fbc2','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>我没有很多紧急的事务。日常工作都是编程，和同事开会。所以理论上来说，我去度假一个月也没有问题。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>因此，在2025年，我更加需要安排我的假期时间，是时候去看看世界了。</p>','2024-11-14 07:38:57.263','2024-11-14 07:38:57.263',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 07:38:57.262',NULL,NULL);
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<p>过程请求＂你可以告诉我，过程中你听到了我说些什么吗？＂</p>
<p>听到我说的话，你有什么感受？</p>','2024-11-14 09:01:46.221','2024-11-14 09:01:46.221',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 09:01:46.219',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5723a212-b3c5-4b70-9d80-954939b6de61','f02fb2e3-3aeb-4418-9a0b-65ae51fbde87','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>在公理体系的世界里，只有能证明的和不能证明的。大师与大师的差异，是智商的差异，不是口才的差异。没有公理体系，只靠逻辑演绎，想要得出不容质疑的结论是不可能的。</p>
<p>同时持有全然相反的两种观念，还能正常行事，是第一流智慧的表现。也就是''你们都对''。</p>
<p>学经济学，一定要兼听。学李白，也学杜甫。</p>','2024-11-14 06:53:08.7','2024-12-05 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ab84817-444a-4f8f-be15-508fa9e2e643','c11702ed-8cbf-45f7-b1ef-05fb9c4a3c68','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>查理：如果我不能比这个世界上最聪明的人更能反驳这个观点，我就不配拥有这个观点。</p>
<p>为什么反驳自己的观点？如果我成功反驳了这个观点，就证明这个观点不对，为什么还要保留？</p>
<p>所有观点，理论上都可以被反驳倒，至少能举出反例。</p>
<p>罗曼：【这个世界上，只有一种真正的英雄主义，就是认清了生活的真相后还依然热爱它。】这样你才有勇气给每个模型找反例，然后继续用这个模型。</p>
<p>要理解一个经济观点，不仅要看你是否认同能证明它的例子，更要看你是否理解能推翻它的例子。</p>','2024-11-14 07:15:32.194','2024-12-06 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('efc28263-feb6-45b4-a3c7-a16f0e2cc8f3','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>練習4種溝通方式：</p>
<p>1️⃣對著自己時可以使用自我同理</p>
<p>2️⃣對著對方默默同理他人或者給予同理心</p>
<p>3️⃣與對方溝通時的自我表達</p>
<p>4️⃣在溝通時敢於提出<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">『行動請求』或『過程請求』並尋求對方的反饋</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">✅以反映Reflection 為重的過程請求 ：「你可以告訴我，你聽到我說了些什麼嗎？」</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">✅以反應Response 為重的過程請求 ：「聽到我說的話，你有什麼感受？」</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-14 10:58:12.23','2024-11-14 10:58:41.351',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 10:58:41.35',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a817cdcd-f7a8-4756-a6fd-8aa7ce3dd9f3','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>这个方法很好，让我们可以重视自己的需要和感受</p>','2024-11-14 09:04:59.642','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7c40522e-ffbb-474c-9234-68dda776436e','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>善用&ldquo;请&rdquo;和&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;。</p>
<p>对抗压力最强大的武器，就是拥有选择想法的能力。</p>
<p>当我们选择把别人的话听成&ldquo;请了解我的痛苦&rdquo;，就有了设法将彼此连接起来的机会。</p>
<p>这项凭着自身意念去选择要对外在事物做任何反应的能力，正是使说话变成一种灵修的方法。</p>','2024-11-14 01:16:06.711','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c9114c7b-d359-4c5d-846a-ca8ed47e9f98','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>请了解我的害怕，必竟你没在我们约定的时间回家，也没有打电话跟我报平安。我很难过，因为我很在乎你，也很担心你的人身安全，我想让你知道这一点。</p>
<p>注意他们的反应</p>','2024-11-14 09:08:29.507','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('05b97d49-53c9-4bb4-98a5-984e4779a8ff','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>与真实的人建立真实的连接是人类的疗愈之道</p>','2024-11-14 09:09:31.257','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5dac216-3d43-4992-8a6d-ab68a89e4906','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<ul>
<li>练习自我同理 - 回想一件我喜欢的互动，从客观陈述再写下自己的感受，猜测还有什么需求没有满足。</li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">练习自我表达 - &ldquo;当我看到/听到&hellip;我感到&hellip;因为我需要&hellip;你愿意吗？&rdquo;</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">运用4种沟通方式</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">给予同理心</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">提出请求</span></li>
</ul>','2024-11-14 12:10:58.311','2024-11-14 12:11:01.41',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 12:11:01.408',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9db48b4a-ebbd-4604-9814-5051548eb10c','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 60 &nbsp; 11月14日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇附录380页 &ndash; 387页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1">依据个人价值观、目标，专注在要事第一，Q2，事半功倍。</p>
<p class="p1">产出与产能平衡。</p>
<p class="p1">学会授权</p>
<p class="p1">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-14 12:33:19.435','2024-11-14 12:33:20.651',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 12:33:20.65',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6dec073-9c90-4d12-b60b-f48575c22e6c','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>四个对话练习：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>1）自我同理的练习</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2）自我表达的练习</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>3）给予他人同理心练习 -&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>4）提出要求练习 -&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-14 12:35:37.29','2024-11-14 12:35:53',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 12:35:52.999',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('abaced16-7d69-4457-bd2c-b0b9958c4d83','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>Description &nbsp; &nbsp;<br>Day16：11月16 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>协助评鉴自我需要的【鸭鸭指数】（Page098-103）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>作者創建了鴨鴨指數以幫助自己養成『了解與相信需要』的習慣。</p>
<p>比如，我不想做別人請我去做的事，這件事無法在鴨鴨指數上得到高分。</p>
<p>但這不表示沒有談判空間。</p>
<p>我和對方可以做出一些改變。</p>
<p>改變不等於屈服。改變是傾聽對方的需要，再做出能滿足彼此需要的決定。但也不能犧牲對方的需要。</p>
<p>許多人不願意表達自己的需要，是因為他們認為『需要』會成為別人的負擔。</p>','2024-11-14 11:36:15.959','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c01388b9-8cc7-4a20-b82e-37834d86d428','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">个关于沟通和回应的流程图。以下是内容的简化总结：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<ol class="ol1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">接收信息</span><span class="s1">：首先，我们接收到外界的信息或对方的表达。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">反应与评估</span><span class="s1">：然后，对信息进行反应和评估，判断自己该如何回应。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">回应方式</span><span class="s1">：</span></li>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">如果决定回应，则可以选择适当的语言或行为来表达。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">也可以选择不回应，或者通过冷静的方式来处理，避免冲突。</span></li>
</ul>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">结果</span><span class="s1">：通过合适的沟通与回应，可以有效减少误解，增进彼此的理解和信任。</span></li>
</ol>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这个流程强调在沟通中保持冷静、理性地回应他人，避免情绪化的反应，有助于建立更好的沟通效果。</span></p>','2024-11-14 14:51:14.491','2024-11-14 14:51:14.491',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 14:51:14.49',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01be1f51-5e83-41bc-803e-26d8e4c43c65','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>持续进行练习，去说出自己的感受和需要，给予自己同理心。</p>
<p>然后确保很好的自我表达要不断的练习..&nbsp;</p>
<p>给予同理心</p>
<p>提出请求</p>','2024-11-14 15:04:19.845','2024-11-14 15:04:19.845',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:04:19.844',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('44562fd0-fe8b-4a94-99d4-7cedc626b4d0','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 61&nbsp; 11月15日 (星期五） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇389页 &ndash; 392页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">柯维从不会自己不去实践就交给别人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">想成功，唯一方法是以原则为中心的生活。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">领导者就是清晰地指出别人的价值和潜力，使对方受到鼓舞从而有所意识。<br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>','2024-11-14 12:48:48.052','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('06edcec4-f6b7-440f-89f4-08ca2083ac45','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>要事第一，事半功倍。要有第二象限事務為中心的思維，來幫助第一限事務的危機。</p>','2024-11-14 13:11:58.008','2024-11-14 13:12:00.848',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 13:12:00.847',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f4f0e4ad-8f3e-4e50-a87e-ab19a5506931','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>在一天的行程里，有4个象限的事情要处理。</p>
<p>首先要理清事务是哪个象限。</p>
<p>第2象限的，需要准备一个时间给他，然后才会付诸行动。</p>
<p>3，4象限的，尽量避免。</p>
<p>1的话，可以就delegate给别人做。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-14 13:13:10.434','2024-11-14 13:13:10.434',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 13:13:10.433',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa2e177d-4c55-41a0-8061-99d7652a2481','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>对话练习：</p>
<p>-练习自我同理</p>
<p>-练习自我表达</p>
<p>-给予同理心</p>
<p>-提出请求</p>','2024-11-14 13:23:25.065','2024-11-14 13:23:25.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 13:23:25.064',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5fa4042a-b7ac-4cec-a6ab-ad3b8a178afb','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>先自我同理，说出当下的客观情况和感受，明白请求和要求的分别。</p>
<p>同理他人</p>
<p>提出请求，提出反馈</p>','2024-11-14 13:20:23.09','2024-11-14 13:24:35.129',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 13:24:35.128',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac7c4d12-1df4-47ab-9556-dea67e2cdf4b','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day14：11月 14日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>对话练习（Page086-091）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟:</p>
<p>寻找伙伴一起练习非暴力沟通：</p>
<p>练习同理心</p>
<p>练习自我表达</p>
<p>给予同理心</p>
<p>提出请求</p>','2024-11-14 13:29:56.856','2024-11-14 13:29:56.856',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 13:29:56.855',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('42dbf34e-a9c6-467a-b31a-ce18ca36567f','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>要有好的沟通，须有強烈意愿并持续运用与复习，才能养成此美德。</p>','2024-11-14 13:41:46.046','2024-11-14 13:41:46.046',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 13:41:46.045',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('243a05d6-34e8-4246-8b24-9a7fc68d5991','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>要不断练习。。。。。再练习直到变成习惯：</p>
<p>自我同理</p>
<p>自我表达</p>
<p>给于同理心</p>
<p>提出要求</p>','2024-11-14 13:45:19.573','2024-11-14 13:45:19.573',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 13:45:19.571',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a1747c2-0810-4dca-8020-e6a32e960a88','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>把要做的事情分为四个象限事务，Matrix of 重要、不重要、紧急与不紧急，再加以分析，以便达到更好的对问题的重要性理解。</p>','2024-11-14 14:28:36.767','2024-11-14 14:28:36.767',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 14:28:36.766',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c84de271-1198-42d4-9ef1-57f7661db6d7','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>不断的提醒自己利用本书所教的的方法进行4种沟通方式。比较有印象的是「当我听到你这么说时，我感到____，因为我需要_____。你愿意______吗？」，发觉这个句型挺有用。</p>','2024-11-14 14:29:18.848','2024-11-14 14:29:18.848',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 14:29:18.847',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('df6d12d3-ad0c-40c8-8f08-8f59321e1446','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>Pg 380 - 387</p>
<p>願景，远见</p>
<p>平衡 自律 自制 很少发生危机</p>
<p>一日活动表</p>
<p>要事第一，事半工倍</p>','2024-11-14 14:47:19.849','2024-11-14 14:47:22.388',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 14:47:22.387',NULL,NULL);
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<li>当处理好第2象限，自然而然第1象限也会减少</li>
<li>必须空出时间給第2象限的事情</li>
<li>第3和4象限的事情，尽量减少，或say no</li>
</ul>','2024-11-14 15:01:35.229','2024-11-14 15:01:35.229',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:01:35.228',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1e11d2c-6e6e-4be9-98be-74fa91f08108','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;當我們只是一味的同理別人，而沒有去同理自己的需求，因為只照願別人的需求，而不承認自己其實也有真正的需求，而很委曲自己，會造成累積太多的怨氣，是很難達到真正的快樂。</p>','2024-11-14 13:18:13.161','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3787937d-ffe3-402e-be92-bd9702d5c411','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>我觉得吐槽别人是好的，不然人生太过正经，就没趣味了。但是不要为了吐槽而吐槽，把自己陷入在受害者情结。而是要通过调侃自己和别人为生活增添色彩。当然如果是配偶和没有幽默感的人那就不适宜调侃。最理想的对象其实还是政治人物；他们明白的！</p>','2024-11-15 10:39:36.746','2024-11-15 10:39:36.746',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 10:39:36.745',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b37c9f20-438f-4bfc-9f8e-3c70847960c9','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>好习惯养成，不会从天而降，或者与身俱来的，它必须应用在生活中，身体力行，一点一滴的积累成行。</p>
<p>无论如何，一切的行动，一定要以原则为基础。</p>','2024-11-15 11:06:15.026','2024-11-15 11:06:15.026',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 11:06:15.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74f4ae93-cd0b-4f7c-9558-ddd1ad7e1cae','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>善用请，口语化经常让我们减少用请</p>','2024-11-17 15:53:43.444','2024-11-17 15:53:43.444',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 15:53:43.444',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6ffa651-e36a-4acf-9ab5-466dfd796016','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>-学习处理愤怒</p>
<p>-放下敌人形象，给予他同理心</p>
<p>-&ldquo;对同一件事，一说再说&rdquo;的不耐烦，是哪些需求没有被满足</p>','2024-11-23 13:19:45.667','2024-11-23 13:19:45.667',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 13:19:45.666',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bdc27674-a3d9-424e-8ffe-2a653f782dba','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>真心提出需要，不是为了讨好，也不是自我牺牲。相反的，我们为别人所做的一切，都是以满足自己的需要为目的。</p>','2024-11-22 04:22:01.889','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6067b106-5569-472a-bd60-664e42f6a5d7','a814249f-2ad4-4be5-83aa-a7ea6d1134d0','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>使用暴力在自己避免被伤害的前提</p>
<p>不要变成软柿子，也要有武器保护自己</p>','2024-11-30 15:47:32.142','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f238fee-e9b1-4ca7-a6ac-84e7b39171ad','07d8449e-7016-42b7-aaca-f9495fe455e0','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>发生意外或损失时，我们都会怪罪损失他人。往往损失惨重是自己。如果我们能以商人的对错官，我们能避免发生。</p>','2024-11-17 08:50:57.294','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea7e5807-c87e-44fa-9110-d5e038ca017a','07d8449e-7016-42b7-aaca-f9495fe455e0','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>對我來講我的想法是我只能做我自己可以控制得到的事情。</p>
<p>所以我我應該是比較像商人的思考。我如果不站在馬路，中間就不會被撞。我如果可以好好分析情況才進去C的工廠。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-12-01 13:25:03.327','2024-12-01 13:25:03.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-01 13:25:03.326',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4e6f2329-28cf-41ec-bfd3-47b270df3b3d','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 60 &nbsp; 11月14日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇附录380页 &ndash; 387页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>运用第二象限事务为中心的思维安排日程，将大部分时间用于授权，训练，准备重要会议，回重要电话，吃可建立与领导关系的一顿饭。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>高效能是需要努力争取，有待实现的理想。第二象限事务的计划有時无法实现，但第一类的事件可由此而大幅减少，变得比较易于处理。不会時時处于压力过丈的危机氛围，也不会对判断力和健康造成消极影响。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-14 15:05:17.749','2024-11-14 15:05:36.822',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:05:36.821',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2adefff1-aa85-446d-9982-912a881d31fa','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p><em>练习自我同理*</em></p>
<p><em>自己的真实案例：</em></p>
<p>是的，还记得在上个星期一，我以电话联络了工程水喉承包商，希望他可以尽快签回保证书交给建筑师以便申请入伙批文。他不肯签，还开了条件，我当时也失去了深思熟虑，认为这是一种威胁，强逼，反而是应该完成所有的应该承担的任务及文件，才是负责任。在这个情况下，两方便也没有好处，搞到双方都不满，即刻把电话给盖了。<br>冷静下来思考一下，我应该要先同理自己，了解自己真正的需求，不就是需要对方签了那份文件而已嘛。<br>然后再了解对方的需要及同理他的处境，对了，就是这样，要冷静,冷静，再冷静。<br>应该约对方出来面对面和气的好好谈。就这样决定了。</p>','2024-11-14 15:12:51.287','2024-11-14 15:12:51.287',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:12:51.286',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b1d13a60-eee6-40f2-8c83-2d3ca945ff92','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<ul>
<li>自我同理</li>
<li>自我表达</li>
<li>给予同理心</li>
<li>提出要求</li>
</ul>
<p>最近慢慢对四步骤越来越有感觉了。</p>
<p>【当你---我感到---因为我需要---你愿意---吗？】</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-14 15:25:44.956','2024-11-14 15:25:44.956',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:25:44.955',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f6a2201-f7de-4b52-9039-1f1fceec4d6e','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>先要同理自我，生起好奇心，知道对方的要求，再自我表达（请求）（行动请求、过程请求）。</p>','2024-11-14 15:26:42.817','2024-11-14 15:26:42.817',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:26:42.816',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1852e194-0326-438f-ab44-2fffd0acba3f','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>回想上个星期日，接到我生意伙伴的信息，我是非常火的，他明明知道我在上课，不能用电话，他还要求我做很多东西。其实可以帮我做一部分，我再做最有一步，就可以省下我的时间，我好他好大家好。换做以前的我，一定是不会说出我的感受，然后批判他一轮的。</p>
<p>这次我换了一个方式，我解释给他听其实他可以这样子做，最后说出我的感受和需求，给我一个方便。他接受了。更没想到的是，第二天开会时，他竟然说出&ldquo;给对方方便&rdquo;的想法给出一个方案</p>','2024-11-14 15:32:05.825','2024-11-14 15:32:05.825',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:32:05.824',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0632bf3d-a9f3-4a14-b6e5-6092a20c31ee','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','9f2de0b4-5451-41cb-bded-d537871923dd','<ul>
<li>每天在生活中持续练习，把这个技巧用得更自然</li>
<li>要先同理自己，对对方和事情产生好奇心</li>
<li>每天用表达的方式与他人沟通</li>
</ul>','2024-11-14 15:28:29.363','2024-11-14 15:32:48.794',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:32:48.793',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f98fa042-9795-48d3-890f-ea0aa736e133','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在工作上，我不知不觉已经开始在练习非暴力沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">昨天由于有很密集的订单需要出货，我叫了几位同事一起来了解进度。我使用了有声的沟通：自我表达。我在不批评或指责任何人的情况下，说出我担心的问题和感受，然后说出需要的请求。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">虽然还有很多细节没有做到，但隐约觉得一直重复练习的话，应该对沟通很有帮助。</span></p>','2024-11-14 15:46:33.317','2024-11-14 15:46:33.317',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:46:33.316',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f5f17d9f-43e6-4e0f-8de6-08d7ab293e1b','495283e2-b378-4791-9680-c2a90fe58884','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>练习练习</p>
<p>沟通</p>
<p>自我同理</p>
<p>自我表达</p>
<p>给以同理心</p>
<p>提出请求</p>','2024-11-14 15:47:03.983','2024-11-14 15:49:42.73',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:49:42.73',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f0c6200b-c605-44ab-a0a6-844ce9d678c4','6c795cb2-edee-4c8c-9db8-4b473191d70f','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 60 &nbsp; 11月14日 (星期四）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇附录380页 &ndash; 387页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">运用习惯三，注重第二象限事物，是需要耐心，恒心，毅力。这会为我们的工作带来很大的帮助。</p>','2024-11-14 15:49:55.81','2024-11-14 15:49:55.81',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:49:55.809',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0958076a-9bf0-4980-afe4-8df44713c49d','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「請了解我的害怕，畢竟你沒在我們約定的時間回家，也沒有打電話跟我報平安』。我很難過，因為我很在乎你，也很擔心你的人身安全，我想讓你知道這一點。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-14 21:35:16.755','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2～[自我表达］</p>
<p>当我听到。。。我感到。。。因为我需要。。。你愿意。。吗</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>3～［给予同理］</p>
<p>让对方感觉到自己心声有被听见</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>4～[提出请求］</p>
<p>～你愿意吗。。。。（要明确）</p>
<p>～观察开会不明确对话。。。（不会请特定人在特定的时间棌取特定的行动</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-14 15:55:46.218','2024-11-14 15:56:45.554',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-14 15:56:45.553',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e8584f6e-b006-4dbd-99ab-b76dbe57f737','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 61&nbsp; 11月15日 (星期五） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">😇389页 &ndash; 392页</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">读后感悟 ：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴resourcefulness 足够智多谋及釆取主动 initiative 原则重要。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴以上帝的旨意为中心，所有事情都会有合适的位置。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴个人或者企业想要保持成功，唯一的方法就是以原则为中心地生活。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴坚持做EBA存款,遵守着人际关系中，再小的事情也很重要。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🔴领导力就是清晰地指出别人的价值和潜力，使对方受到鼓舞而有所意识。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Keep practicing the 7Habit principal 💪🏻</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2"><br><br></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;</span></p>','2024-11-06 14:11:25.28','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d0299ab6-79f3-4838-93b7-35b05e101147','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>我们在与自己对话时，可以充满慈悲，也可以充满批判，但不论选择哪一种方式与自己对话，都会对我们的人生造成极大的影响。</p>
<p>因为话语（内心）反映想法，想法反映信念，信念（尤其是潜意识的）主宰了我的人生。</p>
<p>否定自我需要，会产生更多怨气。承认我们的需要并不会让自己成为一个难搞的人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-14 00:57:35.602','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6543bc30-e020-459e-b3a5-60b23b7a26eb','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>这简直就是大多数人的写照，常常忽略了自己的需求而去附和讨好他人的意愿和要求，我总觉得这是因为一种需要外在的肯定和赞赏来确定自己的存在。</p>
<p>这些都是家庭教育和背景，加上大环境所造成的后果，希望从这本书，大家都可以和自己连接，接受自己，自我同理和不带自我批评，这样才能和他人也产生温馨舒适的沟通交流。</p>','2024-11-14 02:31:44.339','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('557aeea2-e3fe-4943-95ad-80b597eb730b','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>承认我们的需要并不会让自己成为一个难搞的人</p>','2024-11-14 09:03:50.889','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c977d304-73ca-43c7-b9f7-2ef8c4abc84f','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>Day15：11月 15日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>第四章 ： 倾听自己和他人（Page093-097）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>當作者的老師提到：「永遠不要做讓自己感到無趣的事情。你要做的事情至少能讓自己感受到樂趣」</p>
<p>作者不能接受這句話。</p>
<p>因為作者認為「只做自己想做的事，是放縱又自私的行為」</p>
<p>在與自己對話時，可以充滿慈悲，也可以充滿批判，但都會對我們的人生造成極大影響。</p>
<p>內心的話語反映了自己的想法。</p>
<p>自己的想法反映了自己的信念。</p>
<p>自己的潛意識信念又主宰了自己的人生。</p>
<p>後來作者發現 原來這一切發生在成長過程中一直否定自己的內心真正需要。</p>
<p>這一否定讓自己做任何事情付出後 都產生一股怨氣 而這股怨氣破壞人與人之間的關係。</p>','2024-11-14 11:22:02.307','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('afb311ae-7646-4094-808c-3eb11b074f02','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>成长过程，人都是不断地去平衡在&ldquo;满足他人的期待&rdquo;和&ldquo;满足自己的需要&rdquo;之间。被否定的需要，留下给自己的是&ldquo;委屈求全&rdquo;、&ldquo;怨气&rdquo;甚至是&ldquo;愤怒&rdquo;。</p>
<p>我的内心的话反映了我的想法，我的想法反映了我的信念，而我的信念（尤其是潜意识的信念）主宰了我的人生。如果那些被否定掉的需要是为了讨好他人。讨好型人格就被塑造了。</p>
<p>唯有保持觉察，我才能看见自己的信念、想法、而进而去改变它。</p>','2024-11-14 13:10:30.801','2024-11-15 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029','2024-11-15 00:00:00.029',NULL,NULL);
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<div>文接上段：</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>今天我尝试联络对方,及留言约对方在咖啡馆见面好好的谈谈。</div>
<div>跟他表达了我的情况，希望他可以理解，也愿意了解对方的需求，相互协调一下，因为两方面都是用相同的最终目的。双方同意加上一个时间为期限，先把目前的文件处理给客户。接下来自然一切都会顺利了。</div>','2024-11-15 01:26:30.773','2024-11-15 01:26:30.773',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 01:26:30.771',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('28760b6c-1f93-45b1-9022-6d29cfbdffcf','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>我最近也不断有意识地自我提醒，做一件事必须是愿意的，往自己想要做的方向而去的；如果只是为了服务和满足他人，或是更严重的为（他人/心爱的人）&ldquo;牺牲&rdquo;一下，一定会在内心深处留下伤疤，有朝一日还是得疗愈，要不然就会不断地影响我们的幸福和快乐。</p>','2024-11-15 01:42:46.906','2024-11-15 01:42:46.906',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 01:42:46.905',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d45377a3-840f-47a1-8eba-303b298c6789','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>我同意永远不要去做自己感到无趣的事，所做的事要感受到那种如在喂食饥饿的鸭子的乐趣。</p>
<p>如果说这样做是自私的行为，我不同意。当然，有时我们也要看环境的需要而让自己去做自己不想做的事情。</p>','2024-11-15 02:07:36.469','2024-11-15 02:07:36.469',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 02:07:36.468',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ee537c99-620f-4978-ad94-e8f7c0282c1f','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>通过和自己连接，接受自己，自我同理和不带自我批评，进而能和他人产生温馨舒适的沟通交流。</p>','2024-11-15 02:21:30.374','2024-11-15 02:21:34.839',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 02:21:34.837',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48d931b1-9caa-4b22-800f-b81c46a725ac','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>在與自己對話時，可以充滿慈悲，也可以充滿批判，不論選那一種方式，都会對我們的人生造成極大的影響。因為我們的內心話反映了我們的想法，想法反映了信念，而信念主宰了人生。</p>
<p>以「不說謊」和「正語」來練習傾听自己的內心話，同理自己及他人的需要。</p>','2024-11-15 02:58:12.859','2024-11-15 02:58:12.859',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 02:58:12.858',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3804e83-c7b7-48b2-b15c-0dc3a7a5c43f','1b78922a-c39b-4f37-8988-abf7c5eb81d2','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>一个人的表达至少可分为四种：事实、观点、立场和信仰。</p>
<p>1）事实-独立于人的判断的客观存在。现实世界有时复杂到你无法判断事实。不同的角度看物，有不同的事实。</p>
<p>2）观点-是你对事实的看法。观点和你的关系，比它和事实的关系更加密切。比如，你觉得30&bull;热，是因为你冷。你掌握的资讯，以及你的思维式决定了你的观点。</p>
<p>3）立场-立场就是被位置和利益影响的观点。有相同的立场和利益才能达成共识。</p>
<p>4）信仰-是一套完全自洽的逻辑体系。信仰没有立场，他们都觉得自己信的都是对的。</p>','2024-11-15 05:54:58.68','2024-12-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('688b8fbd-ae25-4524-b894-155932ae1ed2','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>否决自我需要是一种温水煮青蛙的概念，</p>
<p>一开始以谦卑的名义出发，直到后的自卑还有压迫。</p>
<p>终究会爆发自我不好，怀疑的感觉</p>','2024-11-15 09:05:02.065','2024-11-15 09:05:02.065',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 09:05:02.064',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2157eb3-b328-452b-bf2f-dffe175714ae','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','59926472-a7df-4e83-b8b7-27f37f6867d7','<p>史蒂芬 柯維用他的一生影響身邊的人，以身作則，表里如一的體驗在他的生活和工作上。以原則為中心言出必行，言傳身教。</p>
<p>領導力就是清晣地指出別人的價值和潛力，使對方受到鼓舞從而有所意識。</p>','2024-11-15 09:39:47.668','2024-11-15 09:39:47.668',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 09:39:47.667',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a7b4b52-97f3-4480-b4cc-0bab965e9ae5','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day15：11月 15日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第四章 ： 倾听自己和他人（Page093-097）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">多聆听自己的心，自己跟自己和解。才有能力去聆听他人。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">人生只活一次，好好去爱自己。</span></p>','2024-11-15 10:07:48.124','2024-11-15 10:07:48.124',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 10:07:48.123',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('027ffb1f-a56e-42a4-9cb9-3be3b26300ed','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>别担心自己的需要成为别人的负担。答应了朋友的约会，但到时又不想赴约，就要推敲自己有什么感受和需要。然后打电话给对方了解对方的需要。如果可以达成双赢，那是最完美的了。</p>
<p>善用&rdquo;请&rdquo;和&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;。当把对方的无礼转译成&ldquo;请&rdquo;，和&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;，心中的感觉就好多了。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-15 03:01:29.911','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d548c542-86d0-415c-a974-8339738a4a0f','4ada9766-bfed-44de-81fe-34da82349db3','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>「为什么」是黄金三问(Why、What、How)里最有力最、最有可能触及灵魂的问题，但也是最危险的问题。在大多数情况下，「为什么」这三个字后面跟着的观点，就没有那么「显然」了。</p>
<p>狡猾的人，用这句型注射别人。愚蠢的人，欲用这个句型注射自己。</p>
<p>「为什么+观点」，是一支危险的「注射器」。了解了这支「注射器」才能避免别人注射，也避免自己被注射。</p>','2024-11-15 07:37:15.268','2024-12-08 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('209a4954-7128-4f8e-8c04-29459dbb9b70','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>正视自己内心的需要，不为他人的活或者以他人所做出的批判标准去认为应该要这样做。两夫妻之间应该存在可以表达自己内心想法的空间，相互谅解地配合而不是迎合。</p>','2024-11-15 11:44:32.792','2024-11-15 11:44:32.792',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 11:44:32.791',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a0598482-c68b-4feb-b0b3-b0206dcd5623','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>在我人生裡，尋找我自己真正需要的，然後去滿足他，對我來講是一個非常重要的課題。</p>
<p>但這幾年我慢慢發現我們人類幾億年來說發展出的一些生存天性會讓我去做一些，我其實知道不應該做卻難以克制的事情。這種事情做了馬上後悔。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>這就是所謂的本性難移吧。</p>','2024-11-15 13:24:11.067','2024-11-15 13:24:11.067',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 13:24:11.066',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cb1e3359-fda2-40d6-b9be-737f44637f21','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>每天聆听自己的心声，可以了解自己、接受自己、承认自己、爱护自己，才能发挥自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>吸引力法则&mdash;懂得爱自己的心，人家才会懂得爱你。</p>','2024-11-15 13:30:53.707','2024-11-15 13:30:53.707',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 13:30:53.706',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11b7827d-a43f-48d0-93d7-cb874135b0c5','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>倾听自己和他人的需要是必须的。自我对话，针对信念去同理自己。否认了自我需要，反而会因而产生怨气。</p>','2024-11-15 13:42:35.357','2024-11-15 13:42:35.357',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 13:42:35.356',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a418179e-77c7-4c56-b137-c2689ce0101d','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>倾听自己和他人</p>
<p>-与自己对话时，可以充满慈悲，也可以充满批判</p>
<p>-内心话反映&ldquo;想法&rdquo;，&rdquo;想法&rdquo;反映&ldquo;信念&rdquo;，&ldquo;信念&rdquo;主宰人生</p>
<p>否定自我需求，会产生更多的怨气</p>
<p>-承认我们的需要并不会让自己成为一个难搞的人</p>
<p>-&ldquo;否决自我需要&rdquo;会产生问题，&ldquo;以暴力对待自己</p>','2024-11-15 13:49:21.983','2024-11-15 13:49:21.983',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 13:49:21.981',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('749cd703-3177-4548-861f-db44556e3ef9','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>沒认清自己的感受和需要并对自己有同理心，会使自己过得不自在，并且也让自我的不平衡伤害他人，造成不协调的生活。</p>','2024-11-15 13:54:41.782','2024-11-15 13:54:41.782',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 13:54:41.781',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ccaba5a-e7ec-4f91-9a84-6c6ea42d7d37','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','bcc468e8-cdbd-4165-9224-c47216af9af6','<p>管理好情感银行。</p>
<p>时时保持积极主动，以终为开始，要事第一，双赢，知彼解己，统合综效，和不断更新。</p>
<p>表里如一，跟重要的人保持好关系，提早做计划。</p>','2024-11-15 14:01:36.456','2024-11-15 14:01:36.456',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 14:01:36.455',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5a0b83c9-b789-41fe-a6b0-cddd806268f2','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>今天和伙伴对话，很坦白说出我的感受，再和他分析整个事情，感恩他接受了我的建议。</p>','2024-11-15 14:14:09.284','2024-11-15 14:14:09.284',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 14:14:09.283',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6d582b03-bf47-4bc2-ad9c-89bbaa5a6af9','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>倾听自己，同理自己，先处理自己才能全心的聆听对方</p>','2024-11-15 14:16:01.897','2024-11-15 14:16:01.897',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 14:16:01.896',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9565989a-d26b-413c-87da-c9c1db4a5b0d','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>只有真正的了解自己，清楚自己的需要和感受， 才能有富足快乐的心做每一件事。</p>','2024-11-15 14:16:23.139','2024-11-15 14:16:23.139',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 14:16:23.138',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('87090ad3-bcda-46a3-9965-e21d26adbcff','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>女性的天生&ldquo;奉献&rdquo;病，源自于注重感受而不是需要，往往为了满足他人而迷失了自己。</p>
<p>相对的，男人当机立断不婆妈，源自于清楚自己的需求，而不太在乎对自己感受。</p>','2024-11-15 15:00:34.626','2024-11-15 15:00:34.626',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:00:34.625',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ba056bd-f85c-46c9-ab26-bf441a809a0d','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">无论选择用慈悲或批判的方式与自己对话，都会对我们的人生造成极大的影响。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">因为我（内心）的话语反映了我的想法，我的想法反映了我的信念，而我的信念（尤其是那些潜意识的信念）主宰了我的人生。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">承认我们的需要并不会让自己成为一个难搞的人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以&rdquo;否定自我需求&rdquo;的方式过生活会产生一个问题，就是它会创造出一个&rdquo;以暴力对待自我&rdquo;的条件。这种暴力不只会伤害到自己，也可能伤害到他人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">因为害怕别人的感受或别人的期待，最后可能会把怨气发泄在别人身上，因为需求没有得到满足。</span></p>','2024-11-15 15:07:28.577','2024-11-15 15:07:28.577',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:07:28.576',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a53f9ae-9256-4688-915a-9006522bde3d','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>这篇击中我了。</p>
<p>我常相信好的沟通是懂得倾听别人，却忘了倾听自己的需求。我也一样，只能感觉到感受而不是需求。有什么状况就是先批判。</p>
<p>否定自我需要，会产生很多怨气。</p>','2024-11-15 15:35:56.072','2024-11-15 15:35:56.072',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:35:56.071',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('25571fcd-8451-4205-9957-dc1aa578fd0b','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>学习倾听内心真正的感受和需要。<br>内心反映了我的想法，想法反映了我的信念，而信念主宰我的人生。<br>否定自我需要，会产生更多怨气。</p>','2024-11-15 15:44:07.137','2024-11-15 15:44:07.137',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:44:07.136',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b23cb345-8586-4e4e-ad36-8cb130df12df','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>还是要看多一次还有很多东西还是领悟不到</p>','2024-11-15 15:54:10.051','2024-11-15 15:54:10.051',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:54:10.05',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f978e38-d904-4c4b-9f29-5df7d8f19316','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>转译他人的说辞，当成他们正在「请求」, 就是我们可以选择用什么方式去理解与接受。通俗的意思让自己舒服些、感受好些。善用「请」和「谢谢」。</p>','2024-11-15 12:18:46.054','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8481fac1-9c2b-4c4f-9f06-945107f1b027','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>生活中用请和谢谢， 让大家听了都舒服。</p>','2024-11-17 16:00:34.822','2024-11-17 16:00:34.822',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 16:00:34.821',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b4ceda6-2315-4337-95fa-7086712f3ba3','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>时刻有自觉的去察觉自己的情绪，包括愤怒。。深呼吸。。。先和自己连接，去同理自己后，才能好好和对方沟通。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 14:30:04.3','2024-11-20 14:30:04.3',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:30:04.299',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fe3441e-3ece-4fd3-8002-b976d48ded12','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>-心不在焉的聆听是一种暴力。</p>
<p>-去聆听某人话语背后隐藏的感受和需要。</p>','2024-11-22 13:41:51.244','2024-11-22 13:41:51.244',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 13:41:51.243',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9960929-e155-47dc-b6e4-263a2731e53f','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 61 &nbsp;11月15日 (星期五） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>😇389页 &ndash; 392页<br>&nbsp;<br>读后感悟 ：</p>
<p><br>史蒂芬柯维和7个习惯影响和激励许多人。我希望我也是一个成功的例子。虽然我还在努力地了解和实践7个习惯。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>"积极主动"是七习惯的开始，也深深影响了我的思维方式。赞同 人是不应从环境、身边的人里为困难或问题找借口，抑或推卸责任。正确做法应该是"顺其自然"或"换种回应方式"。</p>
<p><br>"领导力" 是清晰地指出別人的价值和潜力，使对方受到鼓舞从而有所意识。从这定义，发现自己非常缺乏"领导力"。还需要下更多的功夫。</p>
<p><br>🌹让我们一起在《7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯》里培养杰出的自己！</p>','2024-11-15 15:47:52.229','2024-11-15 15:47:52.229',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:47:52.228',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('69f116e0-0f92-4fa7-a6ee-e2c3ea4b6e7d','86b3fb6f-0ecf-4e5f-b876-3523efe113eb','0e562b75-3f9f-4c9f-bbda-b896493a717b','<p dir="ltr">Day 61&nbsp; 11月15日 (星期五） 📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">😇389页 &ndash; 392页</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">读后感悟 ：</p>
<p dir="ltr">与其吐槽别人的不是，不如想想自己可以如何影响对方。</p>
<p dir="ltr">领导力就是清晰的指出别人的价值和潜力，使对方受到鼓舞从而有所意识。</p>','2024-11-15 15:48:23.473','2024-11-15 15:48:23.473',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:48:23.472',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('574f2ce0-bc00-40c6-af7c-2a8281635e1e','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day15：11月 15日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>第四章 ： 倾听自己和他人（Page093-097）</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>与自己对话时，可以是批判，可以是慈悲，无论哪一种，都是自己内心的想法、信念，也影响及主宰自己的人生。</p>
<p>承认自己的需要不会让自己成为一个难搞的人。</p>','2024-11-15 15:48:41.569','2024-11-15 15:48:41.569',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:48:41.568',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1746151-c36f-4990-be92-dc608571ac08','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>想清楚&amp;连接自己的感受想法，</p>','2024-11-15 15:51:10.296','2024-11-15 15:51:10.296',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:51:10.295',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c664fc7-1edf-4974-a2fe-702cd099cb75','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>除了倾听他人， 也要听听自己的需要， 接受， 面对自己。</p>','2024-11-15 15:50:50.967','2024-11-15 15:51:26.545',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 15:51:26.544',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('395686f5-af7a-46e4-a6dd-260849336421','cd0a346b-05cd-4f96-a9c9-05fe5ef70aec','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>倾听内心的声音，它反映了自己的想法与信念，尤其是潜意识的信念，这些信念主宰了人生。学会同理自己的信念，并以具体行动修习「不说谎」和「正语」。</p>','2024-11-15 15:59:19.637','2024-11-15 16:00:17.475',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 16:00:17.474',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('36403057-6b85-4f74-a3eb-5ac4d61d811b','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','069c59cc-12d1-4b10-aabf-cabe5bfceaaf','<p>深刻的是核心与原则</p>
<p>自己的人格发展</p>
<p>7习惯的整体统合综效</p>
<p>时间与自我管理</p>
<p>平衡的不断更新的：生命的更新与有利于建立人际关系，转型者</p>','2024-11-15 22:44:16.036','2024-11-15 22:44:24.07',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-15 22:44:24.069',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f435d0fd-c37b-4fe5-8f2f-c42790168903','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','43e1cf80-39a6-4b94-9bd5-5b7fbf1b387f','<p>1） 我有中文和英文版的7習慣。當初決定要進入這本書，就為了準備用來實踐。</p>
<p>這次讀書會開啟這本書，對我來說，這是開端，開始了我的7習慣之旅，而這次的閱讀只是開始，我明白我會重讀幾次，然後拿著書裡的一些列表來實踐。</p>
<p>這本書，到最後讀完了，給了我一個深刻的感動，就是，作者的7習慣裡，不斷地提醒着一個很重要的概念，作者用來良知和原則，來引導大家走向正面和正念。</p>
<p>人不管做了什麼，成就了什麼，本念之善不能沒有，純粹和初心不能失去。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2） 讀書會是一個讓我有紀律讀書的一個最佳夥伴。</p>','2024-09-28 14:54:24.34','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce350156-994a-4844-814c-5073db5f236f','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「改變不等於屈服，對所有的請求都來者不拒才叫做屈服；改變是傾聽對方的需要，再做出能滿足彼此需要的決定。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-13 03:09:08.848','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5c0cb4c3-2ffe-455e-85f3-8eba674a8183','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>这本书让我收获的是&ldquo;要事第一&rdquo;，让我清楚看见事务的分配，而要勇于拒绝第三第四象限。更加要把精力放在&ldquo;重要不紧急&rdquo;事项里头，因为它是&ldquo;产能&rdquo;的源头。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>读书会很棒的地方就是让我可以在限定时间内，自律的完成阅读一本书。然后写下摘要</p>','2024-11-13 23:33:57.868','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('123fa95d-9e09-40b8-8551-089952a1b82d','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>创造了鸭鸭指数，是作者来指定一个具体策略来帮助自己学习和做到沟通的事情。而不是盲目屈服，对所有的请求者来者不拒。反而更有谈判空间，倾听对方和自己的需要，再做出能满足彼此需要的决定。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-16 15:30:30.868','2024-11-16 15:31:11.529',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:31:11.528',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c6d5bcd4-0a35-4ed4-90b6-0b0e3a067ac3','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>满足彼此的需要，和用良善的话语沟通，能促进关系。</p>','2024-11-16 10:34:38.186','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec34e027-b213-4deb-8c62-1be5a2c160f1','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>同事已经叫我帮她按摩好几次．但是我自己也很忙，虽然她说她只信任我，她也用她的需要让我把分数往上加，可是真的鸭鸭指数達不到理想分数。</p>
<p>今天还是拒绝了她。</p>','2024-11-08 07:42:40.142','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('157aecad-5bf9-4bd0-93a2-dbe7c469f579','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day18：11月 18日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>对话练习（Page107-108）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>善用&ldquo;鸭鸭&rdquo;标准，以及&ldquo;请&rdquo;和&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;进行非暴力沟通。</p>','2024-11-18 15:37:47.929','2024-11-18 15:37:47.929',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:37:47.928',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6657ac07-84aa-4b48-8419-676237f9f6a8','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','2cb3cebd-6aa8-4a92-bef8-64f85903e6dd','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day 62&nbsp; 11月16日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">👉🏻 大家可参考以下作为总结的一个方向</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">1）总的来说，或者印象 *最深刻的细节/事情是什么* ？要事第一Q2，习惯五情感账户</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">2）读书会对你的影响？从内而外和思维的改变</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">📚 *核心感悟*&nbsp;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">拟定生活的目标和意义（习惯二）坚定的生活重心，活出真实的自己。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">个人使命宣言</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">专注Q2，要事第一（习惯三）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">公众领域成功</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯四双赢思维</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯五建立关系与情感账户</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯六统合综效大于2</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">习惯七不断更新，螺旋式上升的学习。</span></p>
<p class="p1">很感恩柯维的教导❤️</p>
<p class="p1">很感恩Rina设立这阅读系统❤️</p>','2024-11-14 13:10:14.847','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c8da6f0f-8a6b-4008-9fe7-0c2ee781e9e9','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>如果我理解对方的需要而愿意改变，去满足对方，那么我的【鸭鸭指数】就可以往上加。改变，是试图去满足双方的需要，不是单一方 的需要。保持开放的心去看待彼此的需要。那么一份请求就有不同的可能性。</p>
<p>提醒自己：请求是没有预设的定论，请求是开放的。而要求是已经有预设的定论。</p>','2024-11-14 13:26:03.639','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bea3cdc9-b8d9-45ab-8ff3-1340d5608dcc','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>鸭鸭指数是以一到十分来表示。我决定我的指数不到六分，我就不会去做。但是，我还可以有谈判的空间。倾听对方的需求，再做出能满足彼此的改变。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-15 02:15:41.411','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24988acc-8f1a-4079-ae8f-742921148e8f','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>In conclusion 就是不说谎，诚实的对待自己的需要而向对方坦白，然后以开放在态度去沟通和满足双方需要。</p>
<p>很多时候在沟通交流时，我们都会犯一个错误，就是总会不自觉的把自己的想法套在他人身上然后自己做了很多的assumptions.</p>
<p>通过同理和诚实面对自我需要去交流，才会达到有效的非暴力沟通，原来我的沟通真的很有问题。😅😅</p>','2024-11-15 05:09:34.182','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d8ab383-9408-44ae-af0f-a626357ecf7e','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>改变是一个「试图满足双方需要」的过程。几种策略可以满足一个特定的需要。借由「鸭鸭指数」评鉴自我需要，自我同理后表达自己的需要，同时亦同理对方。</p>','2024-11-15 12:10:52.128','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59cbb9d6-55e3-4ebe-9577-cd660c91b940','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>當我們不想做別人請我們做的事，並不意味沒有談判的空間，而是我們可以做些改变，改變傾聽對方的需要，再做出能滿足彼此的决定。</p>
<p>要勇于表達自己的需求，「 請求」 是意味我們願意以開放的態度去看待整個溝通的各種結果。</p>','2024-11-15 14:38:27.958','2024-11-16 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015','2024-11-16 00:00:00.015',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ac9f3f4-5414-4c2e-a95c-c46f51bacb36','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>這個方法非常有用。用啞啞指數跟我女兒討論了一個月之後他終於願意跟我去台灣找我爸媽。</p>
<p>父女壯遊終於可以成行！</p>','2024-11-16 00:07:51.516','2024-11-16 00:07:51.516',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 00:07:51.516',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8c1b13c-5c62-4aeb-9eeb-d38235ba3776','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>改變是傾听對方的需要，再做出能滿足彼此需要的決定。</p>
<p>「要求」意味著你對結果已經有了定論。</p>
<p>「請求」則意味著你願意以开放的態度，去看待這段溝通的可能產生的各種結果。</p>
<p>要勇於表達自身的需要。</p>','2024-11-16 01:14:01.864','2024-11-16 01:14:01.864',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 01:14:01.863',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f3eec6f-853b-4e5e-afa3-2501ec415729','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>改变，是为了试图去满足双方的需要而做。保持开放的心去看待彼此的需要。请求是开放的,所以就有不同的可能性,因为它是<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">没有预设的定论。而要求是已经有预设的定论。</span></p>','2024-11-16 01:58:38.177','2024-11-16 01:58:38.177',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 01:58:38.176',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c5019d76-4445-4628-8fcc-ebdd4cb98b2c','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>满足自我需求的策略（计划/节目）经过时间和外在因素的影响可能会改变，这个时候必须应用同理，尤其是同理伙伴和对方的需求，再做出调整，&ldquo;鸭鸭指数&rdquo;可以通过大家的体谅和讨论得到提升。</p>
<p>每每与太太和两个孩子讨论怎么度过周末的时候，都会有如此的经历。</p>','2024-11-16 04:31:48.481','2024-11-16 04:32:20.107',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 04:32:20.106',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1571b438-0e31-45f4-99ed-190fc136b69a','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>我认为鸭鸭指数是一个不错的工具，但测量日常的决定。从鸭鸭指数了解自己的需要有没有达到，再通过开放与良好沟通来决定。</p>','2024-11-16 07:43:53.271','2024-11-16 07:43:53.271',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 07:43:53.27',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8a26fdfc-df98-4d7b-a10d-4cd308acbd22','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>协助评鉴自我需求的&ldquo;鸭鸭指数&rdquo;</p>
<p>-改变不等于屈服，对所有的请求都来者不拒才叫做屈服；改变是倾听对方的需要，再做出能满足彼此需要的决定。</p>
<p>-要勇于表达自身的需要</p>','2024-11-16 08:52:55.426','2024-11-16 08:52:55.426',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 08:52:55.425',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8483ca7a-f132-4c9b-9a38-3d6bfd7056aa','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','3d9c1be4-dac8-482e-8867-e3ba75f3a884','<p>高效七个习惯 ：</p>
<p>1）be proactive （记得，你有第三个选择），直接反应是最不理智的。</p>
<p>2）以终为始 ： 应该以願景、价值观以及原则为甚楚，价值观是讲自己内心深处的想法，原则是讲社会條规及观感。</p>
<p>3）要事第一 ：把事情分为四类 ，重要、不重要、紧急、不紧急。开始实行时，一定会乱七八糟的，所以，需要有好的planning，然后，记得be proactive 及以终为始的的观念，把它们融合使用。</p>
<p>4）winwin situation ：不能只有自己得益，对方也应该得益，这是一个很重要的谈判合作的技巧。</p>
<p>5）知彼解己 ：开始也不知道舍意思，读了之后，应该是说，当一个问题出现，应该要看问题的起因，不是看问题的结果。</p>
<p>6）统合踪效 ：Synangise ，把各个环节整合发挥高效化。</p>
<p>7）continual improvement ： refer回那图表，本人很喜欢，也非常认同！</p>
<p>总的来说，可能在我们的日常生活中，其实也有practise着当中的一些习惯，但读了此书之后，心里更有條理的分析及了解自己是处于什么状态。</p>
<p>另外，自律性不强，又想要有思想上的进步，参加读书会是一个好的选择。</p>','2024-11-16 09:36:04.754','2024-11-16 09:36:04.754',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 09:36:04.752',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a0bff9a-1dc8-417c-8344-994603f5814b','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','f19a0a29-719b-4ff0-9462-5c18dd598629','<p>参加这个读书会以来，我有机会整理关于双赢的思考。我以前一直搞不明白为什么双赢这么好，这个道理这么浅白又人人都懂，那为什么在现实中，双赢却那么难？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我想，最大的问题是出在我们不能&ldquo;放弃&rdquo;。双赢的秘诀是如果不能，那就干脆不交易。但是现实生活却不是如此。员工有家庭负担所以不能随便放弃工作，虽然老板是虐待狂；妻子顾虑孩子，所以只得对丈夫出轨行为睁只眼闭只眼；财团垄断市场所以可以任意宰割客户。。。等等。弱势的那一方都不能从这段不平等的关系中抽离。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>但是更多时候，我们不能双赢不是因为任何客观事实，而是自己的主观限制。"我是受害着"，"我不能"，这种想法就已经圈地划界，把你的想象力局限在一个小空间。要打破这种旧有观念，就是清楚知道&ldquo;我的人生我负责&rdquo;（习惯一），&ldquo;以终为始&rdquo;（习惯二）。我要80岁的我怎么劝告现在的我？那时的我还会在乎别人的眼光吗？还是遗憾人生没有真正活过，因为不敢追求自己的梦想，因为&ldquo;都是别人的错&rdquo;，因为太在乎失去。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>所以，你干嘛在乎别人怎么想？YOLO!You only live once!</p>','2024-11-16 09:36:35.099','2024-11-16 09:36:35.099',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 09:36:35.098',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3383249f-5c66-4aa2-bbec-2c8d5a483083','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>话语的力量足以改变世界。很喜欢这说法，我们说的话会成为留给后辈的一部分遗产。</p>
<p>如果我们能诚实和友善地与他人连接，世界会很和平。</p>','2024-11-16 12:51:06.619','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90307adb-8920-4aa3-8995-cabfc8b0ca16','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day16：11月16 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">协助评鉴自我需要的【鸭鸭指数】（Page098-103）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通看似简单，但是是要付合双方的需要。用错策略，须要更大努力去修补关系。尽管提高duck index </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">彼此都要勇于表达自己的需要，关系才能更好。</span></p>','2024-11-16 10:46:11.979','2024-11-16 10:46:11.979',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 10:46:11.978',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d8e6ab02-48ae-47d7-98c9-638d84deca4f','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>清楚知道明白和勇于表达接受自己的需要 （指数）；</p>
<p>改变是试图满足双方需要的过程， 不是屈服。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-16 11:38:36.353','2024-11-16 11:38:36.353',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 11:38:36.352',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a05aa947-e65f-46a1-833b-cc638b42251b','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>鸭鸭指数可以给自己足够的时间来自我对话，整理自己的思绪，了解自己和对方。这可以让双方都产生双赢的局面。</p>','2024-11-16 13:34:54.485','2024-11-16 13:34:54.485',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 13:34:54.484',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c063ecf8-f7aa-4490-b2cc-450e12f955a3','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<div>*练习给于同理*</div>
<div>愿意用心聆听对方的处境，并且给于关怀及了解，建立一个连结和有机会继续协谈的机会。</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>*练习提出请求*</div>
<div>这样才有机会向对方开始诚意的提出自己能力范围可以做到的请求，并且希望两方面都可以和谐达成共识。</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>目前的结果即将会在下个星期完成。希望一切顺利。</div>
<div>如果还是无法达成共识，那也不可以放弃，要重新再改善4个沟通方式的步骤了。</div>','2024-11-16 14:02:13.13','2024-11-16 14:02:13.13',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 14:02:13.129',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2bc90a34-6bb3-465d-a0e9-38b26d37daac','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>1.不強迫自己做很不想做的事。</p>
<p>2.与对方找出能让彼此满足的策略。</p>
<p>3.顾虑双方感受。</p>
<p>4.以请求的方式沟通。</p>','2024-11-16 14:04:34.636','2024-11-16 14:04:34.636',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 14:04:34.635',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ae33ec4-c646-4d63-a9a5-a613230e337b','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>如果我不想做别人的需求，建议有谈判的空间。做一些改变，去倾听他人的需求，再做出彼此需要的决定。</p>
<p>改变不是屈服。</p>
<p>也别担心自己的需要会成为别人的负担。这样会造成2个后果：</p>
<ol>
<li>断了别人满足我的需求</li>
<li>把请求和要求混淆我- 请求是以开放式的态度看待结果，而要求是对结果下了定论，达不到就产生不好的后果</li>
</ol>
<p>要勇于表达需要。</p>
<p>可以以鸭鸭指数处理日常简单的决定。</p>','2024-11-16 15:13:56.964','2024-11-16 15:14:05.654',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:14:05.653',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cf105b16-220a-4f35-a703-fb046152c3b9','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>改变不等于屈服，accept 所有的请求才是。</p>
<p>引爆冲突的是策略，不是需要</p>','2024-11-16 15:37:07.783','2024-11-16 15:37:07.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:37:07.782',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b51b9868-9b2f-4192-b848-f5f69a9f9bf9','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>鸭鸭指数是一个很好的方案，可以给自己足够的空间自我对话，整理思绪，甚至做到知己知彼，百战不殆。双方取得双赢的局面几率会提高。</p>','2024-11-16 15:41:50.593','2024-11-16 15:41:50.593',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:41:50.592',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ccb88b4-4bd1-4bdb-a757-9d8612f80554','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">鸭鸭指数 duck index可以帮助没有意识到自己需要的人来帮助自己学习和做到这件事。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以一到十分来决定自己想做的事。也可以设定需要达到一定的分数才去做，低过一些分数就不做。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">无法在鸭鸭指数上得到高分，并不代表这件事没有了谈判空间，我们还是可以做出一些改变。改变不等于屈服，对所有的请求都来者不拒才叫做屈服；改变是倾听对方的需要，再做出能满足彼此需要的决定。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">以下是一些有用的对话：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">你可以用你的需要让我把分数往上加。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">我愿意做出改变，让他和我的需要同时得到满足。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">满足我的需要固然是首要之务，但我绝对不能以此牺牲你的需要。</span></li>
</ul>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">策略是满足需要的方法，引爆冲突的永远不会是需要，都是策略。无论在什么时候，你都可以用许多策略去满足任何一个特定的需要。但如果我们执着于只能用某种策略去满足某个需要，一旦那个策略无法奏效，我们就会觉得很难受。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">看电影看似需要，但它其实只是满足需要的一种策略。当问了对方看电影是想要满足什么样的需要时，对方答了他只是想要找点乐子和相互陪伴。听到需要后，鸭鸭指数就从3分提升到5分，感觉也产生了一些转变。在讨论了几次后，分数还停留在5分，所以也不打算逼迫自己看电影。于是他们转而去讨论一种能满足需要的策略。最终还是在那个夜晚共度了欢乐的时光。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我和一班朋友在决定生日聚会时，大家得不到一个日期，我表达了我了我的情况，我朋友也同理我的情况再一起讨论另一些时间，最后锁定了一个时间。</span></p>','2024-11-16 15:32:19.687','2024-11-16 15:32:19.687',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:32:19.685',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ae38ea6f-4484-4e85-abc3-7cc80a78e57c','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day16：11月16 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>协助评鉴自我需要的【鸭鸭指数】（Page098-103）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>改变不等于屈服，来者不拒才叫屈服。改变是倾听对方的需要，再做出满足彼此需要的决定。</p>
<p>［策略］和［需要］的区别。</p>
<p>很多时候，我们都不愿意表达自己的需要，因为怕&ldquo;需要&rdquo;会成为别人的负担。</p>','2024-11-16 15:39:38.761','2024-11-16 15:39:38.761',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 15:39:38.76',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab98125e-3222-4c0f-87a9-da2cae98376f','ce431aca-85c6-44ca-b476-cc4920c4db7c','93f7feca-2e7e-486e-bdb3-b3decc1e2f3d','<p>Day 62 &nbsp;11月16日 (星期六）📚《 7 Habits 高效能人士的7个习惯 》&nbsp;<br>👉🏻 大家可参考以下作为总结的一个方向<br>&nbsp;<br>1）总的来说，或者印象 *最深刻的细节/事情是什么* ？<br>2）读书会对你的影响？<br>&nbsp;<br>由内而外， paradigm shift,&nbsp;"积极主动"</p>
<p>非常有影响力的书。会继续重复阅读， 了解7个习惯。在生活中实践。</p>
<p><br>📚 *核心感悟*&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-16 15:59:01.338','2024-11-16 16:00:03.532',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 16:00:03.531',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba548e84-6e62-4260-9f33-0869b9643c8e','08a95bee-301c-4be3-8cbe-e5c080e8b199','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>顾及他人，而忽略自己的需求。为重新了解自己，我每天反思当下的需要，并试着给予自我同理。然而，这让我在愉快与愤怒间不断摆荡，时而怨气满怀，时而过度压抑。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-16 16:00:49.579','2024-11-16 16:00:49.579',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 16:00:49.578',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('17a4a8f5-4141-4845-8d8c-55e6fcb766fc','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>作者的想法不是非常準確。我常常說別人會開心的話，是因為想讓別人開心。</p>
<p>因為心存感恩，也是無時無刻的自我修煉。</p>','2024-11-16 23:55:43.824','2024-11-16 23:55:43.824',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-16 23:55:43.821',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('249d8639-89ae-426e-9095-7885edb27568','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day17</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span><span lang="EN-MY">17&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">善用【请】和【谢谢】（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page103-106</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟： Please</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">能把別人對你說的話都當成是一種請求 ：Please or Thank you ，也是一種傾聽自我內心聲音的新方法。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">憑著自身意念去選擇要對外在事物做出反應的能力，並選擇把別人的話當成『請了解我...... 』或『謝謝您滿足我的需要... 』，此時我們已經設法將彼此連結起來。</span></p>','2024-11-14 11:46:46.363','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e6224d59-f1b4-4d3c-93e2-2d05af512d38','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>多用「 請」 和「 謝謝」 來和对方連結，可以表自己心中真正的意願，也能讓對方感到滿足，能感受對方也能感受自己，長智慧了。</p>','2024-11-16 04:44:15.724','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f09b489d-16d5-48e5-85bd-129051cdb930','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>理解他人对自己的话语，取决于自己的心态。</p>
<p>把别人的话语转换为【请】会激发同理心。</p>
<p>当他人表达对自己的感谢时，把他人的表达当作是他人自我的需求得到了满足。</p>','2024-11-16 10:32:36.794','2024-11-17 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019','2024-11-17 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf4e9072-9ac2-46f2-a754-6469d9b9be0d','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>对话练习：</p>
<p>-多用鸭鸭指数</p>
<p>-善用&ldquo;请&rdquo;和&rdquo;谢谢&rdquo;</p>','2024-11-18 12:18:49.296','2024-11-18 12:18:49.296',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 12:18:49.295',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15cc7fc6-86e2-4944-98ae-0ebe94cba7b7','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们不能控制别人说什么，但却能把别人所说的话翻译为&rdquo;请求&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情况：在红灯停车时，不小心把车停得离斑马线有点近，一名正在过马路的男人对我大吼，说我是个愚蠢的驾驶。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">普通人：觉得这个男人的作为非常愚蠢和鲁莽。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">善于利用请的人：把愚蠢的驾驶翻译成请了解我的害怕，你就感受到他所感受的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情况：女儿在青春期和母亲的对话。&rdquo;妈，请不要做出傻瓜般的举动&rdquo;。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">普通人：对女儿的话觉得受伤害，或是纠正她的无礼。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">善于利用请的人：妈，请了解我有多在意朋友的眼光，我很害怕他们会议论我，我不想给他们任何借题发挥的机会。所以帮我一个忙，不要做出任何会吸引大众目光的突兀举动。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">美国心里学之父William James曾说&rdquo;对抗压力最强大的武器，就是拥有选择想法的能力。&rdquo;当我们选择把别人的话听成&rdquo;请了解我的痛苦&rdquo;，就有了设法将彼此连接起来的机会。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有些人听到谢谢都会不自在，因为凡事有好与坏，无法确保是否持续走在对的路上，这样的想法令人不安。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">情况：这顿饭我吃得很享受，太好吃了。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">善于利用谢谢的人：请了解在这顿饭中，我得到了很大的满足，谢谢你满足我的需要。我并不是其他人的快乐泉源。他们能感到满足是因为他们的需要被满足了，而不是因为我做了什么好或对的事。</span></p>','2024-11-17 05:20:24.465','2024-11-17 05:20:24.465',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 05:20:24.464',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('230db315-cacc-4d92-8086-54f2c42c235b','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>正视我们的自我需求，善用鸭鸭指数去作出决定和谈判：但要保持开放的态度，去聆听对方的需要，从而作出可接受的改变，以同时满足二人的需要。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>不需要担心自己的需要会成为别人的负担。善用请和谢谢，把对方说的话转换成是请求，或是对于我们满足了她的需求而说的谢谢</p>','2024-11-17 06:48:45.921','2024-11-17 06:48:45.921',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 06:48:45.92',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('703f2e0e-9346-49bb-9644-851e771ce8a4','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<div>善用 *请* 和 *謝謝*</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>比如：</div>
<div>为什么你总是遲到，大家都在等你，浪费大家的时间。</div>
<div>&nbsp;</div>
<div>改换成：</div>
<div>我们大家都很害怕及担心你路上有什么事情，请你让我们知道你的处境是平安的。</div>','2024-11-18 15:03:30.026','2024-11-18 15:03:30.026',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:03:30.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8bfd45e9-841b-432f-9171-729f4a63ab53','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>对抗压力最强大的武器，就是拥有选择想法的能力。</p>
<p>怎么选？用【请】和【谢谢】去改变我们对一件事的描述、需要和请求。把话说到重点上，说清楚自己的意图里。不批判、不指责。</p>','2024-11-17 07:20:42.132','2024-11-17 07:20:42.132',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 07:20:42.131',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ff385bf9-3e3f-4a3d-8eee-82aa6850ae00','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>明天朝会试试看用&ldquo;请&rdquo;字句表达。</p>
<p>今天是今年倒数最后3次的朝会，本来我想要像以往一样碎碎念，只是我正在读这本书，其中有一项练习，是要把一些生气的话，转成用&ldquo;请&rdquo;表达的句子。</p>
<p><br>请了解我们师长的担心，没有培养到你们对时间有意识，就像看着你们浪费自己的生命。所以我们必须立下一些条规协助你们。我想你们知道这一点我们的好意。</p>
<p>举一些具体例子</p>','2024-11-17 00:44:33.898','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c35aa00-114b-4df5-9efa-8453353706f3','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day18：11月 18日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对话练习（Page107-108）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">提高&rdquo;鸭鸭指数&rdquo;duck index ，不断看自己的需要，照顾好自己的心，才答应对方。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">把&rdquo;谢谢&rdquo;和&rdquo;请&rdquo;是magic word .. 关系都可以拉近。</span></p>','2024-11-18 15:26:52.682','2024-11-18 15:26:54.555',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:26:54.554',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82894ae7-130d-4437-b75e-ed368b07d06c','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>鸭鸭指数让自己有一个机会做选择和呼吸</p>
<p>练习：请了解我的尴尬，因为你在我面前对我的客户不友善，我觉得很难过，因为大家都是为了做好各自的事情让整件事情完整，但却没有办法好好说话。我很珍惜大家能够在一起做事情和把事情给做好做完，我想让你知道这一点。</p>','2024-11-18 15:30:11.03','2024-11-18 15:30:11.03',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:30:11.029',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ddf074e-d4bb-4ebb-b49b-46c441569033','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>在自己的环境中，练习鸭鸭指数</p>','2024-11-18 15:38:37.972','2024-11-18 15:38:37.972',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:38:37.971',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8e432428-07db-401d-b97d-d6c16b83501c','f1103464-11d4-4ec5-acb2-01d9a39c93b9','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>博弈无处不在，特别是当今竞争激烈的时代。</p>
<p>我们很需要懂博弈的智慧。</p>
<p>1.心态：共赢和感恩</p>
<p>2. 策略</p>','2024-11-18 15:52:28.042','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cfdd08f3-8fd4-4a49-9788-8cd0855b748e','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>用&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;与&ldquo;请求&rdquo;的角度来诠释他人对自己的言行举止，其实与&ldquo;爱心&rdquo;相似，同时应用高效能沟通的&ldquo;暂停&rdquo;，让头脑发挥积极的能量，都可以逢凶化吉。</p>','2024-11-17 09:20:44.945','2024-11-17 09:21:07.692',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 09:21:07.691',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15b7e4eb-7f9a-4c99-aab6-fd4ed55bac97','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>主动积极， 我们有选择想法的能力！</p>
<p>他人对我们的称赞/道谢,是因为需要被满足。</p>','2024-11-17 09:33:55.207','2024-11-17 09:33:55.207',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 09:33:55.206',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('860f3bae-036c-4f5e-a86e-26df2aee6f82','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>善用&ldquo;请&rdquo;和&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;</p>
<p>-把任何人对你说的的一切，都转译成是用&ldquo;请&rdquo;或&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;所表达的句子。</p>','2024-11-17 11:57:25.018','2024-11-17 11:57:25.018',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 11:57:25.017',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f199251b-7f28-4b77-a2b4-dfa0b1e4f781','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>从对方的行为中看到其感受与心理，容易接纳其不是，并且自己内心也会舒坦。这是好棒的心里学。</p>','2024-11-17 12:27:44.44','2024-11-17 12:27:44.44',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 12:27:44.439',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d7f66c01-3156-4ee5-9b58-e712f3f378ed','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>我想适当的愤怒是可以允许发生的，毕竟那也是情绪的一种。</p>','2024-11-20 14:42:10.725','2024-11-20 14:42:10.725',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:42:10.724',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('885ab54d-7c77-43c9-8614-de1be9207f90','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>请 和 谢谢&nbsp;</p>
<p>这两个词汇能够有能力把彼此的连结搭建一起</p>
<p>成为同理心或能共情</p>','2024-11-17 13:43:30.633','2024-11-17 13:43:30.633',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 13:43:30.632',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e22e67fe-6717-4213-b629-b763dc733858','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>把他人的要求当着请求，可以了解深一层的讯息。当得到别人的稱赞，也可以解释为道谢而不给压力。</p>','2024-11-17 13:52:24.455','2024-11-17 13:52:24.455',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 13:52:24.454',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1f6a41f9-de1d-4b8c-8f9a-f22a9ff69ca5','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>請了解我的担憂，因為不曉得這件事的前因后果，不能正確下判断，謝謝你願意為我清楚解說。&nbsp; 最近開始以「 請」 和「 謝謝」與人相處，覺得在溝通上越來越好。</p>','2024-11-17 10:56:42.331','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c903a50-ce7e-48b0-b339-016482586cff','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>鸭鸭指数不失为一个不错的自我需要评鉴</p>','2024-11-18 15:18:36.144','2024-11-18 15:18:36.144',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:18:36.143',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b2ae7ba-e71e-42ed-b5cf-b5276f46b5f7','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>对话练习<br>1.duck index ( 决定的能力）<br>～比如今天想吃什么，想买什么，给出duck index&nbsp;<br>～如果有人请求帮忙，duck index得分不高, 我们可以说</p>
<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; " 这件事。。duck index不高。。可是你可以用你的需要，让我把分数往上加"</p>
<p>得到理想分数才答应。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>2.善用［请］和］谢谢］<br>～留意［谢谢］，请对方说明什么原因说［谢谢］<br>～把自己说过的气话转译成用［请］<br>气话：为什么你老是迟到<br>转译：请了解我的害怕，没有在约定的时间回家，也没有打电话报平安，我很难过，因为我在乎你，担心你人身安全，我想让你知道这一点</p>','2024-11-18 13:26:07.926','2024-11-18 13:26:26.314',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 13:26:26.313',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac9bc8e2-d209-49df-9a1d-3ef89e16558b','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>我們說的話很重要」不僅僅是因為話語會立即改變我們此刻的關係</p>','2024-11-19 00:09:52.02','2024-11-19 00:21:17.713',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 00:21:17.712',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4c3018b7-2951-4c83-a3e2-035af6443c4f','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>18.11.24&nbsp;</p>
<p>1.关注双赢。</p>
<p>2.得弄清別人何故致谢。</p>
<p>3.说出内心的真正感受如心理。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>19.11.24</p>
<p>&ldquo;靈性對話者會尊重世上每個人都享有尊嚴和自由,並以不傷害彼此生活、情誼或文化的相互溝通。&rdquo;</p>
<p>这句话太棒了，如每个人都有这种思想，世界就和平，家庭就和睦。</p>','2024-11-19 14:03:41.971','2024-11-19 14:31:57.555',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 14:31:57.554',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89148028-634a-4bd9-95cc-b16bbe302e14','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>另一种负面情绪的升起是来自，将&ldquo;敌人&rdquo;投射到自己或他人身上。投射，只不过是脑袋里的剧场。也像是带上滤镜看待某一件事、人或自己。这也让自己和自己真实的感受失去连结。</p>
<p>投射的&rdquo;材料&ldquo;是过去的负面经验、负面评价或评判的一个延申。放下这份敌意或标签，才能看见评判背后的需要。</p>','2024-11-17 13:33:01.755','2024-11-21 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('afe4b03f-31de-4f1a-b897-25d50e91dbaa','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>灵性对话就是说真心话，同时真诚去感受对方隐蔽的需求，来达到真实的连结。</p>','2024-11-22 15:24:23.598','2024-11-22 15:24:25.991',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 15:24:25.991',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('58c21a77-23e8-40ad-9b90-e715c5387cc8','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>學習處理怒火，靜默地進行自我同理。</p>
<p>放下敵人形象，给予他同理心。</p>
<p>同一件事，一説再説的不耐煩，可能是哪些需要没有被滿足，给予充分地進行自我同理。</p>','2024-11-23 13:38:21.94','2024-11-23 13:38:21.94',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 13:38:21.939',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47da1cf7-0219-4ab8-96b7-12f01227deac','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>要学习处理愤怒情绪，放下敌人形象，因为人生最大的敌人是自己。眼前看到的那个敌人，其实就是心里的投影～自己</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>态度主宰事情的成败率</p>
<p>情绪主宰心灵的丰盛度</p>','2024-11-23 14:53:50.232','2024-11-23 14:53:50.232',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 14:53:50.231',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ef808552-956f-4d5a-8fe5-c9961fc21c00','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day17：11月17 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>善用【请】和【谢谢】（Page103-106）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>&ldquo;请&rdquo;理解我的需要。</p>
<p>&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;你满足我的需要。</p>','2024-11-17 14:56:34.391','2024-11-17 14:56:34.391',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 14:56:34.39',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a0d4002-c566-4987-8d93-f688b58f6d7c','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">重点总结：</span></p>
<ol class="ol1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">转化语言为&ldquo;请&rdquo;或&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;</span></li>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">将他人对自己的负面评价，转化为&ldquo;请了解我的感受&rdquo;，可以减少自责或愤怒，建立内心的平和与共情。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">用&ldquo;请&rdquo;解读他人的话，有助于将沟通变成彼此理解和连结的机会。</span></li>
</ul>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">用&ldquo;谢谢&rdquo;理解赞美</span></li>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">把别人的赞美解读为&ldquo;谢谢你满足了我的需要&rdquo;，可以减轻压力，不再将自己视为他人快乐的唯一来源。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">理解到他人的满足来自于他们的需求被满足，而不是单纯因为自己做得好。</span></li>
</ul>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">威廉&middot;詹姆斯的观点</span></li>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">&ldquo;对抗压力最强大的武器，就是拥有选择想法的能力。&rdquo;通过选择正面的解读方式，可以将语言变成疗愈和灵修的工具。</span></li>
</ul>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">与他人共舞</span></li>
<ul class="ul1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">通过调整对话中的语言，理解到自己只是沟通中的一部分，而非主导者，能以更轻松、更融洽的方式与他人建立联系。</span></li>
</ul>
</ol>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-17 14:17:06.027','2024-11-17 15:05:40.276',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 15:05:40.275',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8d4a8ce1-aa94-4bb5-ae8d-9acb1345e4a0','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>*别担心自己的需要会成为别人的负担*<br>因为担心向对方说出自己真实的需求，让对方引起负担或是不舒服，就应用了 *鸭鸭指数* &nbsp;（duck index）, 我目前个人还是觉得太累了，是不是每件事都是需要做衡量吗？可不可以就活在当下，让自己歡喜应对就好了。<br>不需要想太多的理由去让自己提高指数。当时所发生对的事，做就对了。</p>','2024-11-17 15:28:56.367','2024-11-17 15:28:56.367',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 15:28:56.366',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3cfe407d-887f-482b-9b5c-a7ea735e322f','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">练习把接受的讯息，再善用空间加入［请］和［谢谢］，回应可以不一样。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-17 15:33:49.783','2024-11-17 15:33:49.783',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 15:33:49.782',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9536932-3d62-4728-ab19-1b091ce684c2','f4b5ba78-5c46-4e4e-aa58-2f391a7288da','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>把别人所说的话，都转化成请求或谢谢，比较容易去了解对方的感受是什么</p>','2024-11-17 15:49:28.74','2024-11-17 15:49:28.74',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-17 15:49:28.739',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c256b715-9589-42d0-8933-95869ff02c6d','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">练习一</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当别人请我帮忙时，而且鸭鸭指数分数不高时，请和对方说&rdquo;我对做这件事的意愿不大，但你可以告诉我为什么那么重要来让我提高意愿。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">练习二</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">留意对我说谢谢的人，询问对方是因为什么话或做了什么事，以至于让他想对我说谢谢。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">练习三</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">想最近几天，亲近的人说过的一些气话，把它这句气话转译成用&rdquo;请&rdquo;来表达句子。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">都说了荤或素食不重要！为什么非得供奉素食？</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我那天真正想说的是&rdquo;请你了解我想让我我四姑在最后的几天能享用到她在生病后都没法吃到的食物，她已经在生病后无法决定很多事情，我不想让她在最后一刻还有那么多约束。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">写下了练习三让我会许多感触，原来能好好的表达自己内心的想法，是多么的重要。</span></p>','2024-11-17 05:36:15.215','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c2670f8a-a44e-47c1-89ed-230645a89446','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>对我一个同时表达了对她工作效率的不满，希望能透过&rdquo;请&rdquo;的方式，给他感受到我的失望害怕和无助，希望她能明白</p>','2024-11-17 06:50:42.149','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('150c6df5-d8e3-4359-94c0-757d9eef1d7d','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>多做【鸭鸭指数】练习。留意他人多常给自己说谢谢。请对方明确告诉自己为什么。这有助于自己了解对方的需要和自己如何达成任务。</p>
<p>记录自己一天说过的气话，然后如何用【请】去选择另一种表达方式。</p>
<p>例如：</p>
<p>自己看看邮件，准备下周需要准备上课的用品、留意老师刚发放的考试日期、音乐考试需要的准备。如果你不想妈妈唠叨你，你就要能自理。【听起来有批判和威胁】</p>
<p>妈妈读了老师们发的几封邮件，有刚发放的考试日期、有下周科学课需要准备的上课用品、音乐课考试需要的准备。我只是想提醒你。我知道我再说多一篇你可能会觉得妈妈唠叨，我也会不开心。请了解我的心情，我是担心我们两都还在适应新的学习环境和制度，我们都会准备不周而手忙脚乱。 【听起来比较好吧】</p>','2024-11-17 07:34:51.735','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,'f','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03','2024-11-18 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1440ca6d-3896-4929-8f42-cb7651558851','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>了解自我需要的鸭鸭指数和可以让自己保有改变的可能性，但一定要达到你的理想分数，才可以答应对方。</p>
<p>留意某人某次是因为什么对你说谢谢。</p>
<p>把气话转译成&ldquo;请&rdquo;来表达的句子。</p>','2024-11-18 02:18:57.083','2024-11-18 02:18:57.083',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 02:18:57.082',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ac1ee5e-8ec4-4327-9a3d-a4e57348687d','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>當有人請你幫忙，但你的意願不高，你可以試探问为何非你幫忙不可！</p>
<p>「那天我真正想説的是『請了解我的害怕，畢竟你沒有在我們約定的時間回家，也没打电话跟我報平安』。我很难過，因為我很在乎你的安全」。</p>','2024-11-18 02:54:02.877','2024-11-18 02:54:02.877',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 02:54:02.876',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5da0dd71-3a46-43c6-b922-97b691678dfb','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>当别人请我帮忙时，如果不達自己鸭鸭指数分数时，可以和对方说&rdquo;我对做这件事的意愿不大，但你可以告诉我为什么那么重要来让我提高意愿嗎？</p>
<p>留意对我说谢谢的人，询问对方是因为什么话或做了什么事，让他想对我说谢谢。</p>
<p>回想最近几天，亲近的人说过的一些气话，把它这句气话转译成用&rdquo;请&rdquo;来重聽表达句子。</p>','2024-11-18 02:57:05.056','2024-11-18 02:57:05.056',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 02:57:05.055',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('34954dca-4a32-40fd-9a4f-51dc33d4ebfe','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>人与人之间是相互依存的，从小我们就被教育成为自立自强。</p>
<p>相互依存是指，彼此需要相依相存，你的需求一定要满足，我的需要才能得到满足。</p>','2024-11-18 06:12:32.546','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bcd0af6c-e394-4f46-8c95-da0112568021','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>孩子是独立个体，我们无法控制他们的行为，我们只能控制自己！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-19 04:13:05.98','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68707286-6217-4236-aae0-09679f001ef4','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>我今天晚餐会在家里煮来吃，请让我知道你们（孩子）会一起吃吗？</p>
<p>孩子：家里吃。。</p>
<p>我会煮xyz, 你们要加些什么菜？</p>
<p>孩子：妈，我马上到家， 我回来煮。</p>
<p>谢谢老板。🤭</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 13:57:50.71','2024-11-18 13:57:50.71',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 13:57:50.709',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3cb1cdf1-81df-451e-bcac-dd7f36602c31','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>练习</p>','2024-11-18 15:53:28.479','2024-11-18 15:53:28.479',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 15:53:28.478',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11d95133-7dbe-48bf-a2b2-b29a600d989b','659e027a-236d-4696-9f86-ca57ebbfd0d7','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>人性、道德、法律各自扮演不同层次的规范。人会有自私自利的基因，只要不伤害别人和制造社会问题是可以被接受。</p>','2024-11-18 15:34:47.831','2024-12-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('870b668c-aadb-4575-b620-5dedcb3bbd24','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>诚实也不友善不可能同时并存。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-19 15:31:39.748','2024-11-19 15:31:49.273',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 15:31:49.272',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('374ccea2-6d6c-403e-9bdf-e1cdf15957f1','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>先理清楚自己的愤怒点在哪里，</p>
<p>義憤填膺 前要三思</p>','2024-11-20 15:26:13.965','2024-11-20 15:26:13.965',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 15:26:13.964',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ad247b1-94a7-4691-b794-a8d086bf2903','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>活在当下，活在有意识形态中，並开放心胸看待一切事物。</p>
<p>有意识的到自己在做什么，就可以改变自己的反应模式。</p>','2024-11-18 06:01:13.903','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('11aee777-84be-48eb-b374-00a8807064a4','e2e0a187-5751-4ebe-84a8-a1cd697760e3','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>如果无法每天和家人表达感谢，就向周围的人表达吧。</p>','2024-11-20 08:59:11.628','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('31a0bb7d-3413-44cb-9755-b595c7ec5ed7','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>今天碰巧學習到恐懼和擔心，只是啞啞指數降低。如果能夠了解並避免讓的記憶和想像力產生所有的負面情緒，鴨鴨指數就不會太低。</p>','2024-11-18 08:30:07.574','2024-11-18 08:30:07.574',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 08:30:07.573',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7264fb3d-d6e2-4204-9cde-7b7f1655b6ce','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>鸭鸭指数给我的感觉就是为了达成双方一致，我们使用别人的需求和自己不足的需求达成一致，而不是委曲求全的满足别人儿牺牲自己。</p>','2024-11-18 10:22:52.728','2024-11-18 10:22:52.728',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 10:22:52.727',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf251608-2f44-4f32-a6b0-5d99eeaadef2','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>清楚自己的需求--鸭鸭指数，用&ldquo;请&rdquo;来表达自己的需要，希望对方能够理解，让自己保有改变的可能性，而谢谢，也表示了对方的需要得到了满足。这样一来一往，沟通就变得越拉越好。</p>','2024-11-18 10:42:31.905','2024-11-18 10:42:31.905',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 10:42:31.904',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b70731b8-78c7-4256-98db-01a0bf3b21dc','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>嘩 善用鴨鴨指數太有意義啦</p>
<p>可以藉著鴨鴨指數協助評鑑自我需要</p>
<p>還可以讓尋求自己幫忙的對方整理對方自己的需要以提高鴨鴨指數。</p>
<p>另外，當別人向自己謝謝時 也懇請對方明確地告訴自己，是因為什麼話或做了什麼事，以至於讓對方想對自己道謝。</p>
<p>此外 當自己對親近的人說出氣話時，請自己多多把這句氣話轉譯成用『請』來表達對對方的感受，並留意對方當下的反應。</p>','2024-11-18 10:50:19.144','2024-11-18 10:50:19.144',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 10:50:19.142',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a49c3d4b-df2c-47b6-9bd3-90f694b5899b','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>补11月17日：</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>多善用请和感谢。</p>
<p>付出就是慈悲，</p>
<p>感恩就是智慧<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">！</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>重视人家的＂请你。。。＂～给人带来希望</p>
<p>接受人家的＂谢谢您。。。＂～<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">给人带来欢喜</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>鸭鸭指数就是那么简单</p>','2024-11-18 11:57:08.651','2024-11-18 12:05:08.019',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 12:05:08.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0f3f6838-0917-46a9-a858-36ceff8e38f7','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>当对话中一方心不在焉，彼此的连结就被切断了。一旦发生了，先同理自己，把注意力放在自己身上，看看内心的感受，同理自己。重新建立连结或者选择另一个时间点再对话。交流的重点一定是为了&ldquo;促进彼此连结为目的&rdquo;。</p>
<p>灵性对话是去听见对方所说的话的背后隐藏着什么样的感受和需要。例如：当一个人同一件事一说再说，就表示他很在意他人的眼光，需要获得他人的同理。通过表达同理的猜测，可以把对方的注意力转移到当下的状态，并建立起彼此之间的连结。那么彼此的对话才有交集，才有机会迈向互相同理、理解。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 08:44:48.682','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('64d0d1fc-6739-4b6d-aa53-a184b8129722','3dbed468-cc58-4cc2-8b2f-de8a1193d153','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>今天给下属的回馈，试用请求方式来表达我的感受和要求：</p>
<p>我观察到你在努力求进步，也看到你的进步。接下来你可以采纳另一个方式处理吗？</p>
<p>也试用鸭鸭指数，这个真的是观摩自己感受的好方法。</p>','2024-11-18 13:50:34.493','2024-11-18 13:50:34.493',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 13:50:34.492',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b2bdda8-3cbd-4cf5-8c1a-0ff7ea6c39e4','0eabcae0-052c-4eb7-8f9f-dae46fa0e8b5','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>1）洞察本质是人想出来的办法。如公司提供的午餐和晚餐出了问题。是什么问题？</p>
<p>普通人的思维是供应商出了问题，要求提高水准，不行就换掉。</p>
<p>洞察本质的人，就会引入竞争机制，让竞争代替人工督促，去监督供应商提供更好的服务。</p>
<p>2）透过表象看系统。比如；手表的时针、分针、秒针和表冠。当机制手表走不动，或不准，我们可以转动表冠。这是我们观察到的机制手表的规律。我们平时研究事物所观察、总结出来的，一般都是这样的规律。但这些规律都只是表象。</p>
<p>3）更深一步去看，为什么规律会发生？为什么拨动表冠，表就开始走，动力来自哪里？为什么拨出並转动表冠，分针会跟着旋转？</p>
<p>每一个表象都有一个「黑盒子」。它是所有规律产生的原因，它叫做系统。</p>
<p>如果你不洞察表象的系统，你就不知道问题出在哪里，更不知道如何解决。</p>
<p>&nbsp;系统=要素X连结关系</p>
<p>要素-机制手表背后有几百个零件和齿轮就是系统。</p>
<p>连结关系-几百个零件和齿轮如何衔接、如何咬合的。</p>
<p>要解决问题就要找出它的「连结关系」。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 07:59:57.594','2024-12-11 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2f47380-7db6-481a-a659-1dd4c70ba2de','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>1）变数就是系统中变化的「要素」。比如体重，忽高忽低；公司财务，忽好忽坏；顾客，忽多忽少。</p>
<p>变数呈现两种不同的状态：存量和流量。「水」这个变数有两种状态。一是存量「静此的时间点」；二是流量「动态的时间段」，有多少流入量，有多少流出量。</p>
<p>比如，男孩要看懂「存量」，才会用「流出量」来减少「不满」的存量。流量改变存量；存量改变世界。</p>
<p>2）因果链，就是变数之间增强或减弱的连结关系。<br>&nbsp;增强的因果链就是「你强，我就强」比如工作时间增加，疲劳程度增加。</p>
<p>减弱的因果链就是你强，我就弱。比如疲劳程度越高，工作效率就低。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 08:48:05.466','2024-12-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('70f43437-51d8-4102-8307-2b7dfa33fe99','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">诚实和不友善不可能同时并存。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">事实就是此时此刻我所感所想的东西。我只能说出我当下的所感所想，所以那些话都是我的真心话。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">灵性对话 - 对话者会尊重世上的每个人都享有尊严和自由，并以不伤害彼此生活、情谊或文化的方式相互沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">隐藏在愤怒之下的感受，往往离不开受伤、恐惧或挫败。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">怒火通常不会是全面燃烧的大火，而是火光点点的小火，它们是因我生活中的小挫败、恼怒，或一切我希望有所不同的事情而起的，比如：我希望我的背不会痛；我希望我清晨六点半要冥想的时候，邻居不会修剪草坪。有时候，这种不爽（甚至是愤怒）的感受会一直挥散下去，让我们觉得它似乎会纠缠一辈子。</span></p>','2024-11-18 23:55:48.112','2024-11-18 23:55:48.112',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-18 23:55:48.111',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0963113c-d4ea-4265-b2e3-1a1e28583b92','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>改成&ldquo;请&rdquo;表达句子，真的可以好好说话。</p>
<p>隐藏在愤怒之下的感受，往往离不开受伤、恐惧或挫败。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 14:24:40.227','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f1838275-e9e9-4a8f-bdd5-f81deea8969a','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>真实的与人连接，又要讲实话但是保持不说谎有点难</p>','2024-11-18 14:25:36.961','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('33101988-5eae-400e-906d-14f688f92a44','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>非暴力沟通对&ldquo;对话&rdquo;的核心理念：<strong><em>对话者会尊重世上的每一个人都享有尊严和自由，并以不伤害彼此生活、情谊或文化的方式相互沟通</em></strong>。待人之道是&ldquo;真诚相待&rdquo;，所以才说&ldquo;诚实和不友善不可能同时并存&rdquo;。</p>
<p>任何负面情绪的升起都是彼此之间在评判这世界应该如何运转。而愤怒的背后是隐藏着受伤、恐惧或挫败。愤怒的背后是失去掌控感。</p>
<p>学习禅修后，的确发现自己的愤怒很多。大概是自己的觉察力提升了。</p>','2024-11-17 08:06:55.679','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d5f4b724-8900-4e23-a9da-6ee6a81f5950','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>诚实和不友善是不可能同时並存的。</p>
<p>说话是能够人际连结强大力量，必须和自己内心自我建立连结，方才能够说出真正想说的话。</p>
<p>愤怒的真实样貌 - 往往隐藏其他感受：受伤、恐惧或挫败。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 00:09:07.275','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3a67335e-3262-4d35-a44b-47e12c005278','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>真誠相待和''心口如一的說活方式 ，能夠改变生活，與人建立相互信任的關係。</p>
<p>憤怒是源自受傷，恐懼或挫敗，學习讓自己和心中感受共存，不做抗拒承認自己當下的感受。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 03:02:41.11','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('276c968d-1a6a-4391-94c9-24f1d221951b','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>誠實在很多事故時需要足夠的勇氣。但我們卻能夠種不同的理由，選擇不誠實。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-18 08:33:01.982','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec92d3ca-a77f-42fc-be72-806043304d38','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>誠實與不友善不可能同時並存。</p>
<p>當自己運用話語創造出一股相互信任和連結的氛圍時，人與人之間的問題都可以迎刃而解了。這就是真誠相待的強大力量。</p>
<p>作者用計數器來檢視自己一天感受多少次的挫敗、氣惱、憤怒、恐懼、受傷等。</p>
<p>憤怒下的感受不必處理 就好好與之共處。</p>
<p>這是無常。憤怒的火起火滅 何必認真。</p>','2024-11-18 11:08:52.367','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9dc848d3-160d-4b60-a5fd-952d1a096faf','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>我们说的话可以帮我们和自己建立连接，真诚的说出实话，说出自己的感受，也能引导对方一样做。</p>
<p>当我们时刻去检视我们内心的情绪，会惊讶的发现我们很经常会感到愤怒，愤怒下隐藏的情绪离不开受伤，恐惧与挫败。</p>','2024-11-18 12:54:57.079','2024-11-19 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011','2024-11-19 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24d2ce5e-f214-4b22-b510-45c90b98d0ea','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>负面情绪的升起都是彼此之间在评判这世界应该如何运转,作了比较,心的波动於小小的得失。而愤怒的背后是隐藏着受伤、恐惧或挫败。愤怒的背后是失去掌控感。</p>','2024-11-19 01:14:25.064','2024-11-19 01:14:25.064',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 01:14:25.063',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b9d82f85-ce5d-4c04-872f-59ec2542fc0b','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>诚实和不友善不可能同时并存。</p>
<p>要与自己的内心真实的自我建立连接。</p>
<p>事实就是我所感所想的东西，都是我的真心话。</p>
<p>愤怒是隐藏着其他的感受，而这些感受往往离不开受伤，恐惧或挫败。当修习冥想时，会感受到心中的怒火在燃烧，那是因为生活中的小挫败而起的。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-19 00:46:41','2024-11-19 00:54:48.862',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 00:54:48.861',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1b3ecc3e-7447-4aa9-985c-1fb4c8512a16','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>诚实和不有善不可能同时共存，</p>
<p>和自己连接，才是真的沟通</p>','2024-11-19 15:36:44.327','2024-11-19 15:36:44.327',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 15:36:44.326',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('98914f8f-2a07-4e32-9400-7e2e62267199','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>放下对他人的标签，就不会先入为主，产生负面的看法</p>','2024-11-21 15:30:28.454','2024-11-21 15:30:28.454',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 15:30:28.453',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e174a2b4-e706-40dd-b29f-2d8bc86f87f8','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>既然已经不能专心听对方说话，不如暂停，对双方都是尊重</p>','2024-11-22 15:30:47.553','2024-11-22 15:30:47.553',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 15:30:47.552',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('715f2a32-100c-4f21-a832-e853329f6b3c','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>作者真是菩萨心肠，一而再再而三的強调如何修习非暴力沟通，并不断提出练习与实践的方法。</p>
<p>感恩！</p>','2024-11-23 13:47:32.105','2024-11-23 13:47:32.105',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 13:47:32.104',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7028e346-96ac-448b-91ab-456aa86bd5a4','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>处理愤怒，给予同理心</p>','2024-11-23 15:13:08.489','2024-11-23 15:13:08.489',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 15:13:08.488',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b58f582f-3943-4377-b759-fad0d6900c61','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>从今天晚上睡前，向另一半表達对他的感谢，谢谢他为这个家的付出。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-19 03:50:15.44','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('847cc483-068e-4dce-82a8-a1c720c97415','a814249f-2ad4-4be5-83aa-a7ea6d1134d0','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>仅在必要时动用强制力，以避免伤害</p>','2024-12-01 08:14:22.54','2024-12-01 08:14:22.54',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-01 08:14:22.539',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2945f4a7-2216-43c4-bbd2-69c1bdf2e725','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>「話語」是增進人際連結的「強大力量」。與他人建立連結的最好方法就是要講真心話，要心口如一，並鼓勵其他人做出相同的作為。</p>
<p>真誠相待，靈性對話，創造互相信任和連結的关系。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>憤怒</p>
<p>這些隱藏在憤怒之下的感受，往往離不開受傷，恐懼或挫敗。</p>
<p>要平息怒火，就要靜坐，持續不斷的修習冥想，让心平靜下來。</p>','2024-11-19 06:38:16.05','2024-11-19 06:53:17.959',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 06:53:17.958',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7dd56dc-a620-43fa-b193-9e4a50b2b6cb','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>-先与自己建立连结，做一个心口如一的人。</p>
<p>-隐藏在愤怒之下的感受，往往离不开受伤、恐惧或挫败。</p>','2024-11-19 12:56:02.432','2024-11-19 12:56:02.432',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 12:56:02.431',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a8f6a75f-f12c-4866-941a-8c41b959fa91','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day19：11月 19日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第五章：我们说的话很重要（Page109-113）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">内心的强大是要自己跟自己合解，才能幫助他人，，</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">愤怒一定都隐藏着其他的感受，而这些隐藏在愤怒之下的感受，往往离不开受伤、恐惧或挫败。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">说话真的是一门艺术。</span></p>','2024-11-19 07:16:28.039','2024-11-19 07:16:28.039',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 07:16:28.038',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('68965c84-ade1-45ed-a7e0-48c06b994ef4','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>［诚实和不友善］真的不可能同时并存吗？</p>
<p>虽然说好话可以帮我们和自己建立连接，<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">但是有时候＂好话＂未必是实话！</span><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">真诚的说出实话，说出自己的感受，也未必能得到对方的认同。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">＂衷言逆耳＂</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">所以说实话的技巧是非常重要的。</span></p>','2024-11-19 08:42:27.927','2024-11-19 08:42:27.927',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 08:42:27.926',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d46299ab-f707-40b2-92f9-6539306ccd35','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>用当下的感受，真诚的心说话；</p>
<p>真诚和不有善不可能共存；</p>
<p>生气不满愤怒等感受都因和自己觉得应该运作方式有差。</p>','2024-11-19 08:50:40.28','2024-11-19 08:50:40.28',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 08:50:40.279',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dd37e04a-f642-4286-b542-a6e9ffac12f3','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>想要使用说话在人际关系里连接强大的力量，首先必须先和自己连接，与内心最真实的自己连接。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-19 11:55:54.013','2024-11-19 11:55:54.013',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 11:55:54.012',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b2e14371-3974-4a23-854d-fd150f791a98','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>与自己的感受连接，说出真正的感受，而不带批判，尊重他人。这样沟通，自己舒服，他人也舒服，相互的信任度也提高了。</p>','2024-11-19 12:01:40.563','2024-11-19 12:01:40.563',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 12:01:40.562',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9c74760f-6273-4366-8378-66c0d22df73f','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>诚实和不友善不可能同时并存</p>
<p>在生活中感受到愤怒，羞愧，内疚和抑郁等，都是我们在批判这个世界应该如何运作时，所产生的同一类特殊感受 - 这句话讲得很棒，让我有当头一棒的感觉。</p>
<p>愤怒之下是有隐藏着其他的感受，这些感受离不开受伤，恐惧或挫败&nbsp;</p>
<p>总括来说就是要做到自我连接，才能有灵性对话。</p>','2024-11-19 12:26:06.234','2024-11-19 12:26:06.234',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 12:26:06.233',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('179a662e-3de3-4d4b-8d52-3ce208b1b0e9','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>先和自己建立连结，了解自己的感受，说事实，客观陈述，才能和他人建立连结。意识到自己的当下的状态，情绪很重要。</p>','2024-11-19 12:26:51.887','2024-11-19 12:26:51.887',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 12:26:51.886',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c270d1d-f2e9-412f-a965-fd0c024e92fc','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>理解静坐冥想的用处，并去实践与练习。真诚说出内心的想法很重要，与自己、与他人建立连结。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-19 14:01:00.155','2024-11-19 14:01:00.155',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 14:01:00.154',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e4885cbc-2ba9-4504-9c25-94ea68813229','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>说话的重要性<br>会说话也是一门大学问。<br>说了气话，愤怒的话，就会发生反效果，就像利剑割伤对方的自尊心与感受，反弹更大。事情也解决不了。会陷入僵局。<br>会愤怒的人都是认为自己是对的。这是会切断人与人之间的连结。</p>','2024-11-19 14:08:10.413','2024-11-19 14:08:10.413',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 14:08:10.412',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('27b32c38-dcd4-477b-9ef5-a737ee53d9d3','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>诚实和不友善不可能同时并存。</p>
<p>因为正真的诚实是说出事实，不带感情分析</p>','2024-11-19 15:12:07.65','2024-11-19 15:12:07.65',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 15:12:07.649',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('13c4e14c-441f-42d6-9a4a-f94402cc629f','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;以「 自以為是」的義憤填膺的敌人心態，來推動社會改变，只會使我們的人情味越來越薄，無法達到最高境界的不傷害。</p>','2024-11-19 08:19:10.179','2024-11-21 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0d0acf1c-a752-47ca-b3f6-aa1b0be44e9e','0b5c2422-a4dc-4a8a-a67e-134bddb9f835','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>高高在上的权力控制的教育vs权利共享的教育，是认彼此找到双方都能接受的解决方案，让双方的需要得到满足。</p>
<p>权力共享帮助父母与孩子们建立更紧密的关系。</p>','2024-11-19 07:10:33.838','2024-11-30 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-30 00:00:00.022','2024-11-30 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03d3c694-2368-4109-a388-0cb0ab1965f4','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>真心话建立信任，冥想化解情绪；这二者是改善人际关系的核心。通过真诚沟通和情绪管理，人与人之间的问题往往能迎刃而解。而懂得化解愤怒，则是对自己和他人最好的释放，帮助我们在生活中更自在、更平和地前行。</p>','2024-11-19 15:41:47.582','2024-11-19 15:47:37.982',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 15:47:37.981',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4f843d0-cbc7-497d-a3a5-1d163c85e16c','8aadbb38-338a-410a-b3b2-06c52fbd2ef8','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day19：11月 19日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>第五章：我们说的话很重要（Page109-113）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>诚实与不友善不可能同时并存。（意味着没有所谓&ldquo;善意的谎言&rdquo;。）</p>
<p>事实：我们当下的所感所想，心口如一。</p>
<p>愤怒：其实夹杂了其他的情绪，往往离不开受伤，恐惧或挫败。</p>','2024-11-19 15:47:33.359','2024-11-19 15:48:36.317',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 15:48:36.317',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f13400cc-75b9-4eda-9be9-b742b75951f1','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这里所说的愤怒是我们认为自己的自尊心ego受到攻击时所产生的愤怒。之所以会感到愤怒，都是因为认为自己是对的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">请善用自我同理，推敲出自己在愤怒的当下，心中其实有着什么样的感受。很可能会发现那股愤怒是源自受伤、挫败或恐惧。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果想要改变某些现况，请先利用自我同理，与自己的需要搭上线，接着再以重视的价值观为基础，针对想推动的社会变革采取行动。</span></p>','2024-11-19 23:58:31.565','2024-11-19 23:58:31.565',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-19 23:58:31.564',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('82efa74a-82da-4033-838d-ed08365fbafe','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>愤怒只是掩饰真实情感的武器。当愤怒时，应当同理内在的感受，与自己和解。</p>','2024-11-16 12:58:30.771','2024-11-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1301ef53-5749-41e9-a8a3-552e3c1cdf49','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>如何处理愤怒？ 答案是：自我同理，推敲出自己在愤怒当下，心中到底有什么感受和未被满足的需求。找到自己的感受，就能在认知上有所觉醒，找到自己愤怒的真正理由。</p>
<p>情绪，其实是一道自我保护的防护墙。例如， 愤怒的背后可能是恐惧、挫败、受伤。通过情绪的呈现，人就巧妙地把自己真实的感受隐藏起来。</p>
<p>另一种愤怒是&ldquo;符合社会价值&rdquo; 或&ldquo;正当理由&rdquo;所产生的。愤怒的对象就如书上描述的&ldquo;空船&rdquo;。同样的，从自我同理开始，从愤怒里找到自己真实的感受和需要。再来从自己背后的需要，自己重视的价值为基础，去推动社会变革采取行动。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-17 12:32:42.918','2024-11-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f86424e-0d2e-4393-82af-d57d19417188','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>點燃那股怒火的，其實是我對那個情況的想法和評判，生氣只是我用來隱藏受傷情緒的一種策略；我的憤怒是在保護自己不要受到傷害，我把它當成我的工具，為我築起了一道防護牆。</p>','2024-11-19 00:23:42.34','2024-11-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c2ac4d76-41c3-40f0-a9cc-baa611f30cf8','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>当你感到愤怒时，先同理自己，然后沥青你想要得到满足的需要，如果可以先照顾好自己的需要，就能心平气和地回应对方的话。</p>
<p>通常感到愤怒时，都觉得自己是对的。觉得自己的自尊心受到攻击。只要明白这件事，请把一切都看作是一艘空船。</p>','2024-11-19 01:06:55.08','2024-11-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('46773ec2-1162-46e4-9e70-daa8a0951f27','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>善用自我同理，推敲自己在愤怒的当下，心中其实有着什么样的感受。</p>
<p>发现愤怒源于受伤，挫败或恐惧？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-19 02:53:31.561','2024-11-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6ec36bca-c875-472f-9ae5-bf03db718861','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>花一些時間同理自己，去辨認自己憤怒是因為與自己對話說什么而导致，然后根据自己說的那些話去釐清自己想要得到滿足需要什么？能夠照顧自己的需要就能心平氣和對方對話。</p>','2024-11-19 08:07:48.898','2024-11-20 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032','2024-11-20 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7af0e674-69ab-4dd7-9939-0f236aac9d02','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>请慎用自我同理，推敲出自己在愤怒的当下，心中其实有着什么样的感受。</p>
<p>是受伤、挫败或恐惧？</p>
<p>一旦知道感受之后，你就会产生转变，这就是找到了自己真实状态的一种认证。</p>
<p>请把一切看作是一艘空船。</p>','2024-11-20 00:42:21.464','2024-11-20 00:42:40.201',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 00:42:40.2',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('42896254-47f0-49a9-bccc-b3a90b9baaa5','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>如何与伴侣好好说话：<br>事实案例：<br>某天我与家人一同乘车去旅游，在高速路上，我自己尿急了，不过我却问大家谁要上厕所休息一下。结果反被会问，要是你需要的话，就停休息站上厕所啊！她的一言刺破了我没有说真话。<br>今天看到这篇练习，以后真的要改掉这个惯用坏习惯了。</p>','2024-11-20 02:58:05.465','2024-11-20 02:58:05.465',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 02:58:05.464',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f6c0ed76-14b5-4770-a951-53fb34e6d122','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>當自己愤怒时，找出心中到底有什么感受和未被满足的需求,找到自己愤怒的真正理由。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">情绪，其实是一道自我保护的防护墙。例如， 愤怒的背后可能是恐惧、挫败、受伤。</span></p>','2024-11-20 03:48:23.646','2024-11-20 03:48:23.646',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 03:48:23.644',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea829d13-659f-4e14-9546-2711b1a237b8','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day20：11月 20日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>如何处理愤怒？（Page114-118）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>探讨愤怒背后的真正情绪。以同理心去应对愤怒。</p>','2024-11-20 14:14:54.324','2024-11-20 14:14:54.324',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:14:54.323',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b079af5c-4306-4e56-b42d-ad11fc56c543','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>相較心不在焉的沉默傾听，打斷別人的話，說出自己內心的感受，其實是更有人情味，更能與他人建立自連結。&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 01:26:26.318','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('40247c9d-9afa-4840-804f-acef1ac31841','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>靜下心好好回想，自我同理。推敲出自己的憤怒由來，是源自受傷，挫敗，恐懼或是自己的需要未被滿足！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>如果想要改變某些现況，先自我同理，與自己的需要搭上線，以自己重視的价值观为基礎來推動社會變革。</p>','2024-11-20 06:17:08.029','2024-11-20 06:17:08.029',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 06:17:08.028',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('48cd40ed-21b3-45c8-be39-a3d4352d1da8','3aea4a25-c25c-4fdb-9006-fbaea5c7015e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>谢谢你，如此简单的三个字让人感到温暖、幸福，甚至开心一整天。</p>
<p>我要多多练习把这三个字说出口，尤其是另一半。</p>','2024-11-20 08:57:24.881','2024-12-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74f8c1a9-363c-4496-b52a-ca2651c98968','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>最近在兩間餐廳裡都有對服務員生氣的情況。因為我覺得問他們一些關於他們專業的問題，他們卻回答不出。</p>
<p>藉由書中說教的自我同理，我發現我憤怒的底下是恐懼跟羞辱。因為當我童年的時候我爸就是用同樣的方式問我關於數學的功課。</p>','2024-11-20 08:12:10.092','2024-11-20 08:12:10.092',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 08:12:10.091',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d96ff6bc-2456-4bc1-9c5b-bbf51d63eb54','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>憤怒的背後是什麼？</p>
<p>下一次憤怒時 記得花點時間</p>
<p>✅同理自己</p>
<p>✅辨認自己憤怒時對自己說了什麼樣的話</p>
<p>✅依據自己說的話&nbsp; 來釐清自己想要滿足的需要是什麼</p>
<p>✅自己需要被滿足後 再心平氣和回應對方</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 08:54:34.096','2024-11-20 08:54:34.096',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 08:54:34.095',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af115533-7560-4e5b-b8c5-0380007bc5e4','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>愤怒是源自于受伤，挫败和恐惧。只有通过自我同理，与自己搭上线，接着以自己重视的价值观为基础。把一切都看作是一艘空船。比较发脾气是本能，把脾气收起来确实本事。</p>','2024-11-20 12:31:50.076','2024-11-20 12:31:50.076',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 12:31:50.075',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f06dc143-ad46-4992-8048-a6804fe1a3f1','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>不论我们的忿怒是对是错，都该谨慎的观察内心忿怒以及背后的根本因素。即心理。</p>
<p>这样才能更妥善的处理问题。</p>','2024-11-20 13:57:25.309','2024-11-20 13:57:25.309',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 13:57:25.307',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('38b9d641-aaac-4e31-a08a-23ae35599c84','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>通常感到愤怒是认为自己是对的。</p>
<p>当我们能够意识愤怒是基于义理由和自尊心所产生，就能理解自己和他人的须要。</p>','2024-11-20 14:00:30.773','2024-11-20 14:00:30.773',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:00:30.771',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('91183940-27ad-4007-ad96-fea310b83139','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>反复低刻意观察自己内心的需求，很多时候，愤怒时为了遮掩自己内心的一些其他感觉，例如恐惧、受委屈、被冷落等等。知道了原因，愤怒便消失了。</p>','2024-11-20 14:01:10.455','2024-11-20 14:01:10.455',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:01:10.453',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('18fdd63c-0656-42a2-9ebf-f5affa52511b','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>＂愤怒＂是人生中的一种需要。</p>
<p>＂同理＂自己是价值观的基础。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>只有＂咸鱼＂才不会＂愤怒＂！</p>
<p>因为它的＂选择＂都在厨子的手上。</p>','2024-11-20 13:55:43.002','2024-11-20 14:02:39.533',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:02:39.532',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('77793f23-d3bc-460d-a75b-3033d4df23bd','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>如何处理愤怒：</p>
<p>-仔细推敲愤怒背后真正的感受。</p>
<p>-愤怒都是因为认为自己是对的。</p>
<p>-自我同理。</p>','2024-11-20 14:14:03.455','2024-11-20 14:14:03.455',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:14:03.454',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d1b7a240-5e1e-4295-a11f-3ba427ae4a7d','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>去理解自己之所以愤怒的真正原因，厘清自己想要得到满足的需要是什么，或许怒气就会慢慢消失。</p>','2024-11-20 14:20:42.299','2024-11-20 14:20:42.299',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:20:42.298',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3fb2b9a2-2d52-42bc-b75d-6dc2643b9879','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>心不在焉的聆听是一种暴力。当对方在说某件事时，我觉得我断线了，脑袋空白了，可以和对方坦诚相约下次再谈，更能促进彼此的连接。</p>
<p>有人对一件事一说再说，他应该是对那件事很在意。这时，请用同理他人的技巧，猜测他们内心的感受和需要，和他们建立连接，分享他们内心的真实状态。这样能帮助我们活在当下，也可以和对方建立真实的连接。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 09:07:15.921','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c78b4540-cf41-4b1f-895b-e94b90dec09f','a814249f-2ad4-4be5-83aa-a7ea6d1134d0','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>必要的时候，动用强制力避免伤害。</p>
<p>像书中那样，苦行僧告诉蛇：</p>
<p>没错，我磪实教过你实践非暴力的重要性，但我从未告诉过你，你不能对他们发出保f護自己的嘶嘶声。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 06:23:15.973','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('117f8e56-b533-4cc1-b85b-a7a9c76d1232','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day20：11月 20日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何处理愤怒？（Page114-118）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当感到愤怒时，可以通过</span><span class="s2">自我同理</span><span class="s1">来深入探索真正的感受。愤怒往往源自</span><span class="s2">受伤、挫败或恐惧</span><span class="s1">，这些情绪可能更准确表达当时的状态。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">通过回顾事件并专注内心感受，可以发现愤怒背后的真实情绪，从而实现情绪的转变。</span></p>','2024-11-20 14:52:45.322','2024-11-20 14:52:45.322',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 14:52:45.321',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f47b15b7-4e84-45fb-b095-b4ffd2bf54d8','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>试回想之前发生的某件事，那件事点然了内心怒火。利用同理技巧与内在的自我搭上线。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>愤怒只会吸引同样状态的人。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>请花时间同理自己，辨认自己的愤怒，理清想要的满足的需要是什么，照顾好自己的需要，就比较能心平气和回应对方的话。</p>','2024-11-20 15:18:02.958','2024-11-20 15:18:02.958',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 15:18:02.957',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bae3ca98-be2b-498a-b120-b27e750aa960','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>愤怒时， 自我同理，检视自己内心感受。先照顾自己的需要，比较心平气和的回应对方的话。</p>','2024-11-20 15:26:10.608','2024-11-20 15:27:46.607',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 15:27:46.606',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0b0379ec-d630-4786-8993-1971f108d384','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>给自己一些时间，静下心来回想曾经让你感到愤怒的事情，并认真检视当时的感受。尝试用自我同理心去理解：愤怒的背后，可能隐藏着受伤、挫折或恐惧的情绪。许多时候，我们感到愤怒，是因为坚持自己是对的，而愤怒却切断了我们与他人之间的连接。事实上，愤怒往往源于自尊心受到威胁时的自然反应。学会理解这些感受，才能更好地化解愤怒，重新建立连接。</p>','2024-11-20 15:40:27.698','2024-11-20 15:40:27.698',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 15:40:27.697',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bb38fdb9-b723-46cd-89ac-d1ee34d53abd','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>愤怒是一种自我保护意识，它不来自外在的刺激，而是内在</p>','2024-11-20 15:44:33.284','2024-11-20 15:44:33.284',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 15:44:33.283',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('644beda9-1cfa-439b-a761-b23cc8323c37','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">很多时候我们会感到愤怒是因为我们的自尊心作祟，或者是感到被伤害，不受尊重。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">有时候是因为我们&rdquo;以为自己是对的&rdquo;， 有时候愤怒的对象根本不存在，就像那艘空船。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">愤怒时静下心来反思，同理自己，再同理他人，才能有效的沟通和解决问题。</span></p>','2024-11-20 15:56:46.468','2024-11-20 15:56:46.468',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 15:56:46.467',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3447e071-2e91-4ba0-bb96-4231760dbff5','0cbae4a8-7ff9-45e6-be99-5f351287e47e','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>上个星期我接我妈妈来KL，接到她时，她和我说她跟姐姐回家乡，我当时听了相当愤怒。我就说她怎么不是问我是不是送她回家呢？我接她过来的，当然是送她回去啊，我是这样不负责任的吗，没交代的吗？</p>
<p>其实，现在想起来我是感觉到受伤了，为什么她不是问我，而是问我姐姐，也不和我说，我很伤心，所以我起杠了，乱说了一通话，完全没有反应我的感受。其实当下我就了解了我自己的感受，可是碍于面子，觉得尴尬所以没敢和妈妈说清楚。</p>','2024-11-20 16:23:22.271','2024-11-20 16:23:22.271',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 16:23:22.27',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7d0c97d5-7952-4d39-95c9-f0be77e48208','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「修習「不傷害」的原則，是將對方看成跟我們一樣痛苦的人，並以慈悲之心去思考、行動和說話。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 21:25:00.104','2024-11-20 21:25:00.104',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 21:25:00.104',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4616ecb8-8b8b-4e7f-b7c0-119e2e06984f','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>打斷別人說話的確可以經由自我同理和同理他人之後，解讀成交流熱絡！</p>
<p>反而沒有打斷別人，但是眼神呆滯的溝通是非常浪費時間。</p>','2024-11-20 23:18:44.527','2024-11-20 23:18:44.527',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-20 23:18:44.526',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d8036b3-7e18-4ddc-a39a-2df3c56ebd91','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>当对某个人存在&ldquo;意见&rdquo;时，接下来的对话难免会偏离&ldquo;正确&rdquo;。或者无论自己有没有说什么或做什么，对方会因为自己所投放的信号对自己产生抗拒或误解，需要耗费大量力气来重新连接。</p>','2024-11-18 15:27:04.444','2024-11-21 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0120fdec-b65b-430f-a953-5e805b174b7b','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>敌人形象是让我们和自己失去连接。当和他们互动时多多少少会露出敌意。但只要我们愿意放下敌意，愿意改变自己，一定会学会不带敌意和对方沟通。这意味着不会在对方身上贴上讨人厌的标签，且愿意与他互动。</p>
<p>打断对话是一件很不礼貌的行为。但如果我们把它解读成对方是迫不及待要与我分享他的看法，就会产生不同的看法。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 01:16:14.752','2024-11-21 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('14775533-97a4-4b91-8027-1ece73461cbb','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>能與敵人將心比心 釋放自己的慈悲去思考、行動與說話，通過修習『不傷害』原則去感受敵人與自己一樣痛苦。</p>
<p>換句話說 當自己不在敵人或自己身上貼上『討人厭、錯誤或不好』等標籤時 自己會樂意與對方互動或連結。</p>
<p>因為這都是自己創造出來的人物。</p>
<p>同樣地 當自己認為對方很沒禮貌插話或打斷自己的談話時，敵人的形象瞬間建立。</p>
<p>當自己選擇不把『把我的話打斷』這件事解讀成對方在打斷我的談話時，而是對方很興奮地想要與我分享他熱衷的事情時，這時自己的感受會不同和欣然接受。</p>
<p>但自己想要『打斷別人說話』時又會如何呢？</p>','2024-11-20 09:15:22.005','2024-11-21 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4d33c784-097e-4547-89a8-24e7335b52cf','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>不要把对方当作你的敌人，因为这样谁也不会得到什么好处。我们要先同理自己，然后同理别人，不要把别人说的话和做的事用敌意诋毁的姿势去看待！</p>','2024-11-20 16:04:13.708','2024-11-21 00:00:00.031',NULL,'f','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03','2024-11-21 00:00:00.03',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c4cd2806-4eb4-402e-ba5d-06864f59d3bc','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>放下敌人的形象，并不意味着我们放弃了自己看重的价值观或信念。而是我们不会在他人或自己身上贴上「讨人厌，错误或不好的标签，且愿意试着与他们互动</p>','2024-11-21 00:06:08.68','2024-11-21 00:06:08.68',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 00:06:08.678',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b345f28e-4017-4237-a797-d237302e17a8','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>学习处理愤怒</p>
<p>放下敌人形象</p>
<p>如何处理「对同一件事，一说再说」的不耐烦</p>','2024-11-21 00:13:28.641','2024-11-23 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b70bf618-56e9-4a36-8dc4-7055a0b5b8d2','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>不要在别人身上贴标签</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-21 15:37:09.2','2024-11-21 15:37:09.2',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 15:37:09.199',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('84031d29-01cb-4079-985d-d9388ed6081f','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>自我觉察练习和禅修帮助我对自己的情绪有更多的觉察，尤其是愤怒。</p>
<p>情绪来了，提醒自己&ldquo;我在投射了吗？&rdquo;。听见自己或他人在一件事上说了又说，提醒自己到底哪里不被满足？我同理对方或自己了吗？</p>','2024-11-21 00:33:32.521','2024-11-23 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e64a590e-dadd-4752-9095-002da4ae77c4','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>放下敌人形象，并不意味着我们放弃了自己看重的价值观或信念，而是意味着，我们不会在他人或自己身上贴上 &ldquo;讨人厌、错误或不好&rdquo;的标签，且愿意试着与他们互动。</p>','2024-11-21 00:59:40.501','2024-11-21 00:59:40.501',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 00:59:40.5',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4acd2319-58b4-4a80-a87d-2f98c40278df','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>人腦会以之前的經历/驗而去標籤人,事&amp;物。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">這都是自己"塑造"出來的人物。</span></p>
<p>这也让自己和自己真实的感受失去连结。<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">放下这份敌意或标签，才能重新与人有连结,看见各自评判背后的需要。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-21 01:40:51.486','2024-11-21 01:40:51.486',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 01:40:51.485',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('90159906-251d-43bd-93b9-693fceed9ede','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>要與一個你巳經投射了敵人形象的人會唔或談話前，先試著自我同理，再同理對方。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>放下敵人形象，並不意味著我們放棄了自己看重的價值觀或信念，而是意味著，我们不會在他人或自己身上貼上「討人厭，錯誤或不好」的標籤。</p>','2024-11-21 03:08:47.328','2024-11-21 03:08:47.328',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 03:08:47.326',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a51bfe0d-aefd-4e47-bf8d-c6258ab766da','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>身处于困境，但如果心处于乐观的话，你将会把困境视为机会。所以同理了自我，再去同理别人，这就是非暴力沟通的其中一步。</p>','2024-11-21 10:34:24.367','2024-11-21 10:34:24.367',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 10:34:24.366',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('80a0131e-5953-4d57-8dfb-6435e5999d45','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>不要因为过去的＂认知＂，把对方当作你的敌人，因为这样谁也不会得到什么好处。</p>
<p>不要让＂浅意识＂绑架，不如尝试先同理自己，然后同理别人，不要太快批判别人说的话和所做的事。</p>','2024-11-21 11:22:00.64','2024-11-21 11:22:00.64',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 11:22:00.639',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e9a03b8a-92f1-41d4-b798-9856922e316d','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>敌人形象：为别人贴上讨厌的标签，说话举止或多或少都会表现出来。确实有这种感觉，需要大发慈悲、同理心，让自己的心理转变，平和。</p>
<p>不伤和气的&ldquo;打断对话&rdquo;：必须转念，自我提醒那不是打断，而是迫不及待想参与讨论。</p>
<p>遇到外界的干扰，都要自我调整，境随心转。</p>','2024-11-21 11:28:19.16','2024-11-21 11:28:19.16',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 11:28:19.159',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6eb5404f-9ddc-4ed9-ad76-54b4f6aa94a6','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>把对方当成敌人之后，自然是没有什么好说的。</p>
<p>唯有找回同理心，才能继续对话。</p>
<p>保持善良打断对话不是一件错事。</p>','2024-11-21 11:58:16.805','2024-11-21 11:58:16.805',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 11:58:16.804',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f9902ea-5424-4a56-adf3-573cb415f738','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>放下敌人的标签，不意味放弃我们看重的价值。</p>
<p>打断别人的说话也未必是不对的做法，也可以理解为迫不及待要分享，这些是当下为自己创造的心境。</p>','2024-11-21 12:10:35.21','2024-11-21 12:10:35.21',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 12:10:35.209',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('af8b74fe-6f2c-484a-8ccd-be1882395259','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">放下敌人形象，并不意味着我们放弃了自己看重的价值观或信念，而是意味着，我们不会在他人或自己身上贴上讨人厌、错误或不好的标签，且愿意试着与他们互动。</span></p>','2024-11-21 12:18:28.628','2024-11-21 12:18:28.628',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 12:18:28.627',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9fb2efd-e87e-4dba-8884-f0f192c62730','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>1.我们看到的人样与自己内心有很大关系。难怪有的哲学说：一切唯心造。</p>
<p>2.只要把对方看成敌人或讨厌者，彼此就难以沟通。</p>
<p>3.如果将打断理解为 &ldquo;你是迫不急待地想与我分享你的见解或看法&rdquo; 就会产生截然不同的感受。</p>','2024-11-21 12:33:52.995','2024-11-21 12:33:52.995',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 12:33:52.994',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3fdd3b48-bb9f-4782-a3a6-c8eade142585','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>我像大部分人那样教育孩子说当大人在聊天不打岔，然而有些时候孩子也会表现出不耐烦说他还没说完我就打岔。而原来可以用另一种说法去表达，打岔是为了迫不及待地想分享。学到了新东西。</p>','2024-11-21 13:31:40.188','2024-11-21 13:31:40.188',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 13:31:40.188',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fec7fade-949d-4509-a41f-648d9b488503','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>处理愤怒</p>
<p>静下来，想一想，针对让你愤怒的事，默默地进行自我同理，去推敲，注意是哪些想法让你愤怒，然后好好的同理自己。对敌人也是一样。</p>
<p>对同样一件事，一说再说，想想是不是有那些需要没被满足，就针对这些事，进行自我同理。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-21 00:46:02.961','2024-11-23 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('89289d5f-2491-4114-836e-3ee9846da73c','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>在盛怒时开口，你一定会对自己说出的话感到懊悔。</p>
<p>&ldquo;你渴不渴&rdquo;</p>
<p>&ldquo;不渴&rdquo;</p>
<p>伴侣这样的回复会令你感动不悦。</p>
<p>如果这样问&ldquo;我渴了，你愿意停下来喝点水吗？还有谁也想喝水吗？&rdquo;</p>
<p>借由这样的方式，能看清自己内心的状态，也变得越来越能在生活中实践不说谎和正语的理念。</p>','2024-11-21 04:44:43.298','2024-11-24 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('244c6688-b26f-45d0-9141-dea07ca70ae3','5266840e-5b5c-44ae-9f83-dd6a31615e4a','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>一个逻辑思维就是刨根问底的好奇心，遇到事情不满足于表面的解释，而是不断地往下追潮，找到根本的原因。比如常问what(看起来这样）事情表象，why(为什么这样）找根本解，how(以前怎样）追潮深渊，what(还有什么这样）举一反三。</p>','2024-11-21 08:11:54.979','2024-12-15 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-12-15 00:00:00.014','2024-12-15 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a8bd260-bc44-4b5b-8e89-24435e8f0532','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day21：11月 21日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">敌人形象（Page118-122）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">1) 放下敌人形象：不贴标签，不认为他人是「讨人厌、错误或不好」，而是以平等的视角看待。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">2) 保持价值观：放下敌意并不等于放弃自己的信念，而是试着理解和互动。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s2">3)修习慈悲之心：将对方视为同样会感到痛苦的人，透过慈悲去思考、行动和表达。</span></p>
<p class="p2"><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);"><br>4)非暴力沟通：作为实现同理心的有效工具，帮助我们「将心比心」，达成善意交流。</span></p>','2024-11-21 13:35:23.619','2024-11-21 13:35:23.619',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 13:35:23.618',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('87535ee7-b93d-424d-8e5a-ecb2e6f6aa36','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>-放下敌人形象，不给自己与他人贴标签。</p>
<p>-善用自我同理和同理他人。</p>
<p>-将&ldquo;打断&rdquo;解读为&ldquo;交流热络&rdquo;、而非无礼之举。</p>','2024-11-21 14:28:06.473','2024-11-21 14:28:06.473',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 14:28:06.472',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba6e3488-7ea3-46b6-83ef-0dd8fd164bd8','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>放下敌人形象，并不意味着我们放弃了自己看重的价值观或信念，而是意味着，我们不会在他人或自己身上贴上 &ldquo;讨人厌、错误或不好&rdquo;的标签，且愿意试着与他们互动。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-21 14:35:57.061','2024-11-21 14:35:57.061',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 14:35:57.06',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ffc3671b-b8f7-4932-8d09-904bd0a916b9','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>我们只能通过改变自己，才会感受到他人和大环境跟着产生的改变。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-21 14:36:45.284','2024-11-21 14:36:48.996',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 14:36:48.995',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('42c6db97-53ca-4ec9-8860-d34895582d24','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>如何与伴侣好好说话</p>
<p>大家长期生活在一起，每天的沟通，肯定会有火花。</p>
<p>想要保持永远的关怀和爱，一定会是很大的挑战。</p>
<p>而且还会严重影响到家人的感受。</p>','2024-11-21 14:38:47.081','2024-11-21 14:38:47.081',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 14:38:47.08',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('985ae2a6-29b1-4a3b-96e1-dc3d1c5352a2','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>说出当时实际的心理感受，即使是要切断人家的对话，但只要意图是善意的，与其心不在焉敷衍对方）反而会更不尊重对方），倒不如坦白的去沟通</p>','2024-11-21 16:19:39.298','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3986685a-7f43-44bf-8b07-647a72e5f8fb','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>学习放下敌意，愿意改变自己的习惯和整个大环境的风气，不带敌人形象的方式与其他人沟通。不会在他人身上贴上&lsquo;讨人厌，错误或不好&rsquo;的标签。，愿意试着与他人互动。都是善意的，修习&ldquo;不伤害的原则。</p>','2024-11-21 15:06:37.813','2024-11-21 15:07:52.929',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 15:07:52.928',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9545d5c8-ca08-488b-8c76-0b7786c890a6','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day21</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">21</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">敌人形象（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page118-122</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">不要在自己或其他人的身上投射敌人的形象。</span></p>','2024-11-21 15:55:04.237','2024-11-21 15:55:04.237',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 15:55:04.236',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('240a908a-7d01-4956-a226-009126e88944','e50a0734-1f50-40a7-b77d-96b30e8e834a','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>真的，如果在对方建立了敌人的形象，就很容易产生偏见，几乎对他的所言所行，都有偏见。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-21 15:56:04.375','2024-11-21 15:56:04.375',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 15:56:04.375',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b3cc8072-dca5-48e1-b902-b9f7db9dadea','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>我有時候會因為腦袋斷線，但卻不知如何溝通，所以就站在那邊繼續浪費時間讓別人講完才離開。</p>
<p>這個章我知道可以用真心話做良好的溝通。</p>','2024-11-21 23:09:41.776','2024-11-21 23:09:41.776',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-21 23:09:41.775',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cf70dfd9-f0f2-4ffb-a381-a9159a9b2874','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>曾经在学Coaching 的时候，教练说：去听对方没说出口的。当时也不明白当中的含义。</p>
<p>这个或许就是指灵性对话是去听见对方话语背后的感受和需求吧。</p>
<p>说出真心话，也是分享內心的真实状态，让我们活在当下，right now and here ，也可以和他人建立真实的连结．</p>','2024-11-11 08:34:43.312','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('196259b4-975f-4f36-becb-1531b2ee51d9','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「說出真心話，就是在分享我們內心的真實狀態。此舉不僅能幫助我們活在當下，還可以幫助與自我和他人建立真實的連結。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-20 21:29:34.641','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f7b10d49-969c-4ae2-a5de-8e0a6bb68533','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>心不在焉地聆听是一种暴力，不如学会不伤和气的打断对话，说出自己的真实感受，更能与他人建立连接。以「促进彼此连结为目的」的方式，去说出我的真实状态，可以降低我对他人、人际关系，和对自己施加暴力的机会</p>','2024-11-21 00:11:56.752','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5734f2e3-ca4f-4e15-8730-8686186ce84c','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>心不在焉的聆听是一种暴力！</p>
<p>从长远来看，相较于心不在焉的沉默倾听，打断别人的话、说出你的真实感受，其实是更有人情味，更能与他人建立连结的举动。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-21 01:04:30.469','2024-11-22 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013','2024-11-22 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f1f081f3-53d9-4318-8d00-0d8949ffbfb9','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>心不在焉的聆聽，彼此的連結也斷線。</p>
<p>當你的回應無法滿足他們對同理心的需要時，他们就會一説再説同一件事。</p>
<p>靈性對話並不是去听見某人有著什麼樣的想法而是去听见某人的話語背後隱藏著什麼樣的感受和需要。</p>
<p>説出真心話，可以幫助自我和他人建立真實的連結。</p>','2024-11-22 03:49:05.993','2024-11-22 03:49:05.993',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 03:49:05.992',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99b3f6a3-0a33-4ad6-a82e-1a8b4d7f0282','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>沟通的时候保持连接，就是要用心听而且有眼神交流，发现没法专注当下了，坦言也是另一种连接。懂了。所谓的假装，根本就瞒不过人。</p>
<p>理解对话的意义只是表面，能够用心发觉甚至引导和满足对方的需要，是一种更高效能的沟通。</p>','2024-11-22 06:36:28.606','2024-11-22 06:36:28.606',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 06:36:28.605',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('24ee3e7e-75b8-4842-ab1f-3404144e4f06','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果我没有用心的听别人说话，那么我其实也就只是在切断你我之间的连接。与其勉强心不在焉的在听，不如诚实的向对方表达自己当下被同理后的感受。比如说&rdquo;我明白你很想和我说这一件事，但是我的头脑现在已经罢工，因为我今天开了几个会议，现在很累。我们可以再约时间来聊这件事吗？届时我一定能更好的去听你的话。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果有人一而再再而三地和你说同一件事，通常那件事都是曾经让他们感到痛苦的经历，所以当你的回应无法满足他们对同理心的需求时，他们就会再讲一遍。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">灵性对话并不是去听见某人有着什么样的想法，而是去听见某人话语背后，隐藏着什么样的感受和需要。</span></p>','2024-11-22 09:59:47.607','2024-11-22 09:59:47.607',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 09:59:47.606',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47abeb33-3d1d-4000-afdf-239c383203fd','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day22</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">22</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">心不在焉的聆听是一种暴力（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page122-126</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">心不在焉的聆听其实是一种暴力。因为聆听者与说话者的连结已经被切断。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">灵性的对话：不是去聆听对方有什么想法，而是去探讨言语背后的感受和需要。</span></p>','2024-11-22 11:49:56.979','2024-11-22 11:49:56.979',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 11:49:56.978',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7116935f-d598-4a2f-8ab7-84b23b054368','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day22</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">22</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">心不在焉的聆听是一种暴力（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page122-126</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">溝通時心不在焉或假裝聆聽是一種暴力，其實就是與自己和對方切斷連結或出現斷線狀態。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">此時此刻，觀察自己的內心感受，直接再約過時間好好溝通。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">尊重對方的時間 自己先打退堂鼓。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">另外一些人 在同一件事上會一說再說，想獲得對方的理解並取得療癒，讓人不耐其煩 而且拉開與聆聽者的距離。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">靈性對話其實不是去聽見某人有著什麼樣的想法，而是去聽見某人說話背後，隱藏著什麼樣的感受和需要。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">此時的自己 應該同理他人 揣測對方的內心感受和需要 並表達自己的同理心。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">道出真心話 就是分享自己內心的真實狀態 並幫助建立真實連結。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-22 12:41:24.683','2024-11-22 12:41:24.683',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 12:41:24.682',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('040aeab4-ec8b-41bf-bc46-7e7c4def26ef','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>心不在焉的听他人说话也是一种暴力。有者还不停重复讲同一件事。可能就是背后的感受和需要没有被听到。要试着揣测他们内心的感受和需求，表达我的同理心。这是灵性对话，听见某人话语背后的需要和感受。</p>','2024-11-22 13:10:53.691','2024-11-22 13:10:53.691',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 13:10:53.69',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6e397c6e-40bc-48d8-aa01-98bd75d37d53','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>假装听，倒不如坦诚当下处境。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>同一件事一说再说，背后的需要还没被满足。</p>
<p>不只是听想法，而是听背后的感受和需要。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>用同理心技巧，"你跟我说( 陈述观察）。是想让我知道你现在。( 猜感受）。。你想要( 需求）。。</p>','2024-11-22 12:53:28.622','2024-11-22 12:54:00.93',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 12:54:00.929',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ef30e15-72b1-4204-a601-cf95868040b0','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>心不在焉， 假装都是暴力。</p>
<p>坦诚说出当下的状态和感受，不去伤害。</p>
<p>用心去听出感受和需要。</p>','2024-11-22 14:02:18.335','2024-11-22 14:02:18.335',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 14:02:18.334',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('745b7d84-3f4d-49dd-80a6-80d9fd7284d6','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>专注的聆听是对说话者最大的尊重。</p>','2024-11-22 15:48:15.295','2024-11-22 15:48:15.295',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 15:48:15.294',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eb668741-c7b9-4cee-9d5a-9fc1a0ff873c','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>确实有时不知怎地就为了一些小事怒气不自觉地油然而生。练习静坐及静默地进行自我同理。</p>','2024-11-23 14:08:11.518','2024-11-23 14:08:11.518',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 14:08:11.517',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4a0596fd-a015-4a3d-9a3b-cb16c71c33ba','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>哈哈 我常笑說太太是我的總教練 每次出考題考人，考自己的脾氣管理，受委屈的能力，溝通表達能力，其他方面的成長能力。</p>
<p>但這位總教練 每次看到別人的問題 卻看不見自己的問題。所以我需要自我學習成長 要如何與她好好說話。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-22 13:20:05.695','2024-11-24 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bf6b39bd-7db4-46ed-9811-78e3fe4cece2','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>把需要他人满足自己需求的请求当作是给予对方机会满足自己。</p>','2024-11-24 09:56:19.661','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e8d2118-10e9-4276-aa32-11ac2e62a25d','927b318d-2c23-4ab6-8b11-291634420dac','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「辯與不辯，真理都一直在那裡。辯論，能讓我們看真理的眼睛更加明亮」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:26:40.417','2024-12-09 00:00:00.022',NULL,'f','2024-12-09 00:00:00.021','2024-12-09 00:00:00.021',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01bd3ce0-a88f-4996-b436-d4791c27e39b','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>1.在听人说话时，心不在焉是一种不尊重，也是一种对自他的暴力，并且无法彼此连结。</p>
<p>2.对方不断重复同样的话，内心必定有某种感受和需要。因此我们需要觉察和认清对方的这些心理以同理他。</p>','2024-11-22 14:05:13.276','2024-11-22 14:05:13.276',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 14:05:13.275',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e2d025a7-0f15-438b-9ec8-2c1409d55a0f','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day22：11月 22日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">心不在焉的聆听是一种暴力（Page122-126）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在沟通中倾听和表达的重要性，以及如何通过理解和分享真实的感受来建立人与人之间的深层联系：</span></p>
<ol class="ol1">
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">心不在焉的聆听是种暴力</span><span class="s1">：如果在倾听时心不专注于对方，而是想着其他事情，这种行为会让对方感到被忽视，甚至受到伤害。因此，倾听时需要专注并投入。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">为什么有人重复同一件事</span><span class="s1">：有时候人们反复提起同一件事，是因为他们感到自己的感受和需求没有被理解。他们需要通过多次表达来释放情绪，或试图获得对方的认同和尊重。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">真正的倾听是一种疗愈</span><span class="s1">：通过聆听并理解对方的内在感受，可以帮助对方获得内心的疗愈。有效的沟通不仅仅是回应表面的问题，而是深入到对方的情感和需求层面。</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s2">沟通的实践</span><span class="s1">：倾听不是为了回应，而是为了真正去理解对方的感受。通过分享真实的内心，能够帮助自己和他人建立真诚的联系，并从中获得成长。</span></li>
</ol>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">整篇内容强调了沟通的非暴力技巧，通过倾听、共情和真实表达来建立深层的人际关系。这不仅能改善人与人的互动，也能促进内在的情感平衡。</span></p>','2024-11-22 14:23:38.134','2024-11-22 14:23:38.134',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 14:23:38.132',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6f7d7705-ccec-46fa-90f6-c481289723e7','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>告诉对方自己当下没办法专心聆听对方想要表达的事情是一种尊重，心不在焉的聆听反而是一种暴力。聆听不只是听对方的想法，而是其背后隐藏着的感受和需要。</p>','2024-11-22 14:30:14.489','2024-11-22 14:30:14.489',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 14:30:14.488',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f679a1ee-e1f2-44a8-ab98-1f4d27a09670','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>首先不说谎，说出真心话，用心去聆听对方的话。之后采用同理心去感受对方的感受和需要。我们才可以和别人真正的连线起来达到最好的沟通。</p>','2024-11-22 14:22:32.863','2024-11-22 14:57:52.115',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 14:57:52.114',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('510cbcbc-906f-4fb4-9abb-da72700db4cd','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>"心不在焉的聆听" 是一种暴力和不尊重。</p>
<p>～暴力对方！不尊重自己！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>＂同理心的聆听人家＂话语背后隐藏的感受和需要是一种疗愈和尊重。</p>
<p>～疗愈对方！尊重自己！</p>','2024-11-22 15:28:27.186','2024-11-22 15:28:27.186',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 15:28:27.185',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('befeb6d5-4977-4f70-8665-f6657849ff37','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>说出真心话，可活在当下，帮助自我和他人连结。去听别人话语背后，隐藏着什么需要和感受。</p>','2024-11-22 15:52:14.497','2024-11-22 15:52:49.624',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 15:52:49.623',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('10b11f50-7989-4bbe-ab7d-33a4461f7e1e','eed0e3c1-b4ad-4468-9719-7ce41f5e83a8','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>心不在焉地聆听，其实是一种对自己的&ldquo;暴力&rdquo;。如果无法专注于倾听，不如坦诚告知对方；说明状况不佳或时间不合适，另约时间再聆听对方的分享。这样的做法不仅尊重自己，也尊重对方；让沟通更真诚、更有效。</p>','2024-11-22 15:59:16.879','2024-11-22 15:59:16.879',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 15:59:16.879',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52a790a4-45b8-439e-b147-097ccd05b13f','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>這樣起床有點生氣，因為只有我自己知道我有一種逃避的心態。到底在逃避什麼？</p>
<p>感覺有點像是，因為不滿足現況，想要到外面去尋找更多。</p>
<p>因為擁有太多，未來的可能性太多，所以就變成不滿足了.</p>
<p>唯一的辦法就是把日常生活的規律設計好。</p>','2024-11-22 23:14:49.335','2024-11-22 23:14:49.335',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-22 23:14:49.334',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7159679c-54bd-4ff2-8c8d-3f531c7f52ef','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;「 你跟我說這件事，是想誏我知道當時它為你帶來多少的痛苦，現在你又承受多大的委曲，是想誏我知道需要的到尊重呢或是澄清，或是你从他話中聽見隱藏需要？」</p>','2024-11-22 01:41:12.961','2024-11-23 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('76c0077c-1f27-440f-a1a0-3290177a4012','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>学习处理愤怒，注意哪些想法点燃我的怒火，好好同理自己。</p>
<p>放下敌人形象，在会议室，谁会激起我的敌人形象，学习心中同理他们。</p>
<p>他人同一件事，一说再说时，我们的频率如何断线。如果是自己，也要进行自我同理。</p>','2024-11-23 12:07:44.772','2024-11-23 12:07:46.855',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 12:07:46.854',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('99eeca69-a97c-4a28-8ccd-5acfeea9ef3f','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>处理愤怒</p>
<p>愤怒是基于自尊心所产生。采用同理自己和他人，重视价值观为基础。</p>
<p>放下敌人形象</p>
<p>透过自己的力量或别人的协助，找出隐藏在这些批判背后的需要，让我们放下敌意。</p>
<p>对同一件事，一说再说</p>
<p>了解/同理了各自的问题，满足大家的需求。</p>','2024-11-23 12:34:41.941','2024-11-23 12:34:41.941',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 12:34:41.94',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0ba067b1-e0d1-4e0a-a5f0-ac8077b544b8','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>用心去实践，时时刻刻有自觉的去练习，让它变成习惯。</p>','2024-11-23 14:12:16.101','2024-11-23 14:12:16.101',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 14:12:16.099',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ae6fd5b2-9df7-41ac-ab75-a22b4935fd4e','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>让生活更美好的诀窍是尊重对方的需求、同理对方的感受、向对方表达感谢。</p>','2024-11-24 10:11:05.881','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f5415fc-5b3d-4072-b734-ad0695bcf839','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day23</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span><span lang="EN-MY">23&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">对话练习（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page127-128</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">有一次車被人撞了，去警局報案。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">明明沒幾人 11點抵達 但等上數句鐘 還未見負責的警員出現。怒火燃燒 直接跑去櫃檯詢問，何時才輪到我。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">櫃檯人員給了我警員電話 二話不說質問他，我已在他的辦公室外侯等區等到一點多了 幾才輪到我。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">他要我好好在外面等待。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">再等到3點多 他才回到辦公室處理另外一位憤怒報案者 我更憤怒。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">過後才召見我進去。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">看見他疲憊的狀態 我馬上意識到 當警員也不容易 怒火既滅 回到理智處理這次的報案。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">看見辦案警員疲憊眼神 同理心既起，閒聊後了解到對方還未午餐 當時已經3點多了。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">換位思考，我也是在服務行業。有時服務員招待不周 而接到顧客投訴 猶如警員的情況 當天一早就下雨 車禍也特別多 間接人手不足 會導致時間被拖延 他也不是特地要拖延 真實情況了解後 自我同理多方的感受和需要自然流露。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">我也希望顧客同理我們在繁忙時招待不足的服務人員。</span></p>','2024-11-22 13:07:53.284','2024-11-23 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026','2024-11-23 00:00:00.026',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da3fc008-958f-4f48-a4a8-b33880c694e4','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>对话的具体情景以及如何运用非暴力沟通的四个要素：观察、感受、需要、请求。</p>
<p>1. 观察与评价分离</p>
<p>书中强调要清晰地描述观察到的事实，而不是带入主观评价。比如：</p>
<p>非暴力沟通：你昨天说到会议10点开始，但没有准时到。</p>
<p>暴力沟通：你总是迟到，太不靠谱了。</p>
<p>当评价被分离后，对方更容易接受信息，而不会因为被指责而产生防御。</p>
<p>2. 表达真实感受</p>
<p>练习中建议以&ldquo;我感到&hellip;&hellip;&rdquo;而非&ldquo;你让我&hellip;&hellip;&rdquo;的方式表达感受。比如：</p>
<p>非暴力沟通：我感到失望，因为我很重视守时。</p>
<p>暴力沟通：你让我很生气，因为你迟到了。</p>
<p>用&ldquo;我感到&rdquo;避免了指责，能够更好地表达自己的情绪，同时也为对方留出回应的空间。</p>
<p>3. 挖掘需求</p>
<p>对话练习常会引导我们深入思考感受背后的需求。例如：<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">感到失望，可能是因为需要信任或高效的合作。</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">理解自己的需求，才能更清晰地向对方传达，让沟通更具建设性。</span></p>
<p>4. 具体可行的请求</p>
<p>非暴力沟通练习中的请求应是具体、明确和可执行的，比如：</p>
<p>非暴力沟通：你下次可以提前十分钟出门，确保准时到达吗？</p>
<p>暴力沟通：你能不能别再迟到了？</p>
<p>具体的请求能够帮助对方更容易理解和回应，而不是陷入争执或含糊其辞。</p>','2024-11-23 03:31:53.223','2024-11-23 03:31:53.223',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 03:31:53.221',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('269e362c-d269-4ac7-bf7c-f8b154e31d01','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>当你有需要向对方提出请求时，试着用不同的表达方式邀请对方满足自己的需要；</p>
<p>试着把给予和接受同理心放在第一位</p>
<p>有时候我们很容易陷入&rdquo;惯性的反应模式&rdquo;，带着责备的语气沟通，这时要意识到自己的这个状况，也可以让家人朋友做出提醒。</p>','2024-11-23 09:43:00.782','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ab8f96be-6417-4909-a43b-c4d8b5b07780','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>1.学习处理愤怒，进行自我同理</p>
<p>2.放下敌人形象</p>
<p>3.处理&ldquo;对同一件事，一说再说&rdquo;的不耐烦，针对这些故事，充分的进行自我同理。</p>','2024-11-23 08:34:30.155','2024-11-23 08:39:49.235',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 08:39:49.234',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9f10295c-2588-4fb0-a028-8c89a67b6cc4','c11702ed-8cbf-45f7-b1ef-05fb9c4a3c68','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>同时持有全然相反的两种观念，还能正常行事，是一流智慧的标志。 这让我深思观念。</p>','2024-11-23 08:53:37.356','2024-12-06 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0e412833-1939-44cd-aa66-0ec851202a12','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>与人对话，要内关（同理），也要观察对方（同理），知道各方的需求，沟通才会有效。</p>','2024-11-23 09:52:36.273','2024-11-23 09:52:36.273',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 09:52:36.272',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2ba2b2d-104c-4bb9-ab0b-aa86cceacf20','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要学习处理愤怒情绪</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">放下敌人形象</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当别人不断提出同一件事让你不耐烦时，进行自我同理，想下自己的哪些需要没有被完全满足</span></p>','2024-11-23 09:36:03.136','2024-11-23 09:36:03.136',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 09:36:03.135',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('71843518-ab79-4619-9b2c-cbf5a3655c91','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>Practise makes perfect.</p>','2024-11-23 14:46:48.964','2024-11-23 14:46:48.964',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 14:46:48.963',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7bd5cd25-e56a-417d-b4e8-890a11234a0a','f02fb2e3-3aeb-4418-9a0b-65ae51fbde87','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>没有一套理论研究可以被大家都认同和接纳。我们脑袋和心胸要阔，海纳百川，接受不同看法。</p>','2024-11-23 08:41:50.982','2024-12-05 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('617c6942-7965-47b3-bbb8-c3ad9e641909','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day23</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span><span lang="EN-MY">23&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">对话练习（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page127-128</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">练习：处理愤怒- 回想生气的事是什么，然后进行自我同理，观察自己的内心变化。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">放下敌人的形象- 以一名公众人物投射敌人形象，模拟进行对话，在对话中给予同理心，观察自己内心的变化。</span></p>
<p><span lang="ZH-CN">处理面对同一件事一说再说的不耐烦- 注意与对方频率断线，而对方如何反应。想想自己一说再说的情况下，是什么没有被满足。而后，进行自我同理处理。</span></p>','2024-11-23 15:14:05.944','2024-11-23 15:14:05.944',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 15:14:05.943',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('50185021-0720-4a43-968b-feccc431fb1c','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day23：11月23 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对话练习（Page127-128）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学习处理愤怒，回想逆行真实的状况是怎么样感受？是如何有的力量，请好好同理自己。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">放下敌人形象-这个会议里面请注意哪一个人会激起你为敌人形象也同时间默默的静默同理他们。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何处理&rdquo;对同一件事，一说再说&rdquo;的不耐烦？-是因为对方的需求没有被满足才不断重复这个故事，如果可以针对这个故事充分的进行自我同理。</span></p>','2024-11-23 15:22:47.8','2024-11-23 15:22:47.8',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 15:22:47.799',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4fbc4a25-ecbd-45d1-b727-3007948a1049','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>为什么生气，同理自己</p>
<p>敌人形象，同理他们</p>
<p>不断重复的故事，什么东西还没被满足</p>','2024-11-23 15:26:49.252','2024-11-23 15:26:49.252',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 15:26:49.251',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e22ffb12-3e41-4b6e-9796-dbc0f4e4cbe6','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>有些人会反复提起曾经让他们感到痛苦的经历，这往往源于成长环境中对他人眼光的过度在意。当遇到这种情况时，试着运用同理心，透过揣测对方的感受和需求，向他们表达理解和关怀。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>事实上，真心话是内心状态的真实流露。通过倾听和回应，不仅能帮助对方活在当下，还能建立起更真实、深刻的连接，对彼此都具有疗愈和支持的作用。</p>','2024-11-23 15:29:00.412','2024-11-23 15:29:00.412',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 15:29:00.411',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('79d3d2a1-0c49-4697-804d-32181c64cb5f','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>对方会一直重复同一件事，会不会是自己给对方的关注不够，对方也感受到了。所以对方一直重复是为了拿到我们的关注</p>','2024-11-23 15:54:18.854','2024-11-23 15:54:18.854',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 15:54:18.852',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1a68a70-0440-4139-a6e1-5b4081ad772f','ca851f97-ed91-4f5f-a570-8b43a111d932','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>我的副手不能理解做事情的方式，一再出错。</p>
<p>同理心 ： 他是用了自己觉得最好的方式来进行，而当初我还是他的年龄的时候，也会这样。为了事情好，解决事情</p>','2024-11-23 15:56:22.203','2024-11-23 15:56:22.203',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-23 15:56:22.202',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6a1cfef-73c4-4849-8ed8-bc0ec86453d9','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>性别、成长环境、社会的期待等影响了一个人的思维模式。而思维模式体现在一个人在表达需要和感受上往往影响了人与人之间的沟通模式。例如：女性在成长过程中，很可能养成&ldquo;不懂满足自己的需要&rdquo;，甚至不知道自己的需要是什么。男性往往会被灌输&ldquo;感情是做事的绊脚石&rdquo;，他们必须否认自己的感受。那么一个人背后真正的感受和需求就无法表露给他人，无法让彼此看见沟通的动机，沟通就会非常无效率。</p>','2024-11-21 08:32:06.355','2024-11-24 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2a12493e-9e17-4525-aa30-586cc7a43c9f','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「不論是否喜歡他們回覆的內容，都要誠摯地感謝他們願意給你一個答覆。如果你把回應的重點聚焦在對方願意答覆你的心意上，那麼就算該答覆觸發了你的不愉快，你還是可以發自內心地向他表達謝意。我們鼓勵你不要對這些感受做出評判，或是把它們視為不正確或錯誤的感受。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-22 22:05:59.567','2024-11-24 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc1c5239-0470-48d3-996d-5674d08c485f','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>在盛怒之时开口，你一定会口若悬河，但你也一定会对自己说出的话感到懊悔。</p>
<p>鼓励勇于表达&ldquo;需要&rdquo;和&ldquo;感受&rdquo;。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-23 08:39:33.271','2024-11-24 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86a643ee-e973-4702-9f73-5ef009bae047','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>坦承表達自己的需要，直接了當的表達出來，更能良好的促進伴侶關系，也會感覺自己拥有更的力量。</p>','2024-11-23 10:01:25.76','2024-11-24 00:00:00.016',NULL,'f','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013','2024-11-24 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('64ff853a-dece-4df4-a9e0-85f7996795d3','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>权利控制的教育的教育方式可能只适用于孩子有认知和足够智慧去作出选择前，即便是两三岁小孩子其实也该有选择的权利。以权利去威逼孩子，肯定会得到反效果，让孩子萌起想叛逆的心思</p>','2024-11-24 01:41:37.905','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9460e4ff-90b8-45fb-98d2-87ad09823da3','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>传统的影响我们还是比较&ldquo;含蓄&rdquo;，</p>
<p>但是一旦不被同理和理解 又会生气。还是学习好好把真实真诚的表达需要。</p>','2024-11-24 14:46:18.731','2024-11-24 14:46:18.731',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 14:46:18.73',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1bcc3a8d-307d-419e-b30e-cf7b6d179916','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>试着尝试主动直接的问对方，自己能够为他们做些什么，他们需要我们做些什么来满足他们的需求？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>让对方和自己分享最近让他不愉快的事，引导他回忆当时的感受和需要，但不需要提供对策，只需给予同理心。然后试着讨论彼此间发生过的不愉快事情</p>','2024-11-24 01:38:38.781','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d48f8d23-da0b-4e86-b65a-532dfc5eadcb','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day24</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span><span lang="EN-MY">24&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">第六章 ： 如何与伴侣好好说话？（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page129-134</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我们往往认为直接提出自己的需求，是不礼貌或自私的行为。因此学习隐藏自己的需要，却在貌似关心他人的言语中，背后却是自己的需求。我们在成长过程中，很可能会养成&ldquo;不懂得满足自己的需要&rdquo;，甚至&ldquo;不知道自己的需要是什么&rdquo;。</span></p>','2024-11-24 02:29:58.067','2024-11-24 02:29:58.067',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 02:29:58.066',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6a531f13-f926-4520-a968-45f0085bee5c','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>维持关系的根基是沟通和相互理解对方的需求。</p>
<p>诉说者要明确表达自己的感受与需要，而聆听者要用心体会。</p>','2024-11-24 05:33:45.88','2024-11-24 05:33:45.88',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 05:33:45.879',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('df789f33-7ceb-422c-85db-db4b0fd4a752','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p><span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">西方文化：</span></p>
<p>凡事都可以坦承表達自己的需要，直接了當的表達出來，这叫潇洒爽快！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>东方文化：</p>
<p>凡事都要顾虑到对方的感受，三思而后表达出来，这叫有智慧，通情而达理！</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>只要能促進双方良好关系的沟通方式，同时能让自己拥有更多的正力量，那么就叫＂善方＂。</p>','2024-11-24 06:36:53.001','2024-11-24 06:37:22.978',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 06:37:22.977',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8f1c4f62-6734-4d63-95bd-26f758219097','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">和伴侣说话时，一方会以他/她自己觉得很简单的问题，比如说&rdquo;你渴吗？&rdquo;咋听起来像是在问你渴吗？想要喝水吗？但他/她其实是在告诉对方我渴了，但又害怕麻烦别人而用来掩饰的说话方式。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">更好的方式是：&rdquo;我渴了，你愿意带我去买饮料吗？&rdquo;这种说话方式，会让人变得越来越能看清自己的内心状态，也变得越来越能在生活中实践不说谎和正语的理念。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在人际相处中假如能清楚知道自己的感受和需要，反而会更容易感到安心。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">知道伴侣的真实感受，会让我们比较不容易往不好的地方胡思乱想。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何鼓励另一半勇于表达自身的感受（尤其是男性）？ </span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你把感受都郁闷在心里时，我觉得我们之间的关系好像不再亲密了。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">你告诉我你的感受时，我会感到安心许多。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">接着问，听到我刚刚所说的话，你有什么感受？</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">针对伴侣所做出的回应，会大幅度影响他们未来想我表达自我的意愿，所以不论是否喜欢他们回复的内容，都要诚恳地感谢他们愿意给我一个答复。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-24 09:22:16.442','2024-11-24 09:22:16.442',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 09:22:16.44',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('feb509cb-0132-40a3-93a7-0d0b4a53e69e','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>成熟的关系是彼此都是独立的个体，但也因为同理彼此的需要而付出来满足对方需求。</p>
<p>在被爱的同时先要有爱人的能力。</p>','2024-11-24 10:08:56.52','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9194f556-0137-436d-91a8-0f900b6fce5f','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>解决问题必先找到问题的根源，才能有效改善关系。</p>
<p>高高在上，以权利制衡孩子只会弄巧反拙。</p>','2024-11-24 10:19:28.861','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('edf82a93-caf1-4ecd-a7ba-e840381c3d55','0b5c2422-a4dc-4a8a-a67e-134bddb9f835','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>在做出回应之前，尽量争取多些空间觉察真实对我需求，并以非暴力沟通的方式去达到双赢结果。</p>','2024-11-24 10:26:06.587','2024-11-30 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-30 00:00:00.022','2024-11-30 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ea2ed41e-9952-4a3b-ab9a-980d8b79c83f','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>与伴侣需要坦诚相对，如果可以达到不说谎，说出心里真正的感受，不隐藏，这真的可以很好的达到双方的需要。</p>','2024-11-24 10:54:47.22','2024-11-24 10:54:47.22',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 10:54:47.219',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9327e50-97d5-4827-8d18-05ab6c8269f9','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>我老婆比較年輕的時候，甚至不知道自己的需求。</p>
<p>讀了這本書之後他不只明白字的需求，也知道怎麼溝通了。</p>','2024-11-24 12:04:41.019','2024-11-24 12:04:41.019',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 12:04:41.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9a57c78-6452-494d-b515-50769cad532a','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day24：11月24 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">第六章 ： 如何与伴侣好好说话？（Page129-134）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如何与伴侣好好说话？就是双方都勇于表达自己需要和感受。让彼此知道和得到相关的肯定。</span></p>','2024-11-24 12:28:18.428','2024-11-24 12:28:18.428',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 12:28:18.427',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fd3c8bf3-df56-4038-9db0-40a93f1dc6af','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','82401c82-df66-4556-a63e-3ff096e9ba26','<p>提出请求时不带责备，否则增加的是对方的亏欠或罪恶感。</p>
<p>当对方情绪高昂时，提醒或暗示对方回到当下。</p>','2024-11-24 10:03:16.707','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('821b8a8a-a993-40e8-abbe-7311160caba8','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<div class="content-inner" dir="auto">
<div class="text-content clearfix with-meta with-outgoing-icon" dir="auto">好好说话，真诚和勇敢表达需求和感受.<br>要有意识到自己的回应，因为会影响另一半未来表达自我的意愿。
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<div class="Transition_slide Transition_slide-active">EXAMPLE :你告诉我你的感受时，我会感到安心许多。</div>
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<div class="text-content clearfix with-meta with-outgoing-icon" dir="auto">&nbsp;</div>
</div>','2024-11-24 13:43:48.513','2024-11-24 13:43:48.513',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 13:43:48.512',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('94b0a2b8-e352-4470-8ddf-b4be0b04ec0c','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>引发争吵的原因从来都不是对某件事的意见分歧，而是双方对同理心的需要无法得到满足</p>','2024-11-24 14:10:34.485','2024-11-24 14:10:34.485',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 14:10:34.484',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('31fe3cb9-9733-4647-a79c-4e63069f25fa','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>当自己 没弄清楚自己的意图，多半会无意识大变成批评。如果对方让自己觉得对方在批评自己，先去听对方背后想表达的意念是什么。</p>
<p>【依赖】是指某个特定人才能满足自己的需求。</p>
<p>【完全独立自主】是指需要只能靠自己来满足。</p>
<p>第三选择：相互依存。让彼此的需求浮出来，提出请求，完成对话。那么，彼此是连结的。关系能长久，彼此需要互相满足，而不是一方不断的自我牺牲满足另一方。</p>','2024-11-24 13:25:03.649','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('59759003-d21e-4000-ae67-6ab953fd93fb','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>1. 表达感受与需求</p>
<p>我们在与伴侣沟通时，需要清晰地表达自己的感受和需求，而不是责备或指责。例如，不说&ldquo;你总是不在乎我&rdquo;，而是表达&ldquo;当你没有及时回复我的消息时，我感到失落，因为我需要关心和回应。&rdquo;</p>
<p>2. 倾听对方的感受和需求</p>
<p>学会用心倾听而不是急于回应或辩解。了解对方背后的情感需求，而不仅仅是对言辞做出反应。倾听的目标是理解，而非防卫或批评。</p>
<p>3. 避免情绪化语言</p>
<p>冲突中容易出现指责或否定的语言，这往往会加剧矛盾。非暴力沟通建议我们用&ldquo;我感到&hellip;&hellip;&rdquo;代替&ldquo;你总是&hellip;&hellip;&rdquo;，从而避免让对方产生防卫情绪。</p>
<p>4. 请求而非要求</p>
<p>表达需求时要清晰地提出具体请求，而非模糊表达。例如，&ldquo;我希望我们每周可以抽出时间一起散步&rdquo;，比&ldquo;你能不能陪我多一点？&rdquo;更有效。</p>','2024-11-24 14:19:35.061','2024-11-24 14:19:35.061',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 14:19:35.06',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7b7cc21b-77a6-42a6-bd2b-a6dcbafe6cde','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p><strong>两性关系当中不乏这样的情景，就是通常女方会发闷气认为另一半应该自动做这个或主动做那个，而男方就时常sense不到。久而久之就产生了隔阂、摩擦。我与另一半也曾经经历过这过程，其实把内心的需要直接告诉另一半，让另一半理解基本上就没什么大问题。当然说话的方式也是一门大学问，需要有意识地去思考自己该怎么说才能达到最好、最和谐的效果。</strong></p>','2024-11-24 14:48:54.05','2024-11-24 14:48:54.05',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 14:48:54.049',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74552f82-4421-4666-bc5a-a7aeb5d298da','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>如果说女性不懂得满足自己的需要或不知道自己需要的是什么，我想最大的问题在于男权至上而使女性地位卑微所致。</p>
<p>女性需要有自觉和醒觉，勇敢于表达自己内心真实想法感受，才能够与伴侣的关系更愉快和谐。</p>','2024-11-24 14:53:48.751','2024-11-24 14:53:48.751',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 14:53:48.75',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('96c2e80b-1e11-4d04-8170-03f1b0fdef32','4ada9766-bfed-44de-81fe-34da82349db3','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>工作当中会遇见狡猾人善用注射式洗脑以达到他们&ldquo;破坏&rdquo;的效果，我们需要有智慧的面对。</p>
<p>为什么+观念</p>','2024-11-24 15:16:31.208','2024-12-08 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7e0ca928-4079-431e-b4cb-ab0b27d14160','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>每一个可以忍受的存量和流量不一样！但是他们也有一定的极限，一旦超越了就会发生一些状况。因果链概念简单，找出变数之间只有增强和减弱的关系。</p>','2024-11-29 13:19:46.584','2024-12-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0355473-77f1-4126-a14d-b165ebb8735f','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>在易经中，兑卦主嘴巴，是代表沟通还有和谐，看来有一定的道理</p>','2024-11-24 15:50:57.966','2024-11-24 15:50:57.966',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 15:50:57.964',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4be637d6-1a20-4f69-a55c-18db28fbe911','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>提出请求的主要目的，是希望对方能明白我们的需要，其次才是希望他们能接受该请求。</p>
<p>最美妙的事，莫过于不强求下，让伴侣心甘情愿满足我们的需要</p>','2024-11-24 14:13:18.315','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('44f9046c-ee73-4af6-84f8-4d097c3e2271','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>碎念是一种要求</p>
<p>用不同的表达方式邀请对方满足自己的需要，才是在提出提求</p>','2024-11-24 14:15:29.187','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2ff3aec2-e0d5-48d6-9bd4-b544e4a5a167','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>没有人喜欢被支配或被命令。因此有这种行为者会给自己和他人带来痛苦与伤害。</p>','2024-11-29 14:02:51.876','2024-11-29 14:02:51.876',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 14:02:51.875',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4656e1e-01ae-46d5-a5f7-9e8a3a4aed74','a7861fc7-0838-4e36-913f-2c85da67e95e','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「我們對安全感的需要會成為一道路障，使我們不敢向那個握有威權的人提出請求，這是一種「自我挫敗」（self-defeating）的舉動&mdash;&mdash;覺得自己的需要沒有得到滿足，卻又無法提出可以滿足需要的請求。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 21:23:28.72','2024-12-06 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2310ff49-90a4-42ce-b23c-7697c5991ee4','1b78922a-c39b-4f37-8988-abf7c5eb81d2','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>生活中遇到种类繁多的人物针对事实、观点、立场都不一样，常会混淆概念。对于信仰强烈者，他们更是全心全意依靠信仰为对的选择。</p>','2024-11-24 14:58:22.795','2024-12-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6641128c-0fcd-48b8-bfb1-6dec7b1a6a93','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>看到这里，回顾和先生年轻时的互动，我认为对方爱我就会解读我的需要和感受，结果往往都是背道而驰，两方无法同理自己和对方。</p>
<p>就算表达出来，也认为说出的需要不被满足，就失望。不懂互相感谢。男女对感受和需要的接纳及表达不同，只有真心的同理才能好好说话。</p>','2024-11-24 15:25:28.233','2024-11-24 15:25:42.029',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 15:25:42.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c844cc46-2ea1-4eeb-ade6-8c9333389cf1','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>如何與伴侶好好說f説話？</p>
<p>不説謊，不隱藏，勇於表達自身的需求与感受，也學習傾听對方的感受。</p>','2024-11-24 15:30:24.123','2024-11-24 15:30:24.123',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 15:30:24.122',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8abfefc3-7510-4ea5-9641-87cd6a66133b','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>懂的表现自己的感情，或者应用引导</p>','2024-11-24 15:39:06.61','2024-11-24 15:39:06.61',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 15:39:06.609',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('62f440c9-0e83-438e-9780-04393f225a02','eef7fb37-e17e-4649-9a46-4bd5737e2b64','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>女性不能有要求，男性不能有感受，</p>
<p>其实要求和感受是让别人了解自己的一个基本盘。</p>
<p>若不诚实好好表达这两者，就不能怪他人不了解自己</p>','2024-11-24 15:45:59.038','2024-11-24 15:45:59.038',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 15:45:59.037',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3324e420-33bc-4cc4-a2c7-7c87433a4b9d','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>把提出请求当着送对方一份礼物，一个给他一个有机会满足我的需要的礼物。当然，也要让对方保有选择的空间。</p>
<p>提出请求的主要目的是希望对方明白我们的需要，其次才是希望他们能够接受该请求。</p>
<p>尽力体现不说谎和正语的精神。</p>','2024-11-24 15:36:16.502','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('213a5a31-3abe-4af5-a921-b0dfb50bac64','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>此刻我應該為你做什麼才會讓你的生活更美好？!</p>
<p>Ok,等一下我會問他這句話！</p>','2024-11-24 23:48:15.051','2024-11-24 23:48:15.051',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-24 23:48:15.05',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b655d5b1-3b25-436a-9ef6-cad221e9a07e','4991cd2c-e98b-4f5a-a740-70b03352d039','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「把注意力放在你想要的事物上，而非害怕的事物上。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 21:21:15.532','2024-12-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5958a0f4-1574-4375-9117-3d6d401ebb43','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>先真心的提出我们的需要，然后再去请求别人接收我们的需要/请求。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-22 16:49:15.019','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('216c8d56-a16e-4f30-bb14-a21067fc127e','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「請記得，提出請求的最主要目的，是希望對方能明白我們的需要，其次才是希望他們能接受該請求。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-22 22:09:42.714','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16453f15-bb05-4355-9a84-9786a1c395ae','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「使我們感到痛苦的，其實不是對方說的話，而是我們聽那些話的方式。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-24 22:05:28.713','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('421f1a62-09a1-4b84-9ce7-534f0cfb2e5f','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>与青春期孩子得关系是一场&ldquo;权力博弈"。父母需要从过去照顾者的角色，慢慢退出来把孩子的权力交还给他。通过非暴力沟通，双方可以改变权力分配，学会权力共享，而非一手掌权。</p>
<p>青春期的孩子前额叶发育未完善，情绪脑发育高峰期，所以他们是处于非常辛苦和矛盾的阶段。面对青春期的孩子，父母的关注点：1）在平衡权力上，更应该专注在如何好好保护好彼此的关系， 2）对青春期的孩子要有多一份的慈悲心。</p>','2024-11-24 23:33:24.084','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('6416eae5-b9bc-4736-b3d0-9c6d48122029','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>权力平衡才是王道，</p>
<p>不是一下放手或是一手遮天</p>','2024-11-29 14:09:25.447','2024-11-29 14:09:25.447',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 14:09:25.446',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8a8c2e1-2c71-4de0-b2d9-1c49bdb96945','0b5c2422-a4dc-4a8a-a67e-134bddb9f835','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">沟通出双赢的方法很重要，听取彼此的需要</span></p>','2024-11-30 14:05:04.526','2024-11-30 14:06:08.378',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-30 14:06:08.377',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('46a18e40-fa69-4bf0-9bdc-6e271c25f228','a814249f-2ad4-4be5-83aa-a7ea6d1134d0','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>【运用强制力避免伤害】仅在必要的时刻用上。动用强制力是通常在紧急情况，是用来防止一方被伤害。这是意图。这是出于关爱而非愤怒，绝e对不带任何惩罚的意图。</p>
<p>在必要的时刻，我们还是需要像一条凶猛大蛇那样发出嘶嘶声。自我保护是天性。</p>
<p>而且每个人都需要尊重他人的自主权，包括了两岁的孩子。</p>','2024-11-24 23:52:35.419','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c22c8abf-95f4-47db-90e1-d20d65583e9a','967d6daf-b7f2-4ca5-82ab-2b164e545d4e','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「書寫練習會改變我們的本質，進而從一種截然不同的角度去看待所有的事情，如此一來，說出的話也會更符合「正語」的精神」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 21:24:20.407','2024-12-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5de51985-84a4-472c-a71e-7edaa9b57078','4ada9766-bfed-44de-81fe-34da82349db3','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「把謠言放在「為什麼」後面，是傳播謠言的最佳方法」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:21:50.309','2024-12-08 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47b107d0-b4a0-46ec-b750-8ccc9f85ad41','0eabcae0-052c-4eb7-8f9f-dae46fa0e8b5','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「我們鍛鍊自己的洞察力，就是為了理解表象背後的「黑盒子」──系統，從而真正地從本質上解決問題。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:34:44.213','2024-12-11 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e0894f07-47fe-49e6-a095-6047e74984b5','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「不滿」這種情緒，就像「浴缸」裡的水一樣，是一種「存量」。那件導致你們吵架的小事，就像「浴缸」的水龍頭，會產生「不滿」的情緒，增加「不滿」的「流入量」。越來越多的「不滿」流入「浴缸」，就會增加「不滿」的存量」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:37:14.455','2024-12-12 00:00:00.024',NULL,'f','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023','2024-12-12 00:00:00.023',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('45647812-a7ca-4e2b-9aa7-2fb003c0a734','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','2c1ef7cf-3624-43cb-8cf3-d40551cab829','<p>流量，改变存量；存量，改变世界。</p>','2024-12-12 15:03:29.794','2024-12-12 15:03:29.794',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-12 15:03:29.793',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('da6cd526-122e-469b-a356-9522af5d9380','037d098e-f473-476e-80f2-b105e9fbcff9','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>流量，改变存量，存量，改变世界，类似情绪银行</p>','2024-12-12 15:12:04.599','2024-12-12 15:12:04.599',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-12 15:12:04.599',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a16f7ba0-df02-4f20-bc27-f17c86192dbd','7788709d-521b-4a35-8e0b-46de60c857a2','53929692-27f3-426b-a4ce-9f2a98b8d064','<p>相信因果，了解因果。今天阅读的内容让我们更了解因果。</p>','2024-12-13 09:46:41.589','2024-12-13 09:46:41.589',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-12-13 09:46:41.588',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('64363165-299f-418c-a673-436ac88fd3cb','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>我的需求是重要的，不是他人的负担，也不要自我牺牲。因为不被满足的需求，都会回来干扰彼此的关系。所以，提出自己的需求是给对方的一份礼物。提出需求不是以发牢骚的方式、埋怨的方式，或认定对方一定要满足自己。提出需求是让对方明白自己的需求。提出请求不是要求。</p>','2024-11-24 12:59:05.349','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('672a8882-514f-405d-af46-8a424b162c44','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>&nbsp;我們為別人所做的一切，都是以滿足自己所需要為目的，這样就能活在當下，不會被不必要的痛苦糾。</p>','2024-11-24 11:22:43.874','2024-11-25 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027','2024-11-25 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0023fef2-6c10-4013-bdb3-0d51ac392bae','a7861fc7-0838-4e36-913f-2c85da67e95e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>当你善于提出请求，也帮助他人提出明确、可行性的请求。</p>
<p>&rarr;你希望我做些什么？</p>
<p>知己知彼 ，大大提高溝通效率。</p>','2024-11-25 03:53:15.035','2024-12-06 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5d4cba6b-15fb-492b-9559-3ecf494160c3','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>对于［请求］，我们如何看待？是礼物还是负担？说［请求］需客观让对方有选择的权利。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>［请求］主要的目的是让对方知道你的需要，其次才是接受你的请求。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>硬逼自己去做某件事，就是在暴力对待自己和这段关系</p>','2024-11-25 00:05:26.529','2024-11-25 00:07:54.868',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 00:07:54.867',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('914bf316-0862-4ed6-b71f-fcb138ecb099','6252cb84-9120-4516-b6b5-a03f625e10e6','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「遇到問題時，先大膽假設，然後去驗證，得出結論，最後根據結論做出調整。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:30:34.6','2024-12-10 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2024-12-10 00:00:00.018','2024-12-10 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fb262f67-b42f-43f7-bbf6-66ed8b98152d','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>把提出请求当着送对方一份礼物，讓他有一个机会在有选择的空间去满足我的需要。</p>
<p>我们提出请求的主要目的讓对方明白我们的需要，其次才是希望他们能够接受@满足这个请求。</p>','2024-11-25 03:15:32.593','2024-11-25 03:15:32.593',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 03:15:32.592',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f8129166-82e6-4f0b-bcd0-18c72f21b241','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>真心提出需要，而不是为了讨好。</p>
<p>把请求视为礼物，是希望可以帮助你找到开口的勇气，但不建议你发牢骚或抱怨的方式表达，或是认为对方一定要满足你的需要不可。</p>
<p>提出请求的最主要目的，是希望对方明白我们的需要，其次才是希望他们能接受该请求。</p>','2024-11-25 01:47:45.636','2024-11-25 01:47:57.645',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 01:47:57.644',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0a02590c-be51-4f20-ad6d-fd7474bc8863','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">把提出的请求，当作是一份送给对方的礼物，是希望可以帮助我们找到开口的勇气。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">提出要求的最主要目的，是希望对方能明白我们的需求，其次才是希望他们能接受该请求。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们为伴侣所做的任何事，都应该出于想满足贡献一己之力的需要，否则就只是在假装送礼物给对方，而这种看似无偿的礼物，一定会包藏着某种期待和附加条件。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果是抱着应该或必须来做，所以硬逼自己去做某些事，就是在暴力对待自己和这段关系。最终，自我牺牲只会使得这段关系两败俱伤。</span></p>','2024-11-25 03:46:17.324','2024-11-25 03:46:17.324',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 03:46:17.323',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('86f91cfa-d6f5-47e3-85ff-d38c11e1943f','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>把請求視為禮物，是希望可以幫助你找到開口的勇氣。</p>
<p>請求的主要目的，是希望對方能明白我們的需要，其次才是希望他們能接受請求。</p>
<p>「請求」不能包藏著某種期待和附加條件，否則就是在暴力對待自己和這段關係。</p>','2024-11-25 03:20:50.21','2024-11-25 03:28:11.761',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 03:28:11.76',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f5b849d-6f4e-4527-8a21-1ea7f06db31f','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p>Description&nbsp;</p>
<p>Day25：11月25 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>真心提出需要，而不是为了讨好（Page134-137）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>因為不想自己的需要成為他人的負擔 往往不願意提出請求 讓自己的需要得到滿足。</p>
<p>這一種是自我主義 egoism.&nbsp;</p>
<p>暗示自己優越過人 自己的需要不重要 或自己與眾不同 不需要任何東西。</p>
<p>這時候可以把自己的請求當成禮物送予他人 但保持讓對方擁有選擇權力。</p>
<p>這樣做主要目的為讓對方明白滿足自己的需要。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-25 03:41:40.749','2024-11-25 03:41:40.749',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 03:41:40.747',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e7896b99-425f-4064-afb2-3f54e66802c8','478df995-7646-4e07-879e-aa185c34f785','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>反思的範例：</p>
<p>客观观察，那些话引发了批评。</p>
<p>感受，自我觉察自己的情绪。</p>
<p>需要，在反思过程中磪认自己的需要。</p>
<p>请求，探讨请求是否有被满足到。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-25 02:52:20.034','2024-12-05 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c9e34873-3a05-4ae1-936c-84dc990e1059','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day27</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span><span lang="EN-MY">27&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">谢绝批评（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page143-147</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">千萬別去聽對方說他『覺得』怎麼樣。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">他的覺得或許認為你就是讓他們感覺痛苦的罪人。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">讓人痛苦的 從來不是對方說的話 而是自己聽『那些話』的方式。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">這時候最好靜默地同理自己和對方，一直到出現同理帶來的轉變 才能針對問題去想策略或行動。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">要讓彼此關係長久 那麼雙方的需要都要被滿足。</span></p>','2024-11-25 04:20:37.502','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b347a5cb-aa07-4b0d-b9a0-48235ce5abb4','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>把提出的请求，当作是一份送给对方的礼物～礼尚往来，筑造良好沟通桥梁，跟小孩也是一样。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>We Always Give and Take&nbsp;</strong></p>','2024-11-25 04:32:35.758','2024-11-25 04:33:15.93',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 04:33:15.929',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('eebf22f8-54d3-40a0-80db-c0e1d6498dda','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','c9b39003-1a47-4eb9-a447-837aa6128a1b','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day26</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span><span lang="EN-MY">26&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">顺从你的需要（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page138-143</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">請求是嘗試用不同的表達方式邀請對方滿足自己的需要。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">當對方不接受自己的請求 先同理自己和對方 再調整策略 再度發動請求攻勢。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">當雙方願意把『給予和接受同理心』放在第一位 那麼很大機能化解為同一件事爭執若干年的事情。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">引發爭吵的因素從來不是對某些事意見分歧，往往是雙方對同理心的需要無法獲得滿足。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">這個時候 我們需要學習『有意識的生活』咯。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">當自己清楚意識到自己在做什麼時 自己就可以改變自己的反應模式，而不是陷入無意識的慣性反應模式。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-25 04:02:25.478','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5a15ac1a-9bf0-4fe7-b0c7-e2c1375a7226','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>夫妻爭吵的原因並不是意見不合，而是雙方對同理心需要無法得到滿足，我們需要被看見和被听見，希望別人對我們將心比心，感同身受而不是評頭論足指手畫腳。</p>','2024-11-25 10:23:16.163','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3da502f8-721c-49f7-ae0d-fbdd812da9a2','967d6daf-b7f2-4ca5-82ab-2b164e545d4e','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>先同理自己的需要，也默默同理他人，也要学习他人的需求。，也就是说，听说、看到别人没说的。</p>
<p>书面记录让脑袋变得更清晰，理清思路，釐清当下的状态，跳脱舊有的思维。</p>
<p>就像现在这样的写下读完的感受。</p>
<p>书写练习会让大脑思路变得清醒。</p>','2024-11-25 04:23:18.456','2024-12-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('bebcb486-5691-44b5-a95d-0eb2e3dfcc9f','1a55b11d-b61b-458e-9652-a72046c3912a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>先让与自己对话的人知道，我已经听见他们所要传达的信息。</p>
<p>在还没表達自己的意见之前，先磪认对方是否愿意聆听我的观点。</p>
<p>以请求而非要求的態度，对方更有可能把话听进去。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-25 08:37:48.144','2024-12-08 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b6ea76b4-37dd-45af-a67e-d96deb113793','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>提出的要求要抱有互动的机会，不强求一定答应，只希望产生有意义的互动人际关系。</p>','2024-11-25 11:10:24.193','2024-11-25 11:11:37.977',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 11:11:37.976',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('20c82d87-44ca-4373-b5f1-55c46fe560ef','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>真心提出请求，同时也给予对方有选择的空间，重要的是让对方理解我们的需要。</p>
<p>每个人都是有所求的为他人做事，只有以满足自己的需要为目的去为他人做事，那么我们就会活在当下，免去不必要的痛苦纠缠。</p>','2024-11-25 13:09:38.554','2024-11-25 13:09:38.554',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 13:09:38.553',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('00d7355a-75bd-4618-8351-d17c362225b0','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>提出要求的目的是希望对方明白我们的要求，接下来才希望他们能接受。我们要有准备也许被拒绝。</p>','2024-11-25 14:01:38.191','2024-11-25 14:01:38.191',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 14:01:38.19',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5e94b128-80f2-4930-b310-fbcd5e6ae75e','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>如果我们为别人所做的一切，都是以满足自己的需要为目的，那么就能活在当下，不会被那些不必要的痛苦纠缠。不以发牢骚或抱怨的方式表达，否则效果可能适得其反。</p>','2024-11-25 14:24:35.271','2024-11-25 14:24:35.271',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 14:24:35.27',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebc7e81c-ee41-4256-af66-44c1c329ef9b','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>&ldquo;將需要視為負擔,會把人拉入地獄; 反之,將需要視作禮物,正是逃脫地獄的唯一出路。&rdquo;</p>
<p>这思想太重要了！有感受，有需要就向对方表达并请求，这是应有的态度，否则人会心理易不平衡，并酿成不良情绪与差劲的人际关系。</p>','2024-11-25 14:27:28.462','2024-11-25 14:27:28.462',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 14:27:28.461',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('595ff53e-8681-4737-a4b3-35d664baa394','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>补24/11: 如何与伴侣好好说话</p>
<p>学习表达自己的需要，同时鼓励伴侣也一样，可以提升快乐和幸福感。</p>
<p>25/11:真心提出需要，而不是为了讨好</p>
<p>就算为伴侣做事，也必须是以满足自己的需求为出发，而不是为了责任或义务。提出需要但却保留选择空间，得到真心的对待感觉是美妙的。</p>','2024-11-25 14:34:42.462','2024-11-25 14:34:42.462',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 14:34:42.461',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('21439f60-d01d-40f9-a12e-cf2b74282cea','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day25：11月25 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">真心提出需要，而不是为了讨好（Page134-137）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">「自我牺牲」往往会导致双方关系的恶化甚至破裂。愿意做出这种牺牲的人，可能是出于责任感或义务感，也可能是为了取悦他人，甚至是为了取悦上帝。然而，当我们的行动源自这些动机时，很容易让自己陷入痛苦，同时也可能带来更多痛苦。相反，如果我们为他人付出是为了满足自身的需求，就能更专注于当下的生活，不会被无谓的痛苦所纠缠。</span></p>','2024-11-25 14:56:41.233','2024-11-25 14:56:41.233',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 14:56:41.232',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f4eb4417-bc07-4091-ba97-4adddf2a2546','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>提出请求最主要目的是希望对方能明白我们的需要，其次才是希望他们能够接受该请求。但不建议你以发牢骚或抱怨方式表达，或认为对方一定要满足你的需要不可。真心提出需要， 而不是为了讨好。</p>','2024-11-25 15:08:44.819','2024-11-25 15:08:52.478',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 15:08:52.477',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('87bacd1f-ab59-4b3b-bf76-ef9672b3d76c','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>碎碎念是要求，用不同方式邀请满足自己的需要，才是请求。</p>
<p>满足自身的需求从来就不是别人的责任。</p>
<p>每带有指责意味的话语，都是需要未得到满足的悲剧性的表达。</p>
<p>我们都有惯性的反应模式，如果可以以开放的心看待生活，我们可以改变自己的反应模式。</p>','2024-11-25 14:16:14.356','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f9665d9d-bdea-4579-bab3-7bc6ed12f6e5','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>永远不要听对方说他觉得怎麽样，而是听他们隐藏在言词下的意念。</p>
<p>相互依赖的关系来满足彼此的需要，关系才长久。</p>','2024-11-25 14:32:00.167','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('87f0b668-29e2-4911-9eca-143c622a358a','07d8449e-7016-42b7-aaca-f9495fe455e0','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>要解决人际问题，就要区分什么是你的课题，什么是我的课题。<br><br>而一个心中，有3种的对错观<br>1.法学家的对错观&nbsp;<br>2.经济学家的多错观<br>3.商人的对错观</p>','2024-11-25 13:17:03.521','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e1aadd6f-71ae-452f-8434-ea42c6f65a5f','659e027a-236d-4696-9f86-ca57ebbfd0d7','09891df5-07b0-40c9-8f3c-a23b63aa2cfd','<p>人性，来自于自私的基因~无非就是为了繁殖和生存<br><br>道德：为了群体的繁荣，最后促进个体的生存繁殖。<br><br>法律：是维护群体道德的底线而存在。</p>','2024-11-25 13:26:05.666','2024-12-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7170734b-0851-4b7d-a0b8-f461e6fddf80','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day25：11月25 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>真心提出需要，而不是为了讨好（Page134-137）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>将请求当成送给对方的礼物，减低麻烦他人或为我独尊的心理负担。提出请求的同时，也要有为对方保有选择的空间。</p>
<p>提出要求，是希望对方能明白我们的需要，其次才是希望对方能接受请求。</p>','2024-11-25 15:37:59.901','2024-11-25 15:37:59.901',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 15:37:59.9',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2cb460f2-3d85-4919-802d-2d1d9909d42d','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>真心提出自己真正的需求，不是为了满足对方，反而应该是让对方明白自己真正的请求的同时，也当作是送给对方的圣诞礼物，这样才是双赢思维方式。</p>','2024-11-25 15:48:36.501','2024-11-25 15:48:36.501',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 15:48:36.5',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f2d86c4a-2d4b-48ec-8863-2776bac7335e','9f605e6e-134f-4a99-a016-f14cd4dff45e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>诚实沟通的基础是因为 &ldquo;爱&rdquo;，沟通之后被爱感动到，</p>
<p>才是非暴力沟通的目的</p>','2024-11-25 15:53:35.819','2024-11-25 15:53:35.819',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-25 15:53:35.818',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dcaeb2f2-3767-423d-97d3-bb59bffcd996','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>跳针般的碎念背后隐藏的是&ldquo;要求&rdquo;，可能把对方当&ldquo;罪人&rdquo;来念，试图让对方满足自己的需求。但是，背后却充满指责。一旦发现自己要碎碎念，马上先同理自己，再同理他人。</p>
<p>那些长期无法化解的冲突，引发争吵的原因从来都不是对某件事意见分歧，而是双方对同理心的需求没被满足。你都没在认真听我说话，怎么谈？那么，接下来的演变成进入&ldquo;自动反应&rdquo;模式。</p>
<p>只有让自己回到当下，有意识自己在干什么，就可以改变自己的自动反应模式。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-24 13:12:09.706','2024-11-26 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009','2024-11-26 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e4d3b58e-2d5f-4277-9199-69675c247012','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>碎碎念是一种要求，用不同的方式邀请对方满足自己的需要，才是请求。</p>
<p>老是为一件事争吵，是双方的同理心的需要无法得到满足。试着对伴侣给予同理心，就可以开启那扇彼此关爱的大门。</p>
<p>活在当下，以开放的心胸看待生活，这就是有意识的生活。</p>','2024-11-26 02:08:14.549','2024-11-26 02:08:14.549',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 02:08:14.548',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b8fc43fb-dcab-4f61-931b-c3e05f1111f6','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>在日常生活中，我们需要更多地关注自己的感受和需求，同时也用同理心去倾听他人的声音。尤其是在面对冲突时，与其急于争辩，不如先停下来，感受雙方内心最真实的需求是什么，并尝试用非暴力的方式沟通解决问题。</p>
<p>通过《非暴力沟通》的练习，我明白到，改变从自己开始，用爱与理解取代指责与抗拒，才能让沟通更加和谐美好。</p>','2024-11-26 05:24:37.142','2024-11-26 05:24:37.142',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 05:24:37.141',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('714c1d8d-431c-4324-b90c-ce56d3529f3f','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>碎念是一種要求，用不同的表達方式邀請對方滿足自己的需要，才是在提出請求。</p>
<p>避免為某件事一再上演相同的爭執，先針對雙方的感受和需要，去同理彼此的狀態。</p>
<p>活在當下，並以開放的心胸看待生活中的一切事物，而這就是「有意識生活」的真諦。</p>','2024-11-26 02:51:24.116','2024-11-26 03:01:20.259',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 03:01:20.258',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('479817ef-e534-49d9-b60b-5686406abaec','b5cfb88c-2f34-4054-839b-69128f550b29','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>得到「财富自由」的方法论：</p>
<p>1）无欲无求式财富自由-降低欲望，从免费的资源开始，比如阳光、与家人的交流体会快乐与满足。</p>
<p>本金（1+收益率）^时间-欲望（下降）=财富自由</p>
<p>2）三生三世式财富自由-用时间换，对「时间」充满耐心。</p>
<p>本金（1+收益率）^时间（上升）-欲望=财富自由</p>
<p>3）第一桶金式财富自由</p>
<p>本金（提高） （1+收益率）^时间-欲望=财富自由</p>
<p>早靠本金，后期靠复利。</p>','2024-11-26 04:31:41.883','2024-12-19 00:00:00.027',NULL,'f','2024-12-19 00:00:00.026','2024-12-19 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ac61773b-d342-4de5-8758-fb2fa2e49ffa','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>凡事碎碎念是一种要求，其实是在要求自己内心妥协的一种表态。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>我们应该用不同的表达方式邀请对方满足自己的需要，才算是＂请求＂。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>稍安勿躁先聆听后发言，</strong></p>
<p><strong>别赢了道理，输了感情</strong>。</p>','2024-11-26 07:18:21.892','2024-11-26 07:18:43.974',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 07:18:43.973',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c3ed7036-9d1f-4e24-876a-8ea1a7e2738c','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>同理自己的需要，和伴侣的需要，是不断修饰和完善伴侣关系的关键。对家人和朋友也一样，沟通是会有情绪，要刻意地察觉到，然后用同理需要的方法找回冷静，才继续沟通。</p>','2024-11-26 11:30:14.256','2024-11-26 11:30:14.256',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 11:30:14.254',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c6a621d7-0959-4afb-a6c3-7800f61f8d5e','090384b3-c089-4ed0-aecf-abf0ed2c92a8','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>三个变数本金、收益率、期数，並各自对应着最普遍的3个缪误：</p>
<p>1）期数缪误-「每天比以前一天进步1%」是不合理的。用「天」计算，使人们产生对期数的过度高估。比较合理的应该用「年」做单位。</p>
<p>2）复利效果缪误-复利需要足够长的时间酝酿发效，可能是一辈子，也可能是几代人的时间。</p>
<p>3）收益率缪误-长期稳定的收益，几乎是天方夜谭。你只看见别人短期赢，欲没看见别人长期赢。</p>','2024-11-26 04:02:10.075','2024-12-18 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-12-18 00:00:00.009','2024-12-18 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4958fbdb-97af-4f64-a140-8120f946f3ab','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>只要意识到自己在做什么，就可以改变自己的反应模式。和身边的人一起配合完成会更好，所以沟通真的很重要。</p>','2024-11-26 12:21:18.476','2024-11-26 12:21:18.476',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 12:21:18.475',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ce59354a-ffde-4549-b976-acf9686b5467','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>满足自身需要从来都不是别人的责任，也不要带有批判或期待他人能理解自己，如果自己都没有能和自我做连接，没能自我同理，又怎么可能让对方理解自身的需求呢？</p>
<p>避免陷入无意识的自动导航状态，只有活在当下，才能达到有意识生活的真谛。</p>','2024-11-26 13:21:24.331','2024-11-26 13:21:24.331',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 13:21:24.329',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1ec44289-fe3b-4b59-8985-2f72c8c16084','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>&ldquo;引發爭吵的原因從來都不是對某件事的意見分歧,而是雙方對同理心的需要無法得到滿足。&rdquo;</p>
<p>是的，只要最少一方懂得同理心，一切就会不一样。<br>没有不解之恩怨，只怕少了同理心。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>常给自己静默，以便脑袋更清醒。同时要有自我要求的意识，以及告诉家人或另一伴以某种方式提醒自己，避免情绪失控，从而助个人成长。</p>','2024-11-26 13:36:36.552','2024-11-26 13:51:45.887',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 13:51:45.886',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('de1e3686-5cca-406d-ac61-7bf9b95292e9','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>先关注自己的需要，只要自己的需要得到满足才能平和地对待他人。就像大家所说的：&ldquo;爱他人之前先爱自己，爱自己而后爱 他人&rdquo;。</p>','2024-11-26 14:32:59.884','2024-11-26 14:32:59.884',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 14:32:59.883',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0ba93d5-331f-4827-8004-eed804b3e268','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>我是提醒自己不马上对任何事情反应来避免掉入惯性反应模式，所以久而久之身边的人说我反应慢了😅。</p>','2024-11-26 14:34:58.981','2024-11-26 14:34:58.981',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 14:34:58.98',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('092a0a36-8308-45da-a81b-b9d998f4db65','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>引发争吵的原因从来都不是对某件事的意见分歧，而是双方对同理心的需要无法得到满足。</p>','2024-11-26 14:44:02.462','2024-11-26 14:46:34.195',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 14:46:34.194',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('47ac3a5d-8d43-41c3-b1ff-e6f32a836521','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>从这本书所说,每对夫妻一起生活，必会引起摩擦与争吵，都是因为自我为中心，从来没有了解自己真正的需求, 也没有以同理心理解另一半。更糟糕的是不断批评对方，导致关系更加恶劣。</p>
<p>马歇尔..卢森堡表示，只要夫妻双方能够听见彼此的需要，不管他们之前长期存在怎么样的分歧，他们都可以在20分钟内帮助他们化解冲突。</p>','2024-11-26 15:02:15.791','2024-11-26 15:02:15.791',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:02:15.79',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ffcebd28-0ff3-4f4b-ab4f-88632c59b3e4','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>要避免暴力沟通，沟通的时候真的要很觉知当下自己在干嘛，</p>
<p>不然一个不小心就会回到了一直以来的惯用模式。</p>
<p>如果自己无法提醒自己，就借力提醒吧。</p>','2024-11-26 15:23:42.417','2024-11-26 15:23:42.417',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:23:42.416',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aa55b2a0-3a96-4862-8ee4-c4811169e0c8','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>和伴侣一起学习给予和接受同理心</p>
<p>我们都渴望被听见和被看见</p>
<p>希望别人对我们将心比心，感同身受。不是品头论足，指手画脚</p>','2024-11-26 15:45:37.602','2024-11-26 15:45:37.602',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:45:37.601',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8906468f-279b-48f9-b3db-405c321da35e','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">用不同的表达方式邀请对方满足自己的需求，才是在提出要求。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我们在碎碎念时，会把对方当作是罪人，觉得是他们影响了我们的情绪状态，所以想要对方为此负起责任。</span></p>','2024-11-26 15:47:43.499','2024-11-26 15:47:43.499',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:47:43.497',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('52c53780-5458-4a90-aadd-00c51474dded','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day26：11月26 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>顺从你的需要（Page138-143）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>碎念是一种要求，邀请对方满足自己的需要而提出的请求。指责的话，是需要未得到满足的悲剧性表达。</p>
<p>活在当下，其实是&ldquo;有意识地生活&rdquo;。只要能意识到自己在做什么，就可以改变自己的反应模式。</p>','2024-11-26 15:48:59.624','2024-11-26 15:48:59.624',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:48:59.623',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c07ff5c-121e-4e22-bbbf-9b7a29368a98','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>不要被自己情绪控制，一是说出气话<br>要用不同的表达方式去满足自己的需求，才是相对放表达请求</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-26 15:51:07.285','2024-11-26 15:51:07.285',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:51:07.284',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f44d179a-1bbc-4c0c-8449-5d0ae64b53ef','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day26：11月26 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">顺从你的需要（Page138-143）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">馬歇爾&middot;盧森堡認為，只要夫妻雙方能聽見彼此的需要，並以「給予和接受同理心」為核心，即使多年積累的衝突也能迅速化解。他舉例說，有對夫妻因支票簿的問題爭吵數十年，但當雙方學會聆聽並同理彼此的需求後，問題在短短十分鐘內得到解決。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">這個故事揭示了爭吵的根源往往不是事件本身，而是雙方未能滿足對同理心的需求。與伴侶共同學習給予和接受同理心，不僅能增進彼此的理解與關愛，還可能終結那些反覆上演的爭吵。這是一項值得嘗試的投資，因為我們都渴望被看見、被聽見，而非被指責或評判。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-26 15:52:37.689','2024-11-26 15:52:37.689',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:52:37.688',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('58e842c6-1bdf-410a-927b-09927ce8cd63','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','90be9971-4198-4f2d-937d-cd4d2849f20a','<p>练习</p>','2024-11-26 15:57:08.661','2024-11-26 15:57:08.661',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 15:57:08.66',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('65d57e06-5769-4b1f-ba08-a63046f9aaac','d3fa64b1-55cd-4696-a1f5-2b7aec3f2881','ea087d81-378d-4180-ba32-68046993e624','<p>伴侣间要清楚表达需求，尊重地提出请求。被拒绝时，先同理自己和对方的感受；避免碎念或指责式沟通。意识到自己的行为并调整反应模式，能改善关系，增进理解。</p>','2024-11-26 16:00:44.969','2024-11-26 16:00:44.969',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-26 16:00:44.967',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e68b3ff4-4453-4a01-b1a8-d68b6dbcf9ff','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>有意識的生活就是活在當下，以開放的心胸看待生活中的一切事物。永远不要去听對方說他「覺得」怎么样，誏我們痛苦的不是對方說的話，而是听到那些話的方式。</p>
<p>強化雙方連結的方式，就是持續感謝對方，而且讓對方知道他是如何圓滿你的人生。</p>','2024-11-26 13:24:22.934','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ec3225a7-7931-4f58-b804-3a85991ba117','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','f9cd75dc-f522-4a2a-a811-ea6c7508b057','<p>不要把对方对你的&rdquo;批评&rdquo;看得太重，而是要看隐藏的需要和控诉，试着同理自己后同理他，在感受到转变之前都不要去想任何策略和行动。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>强化彼此链接最好的办法就是持续感谢对方。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>人除了依赖和独立，也是可以有相互依赖的空间的。满足彼此需要，关系才能长久</p>','2024-11-24 01:36:21.392','2024-11-27 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014','2024-11-27 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7aebca86-ee68-4935-b5ac-82b1d8d1ffc2','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>持续感谢对方，让对方明白他是如何圆满了你的人生，让这种感觉成为你们关系的一部分，对另一半每天做的事情表达感谢。</p>
<p>相互依存是两方面都能得到满足，关系才能长久的发展。</p>
<p>不要害怕犯错，即使犯错了也有能力收拾残局，再接再厉与对方建立连接。</p>','2024-11-27 01:51:46.45','2024-11-27 01:51:46.45',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 01:51:46.449',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3e07cf7a-37ad-467d-8f31-ceae33ed8ecb','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>往往让我们感觉不舒服的，其实不是对方说的话，而是我们理解和接纳的方式，因为人<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">家给的东西，我们没接纳，那个东西还是属于人家的。</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>假如要让自己开开心心，那么就于开放的心胸活在当下，那么听到的话永远都是美言美语。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 02:04:21.253','2024-11-27 02:04:21.253',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 02:04:21.252',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4cffe87f-1381-4ef7-8921-45a713c746a1','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>強化雙方的連結，感謝對方圓滿了你的人生。</p>
<p>相互依存，也是将彼此串聯在一起的關鍵。</p>
<p>滿足彼此的需要，關係才能長久。</p>','2024-11-27 03:06:55.516','2024-11-27 03:06:55.516',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 03:06:55.515',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b7a9145a-6f4d-45f5-808e-e97ec5bbaf0e','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>对另一半所做的事情表达感谢。持续感谢对方，让对方明白他是如何圆满了你的人生。</p>
<p>要关系长久的发展相互依存,那两方面都要能得到满足，。</p>
<p>不要害怕犯错，即使犯错了我们也有能力收拾残局，再接再厉与对方重新建立连接。</p>','2024-11-27 09:47:10.239','2024-11-27 09:48:21.477',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 09:48:21.476',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('08932a40-9710-49af-9c57-54aafdaded89','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">另一半听什么都觉得是批评，这个时候，同理心就是我们最需要的帮手。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">永远不要去听对方说他&rdquo;觉得&rdquo;怎么样。他们可能认为是你使他们感到痛苦，甚至可能利用你的内疚来操控你的思考方向，让你也认为自己就是造成他们痛苦的罪人。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">使我们感到痛苦的，其实不是对方说的话，而是我们听那些话的方式。我或许激发了对方的痛苦，但他们之所以会产生那股感受，是因为他们选择用那种方式去听我的话。所以，请不要去听另一半在字面上对我的&rdquo;指控&rdquo;，而是要去听他们隐藏在这些言词之下，真心想要表达的意念。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">满足彼此的需要，关系才能长久。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">用说话来承认自己与其他人之间，有着相互依存的关系。相互依存是指你、我之间的需要相互依存，所以你的需要一定要得到满足，我的需要才能够得到满足；相反的，我的需要也一定要得到满足，你的需要才能得到满足。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这让我想起一个星期前和一班朋友在选一个日期来庆祝生日，但由于大家时间都一直不能得到共识，我主动提出如果得不到共识的话，我可以不参加。我朋友利用了非暴力沟通，非得满足我也可以一起参加，再提出了不同方案得以圆满解决。如果我朋友就容易我放弃的话，可能我嘴上说无所谓，但其实还是有失落感的。</span></p>','2024-11-27 11:45:04.849','2024-11-27 11:45:04.849',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 11:45:04.847',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7388b88b-6888-4cc6-9e8d-82108dff145a','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','3c16baf4-84df-4958-a74c-aa7b7d950e3a','<p>不要直接回应伴侣对我们表达的情绪或不满，而是要进一步去同理这些词语背后的需要。</p>
<p>心存感恩，是我们练习/执行非暴力沟通应有的心态。每天感谢，让我们更加正面和有动力去同理自己和伴侣的需要。</p>','2024-11-27 12:42:10.775','2024-11-27 12:42:12.211',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 12:42:12.21',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ebb3308d-556d-4689-a950-97e89a85791c','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','f06cf8cd-e25f-4542-a8ff-f8571e91be74','<p>良好的关系一定是互相满足</p>','2024-11-27 14:43:42.206','2024-11-27 14:43:42.206',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 14:43:42.205',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e57bd182-8e01-4a7f-a15c-bd61624e7022','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>你无法控制他們的行為，你只能控制你自己</p>
<p>孩子是獨立個體能讓我們區隔自己和他們的需要</p>','2024-11-27 13:23:49.384','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('aeb38203-de2f-4188-8c5e-0fd6eb114715','0b5c2422-a4dc-4a8a-a67e-134bddb9f835','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>用溝通技巧去找出每個人的權力。並針對問題擬定雙方都能接受的解決方案，讓彼此的需要都能得到滿足</p>','2024-11-27 13:25:59.807','2024-11-30 00:00:00.023',NULL,'f','2024-11-30 00:00:00.022','2024-11-30 00:00:00.022',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4f517f23-448c-48d1-9350-abfda4f0462f','6252cb84-9120-4516-b6b5-a03f625e10e6','1a28ed21-9fd6-4880-8fcc-727c43eb36b1','<p>经验丰富的人会有助于问题处理。但是有些事情不能100% 依赖过去式的经验和做法。变化多端的社会问题和现象，无法用上旧方法。过去的经验会欺骗、迷惑我们。</p>
<p>我们可以运用：</p>
<p>假设-验证-结论-调整方式处理。</p>','2024-11-27 12:46:38.251','2024-12-10 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2024-12-10 00:00:00.018','2024-12-10 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a42951c9-6d9a-4dc5-ba95-60a1e77429ba','9b34e463-2f33-406d-a7a5-57ac0149c61f','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>机率思维</p>
<p>-大部分的人不愿意为了看似更大的收益冒风险，他们更喜欢虽小一点但是确定的收益。「确定效应」。</p>
<p>-「只要努力就能成功」被认为是失败的思维方式。</p>
<p>-95%靠机率。</p>
<p>-努力是必要性，完全不受我们控制的机率对创业的重要性有多大。所以我们需要在承认机率之后能找到一些方法对冲机率，降低机率对我们的影响。</p>','2024-11-27 03:53:20.629','2024-12-20 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-20 00:00:00.008','2024-12-20 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('01cccdf5-142b-43c2-8082-d35260ae147b','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>谢绝批评</p>
<p>难怪我的爱人每次对我所说的话都不满意，都认为对她的指责，是批评她。而我自己也是有同感，认为她都是在批评我。</p>
<p>现在阅读了这本书，要常常应用同理心，了解她的同时也要清清楚楚明明白白说出自己真正的需要表达出来。</p>
<p>千万不要自以为是，都是以自我为中心 *觉得*&nbsp; 对方有这样的目的。导致无法好好沟通。</p>
<p>反之，只有满足彼此的需求，关系才能长长久久。</p>
<p>也不要太过担心害怕犯错，应该在能控制的范围之内，应用非暴力沟通与对方建立连结。</p>','2024-11-27 13:42:41.757','2024-11-27 13:42:41.757',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 13:42:41.756',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('486c7026-10e0-4c9b-80fe-cad816eda130','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','89125d44-7e19-493e-9e2f-7fc4d1415778','<p>非常同意夫妻雙方的需求都要被滿足，這樣關係，才能夠長久。</p>
<p>我跟我老婆講從今開始每個星期五晚上我都要煮飯給全部的人吃。我老婆聽了以後願意跟我一起下廚。感覺我們真的想一對伴侶。</p>','2024-11-27 13:55:16.154','2024-11-27 13:55:16.923',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 13:55:16.922',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d4c72c98-5dc9-47f0-8ce8-7e0bb7e40d19','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>人与人之间， 尤其是亲密家人都是interdependence, 必须是在一个平衡的状态，才能更好的互动和持续下去。</p>','2024-11-27 14:19:41.997','2024-11-27 14:19:41.997',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 14:19:41.996',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e40c06f7-6f1d-4eca-b31e-0e755bcbca27','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>遇到彼此将产生磨擦或正在磨擦时，最好先靜默地同理自己和對方,这能避免问题恶化与伤害。</p>
<p>強化雙方連結的其中一種方法,就是持續感謝對方。</p>
<p>滿足彼此的需要,關係才能長久。这是人与人相处之道。</p>
<p>人需有互相依赖，互相扶持的观念，生命才能有暖流。</p>','2024-11-27 14:47:25.399','2024-11-27 14:47:25.399',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 14:47:25.398',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a2dde463-1924-422c-81c7-e5f680d3d2e8','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>-永远不要去听对方说他&ldquo;觉得&rdquo;怎么样。</p>
<p>-感谢对方是强化双方连结的一种方法。</p>
<p>-满足彼此的需要，关系才能长久。</p>
<p>-享受犯错的乐趣。</p>','2024-11-27 14:55:38.035','2024-11-27 14:55:38.035',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 14:55:38.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4059f792-88bf-42fa-b314-f097a042e9ce','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day27：11月27 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">谢绝批评（Page143-147）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">，</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> 1. </span><span class="s2">避免冲突</span><span class="s1">：</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 不批评、不指责对方，学会同理心。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 当情绪紧张时，可暂停对话，调整心态后再沟通。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> 2. </span><span class="s2">理解痛点</span><span class="s1">：</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 对方的情绪来自于他们选择解读话语的方式，而非你的本意。</span></p>
<p class="p3"><span class="s1"> &bull; 聆听话语背后的情感，如受伤、害怕或挫败，避免直接回应指控。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> 3. </span><span class="s2">提升关系</span><span class="s1">：</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> &bull; 学习在沟通中不断改进，避免重复冲突情境。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&nbsp;&bull; 用感谢表达关爱，让感恩成为日常习惯，强化关系连结。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">满足彼此的需要，关系才能长久。</span></p>','2024-11-27 14:57:21.544','2024-11-27 14:57:21.544',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 14:57:21.543',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b84dabd6-886c-4d0f-a047-667c254ad915','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>时刻都抱着感恩的心，提醒自己不要有理所当然的心态，保持自我同理和同理他人之心，即使对方说出的伤人的话，也可以理出背后隐藏的表达意念。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 14:59:10.325','2024-11-27 14:59:10.325',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 14:59:10.324',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('81159c4b-871f-406d-a151-bfa2f3c316f9','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>一段婚姻关系久了，可能会对对方觉得理所当然、说话不客气，而话语间批评多于感谢。我常对另一半表达感谢，虽然他会不习惯而且会觉得起鸡皮疙瘩，但我相信久而久之就会习以为常。</p>','2024-11-27 15:11:10.615','2024-11-27 15:11:10.615',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 15:11:10.613',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('8c7cc0a3-3ff4-4557-843d-5de6ad339374','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day27：11月27 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>谢绝批评（Page143-147）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>在彼此还未感受那份同理的转变之前，不要针对问题去想任何策略或行动。</p>
<p>当双方的需要没有被满足，任何关系都无法健康，长久发展。</p>','2024-11-27 15:53:20.195','2024-11-27 15:53:20.195',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 15:53:20.194',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('f3b5217d-9b63-490f-8f22-754643f3a6ee','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','abafda80-d191-4990-802d-f631604815a6','<p>谢绝批评，永远不要听对方，觉得怎样？听起来好像被批评，激发了痛苦。这时，同理心很被需要。</p>
<p>如果两方的需要，其中一方没有得到满足， 关系无法走到很远。</p>','2024-11-27 15:54:38.121','2024-11-27 15:54:42.467',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 15:54:42.466',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a9be46b1-6bbf-4e26-8ddd-f781f9d2fd31','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>需要是所有人类共同拥有的一部分，也是将彼此串联在一起的关键</p>
<p>如果始终只有一方的需要能得到满足，另一方的需要没有得到满足，关系肯定无法长久。</p>','2024-11-27 15:55:55.663','2024-11-27 15:55:55.663',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 15:55:55.662',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5f7ab6ad-d4de-4dd9-9b2e-199c19fe0baf','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','c5e069be-e34f-4a00-8866-8ee0e14fd6df','<p>你的需要得到满足，我的需要也才能得到满足。</p>
<p>双方都需要得到满足才是正真的沟通 和 请求</p>','2024-11-27 15:57:29.054','2024-11-27 15:57:29.054',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 15:57:29.053',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba0d2f17-ecd0-4e8c-9ee9-400b9896872f','10a3a7e9-ac93-42ae-827a-884a1682a12e','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>时刻都抱着感恩的心，<br>不是指一方满足</p>','2024-11-27 15:59:35.279','2024-11-27 16:00:09.409',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-27 16:00:09.408',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c7b1fc9-de1d-4eab-b154-28543654dcbf','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>不要害怕犯错要相信自己，去尝试犯错</p>
<p>与对象去感恩自己今天做的事，希望我做些什么？<br>对话去探讨感受那件事，给予同理心</p>','2024-11-27 16:05:23.9','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('55b5b701-6337-40d1-aedb-6707db70e559','a814249f-2ad4-4be5-83aa-a7ea6d1134d0','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「僅在必要之時，動用武力來防止某人傷害自己或他人。這種強制力的行使是出於關愛而非憤怒，而且它絕對不帶有任何懲罰的意圖。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 21:18:58.94','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('22f10236-36a1-407a-bdff-e79a98724950','659e027a-236d-4696-9f86-ca57ebbfd0d7','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>人会变, 但人性不会变。</p>
<p>而人, 常会在人性与道德中拉扯。甚么该做，甚么不该做, 或只要不犯法, 就大胆为之。</p>
<p>法律是底线, 那道德底线呢？因人而異, 因地而異, 也因时而異!</p>','2024-11-27 16:47:34.742','2024-12-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d86250f7-f65b-490b-8fb1-0869b1aed98f','f1103464-11d4-4ec5-acb2-01d9a39c93b9','576d96d0-dcd8-47c0-8ecc-c9881174d6fa','<p>博弈, 是经過盘算, 思考赢面, 划不划算才行动。這當中考验我们的智慧, 选择正確吗？</p>
<p>是按兵不动还是勇往直前？</p>','2024-11-27 18:17:45.672','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3c0531e5-cc98-4c6c-92dc-e62e33d3aaf1','e2e0a187-5751-4ebe-84a8-a1cd697760e3','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「當你下次注意到自己用權威的方式說話時，請盡可能花時間獨處，靜心想想，為什麼那些話會在你感到無能為力時脫口而出。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 21:20:33.712','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('cf40c973-38cb-4e27-9e7e-9664358c3c70','1a55b11d-b61b-458e-9652-a72046c3912a','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「有時候，大家說話似乎是為了弄清楚自己想說些什麼，而不是在開口之前就想清楚要說什麼。在職場上，你可能會發現某個人的話多到出乎你的意料，而且他本人可能也沒想到自己會說這麼多話。我至今仍有個改不掉的習慣，就是交談時，如果我覺得對方跟我沒有在同一個頻率上，我就會對他說更多話，想藉此將他拉到跟我相同的頻率上。但通常只會招來反效果&mdash;&mdash;對方跟我的頻率更對不上，而我也會感到更加挫敗。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-27 21:25:07.284','2024-12-08 00:00:00.025',NULL,'f','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024','2024-12-08 00:00:00.024',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('28279d53-0c3e-47a3-a0b3-2aa8ffa66e2c','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>1）询问对方：我能为你做些什么，让你今天过得更美好？</p>
<p>2）鸭鸭指数达到60分才能答应对方得请求。不自我牺牲。</p>
<p>3） 向对方表达感谢，感谢他为了让自己过得更美好而努力。</p>
<p>4）花十分钟聊聊哪些让对方感到不开心得事。引导对方说出感受和需求。只做同理对方，不提供他任何对策。</p>','2024-11-24 13:30:54.552','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('16c4d69d-67ec-4136-9d85-7c3720b882de','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','85df4a9d-433c-4009-bf28-8921ba3c5b68','<p>請問不要害怕犯錯盡管放手去做就對了。你要相信自己，就算真的不小心犯錯。把事情搞砸了。你也有能力用新學到的非暴力溝通技巧，收拾這片殘局，並再接再厲地與對方建立連結。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>能做些什麼，讓你今天過得更美好？</p>
<p>請說令你不開心的事，感受和需要。</p>','2024-11-27 13:18:46.015','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('131baaa2-5c56-448b-bd0c-bb213bd0381b','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>透過這個的對話練习，更覺得伴侶關係，要持久弥新，學习同理彼此，講出真心話，常存感恩心，感謝彼此所做的事，是讓生活更美好！</p>','2024-11-27 01:12:40.398','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2e3d3393-fad7-4a87-9216-80e120f2df6c','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>让生活更美好</p>
<p>早上起来询问对方:我能做些什么，让你今天过得更美好？</p>
<p>用同理心去及鸭鸭指数去倾听对方的请求，也要达到自己的指数才可以答应。一天结束时，感谢对方所做出的一切。</p>
<p>聊聊彼此感动不开心的事情，说出感受和需要，给与同理心。</p>','2024-11-27 01:58:45.103','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fcf8ac69-c7e7-4e2c-94d0-e2c16289d504','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p>Day28：11月28 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</p>
<p>对话练习（Page148-149）</p>
<p>🎯今日读后感悟：</p>
<p>练习：每天问能做什么让今天过得更好？以同理心去倾听请求。</p>','2024-11-27 15:49:37.355','2024-11-28 00:00:00.028',NULL,'f','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027','2024-11-28 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0564cba-21ba-42cb-ab37-b2c73e804e58','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','861e06a4-3e01-404d-a0c4-d2fa9f5bfa16','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">没有伴侣，练习不到。但先抄下来准备一下😂</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">每天醒来，第一件事就是询问对方：&rdquo;我能做些什么，让你今天过得更好？&rdquo;。务必以同理的态度去倾听对方的请求，并在鸭鸭指数达到6分时，才可以答应。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在一天结束之际，大声向你的伴侣表达对她的感谢，谢谢她为了让今天的生活更美好。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">花十分钟和伴侣聊聊，请她告诉你最近令她感到不开心（而且和我自己无关）的事情。帮助她回忆当时的感受和需要，然后引导她说出感受和需要。请不要提供任何对策，只要给予同理心即可。这和coaching就有相像之处。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">完成后，再以相同方式聊聊彼此之间曾发生过的不愉快。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 00:22:10.118','2024-11-28 00:22:10.118',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 00:22:10.117',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('190e6375-b8b8-4176-9e11-ac4f1a119fff','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','db9c25a7-36f9-44ef-a996-fa4cc7803e77','<p>不要害怕犯错要相信自己，去尝试犯错</p>
<p>与对象去感恩自己今天做的事，希望我做些什么？<br>对话去探讨感受那件事，给予同理心</p>
<p>同样没对象也先记录下来先😀</p>','2024-11-28 02:17:32.79','2024-11-28 02:17:32.79',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 02:17:32.788',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('031e96c9-bd8d-4855-bb37-067aa436dfb5','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>傾听對方的感受和需要。</p>
<p>给予同理心，聊聊彼此之間曾發生過的不愉快。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 03:01:44.309','2024-11-28 03:01:44.309',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 03:01:44.308',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2db784a4-a31c-4630-8f06-49bbc1cbbf3b','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>多想想&rdquo;我能做些什么，让自己与对方今天过得更好？&rdquo;。务必以同理的态度去倾听对方的请求，也要考虑自己鸭鸭指数已否达到6分或以上，才可以答应,以示尊重自己。</p>
<p>大声向你的伴侣表达对她的感谢，谢谢她为了我及雙方今天过的更好。</p>','2024-11-28 03:28:07.764','2024-11-28 03:28:39.313',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 03:28:39.312',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9a3047d2-f7c1-4ed8-952a-753525803762','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>要学会常常说这句话：</p>
<p>我能做些什么，让你今天过得更美好？</p>
<p>同时也要感恩对方</p>
<p>学习同理彼此</p>','2024-11-28 03:30:10.701','2024-11-28 03:30:10.701',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 03:30:10.7',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7cf341c8-f10b-4ac5-aca5-2256724a8c91','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>你无法控制他们的行为，你只能控制你自己。</p>
<p>权利共享，而非一手掌权。</p>','2024-11-29 14:41:55.938','2024-11-29 14:41:55.938',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 14:41:55.937',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ba4bbe9b-9c89-4113-9725-ce936cfd54c0','0a48d81e-332f-4c47-a34d-61d818b6b9de','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「所以講別人的閒話，我可能會猜測他們是想滿足「與別人建立連結」的需要。無論我有沒有把這些猜測說出口，這個同理他們的舉動，都可以讓我的行為不背離「正語」和「不說謊」的精神。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 05:25:38.858','2024-12-10 00:00:00.019',NULL,'f','2024-12-10 00:00:00.018','2024-12-10 00:00:00.018',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('55522611-89c0-4523-9a84-f2a273f70d31','6bf29380-f700-4309-a81d-0a823101d638','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>数学思维不仅能让你站到更高的高度，开拓你的眼界，还帮你了解正常的常识，让你少走弯路，並且让你在人生的每一个岔路口都有更多的选择。</p>
<p>从不确定性中找到确定性。</p>
<p>你只要把这件20%成功机率的事重复做14次，你就有95%的机率能做出。深耕一个领域做大机率能成功的事。比如选择1%或20%的成功机率。</p>
<p>在做人生选择的时候，就能选对那条大机率成功的道路。</p>','2024-11-28 07:34:29.255','2024-12-22 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-22 00:00:00.032','2024-12-22 00:00:00.032',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9c058157-5345-49b1-95ba-84d2c47503f4','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>对身边的人～</p>
<p>每天要想着如何让你过得比我好，因为只有你更加好了，我才会更加好。懂得善待别人，我们的心才会善待自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>对自己的心～懂得感恩自己犯错！</p>
<p>即使在生活中犯错了，允许自己犯错，接受自己犯错，那么才会从错误中学习。</p>
<p>从小到昨天，我们这一生不都是不断的犯错才学习到更多的知识和得到历练的吗？</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>学习同理自己，让世界变得更多彩！</p>','2024-11-28 07:37:59.507','2024-11-28 07:37:59.507',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 07:37:59.505',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0fb0e843-1c4b-4ad0-8796-8e6d366a79bd','8df7dfc5-c545-40e5-bdbf-7be0547acb1b','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>用动态的眼光看问题</p>
<p>加速度累积，变成速度；速度累积，变成位移。</p>
<p>努力累积一段时间，变能力，有了能力，在累积一段时间，才能变成绩，在累积一段时间，才能得到领导的赏识。</p>
<p>从努力到能力，到成绩，到赏识，是有一个过程的，有一个积分效应。</p>
<p>了解积分思维方式，就能用动态看问题，你就会慢慢体会，努力需要很长的时间才能得到认可；你就会拥有一个平衡的心态，避免犯这样的错误。</p>
<p>出了问题你可以从宏观求导到微观，才能找到问题的根源所在。</p>','2024-11-28 08:11:46.027','2024-12-23 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-12-23 00:00:00.011','2024-12-23 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('03af5ee5-0d41-4120-89d4-f32b14b52574','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','47cda368-b147-4725-82b1-56340e248f14','<p>只有你变好了，我才变得更好。时刻的给予同理心，才能维持良好的关系。</p>','2024-11-28 09:26:28.736','2024-11-28 09:26:28.736',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 09:26:28.736',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3b87d8b1-f3d0-434e-9f52-a6d93601faf9','a814249f-2ad4-4be5-83aa-a7ea6d1134d0','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>只在必要时动用强制力，以避免伤害。</p>
<p>维持良好关系的基本条件：尊重他人的自主权。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 10:32:00.549','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
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<p>想提高非暴力沟通的技巧及降低在职场中应用非暴力沟通的忧虑，&ldquo;练习&rdquo;是绝对不能省得环节。</p>','2024-11-28 10:44:25.34','2024-12-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b594af15-42f0-4d07-82d4-0ef8f7611d0e','478df995-7646-4e07-879e-aa185c34f785','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>从小地方开始，同理自己和他人。</p>
<p>反思：客观观察&mdash;感受&mdash;需要&mdash;请求。</p>','2024-11-28 10:47:21.241','2024-12-05 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fe6329e7-8572-494c-8c0f-be1ac77d9c35','a7861fc7-0838-4e36-913f-2c85da67e95e','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>&ldquo;迈出第一步&rdquo;是非常关键的。</p>
<p>要学会提出请求。</p>','2024-11-28 10:50:46.008','2024-12-06 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day28</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月</span><span lang="EN-MY">28&nbsp;</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">对话练习（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page148-149</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">啊哈 我們的共同計畫是：</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">每晚太太衣服洗好後 我來負責曬衣服。讓太太早點休息。她每天需要早起準備愛心早餐，讓孩子們可以自帶食物到學校。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">家庭需要共同經營。</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">訓練自己時常多問候太太 ：我能為您做些什麼 讓您今天過得更美好、更舒適？</p>
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</table>','2024-11-28 11:22:53.518','2024-11-28 11:25:23.255',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 11:25:23.254',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ecf373de-dfed-4b93-b168-b69b4aa2b517','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>这份自我觉察的能力更会让我们明白，孩子其实是独立的个体，能让我们清楚区隔自己和他们的需要。</p>
<p>你无法控制他们的行为，你只能控制你自己。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 10:20:52.248','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('15bb66f3-8580-447a-8243-84b14845ebff','967d6daf-b7f2-4ca5-82ab-2b164e545d4e','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>猜测对方可能想要什么</p>
<p>打断争论，表达需要</p>
<p>同时也要先运用自我同理与自己的需要搭上线，才能达到大家真正想要的东西。</p>
<p>记下自己及他人的需要，帮助整理思路。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 10:58:15.817','2024-12-07 00:00:00.034',NULL,'f','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033','2024-12-07 00:00:00.033',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('460d5109-1b4c-4e6c-9bd4-34084be29dca','e163ca95-8b0c-4f97-a34a-05ebd4c9e75a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>仇恨永远无法驱走仇恨，只有爱才能驱走仇恨。</p>
<p>如果仇恨他，那么我就跟Ta没有兩样。</p>
<p>用慈悲的话语与他人连结，语言就能发揮（化干戈为玉帛）的力量。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 09:19:13.613','2024-12-11 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('595e18bf-93a3-4609-8c9c-625bfe74a8e2','3aea4a25-c25c-4fdb-9006-fbaea5c7015e','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>用感谢取代奖励除了可以让人感到幸福，还可以帮助我们活在当下，与自己和他人建立更紧密的连结，这些都是灵性对话为生活所带来的滋养。</p>','2024-11-28 10:35:38.501','2024-12-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('dc026c68-89b5-450f-a79d-c73df40f879d','e2e0a187-5751-4ebe-84a8-a1cd697760e3','d144df03-c534-401d-9dee-2939d86b52a2','<p>理解什么是&ldquo;以势压人&rdquo;，为什么那些话会在你感到无能为力时脱口而出。</p>','2024-11-28 10:39:51.655','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5313b803-d8bd-494f-9095-de2687a7a9f6','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>每天问能做什么让伴侣今天过得更好？想要练习用合适的语气问，还办不到。</p>
<p>换了另一个方式，问自己我可以做什么让自己过得更好（鸭鸭指数）也想想伴侣想要什么。</p>','2024-11-28 13:00:05.557','2024-11-28 13:00:05.557',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 13:00:05.556',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('43e2d25b-2027-43f3-8ef5-722b61cdf9ee','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','1131f00f-c162-442f-b3c0-e0ead4f636c3','<p>我能做什么，让你今天过得更美好？</p>
<p>最近让你感到不开心的事是。。。。。</p>','2024-11-28 13:56:07.775','2024-11-28 13:56:07.775',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 13:56:07.774',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('ccd23687-6b12-40f9-8423-deda5b952d1c','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','6622a3df-096b-488e-b170-793cd6060dd0','<p>与伴侣沟通的过程中不给予对策、批评，给予同理心去理解他的感受。沟通对话可以练习。</p>','2024-11-28 14:10:46.421','2024-11-28 14:10:46.421',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 14:10:46.42',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('26085156-35ac-4342-9cdf-54f52a403036','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','459a1283-290a-4d4b-b10f-6504664de97b','<p>夫妻之间也可以让生活更加美好</p>
<p>好的，明天早上起床了，我就试试问问身边的太太，我可以如何做，让她过的美好。同时也可以达到自己真正的需求。</p>
<p>另外再选一个时间与伴侣聊聊最近让她不开心的事，她的感受（前提是此事与自己无关），但是不要提供任何对策，只要给于同理即可。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 14:15:08.337','2024-11-28 14:15:08.337',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 14:15:08.336',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('1d8ab637-d47a-47af-a064-49ff4035c6db','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','9e0fe8f1-0f91-4d8a-bc9d-09d254944a30','<p>《对话练习》<br>*让生活更美好*<br>&gt;［我能做什么，让你今天过得更美好］<br>&gt; 在一天结束之前，大声表感谢他为了让今天的生活更美好，所做的一切。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>*学习同理彼此*<br>&gt;花10分钟和伴侣聊聊<br>请他告诉你，最近令他感到不开心，且与你无关的事情。帮助他回忆当时的感受和需要，引导他说出感受和需要，请不要提供他任何对策，只要给予同理心即可。<br>&gt;After above, 再以相同的方式，聊聊彼此之间曾发过的不愉快。</p>','2024-11-28 14:19:27.035','2024-11-28 14:19:27.035',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 14:19:27.034',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('427b961a-3f2b-4643-a367-789be356eaaa','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','4d60a8e6-8829-45d3-add6-e61449282094','<p>让生活更美好</p>
<p>-&ldquo;我能做些什么，让你今天过得更美好？</p>
<p>-对伴侣表达谢意。</p>
<p>学习同理彼此</p>
<p>-给予同理心</p>','2024-11-28 14:39:58.694','2024-11-28 14:39:58.694',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 14:39:58.693',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('93367b75-5991-45eb-9e7f-b4e7213eccf2','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','6cef5362-7ff5-4fa0-8829-76df28438992','<p>作者提供的家庭对话练习很好，只是要对方与自己一起运用，实是不易。除非双方都学非暴力沟通。但个人觉得如只许单方面的运用，那应该也很不错。</p>','2024-11-28 14:45:59.641','2024-11-28 14:45:59.641',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 14:45:59.64',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('b0bd15f2-8134-4ea0-aa65-fa5362c75e37','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','063abc02-03e9-474f-8703-b4faf5dbf3ed','<p>我們無法控制孩子的行為，我們只能控制自己，這是自我覺察的重要性，做父母的先看清自己內心的感受如和真正的需要的東西，才能分辨什么是我們可以改变，什麼又是我們無法改變的，因為覺察能力，會讓我們明白其實孩子是獨立個体，能讓我們清楚區別自己和孩子的需要。</p>','2024-11-28 14:34:42.945','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('350913ab-c1e8-49f1-85eb-b6ad3d561531','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','22eebfc2-f1bd-4144-ac9b-9b146d80a3ee','<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">Day29</span><span lang="ZH-CN">：</span><span lang="EN-MY">11</span><span lang="ZH-CN">月&nbsp;</span><span lang="EN-MY">29</span><span lang="ZH-CN">日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">第七章： 如何与子女及父母对话？（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page151-156</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">日本禅宗大师：你无法控制他们的行为，你只能控制你自己。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">自我觉察：孩子/人是独立的个体，这让我们清楚区隔自己和他们的需要。<br>在沟通的过程中，尤其是亲子关系中，不要以高高在上的姿态沟通。</span></p>','2024-11-29 03:52:33.454','2024-11-29 03:52:33.454',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 03:52:33.452',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('74f8e4ce-1108-4303-8e23-fa3ca3d3f776','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','d6196801-88ad-4794-856b-fa61ef4faf4d','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>很多父母不知不覺用權力来控制孩子,你一定要聽我的、我說的是對的，你錯了等等,我的是更好,.更对的選擇@方法。但<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">沒有人喜歡被指責錯了,包括自己的孩子們。</span></p>
<p>孩子們都是獨立個體。他們有自己的想法、見解和答案。所以我们应该多<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">信任孩子們的任何決定，採用引導方式,從旁協助孩子做決策。</span></p>','2024-11-29 04:48:32.565','2024-11-29 04:49:44.625',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 04:49:44.624',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('c0fa9ba2-cc22-4bee-9d57-57cfa205477d','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','0a652b55-937b-435d-bcb8-4d3fb846b83f','<p>父母有決對權為初生孩子辦事。</p>
<p>隨著孩子慢慢長大，應該逐步把權力轉移給孩子。</p>
<p>用權力控制的模式与孩子相處，親子關係就會漸行漸远。</p>
<p>孩子是個獨立的個體，他们有自己的感受和想法 ，必須给予尊重。</p>','2024-11-29 05:59:30.101','2024-11-29 06:00:43.001',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 06:00:43',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('a991d121-2c56-486f-8aaf-7ed9d00408d1','e163ca95-8b0c-4f97-a34a-05ebd4c9e75a','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「只要願意用慈悲的話語與對方建立連結，語言就能發揮「化干戈為玉帛」的力量，化解可能的冲突</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 11:55:25.996','2024-12-11 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('0c0086ac-e2f0-4029-9bd1-9b0ba4d75fe0','c9b08465-55c5-4b4d-9b5d-16689d0b8156','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「無論我們決定把精力投注在哪個領域，只要懂得自我覺察，我們的言論和行動就能產生更強大的力量。靈性對話是提升自我覺察的利器，我們因為它看見了無窮的希望，但願它也能為你帶來無限的希望。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-28 12:40:45.015','2024-12-13 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-12-13 00:00:00.006','2024-12-13 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4da005e7-fc06-4a22-9377-cde0245bd0c5','1ff64470-cd92-4054-98a4-46167d8e880b','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>大概明白些什么是非暴力沟通，什么是同理心。</p>
<p>谢谢读书会</p>','2024-11-28 12:43:35.334','2024-12-14 00:00:00.012',NULL,'f','2024-12-14 00:00:00.011','2024-12-14 00:00:00.011',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('9c921b70-af7a-4551-a88d-924570a510b2','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>做父母的从孩子出世到长大，都希望掌控他们的一切，反观孩子的角色，都希望父母给他们自己的空间，把他们当成年人看待，即使他们才15岁。</p>
<p>权力控制的模式与孩子相处的教养方式。是行不通的，是无法长久教养的方式。与孩子权力共享，尊重他们的想法</p>','2024-11-29 01:46:50.331','2024-11-29 01:46:50.331',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 01:46:50.33',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4df30e80-9ea3-4ec7-98ea-6ac738edb4de','155bb3fa-ca6b-476b-b81b-4113fdf6c538','bc030323-5b78-4cf5-8c04-0ba4b93a64d1','<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Day28：11月28 日 《非暴力沟通的对话练习》</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">对话练习（Page148-149）</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">🎯今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">我喜欢这句话&rdquo;我能做些什么，让你今天过得更美好？&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">当问起这句话时，自己的也要照顾好自己的需要。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">记得自己的鸭鸭指数达到6分时，才能答应对方的要求。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一天结束后，也感谢伴侣为自己做的一切，生活更美好。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">学同理心，有什么不开心的事情，可以分享他的感受和需要。</span></p>','2024-11-28 15:39:35.861','2024-11-28 15:39:35.861',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-28 15:39:35.86',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-24 22:10:15.944','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">第七章： 如何与子女及父母对话？（</span><span lang="EN-MY">Page151-156</span><span lang="ZH-CN">）</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-MY">🎯</span><span lang="ZH-CN">今日读后感悟：</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">沒有人喜歡被指責你錯了 包括自己的孩子們。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">很多時侯父母不知不覺權力3控制了孩子但自己不以為然。仗著我是你父母 你一定要聽我的、我說的是對的，你錯了等等 都是為孩子好的藉口。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">事實是：孩子們都是獨立個體。他們有自己的想法、見解和答案。</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN">我和太太的觀念是：信任孩子們任何決定，採用引導方式學習做決策，然後安心放手讓孩子們摸索成長，父母的角色是從旁監督和關心，有需要協助讓孩子們親自開口。</span></p>','2024-11-28 11:37:46.475','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
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<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">一旦我们认为父母是在批判我们的选择，或试图为我们下指导棋或提供意见时，可能就会出现恼羞成怒的感受。我们会希望他们能给我们一点空间，把我们当作一个成年人来对待，因为我们觉得自己已经是个大人了，即便那时还是很年轻。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">&rdquo;你无法控制他们的行为，你只能控制你自己。&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这句话清楚表达了自我觉察的重要性，父母需要看清自己内心的感受，以及真正需要的东西，如此一来，就会比较容易分辨什么是我们可以改变的，又有什么是无法改变的。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">这份自我觉察的能力更会让我们明白，孩子其实是独立的个体，能让我们清楚区隔自己和他们的需要。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">在孩子面临难题时，请问问自己：&rdquo;这是父母的问题？还是孩子的问题？或是双方的问题？&rdquo;</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果是你的问题，就向外求援。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果是孩子的问题，就协助他们解决问题。</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">如果是双方的问题，就想个办法一起化解它。</span></p>
<p class="p2">&nbsp;</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">要解决问题不难，难的是我们要能分辨出这是谁的问题。</span></p>','2024-11-28 15:32:56.632','2024-11-29 00:00:00.004',NULL,'f','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003','2024-11-29 00:00:00.003',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('d70923cd-c3e1-499d-b67e-5549d8857e62','07d8449e-7016-42b7-aaca-f9495fe455e0','d287598e-c515-495a-aaab-d93a50a8de1e','<p>一个人心中有三种对错观。</p>
<p>1.法学家:评论家。谁的证据确凿就是谁的错。</p>
<p>2.经济学家:政策制定者。谁社会成本低，谁的错。</p>
<p>3.商人:真实人生。谁损失大，谁的错。</p>
<p>事情发生后，责怪，埋怨，后悔都无用。只能怪自己，也只有自己才能改变最终的结果。</p>
<p>靠自己，自强者万强。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 02:08:12.997','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2cedb431-8e5c-4e65-a669-7b26d002b468','659e027a-236d-4696-9f86-ca57ebbfd0d7','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>人性是生存与繁𧗠，人性有着自私的基因。</p>
<p>道德常常反人性。</p>
<p>法律是维护群体存在的道德底线。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 08:20:14.565','2024-12-02 00:00:00.02',NULL,'f','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019','2024-12-02 00:00:00.019',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2de9727f-71af-44cb-92d4-2d8c7a85e126','f1103464-11d4-4ec5-acb2-01d9a39c93b9','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>博弈的智慧，人生的智慧，－靠心態，二靠策略。</p>
<p>雞🐓、雀、鹰的心態对应不同的境遇。</p>
<p>人生的三层智慧：</p>
<p>选择：知道有的选，有勇气放弃</p>
<p>定力：一切绕着长期价值展开。</p>
<p>博弈：共赢的感激、一报还一报、以牙还牙 以眼还眼。</p>','2024-11-29 08:36:55.707','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('fef16747-b9f3-4675-a871-7d90c53502e3','07d8449e-7016-42b7-aaca-f9495fe455e0','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>－开始的这本书让我有一些感悟，谁的损失大，就是谁的错。</p>
<p>如果有损失，只能怪自己，也只有自己才能改变结局。</p>
<p>自强者万强。</p>
<p>顿时马上想起了沈可婷的蚊子脚车党害人害己的案件。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 08:11:27.559','2024-12-01 00:00:00.032',NULL,'f','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031','2024-12-01 00:00:00.031',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('7f326ffa-4358-4897-8efd-1e15b0c66f6e','3052b4db-cf9f-4785-b741-0a3de3cab21a','72ce0c9e-c59c-4daf-a31b-84b5558f1948','<p>定力：长期主义，一切都注重在长期价值展开。</p>
<p>成年人的我们，更要选择，学会选择，常常就是学会放弃。</p>
<p>选择比努力更重要。</p>
<p>勇敢选择，选择一个，放弃其他。</p>
<p>人生最大的悲哀，看着前方，又想著后方，最后无路可走。</p>
<p>人生勇于选择而不后悔，拥有智慧，实现自己的人生目标。</p>','2024-11-29 09:00:44.21','2024-12-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:11:16.626','2024-12-06 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025','2024-12-06 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
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<p>系统是由链接关系和一些重要要素而组成，有了系统提升自动运行优势。</p>','2024-11-29 13:07:31.773','2024-12-11 00:00:00.005',NULL,'f','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004','2024-12-11 00:00:00.004',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('2b3aeaaf-59cd-4f92-a4d8-f046481930ea','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','a000f9e2-7648-49c9-8713-f245191f61d3','<p>一直以来我都把孩子们当成独立个体，尊重孩子们的想法。有一次，女儿告诉我，其实有时候她希望我可以以妈妈的权威来对待她，因为我太多时候都以朋友身份和她相处，有时候她也需要妈妈唠叨提点干涉她。</p>
<p>所以在亲子关系中，朋友和父母这个双重角色要拿捏得很好的相互替换，才是最理想的。</p>','2024-11-29 13:16:40.212','2024-11-29 13:16:40.212',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 13:16:40.211',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5fcfce8f-0dfd-4154-b675-1aa7f2651bbe','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','5cc137d3-98a1-42ef-8969-4c8d18c3fc7d','<p>任何孩子，对选择都会有自己的感受和想法。身为父母必须意识和时刻提醒自己孩子也是有权利的个体。</p>','2024-11-29 13:27:37.126','2024-11-29 13:27:37.126',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 13:27:37.125',NULL,NULL);
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INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('e33fe2f5-8c3d-4fc0-a914-db0670faabaa','f1103464-11d4-4ec5-acb2-01d9a39c93b9','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>人与人的差距来自一个人是否有智慧，和智慧的层面上的差距。 <br><br>第三层智慧：博弈，一靠心态，二靠策略。心态是共赢和感激。策略是&lsquo;&rsquo;一报还一报&lsquo;&rsquo;，&lsquo;&rsquo;以牙还牙&lsquo;&rsquo;。善良是需要有&lsquo;&rsquo;锋芒&lsquo;&rsquo;。善良，只留给值得的人。 <br><br><br><!--/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_241129_183043_765.sdocx--></p>','2024-11-29 10:31:19.303','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('4ecd4b32-ace9-4db7-b422-5af3884af687','1df9e5fd-444d-4d7d-ad30-e4294526e0b5','b2120258-4016-43f4-9c32-1f9c0e96bfaf','<p>如果说公理体系是一颗大树，那么公理就是大树的树根。</p>
<p>一家公司的愿景、使命、价值观，其实就相当于这家公司的公理。</p>
<p>公理决定了这家公司的各种行为往哪个方向发展。所有的规章制度、工作流程、决策行为，都在愿景、使命、价值观这些公理上生长出来的定理。它们构成了这家公司的公理体系。</p>','2024-11-29 07:09:39.384','2024-12-24 00:00:00.026',NULL,'f','2024-12-24 00:00:00.025','2024-12-24 00:00:00.025',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('39088fdd-16e9-4eb3-b70b-9d3802f7540b','d5d53388-d6df-4a15-b554-8af01bf8cb2a','7c90ff31-3cfe-46d0-8204-3b842b9bb44e','<p>我跟小儿子就像兄弟一样的相处，把他当大人一样的对待、交流、尊重。他自己可以做选择，前提是要为自己的选择负责到底。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><em><strong>＂日本禅宗大师：你无法控制他们的行为，你只能控制你自己。＂</strong></em></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>小<span style="font-family: var(--font-ubuntu);">男孩的行为多数是模仿爸爸，因为他崇拜爸爸，爸爸是最棒的！爸爸就是bro！所以孩子的行为，都是爸爸的一面镜子。</span></p>
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<p>-提升自我觉察能力。</p>
<p>-与孩子权利共享。</p>','2024-11-29 12:09:19.005','2024-11-29 12:09:19.005',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 12:09:19',NULL,NULL);
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<p>伴侣是最亲近的人，但要谈心，却不一定容易。总要有个开始。</p>
<p>29/11:如何与子女及父母对话？</p>
<p>以身为父母的权威强制性让孩子听话，是不可能的。同理一下自己身为孩子的时候有什么需要，可以帮我们自我检查，做好本分，让孩子的会他们应有的选择权利。</p>','2024-11-29 12:21:38.345','2024-11-29 12:21:38.345',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 12:21:38.344',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这段也是提醒自己。身为母亲，我做到了吗？</p>
<p>表扬和赞美侧重于外在的奖励。反而，给孩子具体的描述和表示感谢，可以避开对对方的批判，还能表达自己因为对方的举动让自己感到幸福和快乐。这也是一种培养孩子和自己拥有幸福感的能力。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
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<p>2）当自己和父母对话有焦躁不安，先同理自己。每周对家人表示感谢一次。用具体实例表达出来。这也是练习找到幸福感的过程。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 10:49:52.029','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:00:08.431','2024-12-03 00:00:00.009',NULL,'f','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008','2024-12-03 00:00:00.008',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('3f90e4f7-bb89-4c7e-b4ba-9ce9a6884a43','3052b4db-cf9f-4785-b741-0a3de3cab21a','4c2cb0fa-558c-4a13-ab1b-96b276e5389a','<p>「學會選擇，常常就是學會放棄：選擇一個，放棄其他。選擇有時比努力重要，但放棄有時比選擇更重要。我們應勇敢選擇，然後享受好處，承擔壞處。」</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:04:31.218','2024-12-04 00:00:00.029',NULL,'f','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027','2024-12-04 00:00:00.027',NULL,NULL);
INSERT INTO "study_group_task_comments" ("id","studyGroupTaskId","memberId","comment","createdAt","updatedAt","deletedAt","prePlanned","prePlannedDate","commentDate","parent_id","staffId") VALUES ('5569c397-9146-4051-b6c9-d2527d250875','f02fb2e3-3aeb-4418-9a0b-65ae51fbde87','80c5d91b-7a3f-4987-82e1-726f6da09e6b','<p>在公理体系里，只有能证明的和不能证明的。吵架是人文科学才用的&lsquo;&rsquo;研究方法&lsquo;&rsquo;。所以&lsquo;&rsquo;文无第一，武无第二。&lsquo;&rsquo; <br><br>作者提出三个建议，如何去做到&lsquo;&rsquo;文无第一&lsquo;&rsquo;的逻辑推演：<br>1）学李白，也要学杜甫。我们谈经济无法只用一套方法看世界。当出现不同场景，可以发挥作用的方法就会有变。例如书上提出不同学派对宏观经济问题的分析的角度或许一样，但是凡事有人为的因素，就会演变不同的方案去适应场景的需要。<br><!--/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_241129_190710_635.sdocx--></p>','2024-11-29 11:07:26.451','2024-12-05 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:08:44.987','2024-12-05 00:00:00.014',NULL,'f','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013','2024-12-05 00:00:00.013',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:39:26.838','2024-12-13 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-12-13 00:00:00.006','2024-12-13 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p>到了某个的阶段，调节迴路需要出现，把一些极端主义做法缓和一下，回复当初位置，找回平衡点。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:45:51.176','2024-12-13 00:00:00.007',NULL,'f','2024-12-13 00:00:00.006','2024-12-13 00:00:00.006',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:51:24.772','2024-12-18 00:00:00.01',NULL,'f','2024-12-18 00:00:00.009','2024-12-18 00:00:00.009',NULL,NULL);
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<p>自我察觉让我们明白，孩子是独立的个体，让我清楚区隔自己和他们的需要。</p>','2024-11-29 15:38:32.278','2024-11-29 15:38:32.278',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 15:38:32.277',NULL,NULL);
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<p>这次我有机缘读了这本书，应该练习以非暴力沟通方式与孩子沟通。</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 15:39:25.433','2024-11-29 15:39:25.433',NULL,'f',NULL,'2024-11-29 15:39:25.432',NULL,NULL);
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<p>&nbsp;</p>','2024-11-29 13:46:25.032','2024-12-15 00:00:00.015',NULL,'f','2024-12-15 00:00:00.014','2024-12-15 00:00:00.014',NULL,NULL);
